Oct 01 2017

Money. Money. Money.

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 2:25 pm

 

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How do you feel about money? What’s your relationship like? We all have a relationship with money. A very intimate and personal relationship. It’s a relationship that started when you were very young. You were given money and you were told its value. You quickly learned the difference between a penny and a quarter. And even though the coins were fun to play with and to count, you soon learned that the paper money was worth more. You learned how to shop and how to spend. Maybe you compared how much money you had with how much money your sister, brother or friend had. Maybe you spent your money as soon as you got it or maybe you were taught to put it in your piggy bank to save it for a later date.

As a child, you heard your parents talking about money. A conversation may have been a joyful exchange about how much to spend on a new car or the cost of a vacation. Or the conversation could have been a heated argument about how there wasn’t enough money to pay the rent. Just like with everything else, you were programmed about money by your life experience. Mom and Dad, your extended family, your environment all had an influence about how you feel about money. And that influence extends to how you act with money. You were taught about what money means. You believed what you were told.

Maybe you learned, “you have to work hard for your money.” Or maybe you learned, “you need to make your money work for you.” Perhaps you learned that “money can’t buy happiness” or that “the rich are different”. Adam Smith, an economist, says, All money is a matter of belief.”

Our beliefs affect our actions. If you were raised in a family where there was little money, you learned about lack. You may have developed spending guilt. You may be afraid to spend your money, for fear that you will not have more. You may tell yourself that you can’t afford it. When this happens, you project feelings of “lack”. You may become miserly. When you are projecting this vibration of lack, you are also attracting more of it. The truth is, in order to manifest more money, you need to be projecting feelings of abundance, not lack! Even when you are spending the money, you need to feel good about doing it. You need to feel that you are worth it. There is a very widespread limiting belief about money that you have to save it in order to be prosperous. No one ever got rich by putting all their money into a savings account. Do you believe money is a limited resource?

Sometimes we are taught to use money to increase our status. Will Rogers said, Too many people spend money they earned…to buy things they don’t want…to impress people that they don’t like.”  How do you spend your money? Are you guilty of using your charge card to pay for lunch for the whole table even though you don’t have enough cash in your wallet to pay for your own meal? Do you spend more than you can afford to buy designer labels? It’s good to have money and it’s good to spend money. It’s also good to understand what you’re spending it on and why you’re spending it. Don’t resort to retail therapy. Make sure that you haven’t lost sight of the things that money can’t buy.

Money is merely an energy exchange. It’s a tool. You earn money for your time and talent…for the energy you put into your job. You can then use the money to exchange it for goods and services that you want and need. You exchange your energy with someone else so that you both will benefit. Money will take you wherever you want to go, but it is necessary for you to be the driver. I encourage you to say “Yes” to life. Spend the money on the things you want to do. Take the trip. Your prosperity beliefs were formed long ago. You didn’t have a choice. But you do have a choice now.

Know that as a soul on life’s journey, you have a destiny to fulfill. The Universe wants to support you. It wants you to succeed! Expect the best. Ask yourself, “what would my life be like, if money were no object?”  Imagine what you would do. Imagine how you would live. Imagine with intention. The Universe is responding to your thoughts…and the way you feel about your thoughts. Emotion is the fuel of creation. Tell yourself: “I am a money magnet.” “Money flows to me constantly.” “I am attracting cash and income from new and unexpected sources.” “I have all the money I need and more.” “I am worthy of abundance.”  It feels good to think those thoughts, doesn’t it?

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Sep 26 2017

Reduce Your Suffering

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 9:48 am

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Unfortunately, it is part of the human condition to experience an unkind remark; an attack on physical appearance or ability; a hypocritical judgment. People can be cruel to each other with their words and their actions. And they can do these things for no apparent reason. As Don Miguel Ruiz advises us in his book, The Four Agreements, “Don’t take anything personally”! It’s not about you! Any statement, action or reaction of another human being is not about you or anything you may have done. When you can separate yourself from the opinions and actions of other people, you can reduce your personal angst and suffering. Those opinions and actions are all about that other human being’s life experience.

Remember, each one of us is the sum total of what we have experienced in our life. We are successfully fulfilling our life script based on our beliefs. What we perceive and therefore, know to be true, is based on our individual beliefs. Each one of us is living our life based on our own truth. We only know what we have been told by others and what we have experienced by ourselves. We have a limited perspective and consequently, we have a limited understanding.

Most people you meet will say and do whatever they do based on their own beliefs about the way things are. Each one of us has our own set of fears and beliefs. We have reached a conclusion about life based on our own attempts to survive. We develop coping mechanisms to get us through. We seek to numb ourselves to our feelings by turning to food, drugs, alcohol, sex and gambling. We look outside of ourselves to lay blame for our anger and frustration. We suffer.

Most of another’s bad attitudes, defenses and fearful behavior has nothing to do with you. Even when that bad attitude may appear to be aimed directly at you! The behavior has more to do with a past event when the person experienced a similar situation. The reaction is about all the other times. Especially the first time.  We react in the now moment based on our past programming…right or wrong. We perceive only what we believe.

When you can recognize that nothing is personal, you are able to get over it. You don’t feel abused or mistreated. You move on since you know the reaction is not about you; it is not about what is happening now. Their reaction is based on their past suffering. Do not be offended! Take the opportunity to extend kindness and compassion.

Another’s actions may cause you pain. You may feel frustrated or disappointed. You may know anger or betrayal. Know that your worth is not determined by what anyone else says or does or believes. Take those things less seriously. Focus on your own truth; the integrity of who you are. When you live your life as your authentic self, other’s opinions and behaviors do not hinder your happiness or your success. There is no need to suffer when you are living authentically. There is no need to care about other’s opinions of what you do and who you are. It doesn’t matter what they think or do. Instead, care about what you think of what you are doing. Be the best you. Tranquility will replace suffering.

 

 

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Jul 26 2017

The Neighborhood

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 3:54 pm

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A voice was silenced this week. A voice fueled by anguish and pain. Chester Bennington, a singer and songwriter who was the front man for the group Linkin Park, was found dead by suicide at the age of 41. Chester led a troubled life which included drug and alcohol abuse. The troubles began as a child. His parents divorced. He suffered sexual abuse. He was beaten. Life was not fun.

Earlier this year in an interview with Music Choice, he said. “My whole life, I’ve just felt a little off. I find myself getting into these patterns of behaviour or thought – especially when I’m stuck up here [in my head]; I like to say that, ‘This is like a bad neighbourhood, and I should not go walking alone.’”

How is the neighborhood in your head? Is it a scary place where you can get lost in self-ridicule and punishment? Are you afraid to walk down Memory Lane? Unable to confront the demons who may live there? Maybe you learned to escape the neighborhood in the same way that Chester escaped… with substance abuse. Or maybe you escaped in a different way.

The neighborhood in your head may be occupied by a committee who judges you. You are never good enough. “You should do this.” “You better not do that.” The committee may be made up of your parents, your boss, your spouse. The committee may be as large as an entire set of cultural beliefs and religious rules. It could be as small as your own ego. The committee may give you the wrong directions so you end up in a place you didn’t intend to go. Your neighborhood may be confusing place where the streets are not clearly marked; a place where you can lose your way. Your neighborhood may be made of one way streets and dead-ends. It may be very small and limited by the beliefs of the committee.

Chester knew that he “should not go walking alone.” But he did. When the neighborhood in your head is a really bad neighborhood, perhaps it would be best to share the thoughts with someone outside the neighborhood. Someone who has a different perspective; someone who knows a detour route around the bad side of town. It’s a good idea to check in with someone who doesn’t live in the neighborhood. They may know things you don’t know.

Remember you created the neighborhood. You may have created it intentionally. It may have been created by default. You moved in. You can move out. You decided what to bring along and what to leave behind. You can tear things down and you can build new things. The neighborhood is created by your thoughts and the pattern of your thoughts. When you repeat thoughts to yourself, over and over again, something happens. Whether these thoughts are true or not, you accept them as your truth. These thoughts become your beliefs. You act on your beliefs. When you choose to focus on the good thoughts…when you follow the wise advice of Mr. Rogers, “it’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood.”

When you were born, you did not come with an instruction manual. You were not given a map to show you how to get around the bad neighborhoods. You made your way the best way you knew how. If you’re feeling the neighborhood in your head needs some redevelopment, perhaps you need someone to walk along with you…until you can make it a safer place to be. I’ll hold your hand.

 

 

 

 

 

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Jul 11 2017

Being You

Category: Belief,ChoicesPatricia @ 2:04 pm

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You don’t have a choice. Everyone else is taken. You need to be you. But, what does that mean? To be authentically you, you need to be true to your own personality, spirit, or character. You need to be sincere in your words and actions. I think it means to be loving and accepting towards yourself as you discover who you are. Carl Jung says, “The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”

By definition, Humanistic psychologists would say that authentic people are psychologically mature and fully functioning as human beings. When you are being you, you have a realistic perception of yourself and your place in the world. You are thoughtful and accepting of others as well as yourself. When you are being authentic, you are able to freely express your emotions. The real you understands what motivates you. You are able to laugh at yourself and learn from your mistakes. You understand what you want and what you don’t want.

When you’re not being you, you suffer. Your body suffers. Listen to your body. When you lie to yourself or others, your body may suffer from a churning stomach. You may notice a sore throat or a cough as you speak words that are not true for you. Also notice this…what is true tends to make you feel stronger.

Lying is never being you. Pretending, people-pleasing and performing are not okay. When you lie, you suffer. Your integrity suffers. Your authenticity suffers. Don’t lie. Most importantly, don’t lie to yourself.  Accept the ugly bits of yourself. Accept your emotions, including the difficult ones. Emotions are there to help you in the moment. Process them and move on. Don’t hide from yourself. If you don’t recognize and accept your flaws, how can you possibly grow?

Being you is not about being perfect. It’s not about being the ideal version of yourself. We are all in a state of learning and growth. If you’re still alive and breathing, you’re still learning how to be you. You’re not done yet. Remember, learning is often messy. We make mistakes. We do things wrong. When you reject parts of yourself, you’re hiding from you. You’re not being real.

When you are authentically you, you are capable of anything. You will find that you have within you everything you need to create the life you want. The life that is unique to you. You stay in your own truth; you focus on your own business.

Byron Katie teaches that there are only three kinds of business: Mine, Yours, and God’s. She writes:

“Much of our stress comes from mentally living out of our own business. When I think, “You need to get a job, I want you to be happy, you should be on time, you need to take better care of yourself,” I am in your business. When I’m worried about earthquakes, floods, war, or when I will die, I am in God’s business…

Being mentally in your business keeps me from being present in my own…To think that I know what’s best for anyone else is to be out of my business. Even in the name of love, it is pure arrogance, and the result is tension, anxiety, and fear. Do I know what’s right for me? That is my only business.”

Being you has nothing to do with anyone else. You are the only one responsible for you. If you’re trading your own authenticity, you may suffer. You may experience anxiety or depression. You may know addiction or anorexia. When you are not being you because you don’t feel that it’s safe to be authentic, you may suffer from resentment, blame or even rage. When you trade your authenticity to please others, you will know grief.

Begin now. Recognize your truth. Speak it. Live it. Be you. Know that you are the only one there is. So you are the only one who knows how to do it. You know it in your heart.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Jun 19 2017

Once Every Year

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 4:18 pm

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You probably didn’t. But about 814,000 other people in the United States celebrated a special day with me.  On another day you will celebrate a special day too, because each one of us has our own special holiday. It’s a day that is set aside once a year to celebrate your own personal trip around the sun. Your birthday. It’s the day of your beginning; the moment you arrived.

It is the custom to bestow birthday wishes on the celebrant. We wish others a “happy” birthday. Maybe despite conflicting evidence, we all want each other to experience happiness. And we make an effort to tell them so. Facebook makes it easy to reach out. At least on this one day. I appreciate all the happy. Every wish feels good. Others treat us differently on our birthday. There may be gifts and outings. People sing a special song to us. We get birthday hugs and kisses, cards and flowers. Maybe we make a wish and blow out the candles on our birthday cake. We receive outward expressions of love. Often we treat ourselves differently too. You may give yourself permission to splurge on something you want. You may challenge yourself to do something dramatic like skydiving or some other death-defying act. You may gather your loved ones around you. Or you may allow yourself to let go of your responsibilities for just one day…because it’s your birthday.

So what is this special holiday and what does it mean to you? You have your own personal perception of how to celebrate your birthday. Certain birthdays are considered milestones. When you reach 21 years of age, you are considered to legally be an adult. At 16, you can drive a car. At 65, you can enroll in Medicare and consider yourself to be a senior citizen. A birthday is nothing more than a measurement of time, but the number can have different perceptions and meaning.  If you’re unemployed and living in your parent’s basement, perhaps you’re not celebrating your success at 35 in the same way as if you had reached that age when you were established in your career. Birthdays can give us an opportunity to compare ourselves with others and then rate ourselves accordingly. This is never a good idea. You are where you are in your life because of the choices you have made. If you’re not happy with the comparison, accept your choices and then decide to make better ones. Remember a birthday is merely a record of how many times you have circled the sun. When you make different choices along your journey, you end up in a different place from where you began.

Birthday experiences and celebrations change as we age. Our parents may make a big deal out of our first birthday but we don’t even remember it. At about 4 or 5, we start to remember the birthday parties and look forward to gifts and special outings. We count our age as 4, going on 5. Or we say we are 4 and a half. Counting makes us feel bigger and smarter. Until it doesn’t. At a certain point as the numbers increase, some of us don’t even want to acknowledge our birthday any more. Counting can make us feel used up or worn out or “over the hill”. We evaluate where we’ve been and where we are going, according to what we believe to be true.

Our birthdays are part of our own unique lifescript. This is a belief system about the way things are and about who you are. Your lifescript began at birth. Your parents began to define you. They gave you a name. They offered a way of life. You were given information about your economic status in the world…about money….how to earn it…how to spend it…how much you could have…what you were worth. You were given information about your gender. They told you how to be a boy or a girl…about sex…love and power. Your lifescript was written before you were born by your culture, ethnicity, place of origin. You were given limits. You were told how to be and you made choices based on the beliefs about what you were told. And it all began on the day you were born.

On the anniversary of your birth…your special holiday…give your self permission to be re-born into a life where you decide how to be. Re-write your lifescript to support your wishes and dreams. And may this birth day be happy.

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Jun 13 2017

Measuring Up

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 9:51 am

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 “The real contest is always between what you’ve done and what you’re capable of doing. You measure yourself against yourself and nobody else.”     ~ Geoffrey Gaberino.

When we measure something or someone, we judge, evaluate and rate. We scrutinize in order to form an assessment by judging. This judgment is made according to a comparison with a certain standard.  Each one of us has our own standards by which we measure ourselves and others. These standards and values are based on subconscious programming and beliefs about what is good and bad, right and wrong. When we measure, it is based on a directly observable value or performance. We determine what is best, based on our own limited perceptions and reality. Just like everything else, this measurement involves choices which determine the importance or value of something.

Have you been measuring yourself against others? Or against yourself? There is really no point at all in measuring yourself against others. When you compare your self to someone else, you put your self in competition with their self. And then you both lose. Each one of us is a unique being with individual and specific gifts, skills and talents which are perfectly aligned to support our life’s mission. You have everything you need to create the life you want. If you were to compare, you would find that no one else has what you need. You may wrongly assess the importance or value of something based on your own personal perceptions. You may think you need something that someone else possesses. You may be lying to yourself and making up stories that are hurtful or limiting.

When you measure yourself against yourself, you can determine how you can do better. And then you can do it! Perhaps you are judging your level of fitness and have determined that you are unsatisfied with how you measure up. Ask yourself how you can improve. You know what you need to do. And you know it is entirely up to you. No one else is feeding you. No one else is moving your body. No one else is making your choices. It’s you. Just you. So stop comparing your body to some one else’s body. Their body is a result of their choices. It has nothing to do with you. Instead, ask yourself what you can do to get the results you want. Make the judgment that you are capable of doing better. Decide that you are capable of making healthy food choices and that you will make time to exercise. Compare your actions with your results and then judge yourself to be doing well. Measure this week’s self against last week’s self. Enjoy your ability to create your success and accomplish your goals.

Are you being the best you that you can imagine? If not, why not? Being the best you is being aligned with your joy. Your joy. No one else’s joy. Your dreams. No one else’s dreams. Stretch your imagination. Dream big. And realize that no one else on the planet is capable of dreaming your dreams or living your joy. Only you can measure up to that.

 

 

 

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May 30 2017

Agreeing To Be Married

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 12:52 pm

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A lot of weddings will take place this month. Did you know that there are more weddings in June than any other month? Did you ever wonder why? The tradition has been around since the Roman Empire. June is named after the Roman goddess Juno, who was considered to be the protector of women in all aspects of life, but especially in marriage and in childbirth.

A wedding is the public ceremony where two individuals agree to their commitment to each other… until they don’t. Unfortunately, one-third of marriages end in divorce. Fortunately, that statistic is down from one-half. As a society, we’re getting a little better at being more compassionate and forgiving of our spouses.

A lot of thought and effort goes into creating a wedding ceremony. There are many traditions and many cultures. And there is also a sense of individuality expressed in the ceremony. Couples spend months of their lives and thousands of dollars of their financial energy to create the spectacle that is a wedding. Don’t get me wrong. I love weddings. And I’ve had the great pleasure to be the officiant performing the wedding ceremony. But…marriage is not about the wedding ceremony! Not at all. It would be more beneficial if couples gave as much attention to the details and planning of a marriage.

Marriage is about agreements. All relationships are about agreements. Two people make agreements with each other about how the relationship will be. They decide what roles they will play; and how and when they will play those roles. Behavior is agreed upon. Limits are set. Responsibilities are negotiated. People decide how to have disagreements and solve problems. If not, there may be resentment or anger or jealousy. Individuals decide what is acceptable and what is not. In every relationship, there is a “deal breaker”…if one of the individuals does the unacceptable. And then a new agreement must be negotiated which allows for healing and growth. If not, the relationship will suffer and eventually come to an end.

Each one of us learns about marriage from what we witness from our own parents and extended family. Society and religious traditions tell us more. We learn about expectations, duties, authority. We are taught and subconsciously programmed about relationships; the way things are. If we are fortunate, we learn about love, compassion, understanding and acceptance. But not all of us are fortunate. Some of us learned about relationships from parents who failed at it. So some of us learned how to fail.

A marriage is a partnership contract. Marriage is a choice you make every day…over and over…and that choice is reflected in how you treat each other. It is a commitment to value your marriage above your own interests. A marriage is like its own separate entity, almost like a company where you both work as equal partners. When the employee gives care and attention to their job, the company thrives. When the company thrives, it is able to support the employee’s needs. The marriage, just like the company, has needs to be fulfilled.

Just like everything else in life, how we behave in a marriage is how we are taught to behave; how we are expected to behave; how we agree to behave. And our behavior is based on the past programming and perceptions of our individual subconscious mind. The behavior and character of a marriage is based on the past programming of two subconscious minds and their ability to understand and support each other’s behaviors and beliefs. This is not an easy task!!! However it is a task that is well worth learning and perfecting.

As we enter the month of June, I invite you to think about your own marriage whether you’re in it now, have been in it and left it, or hope to be in it. Consider the agreements you’ve made. Consider if they are serving both individuals as well as the marriage. Or consider how and why the agreements didn’t serve. Consider how you may make a new agreement or a new commitment to make the marriage stronger. Think about how a new relationship may benefit from what you learned in the past. We all become stronger, better and wiser within relationships. It creates contrast and conflicts and helps us to see things from another’s perspective. Our partners encourage us to be more. They inspire us and challenge us to grow. Our partners also support us, make us laugh and share our life experience. Marriage is worth the effort. As a June bride, having spent more than four decades in a relationship, I can happily attest to that.

 

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May 03 2017

Comfort Zone

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 4:24 pm

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When we try new things or do something that is outside of our comfort zone, we often feel fearful. Sometimes it helps to understand the fear, when the feeling that creates it is given a name. In 1978, two American psychologists, Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, gave it a name: the impostor syndrome. This feeling is described as a feeling of “phoniness in people who believe that they are not intelligent, capable or creative despite evidence of high achievement.” These people “live in fear of being ‘found out’ or exposed as frauds.”  After receiving an Academy Award for her work in the movie, “Fences”, Viola Davis admitted that she suffers from this syndrome. Like many of us, she is telling herself a story based on her beliefs; she is creating her own version of reality, despite evidence to the contrary.

Why would we feel this way? When we have a skill or talent that comes easily, we tend to discount its value. We don’t want to be conceited or boastful. There may be a natural sense of humility about what we do. When we are comfortable doing what we do well, it doesn’t feel like we are doing anything special or noteworthy. We don’t recognize our natural gifts. We don’t recognize that we have unique skills and talents that support our life’s journey. We don’t recognize all that we are. We are not comfortable with our magnificence. That can be okay, as long as we don’t allow ourselves to believe that we can’t do anything that is outside of our comfort zone. We don’t want to paralyze ourselves with fear, as we imagine all the ways that we will fail when we try something new. There is no need to limit our life experience based on false beliefs about our abilities. We can expand our comfort zone.

On some level, we all suffer from imposter syndrome. We tell ourselves stories about what we can and can not do. We evaluate how well we do things or how badly we fail. We decide what is possible. We create our own version of reality. When you examine your feelings of comfort and discomfort, it is important to understand that you are imagining…making up a story about who you are. In this examination, you can come to a place of acceptance of all that you are.

How do we learn to live with this imposter syndrome? In her book “Radical Acceptance,” Tara Brach shared a story about Buddha and the demon Mara. “One day, Buddha was teaching a large group, and Mara was moving around the edges, looking for a way into the group. I envision Mara rushing frantically back and forth in the bushes and trees, making plans to wreak havoc. One of Buddha’s attendants saw Mara, ran to Buddha and warned him of Mara’s presence. Hearing his attendant’s frantic warning, the Buddha simply replied, “Oh good, invite her in for tea.”

When your demons of self-doubt are threatening your inner peace and acceptance of yourself, invite them in. The more you know of them, the better you can accept them as a part of you. You get real with yourself.

 

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Apr 27 2017

Lack or Abundance

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 9:57 am

 

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What are you lacking? If you are having thoughts about the lack of financial success…the lack of a relationship… the lack of health and wellbeing…than that is what you are creating. You are creating a vibrational frequency that is equal to lack. You are creating what you don’t want. This kind of thinking is totally counter-productive. You can not get thin while thinking about being fat. You can not get rich by thinking about being poor. The thought is the vibrational key. The thought is the expectation. When you are thinking negative thoughts, you are creating the expectation of negative circumstances. And so it is with positive thoughts creating positive events. You are receiving exactly what you are thinking about…what you expect to receive.

The world is full of abundance and opportunity, but far too many people come to the fountain of life with a sieve instead of a tank car… a teaspoon instead of a steam shovel. They expect little and as a result they get little. ~ Ben Sweetland

If you want to use your thought energy in a far more productive manner, stop planning for what you don’t want. Stop thinking about worst case scenarios. Instead, begin to visualize, imagine, pretend or experience a best case scenario. And then think about the way you feel. You’ve created another vibration. A productive one. The feeling, or emotion, is a creative force. When you focus on this feeling, you add fuel to the fire of co-creation. Napoleon Hill tells us, “Remember, no more effort is required to aim high in life, to demand abundance and prosperity than is required to accept misery and poverty.”

Consider that your subconscious mind is like a fine-tuned high performance vehicle. Your conscious mind is the driver. When you have a thought, it is like a key in the ignition. It starts the vehicle. It begins the journey. The feeling or emotion that is evoked by the thought is the fuel; the gas that gets the vehicle moving.

The fountain of life is abundant and overflowing. Although the individual has a limited field of vision, there is an unlimited supply of abundance available. There is enough for everyone. You are free to take what you need. Are you driving your tank car to the fountain? Or are you arriving by foot with a sieve? What are you expecting? Lack or Abundance? Just like everything else…it’s a choice. It begins with a thought.

 

 

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Mar 28 2017

Impossible? What Do You Think?

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 12:03 pm

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Chris Bertish made history this month. One day at a time. One stroke at a time. He did what many would consider impossible. Chris Bertish, a world champion big wave surfer from South Africa, recently completed a trans-Atlantic journey on a 20-foot stand-up paddleboard. Yes, that’s right. On a paddleboard. Across the Atlantic Ocean. Alone. He made the decision. He made the plan. He believed it was possible. And then he did it…through the power of his own mind, through the power of his own thoughts.

Bertish made the journey as a way to raise money for charity and test the limits of possibility. His motto is “Dream it, See it, Believe it, Achieve it.” The Lunchbox Fund, Operation Smile, and Signature of Hope were the three main beneficiaries of the reported $6 million raised by this amazing journey. When we are inspired to do for others, we are fueled by more power and determination. The goal becomes bigger than the individual. Success matters more.

The journey from Morocco’s Agadir Harbor, to Antigua’s English Harbor took ninety three days. It is estimated that to travel the distance of 4,050 miles, 2,088,000 paddle strokes were required. To do this, it was necessary to consume 8,000-10,000 calories per day. The average distance traveled every day was 44 miles. More than a marathon. Every day. For ninety three days.

Bertish said, “This whole project is about breaking boundaries and redefining what is possible. Ninety-five percent of the world thought it was impossible. The words ‘impossible’ and ‘can’t’ are motivators for me to find solutions, get creative and make the impossible possible.” You decide what is possible in your life. You decide what your limits are. And it is your choice to break those limits. Anything is possible if you believe it is possible.

As you can imagine, there were challenges along the way. More than a dozen things broke and needed to be jury-rigged. And remember the repairs needed to be done in treacherous conditions, including a couple of close encounters with sharks and 20-foot seas. One of the biggest challenges came when the solar panels which allowed him to make fresh drinking water stopped working properly. Unable to make the three gallons of water needed to survive on a daily basis, he said “I had to train my body to survive on a gallon to a gallon and a half of water each day. That way, I could manage the other systems that would keep me alive, like powering the automatic identification systems so giant tankers could see me and wouldn’t run me over in the middle of the night.”  The body is a reflection of your subconscious mind. Through mindfulness and meditative thought you can cause changes in your body functions, when you believe you can.

In the 1980’s, Dr. Herbert Benson did studies on the mind-body connection. His research showed that highly trained Tibetan monks were able to control their body temperature by using the power of their mind.  Through deep concentration, the monks were able to generate enough heat that they were able to dry wet blankets with their body heat. The meditating monks could increase the temperature of their fingers and toes by as much as 46.94 °F.  Like the Tibetan monks, Indian yogis are also able to manipulate their physiological processes. Research done in 1936 showed that yogis were able to slow their heart rate down so slow that it was only detectable with an EKG. And of course you are aware of the placebo effect. It is so widely accepted as fact that most medical tests use it as a way of proving if a drug works on its own or because people “think” it works. If we think it works, it does. Our body responds physiologically, producing real biological effects, as a reaction to a belief or an inert substance. An amusing study was done by a group of Princeton students. The experimenters served non-alcoholic O’Douls at a keg party then watched as their guests acted as if they were drinking regular beer. Generally behaving as if they were drunk, they acted silly, slurred their words and staggered around. Their belief affected their body’s reactions and their behavior. Bertish reinforces this when he says, “What I find fascinating about adventure is it teaches you about your limits and shows you that you can push your body to overcome things that most people think aren’t humanly possible. It makes you realize how incredible the human body is if you teach it to do something and shift the normality of what it’s expected to do.”

There were multiple life-threatening low-points, “where it was about having the right mental attitude to stay strong and not fall apart and just endure every hour, every day, every night … night after night, stroke after stroke, for 93 days straight’. Bertish says, “How did I get through it? It was all about going stroke-by-stroke, just getting through the next hour, the next day, the next night, the next storm. If you stay focused on what is happening right in front of you and never give up, you’ll eventually make it to your goal.” Success happens when you stay in the now moment. We can not be present and aware if we are thinking about something that happened in the past or what might happen in the future. The now moment is the moment of power…the moment of creation.

So is there something “impossible” that you would like to accomplish? What’s your excuse? What do you need to motivate yourself? Perhaps there is a charity worth your support. Perhaps there is challenge you want to give to yourself. What are your limits? Who created them? There are no limits. There are only limited thoughts. Chris Bertish has decided to embrace “limitless living. We can achieve, explore and do anything we want in life.” I congratulate and applaud Chris Bertish on this amazing achievement; not only for his own personal goal, but for the recipients of his charitable giving.  He is absolute proof that The Mind Matters!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Mar 03 2017

Faith & Belief – The Way Things Are

Category: Belief,Inspirational Quotes,Spiritual ExplorationPatricia @ 2:51 pm

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            Your subconscious mind is ruled by faith. This faith is created by years of believing in the way things are. This is not necessarily truth, but rather it is individual belief based on particular life experiences. Your subconscious mind responds to the orders you give it based upon what your conscious mind believes and accepts to be true.  Your personal subconscious memory bank decides what to expect. If you have experienced failure, your subconscious will come to expect failure, unless the memories can be cleared and new expectations programmed.

Clearing the negative accumulation in your memory bank affects conscious reactions to new life experiences. Using self-hypnosis, you can choose to direct your conscious mind to use the faculties of your subconscious mind to create new beliefs. These beliefs create a thought vibration which attracts similar experiences. Over time and repetition, these beliefs and their demonstration create faith. Napoleon Hill states in Think & Grow Rich that “Faith is a state of mind which may be induced or created by affirmation or the repeated instructions to the subconscious mind, through the principle of auto-suggestion…Repetition of affirmations of orders to your subconscious mind is the only known method of voluntary development of the emotion of faith”.

Faith has many levels. When your subconscious mind is convinced, it begins to act. So it is important that you make sure your subconscious mind believes the right things. Faith is based on past experiences and the best knowledge available at the time. Realistic faith determines what can be believed, however, it may be self-limiting based on that knowledge. For example, limitations are realistic based on factors outside of the individual’s control. A man of six feet tall cannot realistically expect to become a jockey, so his faith is limited. Positive faith is the way a situation is approached with optimism, hope and faith in the possibilities.  Active faith can be demonstrated and proven when an individual takes action based on positive, realistic, limited faith. This level of faith is exhibited in self-confidence and a positive belief in yourself and your abilities to accomplish goals.

Your subconscious mind allows you to travel through time and space in order to make decisions which are best for your self-actualization. Remember, the mind doesn’t know the difference between what is imagined and what is perceived to be reality.  When your subconscious is convinced, these things become real to you. When you challenge the boundaries of your reality, you increase your faith in what you believe to be true or possible. Dan Custer, in his book, The Miracle of Mind Power, says, “You are the center of your experience. Your world of experience is formed and given direction by you. You are the point of your own individual thinking; inspired by your desires, planned by your imagination and brought into experience by your belief or your faith. The universal law of mind brings your experiences into shape and form according to the way you think in your heart.”

You are able to program yourself to stop doing something, start doing something, or do something differently. By directing your thoughts, you create an action which elicits a response and reaction from your subconscious mind. Without direction, there is no action. The subconscious is a vehicle. Conscious guidance and faith are necessary to drive the vehicle to the desired destination. It is vital to understand that each individual is limited only by their beliefs. There are no limitations, there is only limited thinking! Although the conscious mind is limited by our faith, the individual subconscious/subjective part of us is linked with the collective Superconscious. Being Universal, this subjective part of us is without limit.

The objective/conscious mind deals with the outside world and the physical state of being within it. The greatest function of the conscious mind is reasoning. This function is based on your beliefs about what you’ve observed, or your objective/individual perception of reality. The most influential source of these beliefs comes from the knowns in your subconscious mind. A known is something that has been learned or experienced before; one understands it and is comfortable with it. Positive and negative knowns create your lifescript, or your individual beliefs about who you are and how life is supposed to be.

Belief creates faith. Proof is unnecessary for those who believe; impossible for those who don’t.  We decide what is reasonable to believe based on our experiences and our critical reasoning. The conscious mind can only know as much as it has experienced, explored or been taught to know. It reflects the limited knowledge and abilities of the individual being expressed at that particular time. When the conscious mind has the physical knowledge and experience, the subconscious mind incorporates it into the memory bank and makes it available to access in the future. The conscious teaches the subconscious with more knowledge and experience about the beliefs in the way things are.

The conscious mind is ruled by belief. When you set a goal, your beliefs about success or failure determine the outcome. Imagination enhances belief in the results. Conscious, subconscious and SuperConscious all work together in divine harmony. As physical beings, the individual conscious mind is in a position to direct evolution of the spiritual experience. The key to the success of that evolution is belief and faith.

The subconscious mind is ruled by faith and will act according to that faith. When you are faithful to the subjective/ subconscious image, you believe that it will appear in the objective/conscious world. You take conscious action based on certainty which sends a clear message to the SuperConscious.  The Universal Mind, the SuperConscious responds to the belief in the positive outcome. Thoughts become things. Faith is answered and manifestation results. You experience your life the way you believe it to be.

 

 

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Feb 06 2017

Healing Power of Hope

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 3:23 pm

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What is the difference between hope and hopelessness? Belief. We are able to hold on to hope when we have faith. Without faith, there is no hope. When we hope, we look forward to some event or experience and feel confident that it will happen the way we want it to happen. The way we believe it will happen; what we trust will happen. But unfortunately hope implies little certainty. It only suggests confidence in the possibility.

We all hope for things big and small. A mother holding her newborn child knows hope. A bride and a groom hope together. When a serious illness strikes or an accident happens to a loved one, hope begins. Hope is a most powerful force! We hold on to it for comfort and solace in our time of need. A soldier going into battle knows hope. An unjustly imprisoned person finds hope. Sometimes it is the only thing we have.

Hope feels good. It lightens your heart and eases your mind. Hope can make you feel connected to others; not so alone in the world. Hopelessness happens when you give up believing.

Dr. Bernie Siegel, in his first book “Love, Medicine and Miracles” describes a chemotherapy regimen called EPOCH. This regimen was being studied in a research protocol for efficacy. The results being reported from most of the study centers showed consistent results. There was some benefit from the chemotherapy but nothing remarkable. However, it was noted that one study center was getting dramatically better results. The research team investigated to find out what they were doing differently. Studies adhere to strict protocols so it was important to note.

What the research team found was that the doctor at that center had simply renamed the regimen. Instead of administering EPOCH, he told the patients that he was dosing them with HOPE. Hope is something you wish for; something you desire and anticipate. In this case, HOPE was just what the patients needed to believe that the treatment would be successful.

A diagnosis of cancer is just one of many things that happen in life which can create a feeling of hopelessness. This happens when we lose our optimism; when we feel desperate, faced with a problem which is impossible to resolve. Remember that the only difference between hope and hopelessness is belief. And belief is based on the thoughts you have repeated to yourself; the thoughts you have chosen to think. So start with a new thought; a hopeful thought. Repeat. And again. And before you know it, a shift will happen. And your beliefs may start to change. That’s when hope can happen.

 

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Nov 24 2016

Direct the Dream

 

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Even if you don’t play golf, you have probably heard of Jack Nicklaus, the professional golfer who is nicknamed The Golden Bear. He is widely regarded as the greatest golfer of all time, having won a total of 18 major championships during the past 25 years.

And whether you play golf or not, you can benefit from one of the techniques Jack Nicklaus used to become such a great golfer. Obviously, Nicklaus has certain athletic abilities which he has refined and developed. He has done the physical work to become great. He has also done the mental work. Not only has he used his subconscious mind to stay focused and visualize the desired outcome, he has used his subconscious as a sports clinic. There is a story told about a dream he had when he was not performing well. When he analyzed the dream he figured out why his game was off. He had a dream where he was really owning the links; playing better than he had in a long while. After analysis, the champ realized that in the dream, he was gripping his club differently than he was doing in real life. He said, “I tried it the way I did in my dream and it worked. I feel kind of foolish admitting it, but it really happened in a dream.”

Your subconscious mind knows more than your conscious mind. You can trust it to guide and direct you. Besides, it’s going to do it even if you don’t trust it! Your subconscious mind is the 88% of your mind that is directing your motivation and behavior. It is also your goal-achieving machine. Your subconscious mind speaks to you in images. You can also speak to and direct your subconscious mind through images.

Dr. Denis Waitley has done studies where athletes are connected to a biofeedback machine during visualization. When they imagine going through a practice or performance, the studies show that the same muscles are engaged as if they were actually doing the exercise. Remember, the mind doesn’t know the difference between what you imagine and what you perceive as reality. Using hypnosis, guided imagery and visualization trains the mind to achieve automatic reactions and responses. When doing this, all senses are engaged. Effective visualization uses sight, sound, taste, touch and emotion. This can give an athlete (or anyone!!!) a renewed level of self- confidence.

The meditative state which is achieved by self-hypnosis allows one to give instructional self-talk to improve specific techniques or skills, athletic or otherwise. Well-known sports figures Kobe Bryant, LeBron James and Tiger Woods all have meditation practices. Tell yourself, “Keep your knees bent.” “Chin up.” “You can do it.” According to sports psychologist Antonis Hatzigeorgiadis, “The mind guides action. If we succeed in regulating our thoughts, then this will help our behavior.”

When Jack Nicklaus had his dream, he trusted himself and his own inner guidance. He acted on his inner wisdom. When you go within, (whether in the dream state, the meditative state, the hypnotic state, whatever you want to name it state) you transcend conscious thought. You achieve a heightened state of focused concentration, effortless calm and confidence. You let go of the outside reality as you know it. This state of mind keeps pressures and distractions from harming you. When you go within, you know everything. This is the beginning of dreaming and from this point you can direct the dream. Trust yourself. Believe in your dreams.

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Sep 26 2016

More Confident in 3 Easy Steps

Category: Belief,ChoicesPatricia @ 10:09 am

 

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Do you know what it means to feel confident with yourself? To be comfortable with your actions? To feel as if you are in control? Everybody can learn to be more confident. It begins with telling yourself that you can be.

When you are confident you can remain “calm, cool and collected”. Being confident in yourself allows you to relax in stressful and challenging situations. When you are uncertain about the outcome and can still remain in control of your emotions and reactions, you can do anything. Confidence is the opposite of doubt.

Being confident is an attitude you choose. It is a response to outside influences and other opinions. What other people think of you is really not your business. It doesn’t matter. And you’re probably making it up anyway. When you are confident you are not concerned about what others think of you.

You can be confident about many things – tying your shoes, using a hammer. But maybe you’re not confident about public speaking. Confidence in specific situations is what really matters. When you use the power of your imagination to think about how you will be successful in what you want in life, you build your self-confidence in that area. The mind doesn’t know the difference in what you perceive to be reality and what you imagine. And when you focus on what you want, your subconscious mind (your goal-achieving machine) will get busy on the task of making it happen. Your subconscious mind is patiently waiting for your conscious mind to set a direction.

Here are three simple strategies to help you to be more confident.

  1. Imagine the specific situation where you want to feel confident in the future. Imagine yourself as the best you. See yourself with loving eyes. Accept yourself for who you are.
  2. Focus on the emotions you want to feel in that situation. Perhaps think about feeling calm, relaxed and at peace with yourself. Give your subconscious mind specific instructions about how to respond.
  3. Allow yourself to get into a relaxed state and begin to visualize, imagine, pretend and experience the future you want to create. Use all your senses to make it more real to you. Set the blueprint for your subconscious mind. Create the belief in your success.

What you tell yourself matters. What you tell yourself ultimately determines what you are and are not able to do. So, even if it’s difficult, tell yourself you’ll be able to do it. And you will find that you can and you will… by the power of your own thoughts…the power of your mind.

 

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Jul 26 2016

The Dreaded Deadline

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 10:32 am

 

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We all have experienced deadlines over which we have no control. We have to pay our taxes by April 15. We need to renew our driver’s license or car registration. We have to take an exam or submit an application. We need to prepare a report or presentation. We need to pay our bills. Deadlines.  The word itself sounds kind of ominous. And rightly so. Are you aware that the term “deadline” originated in prison camps during the American Civil War? It referred to a physical line or boundary. Any prisoner who crossed the line would risk death. Guards were ordered to shoot to kill.  Later the term deadline came to be used by newspapers as a “time limit” in order to get the latest news printed and distributed on time. Fortunately for all of us, a deadline is no longer a life or death situation. Sometimes it may feel that way, but it’s not! You can take control of the deadlines in your life.

Often we create our own deadlines. Perhaps you’re planning to get married soon and planning the event. Or maybe you’ve bought a new house and need to move. You’ve just created a deadline. And somewhere along your life, you have been programmed to respond to deadlines in a particular way. Even if it’s not a good way, it’s a way that you know. We’re more comfortable with familiar. It’s less painful than doing something differently. Doing things differently requires conscious and mindful thought. We often run on autopilot. Our subconscious mind repeatedly performing tasks in the same way over and over again. Some of us created a habit of staying up all night cramming before an exam. Or we wait until the last minute to get things done. We create a time limit which restricts our abilities to perform at the highest level. We make unnecessary stress for ourselves and often make life stressful for those around us. We create a situation where we are unable to do our best.

Everyone can be more successful in dealing with deadlines by taking control. Do you wait until April 15 to file your taxes? There are many opportunities to do it sooner. Why not do it? Make yourself a deadline of March 15. If you have less time to complete the task, you most likely will increase your focus and your effort to get it done. Are you aware of Parkinson’s Law? Parkinson’s Law states that “work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion”.

Consider this. How tidy can you make your house when a friend calls and says they’ll stop by in 20 minutes? Or how quickly can you leave for the airport when you’ve overslept? How much can you accomplish and how fast can you do it?  You will notice that your effort significantly increases when your time is limited.

When you give yourself deadlines, you help yourself to achieve your goals. You become the boss of your life. As you think about your life and your daily schedule, it can help to use Parkinson’s Law to your advantage. A simple way to do this is to break your task into smaller goals. If you have a project that you estimate will take three hours, use 55 minute time blocks. Work steadily for 55 minutes and then take a 5 minute break. You will feel at ease because you have allowed yourself time to take a break and refocus your attention. The mini mental breaks energize you and make you more productive.  And do it again and again. Within your three hours, you have pushed yourself to success. Knowing your time is limited will help you to be more effective. You may find that with concentration and focus, your project is completed in less time than you had anticipated.

When you create a new way of doing things…when you realize your effort has influenced your success…you are more likely to repeat the process. By repeating the process, you are programming yourself to react to life the way you want. And you feel more in control. There is nothing to fear. You can relax knowing that no one is going to shoot you. You can use the deadline of a time limit as inspiration. When you cross the line, you have been successful in completing your goal.

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Jul 21 2016

Resolutions Not Regrets

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 4:41 pm

 

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“I don’t regret the things I’ve done, I regret the things I didn’t do when I had the chance.” ~Unknown

In the final stages of life, people often feel regrets. There are many similarities between the regrets of the dying and the regrets of the living. We seldom get second chances. Do-overs are rare. Instead of having regrets about the things you haven’t done (yet), make a conscious resolution to do them. Before it’s too late. Give yourself that second chance. Don’t wait to get it. If you have regrets about the past, now is the time to change that. You can do things differently starting now. You don’t have to wait until you think you’re dying. Fulfill your wishes.

Do you wish you had experienced more of what life has to offer? Have you had the experience of traveling to different parts of the country or the world? Have you enjoyed exploring new sensations that travel offers? From now on, do it!  Travel while you can. Step into the unknown. Expand your horizons. Embrace more new and exotic adventures.

Do you wish you had listened more to the good advice of others who know more than you do? Do you wish you had made different choices about what you ate and how much you ate; how often you exercised or were physically active? Do you regret the condition of your health and the physical state of your body? Listen now. Make the changes which will bring you the results you will not regret. Your body is a miraculous machine capable of healing itself and creating a new and improved version of you.

Do you wish you had stepped out of your comfort zone and faced your fears? Do you regret not taking a risk and being too cautious? Have you pushed yourself to the limits of your abilities? Or have your beliefs stood in your way? Not trying is worse than failing! Resolve to let go of your fears and perceived limitations. It’s an inside job. No one else can do it for you. Believe in yourself.

Do you wish you had spoken up more about what is important to you…what really matters? Have you voiced your opinions and stood up for your values and beliefs? Do you regret years spent keeping quiet while you suffer in an unhappy relationship? Do you regret the less than successful path your career has taken? If it is important to you, speak up now. Your truth is more valuable than the false harmony that is created by your silence. Allow yourself to speak your truth.

Do you wish you had done something sooner…rather than procrastinating about doing it? We miss out when we do that. We also pick up a few negative emotions like guilt and shame and embarrassment. And we can add regret for those opportunities that are forever lost. Taking action can be very difficult and scary. We need to be prepared for the results of our actions. Now is the time to start. Just do it! Make a plan and execute it. You’ll add positive emotions like pride, courage, confidence and a feeling of accomplishment.

Take the advice of the dying as a reflection of what could have been. Listen to those who have suffered through extreme trauma or illness and rehabilitation to learn to live again. Stop focusing on regrets and start focusing on resolutions. Pay attention to this simple advice. Experience all that life has to offer. Listen. Believe in yourself. Speak up. Don’t wait. Do it now! And I must add this: Love. Love yourself. Love others. Love deeply. Love freely. Love makes all the other stuff worthwhile.

 

 

 

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Sep 16 2015

Braver Than You Believe

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 1:10 pm

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What’s important to you? Are you speaking your truth, no matter what the situation? Or no matter who is listening? Sometimes, we censor our words and actions based on what we think others will say or do. We make a judgement and decide whether it is safe to reveal our truth. Are you being authentic? Are you living a life that reflects your deepest desires? Sometimes we have to be very brave to listen to our own voice and take action. It takes a certain boldness to follow our dreams with no regard to outside opinions or circumstances.

In one of my favorite story books, “Winnie The Pooh”, the author A.A. Milne says, “You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.” I agree. Life is not easy. We need to be brave to make it through! The word ‘brave’ is defined as “ready to face and endure danger or pain; showing courage or a fighting spirit.” It also means to “endure or face unpleasant conditions or behavior without showing fear; to withstand; to suffer.” A brave person is spirited, heroic, daring, bold and untamed. Sometimes life gives us no choice but to be brave.

Since I know you are braver than you believe, are you brave enough to do what is important to you? If not, why not? Have you made up some story about why you can’t do it? Maybe somebody else has told you why. When Elvis Presley auditioned for a band, he was told: “You ain’t goin’ nowhere, son. You ought to go back to drivin’ a truck.” And when Walt Disney was a young man, he was fired by a newspaper editor because “he lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” Obviously, neither one listened to other people’s opinions. They were brave enough to expose themselves to criticism. And strong enough to ignore it.

Are you wearing a mask which disguises your true self from the world? Are you afraid to take it off for fear that others will judge you, or your dreams and aspirations? Often we wear a mask when we engage in relationships because we are afraid to show our self to others. Love is hard to find when you’re hiding. If you don’t expose your true, authentic self to the world, how will anyone see the wonderful uniqueness that is you? When you are afraid to be all you can be, we all lose out. A mask is uncomfortable. It restricts your vision. Take off the mask.

Sometimes we are afraid to begin because we have already decided we will fail. We believe we are just not enough…not smart enough, not strong enough, not good enough. Courage comes when we tell ourselves we can do it. And that we will do it! Because what you tell yourself has a great impact on your world. What you tell yourself determines what you can and cannot do. You will never take action on anything if you don’t tell yourself to do it. Become the hero of your own life. Be daring! Be bold! Be brave!

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Jul 14 2015

Whose Belief Is It Anyway?

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 6:55 pm

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Are you harming yourself without being aware of it? Sometimes that happens. We create situations in our lives that don’t serve us. We try to please others rather than ourselves. We engage in relationships that are hurtful or controlling. We labor at unsatisfying jobs. We struggle. We don’t need to struggle. Although you have unlimited power to create your experience of life, sometimes you create by default. This way of creating by default is when an individual accepts other people’s stories as the truth. We all start out this way, but we don’t have to continue.

From the moment you are born, you are told stories about who you are. The first story is gender identity and what that means. You are either a girl or a boy. Or maybe not. Then there is the story of your race, your religion, your heritage, your country. More stories are added by your parents who are influenced by their own individual story. Your siblings and friends add to the story. The family tells you if you are rich or poor and define money for you. They tell you what your role is in the family. Maybe you’re the pretty one, or the smart one. Or maybe you are the lazy, stupid one. They tell you how to be a wife or a husband, a mother or father. And then your spouse and your children add to the story. You are told what acceptable behavior is and what is expected of you. You are given roles to play and instructions about how to play the role.

All of these stories are based on other people’s beliefs. You accept. You are not given a choice. You continue to accept until you are about 7 or 8 years old. At that point, also known as the “age of reason”, you start to decide what you believe. These decisions are based not only on what you’ve been told, but are also based on what you have observed or experienced. You determine what you will accept. You do that by making choices. You decide what to believe.

You may make conscious choices, thinking you’re doing everything possible to make things happen. But subconscious choices are also being made beneath your awareness. The conscious mind is ruled by belief. It accepts its own individual version of the way things are. Perhaps you were told that you were worthless and would never amount to anything. When your conscious mind believes that you are worthless, you are unable to succeed. You try and you fail. Your belief becomes reinforced and you now have faith that you will fail. Your subconscious mind which is ruled by faith, is unable to act. The conscious and the subconscious are not in alignment. You may set a goal, but are never motivated and inspired enough to focus and achieve it. Your self-imposed limitations and fears are based on false beliefs and faith in someone else’s opinion.

It doesn’t have to be that way. You can determine your life. You can change your beliefs through self-hypnosis and affirmations. You can learn to have faith in yourself and the value of your own ideas. When you determine your beliefs rather than accept the beliefs of others, you are no longer creating by default.

I invite you to consider the things or situations in your life that could be better. Once you decide what you want to improve upon, ask yourself …”Do I believe I can do it?” If the answer is “no” or “yes, but…” or “if…”, then you need to go within to listen to the truth. False beliefs come from outside influences. You can trust your inner self to reveal the truth about what is possible for you. And anything is possible…if you believe.

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Jul 09 2015

Tending the Garden

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 12:58 pm

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Summer is here! We have just celebrated the Summer Solstice, the longest day of the year. The name of the event literally means “sun stands still”. The sun reaches the farthest point in its journey, pauses and then turns back towards the equator. We are given more light. Longer days. It almost feels like we have more time. We are busy, like the bees.

Even though we live in a world far removed from the natural rhythm of the seasons, it would be wise to pause and consider our connection to the passage of time and the ways of nature. We can look to the farmer for understanding. First of all, the farmer believes in the future. That’s why he plants a seed. There would be no point in planting the seed if there was not a belief and a faith that the seed would sprout, flourish and come into form. The farmer also chooses the type of seed he wants to harvest. He doesn’t plant corn and expect to harvest tomatoes. The farmer tends to the seed. He focuses his energy on it. He waters it and feeds it and ensures that it has adequate light. He never loses sight of his goal, imagining the abundant harvest as he watches the plant grow. The farmer works with the forces of nature and is in balance with the changing of the seasons.

“Your mind is a garden. Your thoughts are the seeds. You can either plant flowers or deal with the weeds.” ~anonymous

Each one of us is tending the garden of our mind, planting seeds all the time. And we all harvest what we have planted. A positive thought is like a flower. It’s beautiful to look at and brings a joyful experience. A negative thought is like a weed. It interferes with the flower, crowding it and distracting from its beauty. Your focus on the thought determines the outcome you will experience. A simple formula of positive thought equals positive experience; and negative thought equals negative experience. This is the way your garden grows.

Just like the farmer planting the seed, when you plant a thought it is a conscious action. You decide to focus on that thought. You believe it is possible. Your conscious mind is ruled by belief. This belief is based on what you have observed, or your individual perception of reality about who you are and how life is supposed to be. Belief creates faith. Your subconscious mind is ruled by faith and will act according to that faith. If your subconscious mind does not have faith in the outcome, it will not be possible. In Think & Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill states, “Faith is a state of mind which may be induced or created by affirmation…Repetition of orders to your subconscious mind is the only known method of voluntary development of the emotion of faith”. The farmer has faith in the harvest.

If you’ve lost faith in the seeds you’ve planted…things like losing weight or changing habits or achieving goals in relationships or career…perhaps it’s time to take advantage of the long days of summer to visualize and affirm the harvest of your life. You have the ability to convince your subconscious mind to take action. Positive faith can be enhanced. When the subconscious mind is convinced, it begins to act. Hypnosis is an extremely effective way to clear the past and get rid of the weeds that are cluttering your garden. It is also a proven method of selectively planting seeds which will blossom into a beautiful life experience. Sometimes a farmer needs new tools.

 

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Feb 26 2015

Powerful Placebo Effects

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 4:18 pm

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You are probably aware of the placebo effect. In fact, most likely you have been victim of it. Perhaps it’s time to look at how it works in your day to day life. The more you know about it, the more you can be aware of it and its’ twin, nocebo.

Belief is powerful. Our beliefs have an impact on how we see and experience the world. Belief can, in many ways be a more powerful force than reality. Much research shows that people can experience miraculous healing effects from taking a sugar pill when they believed it to be a potent medicine. Our beliefs can affect what we are able to accomplish. “For those you don’t believe, no proof is possible. For those who believe, no proof is necessary.”

Your perception is your reality. How we think about something can entirely change how we react and how it affects us. Studies have shown that if people believed a wine to be expensive, they perceived it to be better. Whether it’s something as simple as enjoying wine or something much more complex like dealing with the everyday stress of life, the placebo effect teaches us that we actually choose how things in the outside world affect us. We decide based upon what we perceive, real or not.

You can get in your own way. Belief is such a powerful force that sometimes the power actually keeps us from achieving our goals. If you believe you can, you can. If you believe you can’t, you can’t. Your subconscious mind acts upon your beliefs.

Positive thinking is powerful. Countless studies have shown the beneficial results of positive thinking. A positive outlook will control stress and depression. Positive people are healthier and live longer. When you believe in a positive outcome, you are more likely to achieve your goals and have more fun in the process.

Anything is possible, when you tell yourself it is possible. Many things seem impossible until someone does it. Roger Bannister decided he would set the world record for running a mile, with the goal of a time that was under 4 minutes. He was told it wasn’t possible; that the human body was not capable of such a feat; it had never been done before. In 1954, Bannister completed a mile run in 3 minutes and 59 seconds. Within a year, more than 30 other runners also ran with similar times. Bannister changed their beliefs about what was possible.

You look outside yourself. As the placebo effect shows, we often believe something else has the power to heal us or to fix something in our life. We look outside ourselves for the solution. While help and support from others is wonderful, real motivation and inspiration comes from within. It has to matter to you or you will never make any progress.

You choose your happiness. Being happy isn’t just something that happens, it’s something you can choose. When you’re thinking about something that makes you feel bad or sad or angry, Stop IT!!! Think about something that makes you happy instead. Make the choice in the moment.

Your thoughts affect your actions. One lesson you can take away from the placebo effect is that your thoughts are just as important as your actions. Your thoughts are creating your beliefs. A belief is just a thought you have over and over. After all, in placebo studies, doing a meaningless task (taking a sugar pill) affects something because of a particular line of thinking. Think before you act.

What do you do now? Know that you are creating your world. One thought at a time. One belief at a time. One action at a time. Be aware when you swallow that pill. What do you think it will do?

 

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