Jul 18 2016

Adding Fuel to Your Fire

Category: HabitsPatricia @ 11:52 am




You are unique in all the world. But…do you compare yourself to others? Do you watch reality TV shows like The Bachelorette or Keeping Up With the Kardashians? Are you keeping up? Or do you feel as if you have fallen behind? Do you have a fabulous wardrobe? Are you attending trendy events? Are you being pursued by a number of attractive, eligible bachelors? Maybe you’re tuning into home improvement shows or viewing outrageous real estate for sale? Do you look around your home and think, “What a dump!” STOP IT! Stop comparing yourself to others in a negative way! When you feel envious of other’s success, you can quickly decrease your own happiness. You can make yourself feel like a failure. Yes, you. STOP IT! When you feel the negative emotion of envy or jealousy, you lower your personal vibration. You actually put yourself in a vibrational place where you will attract what you don’t want …to fail. You will not attract that success you desire by thinking of yourself as less than others.

However, positive comparison is a different story. It can be helpful if you’re comparing yourself to another by admiring them rather than being jealous of their success. It’s a different vibration. When you admire, you are adjusting your vibration to match that of your successful friend. When you admire, you also imitate. Remember, imitation is the most sincere form of flattery. If your friend is being promoted, study his habits and behaviors at the office. What does he do to create that success? Is he responsible? Innovative? Helpful? Emulating him may help you. Or what about your friend who is the picture of perfect health? When you compare your habits to hers you may realize why. You may notice that she takes a walk every day at lunch while you sit at your desk and munch on snacks. Join her for a walk. If you want to be like her, do what she does.

Note the similarity or dissimilarity between your actions and the actions of others. If you want to have more of what they have, do more of what they do. Learn from them. They have something you want. How did they get it?

When you compare yourself to others in a healthy way it can fuel your determination to become more successful. This is one of the reasons why groups like Alcoholics Anonymous and Weight Watchers help so many people to achieve their goals. It is positive comparison.  We begin to think, “If they can do it, so can I!” We see that it is possible to achieve what others have achieved. We begin to change our beliefs about what is possible. We see better when we stand on the shoulders of those who have been there before us. Believing it is possible makes it so. When we compare ourselves to others in this way, we fuel the fires of our determination to do better; to be better.

And consider this…the images you watch on TV and in social media affect your view of your world and your place in it. They help to create your beliefs about your reality and it is not always a positive influence. If you really want to affect your reality, turn off the TV and all those outside communication devices. Or do a little research on the people you want to emulate. They may have lessons for you. And, most of all, I invite you to go within. The images are far more fascinating and beneficial to you. And your imagination is always the best source of fuel to feed your fire.


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Nov 24 2015

Give Thanks. Sleep Better.

Category: HabitsPatricia @ 10:36 am

sleeping dogs

The official celebration of gratitude that we call Thanksgiving is now upon us. As a society and a nation, we must believe gratitude to be very, very important. It is SO important that we proclaim a day just for the purpose of giving thanks. We set aside an entire day to focus on gratitude. But Thanksgiving Day has become more than that. Or maybe it’s become less. Now it’s a day of not only feasting, but feasting to the point of gluttony. On Thanksgiving Day, Americans eat more food than on any other day of the year! And now, the observance of the holiday also involves frustrating travel scenarios and hours of traffic; football games; “I Love Lucy” marathons on TV; and the beginning of the holiday shopping season. It seems that we have lost sight of Abraham Lincoln’s original intention. During the Civil War, in 1863, he proclaimed a national day of “Thanksgiving and Praise to our beneficent Father who dwelleth in the Heavens”. The dictionary defines thanksgiving as “the expression of gratitude, especially to God”.

When we are grateful, we raise our consciousness and increase our connection and mystical union, whether in or out of meditation or any other spiritual practice. Whether you believe in God or not, apparently, it would benefit all of us if we actually practiced gratitude every day of the year. Research has suggested that people who are more grateful are happier, less stressed and more satisfied with their lives and their relationships. Grateful people also appear to have higher levels of control of their environments, growth and purpose in life. They have more positive ways of coping and finding solutions to their problems. And this is something we can all benefit from – grateful people sleep better! Maybe it’s because of the happy thoughts before sleep. Thankful is defined as a state of being “pleased and relieved”.

Studies have shown that the longest lasting effects of any kind of gratitude practice are associated with the act of writing a gratitude journal. A gratitude journal doesn’t have to be a big deal. Simply make note of three things every day that you feel grateful about. Something as simple as “I am grateful for my health” or “I am grateful for the love of my family”, can help you to focus on what is really important in your life. Writing in a gratitude journal can make you more optimistic about the future. Studies show it can make you exercise more and live a more healthy lifestyle. It has been reported that those who consciously practice gratitude are more enthusiastic and more determined to make progress towards personal goals. “Counting your blessings” actually is a blessing itself!

Melody Beattie says, “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow”.

Setting aside time to give thanks for one’s blessings is a practice that will serve you well. You don’t need anyone else to tell you that it’s officially time to do this. Do this every day. Get yourself a little book to keep by your bedside. Just before you go to sleep take a moment to reflect on your day. Consider the blessings you have received on that day and make note of them. Take a moment to acknowledge the good that is flowing into your life. Recognize the source. Celebrate the abundance of the life you are living. All is well.



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Nov 13 2015

Do It Now! And Do It Every Month!

Category: HabitsPatricia @ 4:04 pm


What would you like to do? Is there a project you’ve wanted to start? Is there a place you want to explore? A book you want to read? A friend you want to visit? Why aren’t you doing it? What’s your excuse? What is standing in your way? Don’t tell me you don’t have the time. We all can make the time for something that is a priority to us. If it matters, it gets done. You always find time to eat, don’t you? Maybe you need to ask yourself why your wants and needs don’t matter.

It is my habit to invite you to try new things or change your point of view, but today I am going to challenge you instead. That’s right! A challenge. Like a dare. Or even a double dare. I want to challenge you to live a more joyful life. How do you do that? It’s really very simple. Each one of us likes to do, be and have what makes us happy. It’s different for each one of us. But each of us knows what those things are. We dream of them. But sometimes we will not get out of our own way to do the things we want to do! It takes effort. It takes planning. It takes focus. But I must remind you of why it is worth the effort, planning and focus. It brings joy. It brings joy. It brings joy.

Each month you can take an opportunity to make yourself a priority. You can go to the top of the list. You are more important than anyone or anything else. Can you do that? Once you give yourself permission to love yourself enough to make yourself a priority, decide how you will do that. Here’s the simple challenge…

Choose one activity every month that you would enjoy doing. You have unlimited choices here. Use your imagination. The only criteria is that you choose an activity that you enjoy. Now, get out your calendar and schedule it. Make the commitment. Put yourself on the calendar in the same way that you would add a dentist appointment or a business meeting or any other thing you may need to do. Set a date with yourself. Allow a certain amount of hours or days to enjoy your date. Your desires deserve equal time. You are very important to yourself.

Do this as a priority every month for the rest of your life. Write it down. Set the intention. Value yourself more and make an investment in a better you. There is no need to deny yourself or create limitations. Your desires exist for a reason; to push you to become better, stronger, wiser. More. Desire is the fuel of life. It is the fire in your belly that makes live worth living; the enthusiasm that gets you moving. Do it for yourself. And do it for others. Because when you are joyful, you bring more joy to the world.

Will you accept my challenge? Begin it before the New Year arrives and you bring out your old resolutions. Begin it now!

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Jun 29 2015

Five Monkeys & A Ladder

Category: HabitsPatricia @ 7:04 pm


A paradigm is defined as a standard, perspective, or set of ideas. It is a model of the way things are. A paradigm is a way of looking at or thinking about something. It’s a belief system. When you change paradigms, you change how you think about something. You change your mind.

There are paradigms in the workplace, at home and in schools. Paradigms exist in different forms in different cultures and communities. Individuals are often unaware of how or why things are done a certain way. Each one of us makes the agreement to follow the paradigm with little or no conscious choice. We accept. How does that happen? How is a paradigm formed? Consider this story about a society of monkeys.

A group of scientists placed five monkeys in a cage. In the middle of the cage, they placed a ladder with bananas on the top of it. Every time a monkey went up the ladder to get a banana, the scientists sprayed the other monkeys with cold water. Individual monkeys considered the banana worth the risk. After all, they were not in danger of being sprayed. But every time a monkey went up the ladder, the others got angry. They knew they would be sprayed so they attacked the one on the ladder. Eventually, none of the five monkeys dared to go up the ladder regardless of the temptation of the bananas.

Scientists then decided to exchange one of the monkeys for a new monkey. Of course, the first thing this new monkey did was to go up the ladder. Immediately, the other monkeys beat him up. The new monkey was confused. After several beatings, he learned not to climb the ladder. Even though he didn’t know why the other monkeys acted that way, he accepted their behavior as normal.

After some time, a second monkey was substituted and the same thing occurred. This time the first new monkey eagerly participated in the beating of the second new monkey, even though he didn’t know why. Then a third monkey was exchanged and the same things happened. The fourth monkey was substituted and the beating was repeated. Finally the fifth monkey was replaced. This monkey was the last of the original group who knew the reason behind the beatings.

What was left was a group of five monkeys who shared a paradigm about ladders and beatings. They shared a belief that it was impossible to reach the bananas without punishment. They had been negatively programmed to behave in a certain manner. Even though this group of monkeys had never received a cold shower, each one of them had received a beating. Each one continued to beat up any monkey who attempted to climb the ladder.
If it was possible to ask the monkeys why they would beat up all those who attempted to go up the ladder, I bet the answer would be….“I don’t know – that’s how we do it here”.

Are you doing the same thing over and over? Are you beating yourself up? Or others? Do you know why you’re doing it? Was it a conscious choice your made? Was it something you determined or was it something you accepted? You can always change the way things are done. You can create a new paradigm that begins with a new thought. It’s okay to go to the top of the ladder and enjoy a banana! Tell the others there is no need to be afraid. There is an abundance of bananas – enough for everyone. There is no need to attack others. It won’t hurt you or anyone else when you make a conscious choice. Determine your own life experience rather than accept a paradigm that does not serve you.

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Jun 24 2010

Your Genes are a Blueprint

Category: Fitness,HabitsPatricia @ 10:37 am

Cell biologist, research scientist and former Stanford medical school professor, Dr. Bruce Lipton, author of Biology of Belief: Unleashing the Power of Consciousness, Matter, & Miracles, says that our genes are nothing more than a blueprint. He states that our thoughts can activate changes in the activity of the cell membrane, and thus alter our health and our life. In fact, he states bluntly that by changing our subconscious programming we can influence cell membrane function. Lipton says, “Genes are remarkable molecules, but they are only blueprints that are activated by signals from the cell membrane”, and therefore, “we are not victims of our genes, but masters of our fate.”

This research about the processes by which cells receive information may radically change our understanding of life. It shows that DNA is controlled by environmental signals from outside the cell, including the energetic messages emanating from our subconscious mind in the form of positive and negative thoughts. The cell’s membrane, Lipton says, is where “consciousness and matter interact”. Considered to be a major breakthrough in cell biology and quantum physics, this research shows that our bodies can be changed when we change our thoughts.

The mystic healer Edgar Cayce once said, “Remember that thoughts are things, and as their currents run, they can become crimes or miracles.”

If our genes are a blueprint, our mind is the contractor. What kind of a body have you built? Are you healthy? Are you physically fit? Is it time for a re-model? I can help you to access your most powerful tool…your subconscious mind. Are you ready to do some trance-formational work? It all begins with a thought. The Mind Matters.

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Nov 03 2009

Photography & Life – Capture the Moment

Category: Creativity,HabitsPatricia @ 12:07 pm

Many years ago, I met a man who was to become a mentor to me, not only as an artist and a photographer, but as a human being. His motto, which hangs above the blackboard in his classroom states simply, “Comfort is your Enemy”. Being “comfortable” is the same as being stagnant. We miss opportunities. If we don’t move out of our comfort zone, there is no forward motion. No creative flow.

barnacles on branch

Life is a lot like photography.

 In order to capture the moment… to get the results we want…     

Sometimes we need to change our point of view – to look at things from different perspectives.    

Sometimes we need to focus in really close on the details…and

Sometimes we need to step back to see the big picture – the whole picture – in order to get a more balanced perception.


Sometimes we need to step up to a challenge and take a risk…and Sometimes we need to step out of the way.

Sometimes we need to put our focus on the important things and let the insignificant things blur out in the background…or fade away.

Sometimes we need to become aware of something we’ve missed… and

Sometimes we need to know when to ask for help.

But ALWAYS we need to take ACTION or the opportunity is lost.

And the actions we take create a lasting impression on this experience …this series of moments we call “life”.

When we change our focus or move in a different direction (even just a little bit!!!) we change our experience. We change our habits…our relationships…our health…our prosperity…our life.

We take actions every moment of the day…most of them subconsciously motivated. Are you aware that your behaviors are directed and controlled by your subconscious mind…your past programming?  Your conscious awareness is only effective for about 90 minutes. After that your behavior is dictated by the “knowns” of your subconscious mind… the 88% of your mind that makes the decisions about your actions… as well as your re-actions.

What actions are you taking to create your life… your image of success and happiness?

What opportunities…or lack of opportunities… are you creating by the actions you are taking?

I’d like you to ask yourself this question …

Right now, what is the one thing I could…start doing…stop doing…or do differently…that would most improve the quality of my life?

Take a moment to consider all aspects of your life…your health and level of physical fitness…your mental acuity and ability to focus and concentrate…your financial stability…your sense of emotional well-being…your level of joy and happiness in your relationship with self, others and spirit.

When you have identified that one action that would create a better life…tell yourself that you can do it. And then just do it!

 Now, I’d like you to consider this…

 On a scale of 1 to 10… rate your life satisfaction level. Are you happy with that number? If you are not, perhaps you need to access the “goal-achieving feature” of your subconscious mind.  

In my practice of helping people take action to create a better life, I have implemented synergistic methods which teach how to set goals and provide motivation to achieve those goals.

Whether it is pain management, weight loss or smoking cessation…whether it is finding or healing a relationship or a career…whether it is the simple and priceless gift of achieving a new level of self confidence, I can help you to take action…to create the opportunities and get the results you want.

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