May 23 2017

Dream A Little Dream

Category: Choices,MotivationPatricia @ 8:56 am

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In the magical state of creation (where you spend every moment of your life, whether you are aware of it or not), the economic exchange is affected by different rules. The dream state operates on another level. The only currency is energy. And the only price to be paid is with your imagination – your thought energy. You may not have cash flow, but you always have an unlimited supply of imagination. The state of creation does not follow the same order as the U.S. economy. There is plenty for everyone. You can have it all. Or you can choose to have nothing at all. It’s a choice we make based on the focus of our thoughts…what we think about; what we believe about what we think; how we feel about what we think.

So, considering you can afford the life of your dreams, what are you dreaming? Everyone has thoughts and dreams of a better life. No matter how good life is, it can always be better. Consider the thoughts which bring a smile to your face. Or the ones which make your belly tingle with excitement. And then think the thoughts which make your heart happy. These thoughts can make you feel like a million bucks! Or even more!

Take a moment out of your everyday life and give yourself a little dream time. You deserve it. You can afford it! And you really can’t afford not to do it! There are twenty-four hours in the day. Surely, your dreams are worth as little as a measly fifteen minutes!

Play a little game. A dreaming game. Begin by setting your intention. Make sure that your intention is set in a way that is best for all concerned. Then simply write out this sentence:

“Even though I don’t know how this will happen, I am grateful because it is now (fill in a date) and I am (enjoying, looking at, experiencing, earning, etc.) my (new salary of $xxx, new home, new car, vacation, etc.) and I feel _____________.”

When you consider this sentence, pay close attention to how the dream thought makes you feel. Emotions are very, very important in the state of creation. Emotions are the fuel which fire up and feed your dream. Thought creates emotion which creates action. When you play the dreaming game, make the fire bigger by thinking about different aspects of your success. For example, if you’re dreaming of a new car, fill in all the details. Make a list of the car’s features and why you like them. Think about the value of independence and mobility that a car offers. Consider how you will feel when you are driving this new car and the places you will go. Step outside of yourself, and see yourself having the experience of a new car. And then feel the gratitude for your ability to create this experience. As you fill in all the details, your imagination is free to dream big. Your dream creates passion.

When dreaming, you know that anything can happen. Even impossible things. You are now dreaming.

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Jan 30 2017

Negative Thoughts Can Create Positive Results

Category: Choices,MotivationPatricia @ 2:47 pm

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There is duality in the universe; light and darkness, heat and cold. This duality is reflected in our emotions. Like emotions, energy also comes in two forms: positive and negative. Each has its own distinct vibration. I often encourage my clients to focus on the positive aspects of their lives…to think of what they want. When we are thinking positive thoughts we feel positive feelings. We like that. When we are thinking negative thoughts we don’t like how we feel. We feel uncomfortable. But sometimes negative thoughts can bring positive results. Sometimes negative energy can create positive change.

If you want to get in shape, you can think about all the positive reasons to do that. You can think about how you’ll have more energy; your clothes will fit better; you’ll feel good about yourself. All those positive thoughts can motivate you to take the actions necessary to succeed. You can reinforce those thoughts by writing them down. When we write things down, it solidifies our commitment to our goal. We are more likely to be successful. When we give our subconscious mind visual reminders of our goals, it creates more reinforcement. Pictures and illustrations are guides for our goal-achieving machine. Both words and visual reminders add fuel to the fire. When you think about your success, you are motivated to take the steps to achieve it. You connect with the positive results and your belief that you can succeed.

Now, I’d like you to consider several reasons why you don’t want to be out of shape. You could think about the health consequences of high blood pressure or diabetes or heart disease or any other grim reality that can result from being out of shape. You could consider how you’re not able to enjoy physical activities; suffering from erectile dysfunction or sleep apnea. You could realize that your longevity is being affected; you could die sooner and miss out on precious time with loved ones. You could accept the negative consequences… or you can use your fear of these things to drive you to do something to prevent them from happening! Fear can be a powerful force for motivation. Fear helps you connect with your power to take control to avoid the negative consequences.

Using both positive and negative energy together can be the key to your success. The powerful momentum fueled by your positive thoughts and desires combined with the fear of negative consequences can create amazing results! When you are confronted by the thoughts of a future you do not want to experience, you are motivated to make the changes necessary so that it will not come to pass. Often we have to confront our worse fears before we are able to find the strength and willpower to do what is right for us. Embrace the darkness. Move into the light.

 

 

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Jan 19 2017

No Expiration Date. No Time Limit. No Other Life.

Category: Choices,Inspirational Quotes,MotivationPatricia @ 12:49 pm

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Later in life, some of us experience regret about what we didn’t accomplish. We didn’t achieve what we wanted. We didn’t fulfill our true potential. We didn’t travel the world. We didn’t find our soul mate. We didn’t learn to play the piano. These “didn’ts” can cause pain. They can make us feel as if we had failed at life.

The ability to do new things and learn new skills does not expire. We can always improve and become better versions of ourselves. My dad passed away at the age of 93. One of the many things he taught me was that you could do anything you set your mind to do; you could learn anything. And there were no limits as to when you could begin. When he was 75, he decided to learn how to paint with oils. So he got an easel, some canvases and paints. And then he painted.  When he was 88, he invested in a computer so that he could learn about the internet. And then he explored the new world of cyberspace.

Almost without exception, some of the regret experienced later in life is a result of not “achieving” something. When one feels that they haven’t fulfilled their true potential, it can leave a painful mark. Self-discovery and improvement can happen at any time in life. The ability to improve oneself does not expire. It is a never-ending process.

“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another island. There is no other land; there is no other life but this.” – Henry David Thoreau

There are many stories of people who began new careers at an advanced age. One such person is Anna Mary Robertson, known as Grandma Moses. She began her painting career at the age of 78 (I think maybe Dad was inspired by her) and painted until her passing at the age of 101.

There is also a lesser known woman who should be acknowledged: Doreetha Daniels. Doreetha, a multiple stroke victim with vision and hearing problems recently received her college degree from College of the Canyons in Santa Clara, California. Doreetha is 99 years old. She advised prospective students: “Don’t give up. Do it. Don’t let anybody discourage you. Say that, ‘I’m going to do it,’ and do it for yourself.”

One faculty member said: “Doreetha is a living testament to the saying ‘if there is a will, there is a way’…” Doreetha was motivated to go to college by two things. She was tired of her hobbies and wanted to expand her interests. And she was inspired by her grandchildren, who after starting families and careers, went back to school for graduate degrees.

Consider Thoreau’s words …“there is no other life but this.” Take the opportunity to live it to the fullest. Live until the very end. There is no limitation to what you can accomplish. There is no time limit to being actively engaged in life.

 

 

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Oct 17 2016

Plan Backwards

Category: Choices,Control,Health & Wellness,Motivation,Weight ManagementPatricia @ 11:39 am

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When we set a goal, we think about it as a future event, situation or experience. We set a date. It is something in the distance…a destination at the end of a journey. One way to move forward to meet a big goal is to plan backwards.

When your goal is complex or requires the passage of time for completion, you need to break it down into more “doable” goals. A doable goal requires less time to see the results. It’s important to recognize the successful completion of every step along the way to your success. Remember, there is no express elevator to achieving success. You have to take one step at a time. Recognizing your progress helps to motivate you to continue. You have the end in sight. Setting up step by step goals can also help you to be more aware and conscious of any changes or deviations that need to be made.

Let’s say you want to lose 20 pounds for an event that is three months away. Obviously, this is not a goal you can achieve in a weekend. In order to lose the 20 pounds, you need to start planning backwards to break the goal down into little, easily achievable goals. Imagine that you want to lose 2 pounds every week. This is a doable goal. To lose 2 pounds, you need to cut your caloric intake or increase your caloric burn. It requires 3500 extra calories to gain a pound, which means that it would take 7000 less calories to lose those 2 pounds. If you break that down, you see that you need to eliminate 1000 calories each day to achieve your goal. This is a doable goal. Many people eat 3 meals and at least 2 snacks every day. If you decrease your intake each time you eat by just 200 calories, you’ve done it! You have successfully taken a big, overwhelming goal and you divided it into very small, achievable goals. You are able to achieve a small goal multiple times during the day. When you check your weight after seven days, you are able to celebrate your success. If you did not lose the anticipated 2 pounds, you are able to make an adjustment to insure your success next week. You keep your end goal in mind.

When you commit to your success, you will be able to achieve your goal in just 10 weeks!!! You might want to consider beginning this goal right now. There will be no need for New Year’s resolutions. You will be happily dancing your way into the New Year weighing 20 pounds less than you do right now!

Planning backwards helps you to move forward for all kinds of big goals. Consider a big goal you may have. Perhaps you want to take that dream vacation or buy a new car. Begin saving today. If it’s a goal, you will find a way to take action. If you can’t find a way, than it is not a goal… it’s just a wish. And after time, it may become a regret.

Make a commitment to your goal. Take the first step to succeed in your plan. Keep your goal in mind and follow the steps backwards until you have reached the beginning, which is where you are right now. Get excited about what you plan to accomplish because without excitement and enthusiasm, you’ll lose sight of your plan and you won’t move forward. You can do it!

 

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Aug 09 2016

Learning to Try

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 11:56 am

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Have you failed at something? Of course you have! Everyone fails! But a failure is really just another opportunity to succeed. Which is worse… failing or never trying? When we experience failure, we may feel stupid or embarrassed. We may even feel worthless and ashamed. We may be afraid to admit that we have failed in achieving our goal. Failure feels bad. It hurts. Failure makes us feel afraid to begin again. It creates self-doubt. Yet, just as we all experience failure, we all have experienced starting over. We try again. We make another attempt or effort. We give it our best shot. And if we don’t try…we regret and we wonder “what if” or “if only”. Not trying may feel worse than failure.

Before you decide to start a new project after you have experienced failure, you need to evaluate what went wrong. You have to decide how you’ll do things differently. In order to do better, consider these three questions. They can change your perception of your failure and motivate you to try to succeed.

“How can my past experiences help me?”

“What can I learn from doing this project?”

“What are some mistakes I might make?” Remember – it’s ok to make mistakes!

Instead of thinking of yourself as a failure…think of yourself as a learner. A learner has to have a willingness to fail. When you stop trying to be a perfectionist or an expert and become a learner, you grow. You become more equipped to face challenging situations. You think more creatively. You give yourself more choices.

Your brain/mind is kind of like a muscle. It can grow and learn to do new things. Do something challenging. Go out of your comfort zone. Begin thinking in new ways. Scrabble, crossword puzzles, new recipes can all stimulate your mind to find new solutions.

Stop procrastinating. It is the enemy of learning and creativity. If you have a habit of putting tasks off, maybe it’s because you expect perfect results from yourself; you expect perfection from others; or you think others expect perfection from you. Where did you get these ideas? When you take on your work before a deadline, you take control of the problem. You give yourself a break from the stress. When you’re not stressed out about time limits, you are more able to think clearly. You give yourself time to experiment with new ideas and concepts. You encourage and stimulate the learner. You are capable of learning whatever you need to know.

Learners have possibilities. Every failure or mistake is just one step closer to success. Failures become insights and invite celebration rather than dismay. Failure does not define you as a person. You failed at an action; performing a particular task. That’s all. No big deal. You learned from it. Get over it and move on. Tell yourself it’s okay to make a mistake. Everybody makes mistakes! Stop judging yourself by impossible expectations.

It’s worth a try. And a try again. Make an effort to learn to succeed. You only fail when you don’t try.

 

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Aug 04 2016

That Time 5 Years Ago

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 5:54 pm

 

 

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Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? You know that time when your heart was breaking? Or that time when you felt frustrated and angry? And what about the time when you thought you were going to lose everything? You didn’t know how you were going to survive. Ask yourself this…does it really matter now?

Life happens. There are obstacles and challenges. People disappoint us. Sometimes there is illness. Or unemployment. And one thing we can all depend upon is that all things are temporary. All things. Life is happening moment by moment. We really don’t know what the next moment may bring. It could be amazing. It could be devastating.

We often feel gratitude for the good things happening in our lives. We are always thankful when we are happy and we think things are going the way we want. That’s easy. But I’d like you to consider that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset. What happened? Does it matter now? Often life’s challenges and problems are just opportunities in disguise.  We are in a position where we don’t have a choice. We have to become better in order to handle our problem.

When we are thankful for the setbacks we’ve experienced, our life becomes more fulfilling. When we look for the positive results or outcomes of our negative experiences, we realize that it all happened for the best. Each of us faces challenges in life. New challenges build your strength and character. It’s been said that “what doesn’t kill you, only makes you stronger.”

When you don’t know something, be thankful that you have the opportunity to learn. Read a book or take a class or watch a YouTube video. Make the effort to educate yourself. Maybe you were unemployed 5 years ago and decided to go back to school. Maybe you are now successfully enjoying a new career which not only feeds your bank account but nourishes your soul. If so, be thankful for the gift of your unemployment.

Be thankful for your mistakes because they teach you valuable lessons. You know what not to do. This helps you to know better what to do. You’re given the opportunity to try again and you are more prepared to succeed. You gain confidence and perseverance.

Difficult times are difficult at the time. But the difficulties fade. Our perception of them changes. We know that it is physiologically demanding and quite painful to deliver a baby. But our mind adjusts to that difficulty enabling second, third or even more babies to be delivered. We forget the pain of labor. It diminishes over time. Our perception changes as time passes.

When you’re tired and weary and don’t know if you’ll be able to go on, be thankful because your work and efforts made a difference in the world. Be grateful for your physical abilities and strength. Be grateful for your skills and talents. Positive thoughts can energize your physical body and motivate you to continue.

I agree with self-help author, Melody Beattie when she says, “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.”

What happened 5 years ago? How are you better for it? When you are thankful for your troubles, you realize they can become your blessings. And even if you don’t already have everything you want in your life, be thankful for that. If you had all your heart’s desires, what would there be to look forward to?

Gratitude can turn negatives into positives. It can help you to look back on that time 5 years ago with a different perspective. It may even bring a smile to your face.

 

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Jun 28 2016

A Summer State of Mind

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 8:56 am

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It doesn’t matter when you were last enrolled in school. School’s out for summer!  Maybe school’s out forever! It doesn’t matter what age you are…summer is not just a season; it is a state of mind.  It is an opportunity. You can always give your self permission to plan on summer fun. What are your plans for adventure? What do you want to do to enjoy the lazy days of summer? Remember it’s over before you know it! Summer only lasts for 90 something days. Look for all the ways you can enjoy it every day.

Sometimes you procrastinate…and then you miss out. You want to take a little trip. You pick a date and start to make the arrangements. Flights are sold out, hotels are booked and options are narrowed. And then you feel sad or disappointed or frustrated. If it was important, you would make the time to plan ahead. You would stop to make your plans a priority. You would stop making excuses. Maybe you are so focused on the busyness of your day to day routine, you’re unable to break away to think about the future. Maybe you’re not even aware of the present. You are not giving yourself time. You deserve your time more than anything or anyone else does. Remember, when you take care of yourself, everyone benefits.

Summer gives us more hours of sunshine. Even though it’s still 24 hours, we feel as if the day is longer. We have an opportunity to do more. Or to have the time to do less. Summer gives us permission to be a little lazy…to lay around the pool or stroll on the beach or play ball. Summer teaches us about temporary things. We get a summer job. We have a summer romance. We enjoy summer picnics and concerts in the park. We plant a summer garden. Maybe it’s part of our programming. We all went to school and then were given a summer break. We could sleep late and stay up late. We could hang out with our friends. Life was different in the summer. On some level, that little kid inside each one of us wants a break. We look forward to summer. We can play.

Summer gives us an opportunity for recreation. We can swim, play tennis or go away to camp. Summer can also give us an opportunity for re-creation…to create a new and improved version of our self. Sometimes people would recreate themselves during summer. When they returned to school in the fall, they had grown taller, lost weight, had their braces removed. Sometimes people returned with a new attitude of self-confidence after mastering a new skill like sailing or surfing. They were different. Summer gives us an opportunity to believe in possibilities. Summer is about freedom and hope.

I invite you to go back to that old school programming that allows you to take a little summer break. Re-invent yourself. Consider this special time when Mother Nature is exploding with abundance…and claim your own. Explore more. Stress less. Rest more. Do less. Be more.

Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass under the trees on a summer’s day, listening to the murmur of water, or watching the clouds float across the blue sky, is by no means waste of time. ~John Lubbock, “Recreation,” The Use of Life, 1894

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Jan 26 2016

Your Stuff

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 3:15 pm

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It’s been a couple of weeks since 2016 began. New Year New You. How can the year or you be “new” if you’re dragging the past behind you? How can you create a new you when you are weighed down with the stuff you accumulated as the old you?

All of us accumulate stuff in our lives. Some of us even get to the point of accumulating so much stuff that we become hoarders. But it’s not just the physical stuff that clutters our lives. Take a look around. Where are you out of control? Is it your closet? Your appointment book? Your kitchen counter or desk top? Your possessions reflect who you are, who you are not and who you wish to be. Your possessions can become clutter if you aren’t careful. What is clutter? Clutter is anything that takes up space in your physical, emotional and mental world without making your life better. Clutter happens when you avoid decisions or refuse to make them.

You collect things for a number of reasons. You think you might need it later. You have a sentimental attachment to it. You spent money on it so you think you need to keep it. You hold on to things because you intend to use them. But it is likely that you made a mistake when you bought those things and it hurts you to come to terms with that and to let go. The unread book. The shoes that were never worn. The exercise equipment.

Clutter has more to do with how it feels than how it looks. For example, the clutter of a collection of teapots may make you feel happy because you enjoy looking at them or using them. The collection may bring fond memories of your travels when you purchased a teapot. But a clutter of unfinished projects may make you feel stressed or anxious. Your subconscious mind knows about all those unfinished projects and the clutter is a constant reminder of failure. If it doesn’t make you feel good, perhaps it’s time to let it go.

Clutter creates chaos in your environment. People who live in a state of chaos are prone to procrastination. They are anxious and overwhelmed and unable to take action. They are unable to commit to relationships or maintain a steady job. Researchers at the Princeton University Neuroscience Institute published the results of a study they conducted in 2011. These results show that when your environment is cluttered, the chaos affects your ability to concentrate and focus. Your brain’s ability to process information is limited. We cannot perform effectively when we are overstimulated. When you are surrounded by piles of unopened mail, overstuffed closets and crowded kitchen counters, the clutter competes for your attention in the same way a child pulling at you and repeating “mom” “mom” “mom” might do. The annoyance wears you down. The conclusions of the study show that if you want to perform to the best of your ability, you need to get rid of the clutter. The research shows that you will be more productive and able to process information better. So, why are you holding on to the clutter?

Peter Walsh, an organizational expert says, “Maybe it’s possible that the stuff we own and obsess over is the physical manifestation of the mental health issues that challenge our minds.” He divides clutter into two general types: “memory” clutter and “someday” clutter. Memory clutter is the stuff that reminds you of important events or people or achievements. It’s stuff like newspaper clippings and old photographs. Memory clutter may cause you to become depressed, as if you have nothing to look forward to and the best years are behind you. If looking at it bothers you, let it go. “Someday” clutter refers to things you feel you might need someday in anticipation of an imagined future. They can be things that are an aspiration to do or be something you are not. These things can create anxiety and trigger a lack of trust in the future. Make a realistic assessment of your need to hold on “just in case” and then make the decision based on your vision of the life you want to live. Someday clutter can extend to setting boundaries with other people as well. Are you storing piles of other people’s stuff? In case they need it someday? Set limits. “It’s about balance,” Walsh says of clutter control. “If you have so much stuff it drags you into the past or pulls you into the future, you can’t live in the present.”

I invite you to begin the New Year without dragging the past behind you. Ask yourself, “Who is going to get stuck sorting this mess out when I’m dead?” or “Will it fit into my coffin?” Do Not get containers to organize it all! It’s only more clutter! Do what is obvious – eliminate the excess. Giving away belongings benefits others. When you come across something you cannot part with, consider its purpose in your life and you may find that it has already fulfilled its role. Acknowledge the contribution and let it go with gratitude. If it’s really important to remember, take a photo to preserve the memory. Letting go helps you to rewrite the story of who you are and how you live right now. When you create empty space, you make room for new things and new experiences.

Organizing is about selecting the best and letting go of the not-so-good. Life is like this. There’s a lot of stuff that doesn’t matter. Outdated stuff. Broken stuff. Stuff that doesn’t fit any more. Focus on the stuff that matters. Your stuff tells the story of who you are.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Jan 04 2016

Why You Fail

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 5:27 pm

 

The beginning of a new calendar year triggers a response in us to make a change. It’s like a signal that tells us that we get another chance. A new year inspires us to set goals and invest in our dreams. It is an opportunity to try new things and create a new version of our lives. It is a tradition in our society to make New Year’s resolutions. It is also a tradition to break New Year’s resolutions. Why do we disappoint ourselves? Why do we fail to do the things we tell ourselves that we want to do?

Some of us make the same resolution year after year. I know a woman who had a yearly tradition of telling herself that she would quit smoking cigarettes at the stroke of midnight. She would diligently prepare for this event by smoking as much as possible up until that time. She wanted to make sure that she didn’t miss out on any cigarettes before the deadline to quit. I don’t think she ever made it more than a week. The really sad part is that she created her own tradition about the holidays and the new year. And then she passed that tradition on to her children. I’ve lost touch with her but I heard that she was now suffering from emphysema and in need of an oxygen tank. Obviously, she was a success at failure.

How many of us have declared, “I am going to lose 10 pounds…20 pounds…50 pounds!”? And how many of us have failed at reaching that goal? Or how many of us have succeeded in achieving the goal only to fail at maintaining it? There are many who say, “This year, I am going to get a new job…ask for a raise…start my own business.” And then they don’t. George Bernard Shaw said: “People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.”

Philosophers, prophets, wise men and teachers throughout time have disagreed on many things but there is one point that they agree upon – the secret to your success and the secret to your failure is this: You create your experience of life with your thoughts. Marcus Aurelius, the great Roman Emperor, said: “A man’s life is what his thoughts make of it.”

Earl Nightingale tells us, “We become what we think about. A person who is thinking about a concrete and worthwhile goal is going to reach it, because that’s what he’s thinking about. Conversely, the person who has no goal, who doesn’t know where he’s going, and whose thoughts must therefore be thoughts of confusion, anxiety, fear, and worry will thereby create a life of frustration, fear, anxiety and worry. And if he thinks about nothing … he becomes nothing.”

I invite you to begin a new tradition at the stroke of midnight on 1/1/2016. Decide to pay the price. Do the work. Become the person you want to become. Or continue to live unsuccessfully. When you make the decision to work toward a goal, you are already a success. You have made a choice about where you want to be. Out of a hundred people, you belong in the top five!

Don’t be afraid to fail. Malcolm Forbes says, “Failure is success if we learn from it.” Keep your goal in mind at all times. Make your choices based on the successful fulfillment of your goal. Trust that you will know what to do and when to do it. Thomas Edison failed more than 10,000 times before the successful invention of the light bulb. He tells us, “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

Maybe you have failed in the past. Remind yourself that it was in the past. Tell yourself that this time will be different. Remember that what you tell yourself ultimately determines what you are and are not able to do. So tell yourself that you can and you will and you will find that it is so.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Sep 29 2015

Are You Lazy or Apathetic?

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 9:37 am

 

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A proverb states, “If and When were planted, and Nothing grew.” Is your garden of life flourishing with the seeds you have planted? Are you reaping the harvest of a well-tended life? Or is there a barren plot of dreams waiting for you? Will you take action When you have time? Will you begin If everything is just right? When Nothing is planted, Nothing grows.
There are two kinds of inertia. In the science of physics, the first law of inertia states, “Standing objects tend to remain stationary.” The second law is: “Moving objects tend to stay in motion.” Both kinds of inertia can be related to the art of procrastination. Yes, procrastination is an art – a very creative process of avoidance. It is the act of putting things off intentionally and habitually. Many people practice the action all of their lives. A procrastinator is able to create all manner of excuses, reasons and distractions which keep them from completing the task at hand. It has been said, “Procrastination is like masturbation. At first it feels good, but in the end you’re only screwing yourself.”

Procrastination is stationary inertia. You aren’t moving, and therefore you don’t move! When you start a project or process, you begin movement. And you are more likely to stay with it until completion. Beginning the movement is often the problem. A procrastinator is a master of delay. Procrastination actually implies blameworthy delay, especially delay caused through laziness or apathy.

Since I doubt you consider yourself lazy or apathetic, I invite you to consider a few ways to overcome procrastination:

  1. Make a short list of the tasks you really dislike doing. Be brutally honest with yourself. Admit if something is hard for you, or if it bores you to tears. Admit that you don’t want to do it or that you are doing it for someone else. It’s okay to dislike doing things. It’s okay to stop beating yourself up for not doing things you don’t like to do. It’s okay to ask for help.
  2. Break complicated tasks into simple steps. Take the first step. Just do it.
  3. Set a designated time slot to work on your goal. Give yourself tasks. Create your own deadline. Be your own boss. Og Mandino says, “To be always intending to make a new and better life but never find time to set about it is as…to put off eating and drinking and sleeping from one day to next until you’re dead.” Make the time to do what you need to do. Make the time to do what you want to do. Nobody else will do this for you!
  4. Don’t worry about perfection. Just do it. Do it the best you can do. And accept that.
  5. If you have fear of the consequences associated with the action you’ve been avoiding, ask yourself, “What’s the worst thing that could happen if I do this?” Most likely, you can deal with the worst-case scenario.
  6. Consider the benefit of getting the task done. Maybe it’s not worth it! Maybe it really is! If you decide that it will benefit you, consider if the benefit is greater than the annoyance of doing it. Give yourself the benefit.
  7. Imagine the feeling of accomplishment and freedom. E-motion always creates motion. Give yourself a boost of self-confidence and energy. Procrastination creates doubt and fear. Take control and take action.

Your subconscious mind is your goal-achieving machine. It is a high-powered vehicle with no limitations. Your conscious mind is the driver of the vehicle. If you are not intentionally starting up the engine, nothing happens. “Standing objects remain stationary.” Your vehicle sits in the garage waiting for you. Once you decide on your destination and set things in motion, you will find that “Moving objects tend to stay in motion.” Get moving!!!

 

 

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Sep 08 2015

Labor of Love

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 4:15 pm

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On the first Monday in September, it is our intention to celebrate and honor the labor movement and the contributions that workers make to the strength, prosperity, and well-being of the people of the country. Although there is still focus on labor, the holiday celebration has changed since it began in 1887. Labor Day also marks the beginning of the school year and the unofficial end of summer. We are distracted by the long weekend. Americans love to have a Monday off from work. Unfortunately, many retail workers don’t get to enjoy the day off. Labor Day sales. Americans also love to consume.

Like all holidays, Labor Day gives us a break from the day-to-day and also brings us together in community. Douglas Pagels reminded us of this when he said, “Sometimes it’s important to work for that pot of gold. But other times it’s essential to take time off and to make sure that your most important decision in the day simply consists of choosing which color to slide down on the rainbow.

Regardless of our job, we all work at something for that pot of gold. How do you work? A laborer is defined as a worker who does manual labor or work for wages, rather than as an entrepreneur who renders services for profits. Labor is also defined as an “expenditure of physical or mental effort especially when difficult or compulsory.” I don’t like that definition because it implies that there is no enjoyment in the effort. I’m one of the lucky ones. I listened to Confucius when he said, “Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.”

Do you love your job? Or is the effort difficult? I think we each owe it to ourselves to spend our days doing what brings joy to our lives and to the lives of others. If your job is stealing time from your life, rather than adding value to it, you may want to consider a new way to labor. Remember that today is the first day of the rest of your life. What do you imagine would be the ideal job for you? How would you want to spend the day at labor? Ask yourself: Do I like to work alone? Or with others? Do I like to work outdoors or indoors? What hours would I like to work? What days would I like to work? How far do I want to commute to get to work? Or do I want to work from home? Do I want to travel for my job? Do I want to do the same thing every day or do I like variety? Do I need someone to tell me what to do? Or am I self-directed and self-motivated? The more you know about you, the more satisfied you will be with your labors. The more you know about you, the more successful you will become. Just like everything in life, you need to go within in order to create what you want to experience.

So, on this Labor Day, I invite you to consider where you would like to be next year. Use this day of rest to choose the color of your rainbow and enjoy the ride. Do you want to be at the same job? Or something new? Will you be laboring over difficult tasks? Or will you be enjoying a labor of love? You have all the answers but you need to take the time to ask yourself the questions. It doesn’t have to be difficult, but it is compulsory, not optional. Expend your mental effort on something that really matters…your life.

 

 

 

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Aug 25 2015

School is Always in Session

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 10:02 am

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Time to learn! Time to hit the books! Time to send the children back to school to get an education! Depending on circumstances, this time of year can bring about different emotions. Emotions which can range from impending dread to joyful enthusiasm. After considering the plight of the stay-at-home mom entertaining her children for an entire summer, Edgar Howe quipped, If there were no schools to take the children away from home part of the time, the insane asylums would be filled with mothers.”  Perspectives change when child becomes mother/father. Perspectives always change as we grow.

As children, we all had a school experience. Most of us received a public education; some enjoyed private school or a home school experience. School helps to form who we become. It’s an important part of our societal programming. It’s a necessary and mandatory part of life. We cannot escape school.

Some of us endured the trauma of the first day of school every year. We were forced to leave behind the carefree days of summer and sentenced to a daily dose of confinement and control. It meant adapting to the stress of a new routine, new responsibilities, a new classroom and a new teacher. Perhaps we were shy or socially awkward which meant more stress. And then there was homework and deadlines! And maybe we had been told that the new teacher was really mean!

Some of us were happy to go back to school. Excited by a brand-new box of brightly colored crayons and other assorted school supplies, we were eager to get started. Back to school meant a new classroom and a new teacher! And it also meant being with friends all day and planning for after-school activities with them. Returning to school meant a new grade with new books and things to learn. It was also a rite of passage. We had moved on. We were bigger and smarter. We had been promoted.

Life is a lot like school. Each of us has a unique experience. Some of us resist learning and some of us embrace it. But just like school, you can’t escape it. Learning is a necessary and mandatory part of life. Tom Bodett noted, “The difference between school and life? In school, you’re taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you’re given a test that teaches you a lesson.” Whether you are a willing student or not, life is teaching you lessons every day. And just like in school, you learn more if you pay attention.

William Upski Wimsatt commented on his education saying, “There were no sex classes. No friendship classes. No classes on how to navigate a bureaucracy, build an organization, raise money, create a database, buy a house, love a child, spot a scam, talk someone out of suicide, or figure out what was important to me. Not knowing how to do these things is what messes people up in life, not whether they know algebra or can analyze literature.”

School doesn’t teach you everything. They don’t teach you some of the real lessons you need to know. You don’t learn how to love somebody. You don’t learn how to make love last forever. And you don’t learn how to walk away from someone you don’t love any more. Life teaches you about love. You are always learning lessons about love. Love is what life is all about.

In school, they don’t teach you how to be rich or poor. Life gives you lessons everyday about abundance and lack. Experience teaches you what you need to do and what you need to not do. It teaches you that you accept what you believe you are worth.

Life teaches you everything worth knowing. We are all students. And we are all teachers. We learn from each other. Sometimes we learn how to do the right thing and sometimes we are shown what happens when we don’t do it. We receive an education in the same way as we receive the outlines in a child’s coloring book. The basics are there but you have to fill in all the details by yourself. You get to choose the colors and you decide whether you will stay within the lines.

School is in session. Attendance is required. Show up every day and pay attention! And don’t forget that box of crayons!

 

 

 

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Jul 20 2015

Finding Time

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 8:23 am

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Do you tell yourself that “I never seem to find the time to work on my goals.” Or maybe you tell yourself that “I have no focus.” Each one of us has great goals. Maybe you’ve even written your goals or created a vision board. Maybe you’ve enthusiastically started taking action. You can feel the power and the excitement. You know that this time you’ll be successful; this time is going to be different than all those other times. Then it happens… Life gets in the way!

Maybe you or a family member gets sick; or things at work become more demanding. Maybe an unexpected financial crisis occurs. Whatever it is, the interruption takes over your life. Your plans are put on hold. You may feel disappointed or frustrated or even angry that you were not able to do what you set out to do. Your dreams become a painful memory of what could have been. John Lennon said, “Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans”. Life gets in the way of everybody, but successful people have a way of keeping their focus and getting things done.

Successful people know how to concentrate their energy and efforts on what they want. They are able to eliminate anything that threatens that focus. Since all thoughts are creative, they only think about what they want, not about what they don’t want. In As A Man Thinketh, James Allen writes, “Having conceived of his purpose, a person should mentally mark out a straight pathway to its achievement, looking neither to the right nor left.”

A sea captain sets his course and does not deviate. Even though the destination is not in sight, the captain trusts that if he stays on course, he will reach it. But what if the captain doesn’t need to reach his destination by a certain time? He may take detours along the way to do other things of interest. If it wasn’t important to reach the destination, he may end his trip at any place along the way.

Maybe you’ve experienced a lack of focus with some of your goals. Maybe the goal (the destination) isn’t really as important as you originally thought it was. Maybe it doesn’t matter anymore. You must have a desire for your goal; a desire that is consuming and obsessive. The desire must be like a fire in your belly. If you’re having trouble staying focused, you need to look at your goal and ask yourself some questions.

Consider if this is really your goal, or if it someone else’s goal for you. Ask yourself if this goal is really important to you. Why is it important? Imagine how you would feel if you are not able to achieve the goal. Imagine how you would feel when you achieve it.

Your answers to these questions may tell you if you’re ever likely to develop enough focus on that goal to be successful. James Allen also told us that all successful people “hold fast to an idea, a project, a plan, and will not let it go; they cherish it, brood upon it, tend and develop it; and when assailed by difficulties, they refuse to be beguiled into surrender; indeed, the intensity of the purpose increases with the growing magnitude of the obstacles encountered.”

When you successfully find your focus, you’ll also solve your struggles with time management. You will find the time! You will make time for what is important to you. You may not have time to do everything you WANT to do, but you’ll have time to do everything you NEED to do. You decide in advance how you will spend your resources. You allocate your time, talent, skills and abilities to achieve your goal. When you’re focused, you will follow your plan.

Take action by focusing on the number one activity you need to do to get one step closer to your goal. You must take one step at a time. There is no elevator to success. Meditate on your goal. Engage in visualization. Remember the mind doesn’t know the difference between what you imagine and what you perceive to be reality. In the state of imagination, you are able to feel the positive emotions of successfully completing the goal. You are also able to feel the negative emotions associated with failure to reach your destination. These emotions add fuel to the fire of your desires. You will always find time for what it important to you. You will make time. Focus on completing the first activity necessary. If you haven’t taken any action on the goal, perhaps it’s time to go back to the question of why you want to accomplish it. Stop fooling yourself. If it was important, you would find the time.

 

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Apr 30 2015

Success is Not a Number

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 11:20 am

 

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You are never too young or too old to begin. Success is not a number. Mozart was competent on keyboard and violin and began composing at the age of 5. Elvis was a superstar by age 19. Albert Einstein was just 26 when he wrote the Theory of Relativity. At 34, Martin Luther King wrote “I Have a Dream”. Neil Armstrong was 38 when he landed on the moon. When he became President of the United States, John F. Kennedy was 43. Da Vinci was 51 when he painted the Mona Lisa. Grandma Moses began painting at the age of 78. Artist Beatrice Wood continued working in her studio until the age of 104.

So, what are you waiting for? It’s never too soon! It’s never too late! Life is happening right now. And there will never be a time when it is not now. Goethe tells us, “Whatever you do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius and power and magic in it.” Are you experiencing magic in your life? Do you feel bold and powerful? If not, why not? You are an amazing being capable of incredible accomplishments. I know this. Do you?

Each one of us has a responsibility to be our best self. We are dreamers and we are also the dream. It is up to the individual to make the dream a reality. It doesn’t matter how old you are. You can make a difference in your own life; in the life of another; or even in the lives of everyone on the planet. Consider Steve Jobs. It doesn’t matter how old you are unless you tell yourself it matters. If you didn’t know how old you are, how old would you be? And would it matter?

What would you like to accomplish? We all have dreams about what if. Some of us tell ourselves that it’s not possible. Not enough time. Not enough money. Not enough. Some of us tell ourselves that we can make it possible. Even though we don’t have enough time or enough money, we know that we are enough. I think that’s what makes the difference in which dreams become reality. It comes down to a belief in yourself and your ability to do what you truly want to do. Your subconscious mind will make the impossible possible…if you believe.

I invite you to consider what you would like to do with your own personal magic. Give yourself permission to dream and know that whatever it is you want to accomplish…you are enough. You have enough or you wouldn’t have the dream. We each get a dream which is custom-made to take advantage of all of our skills, gifts, talents and abilities. It’s a perfect match. And it happens at just the right time. And just the right age.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Mar 10 2015

5 Steps to Build Your Future Confidence

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 11:22 am

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If you’re not feeling confident right now, how can you possibly feel confident about the future? Doubts and fears about the unknown can paralyze us into inaction. We don’t know how to take the first step. Quite simply, you need to “fake it NOW till you make it LATER”. Remember, there really is no Later, because there will never be a time when it is not Now. If you’re thinking about Later you’re thinking about it Now. And you’re making it up! If you’re going to make up what will happen Later, wouldn’t it be wise to make up good stuff? Isn’t it reasonable to make up stuff that makes you feel confident and brave? And also remember this…It’s all about what you tell yourself. If you tell yourself you can and you will…then you will. Tell yourself to take these five actions. Do it Now.

  1. Check your foundation. When your foundation isn’t solid, things can fall apart. If your foundation is based on deceit or manipulation, you cannot succeed. Build your life based upon the things that matter. Truth, faith and love. Be in integrity with yourself and what you believe to be good and right. Never compromise your values. Have faith in yourself and your abilities. Choose actions based on love rather than fear.
  1. Build consistently. Consistent action pays off. Commit. Did you know that the elevator to success is out of order? You must take the stairs… one step at a time. One of the biggest steps you can take is to habitually show up day after day with an attitude of excellence.
  1. Value what you have created and take care of it. Burning bridges is never a good idea. Conserve what you construct. Do not waste your resources or your time. Tend to your garden. Nourish your relationships. Your gains in the Now will support your needs Later, when you plan wisely.
  1. Finish what you begin. That is, if it is worth finishing. Follow through on what you believe to be worth your time and effort. Goals can change. Conditions can change. There is no need to finish something purely for the sake of finishing. However, if it matters, do it! Let nothing stand in your way. Accomplishment builds confidence.
  1. Today is the only day there is. And Now is the only time. Sometimes we tell ourselves that ”this is not the right time.” We create limitations and fears and we fail to begin. Make up some good stuff instead. Begin today.

Using the power of your imagination, you can direct your future. Your subconscious mind will fill in the details and create your success. Accessing that power is just a few breaths away. If you’d like to learn self-hypnosis techniques to consciously direct your subconscious mind, call me.

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Jun 30 2014

50 Years Living

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 1:33 pm

Life is happening. Time is passing. People are getting older. What fun to celebrate! Especially when you consider the alternative – no more birthdays. I remember 50. I celebrated in grand style from coast to coast. It’s a great milestone to recognize just how long you’ve been on the planet. It’s a time to reflect on what you’ve experienced and how you’ve lived your life. Turning 50 is a time to celebrate yourself. By the time you’ve spent 50 years living, you have a pretty good idea of who you are. Your opinion of yourself matters more than other’s opinions of you.

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What advice do I offer to someone who has reached the age of 50? Jimi Hendrix offered this in a poem found where he died at the age of 27. “The story of life is quicker than the blink of an eye, the story of love is hello and goodbye, until we meet again.”  It seems to me that you ought to know everything you need to know by now, yet life is constantly changing and you get to learn more. You learn more about love, compassion and acceptance. You learn more about the beauty of being alive. You learn gratitude.

You will not realize you have aged until you notice it from the outside. It might be a photograph or a glance in a mirror that makes you aware. Your skin will show the signs of the passing years and the effects of gravity will wear on the physical body. On the inside, you are the same. You are timeless and eternal. Remember you are living in a shell. It is designed to create awareness of the physical experience and it will reflect the choices you have made and the experiences you have created.

You will find time to do what you want to do because you know what it is. And you can give yourself permission.

You will speak your truth, because it has value.

You will be more aware of the passing of time and know how to savor the gift of the now moment. And then you will recognize that your time on the planet is limited and that you’re probably half done. It may make you sad because when you’re having so much fun it’s hard to leave the party.

Your heart will grow and grow and grow because you have experienced more love.

It has been said, In youth we learn; in age we understand.Welcome to the time of understanding…the age of knowing.

 

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May 31 2014

Harvesting Blueberries

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 12:04 pm

I’m so happy to report that I now enjoy picking blueberries in our garden in California. Thanks to the efforts of my son’s green thumb, we are experiencing a bumper crop! And I am loving it! Each little round blue morsel of goodness makes me smile.

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Blueberries Before The Blue

For me, blueberries are so much more than a fruit. They are a symbol of the summer and the taste of childhood in New England.  The joy and abundance of the season picked fresh and greedily consumed by the handful. Blue dots hanging upon the lush green of the big bushes.  Clusters of juicy jewels beckon from bushes bigger than small hands can reach. Bursting with flavor, they are shoveled onto a tongue eagerly waiting for the sweet reward. And later, they find their way into muffins. http://www.themindmatters.com/?s=blueberry+muffins

Blueberries are a connection. A bridge. A divine expression of now. Our blueberry bush is a knowing of the past and a belief in the future. When a gardener plants, there is a belief that there will be a harvest and that the gardener will be there to enjoy it. When a seed is planted, we trust that a plant will grow.

It’s important to note, that a seed is just like a thought. If you believe and trust, the thought will manifest into form and you will reap your harvest.

And I also need to point out…blueberries are blue! How special is that! Blue food! Even blue flowers are rare. Seems the color has been reserved for really special things. The sky and the ocean and the taste of summer.

Sep 05 2013

Three Messages

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 6:38 pm

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After four failed attempts over 35 years, at the age of 64, Diana Nyad succeeded on her fifth try.   Swimming the 110 mile passage from Cuba to Florida through shark infested waters brimming with jelly fish, she achieved her goal.

After nearly 53 hours in the ocean she emerged with this statement. “I have three messages. One is we should never, ever give up. Two is you are never too old to chase your dreams. Three is it looks like a solitary sport, but it takes a team.”

Wow! We can all learn from her perseverance, preparation and resolve. And we can learn at any age! We are only limited by our own limitations…our beliefs about who we are and what it is possible to achieve.  We can learn that it is okay to ask for help!!! We are not in this life alone. When we dream big, we need a team.

If you have a big dream, I can help you to access the power of your goal-achieving machine…your subconscious mind. And I can help you to let go of limitations and false beliefs that are standing in your way. You don’t need to do it all by yourself. And it is never too late to begin to live the life you always dreamed of living!

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Feb 06 2012

Happy NOW Year!

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 2:53 pm

 

Happy NOW Year!  A NOW Year is a lot different than a New Year. You can begin it and celebrate it again and again…every moment of the day. There is an old saying, “Today is the first day of the rest of your life.”  NOW is the moment of your life.  If you made a New Year’s resolution to start or stop doing something or to do something in a different way, and you haven’t been successful yet, it’s okay. You get to start again NOW. When you are present in the NOW, you OWN it. You’ve WON!

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Nov 23 2009

Steps to Goal Achievment

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 3:51 pm

Have in your mind that which would constitute a miracle for you. Get the vision. Suspend disbelief and skepticism. Allow yourself to take the journey toward real magic.  ~ Wayne Dyer

The elevator to success is out of order. You'll have to take one step at a time.

The elevator to success is out of order. You'll have to take one step at a time.

What you tell yourself has the greatest of power over your life.What you tell yourself ultimately determines what you are and are not able to do.

What are you telling yourself?

Begin by being specific in defining your personal vision of success. Take a few moments each day to visualize what you want. Daydream. You are clearly defining success, not keeping it some vague, unknown entity. Get in touch with the emotional connection to a particular goal. As you visualize, bring to mind the feeling of success and accomplishment. When you connect with your feelings about your goal, it sets the creative process in motion.

You must believe it is possible. “For those who believe, no proof is necessary. For those who don’t believe, no proof is possible.” John and Lyn St. Clair Thomas.

You must accept that it will happen. When you tell yourself you can and you will, you have taken the first step towards accomplishing what you want to accomplish. And you will find that you can and you will accomplish your goal. Conscious action alone does not create change. Successful change requires planning. By creating changes in your thoughts, you are reinforcing your idea of success. Success also requires self-acceptance; a positive attitude and the ability to concentrate on and develop your strengths.

There is no limitation to mind power and the ability to direct it to make positive things happen. Set your goals high. Create positive images. Project the best of yourself. Your efforts are always important to your success. Think about what you want, not what you don’t want! And remember, anything you set your mind to accomplish is possible.

 

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