Dec 07 2017

The Next Room

Category: Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 12:47 pm

room next door

 

Three Thanksgivings have gone by since we last celebrated together.  Holidays are emotional triggers. Markers of moments. A timeline progression experienced year after year. Memories stored away to warm our hearts. The people and events of the past come alive when we reflect. And in that reflection, we may experience the pain of loss. We long for the way things were. In other languages, there are certain words that have no direct equivalents. They are untranslatable. One such word is “saudade”. It is a Portuguese and Galician word that can refer to a feeling of melancholy and nostalgia. It is a knowing and a sadness that this thing that you feel a longing for will never happen again.

We have all experienced the pain of losing a loved one. My life experiences have shown me that time truly does heal. It gives perspective. It allows for growth and insight. It dulls the pain; fills the loss. Death is a part of life. It’s a given. Even though each one is unique, we all get the full death experience. We KNOW this. But it doesn’t seem to matter. Doesn’t matter the circumstances of the death. Doesn’t matter the illness. Doesn’t matter where or when. Doesn’t matter how old. The death of a loved one always causes a shock to the system; a heart-stopping jolt. It hurts. At first it hurts more than you think you can bear. It’s with you every moment of your day, rising and subsiding, but always there. And then it doesn’t hurt anymore. It’s replaced by a feeling of love and understanding; an appreciation.

Holidays are upon us. Brace yourself for any “saudade” triggers. Instead of focusing on the loss or any other negative emotion such as guilt or fear….focus on the love. Allow yourself to feel that love in every cell of your body. It’s the best for everyone concerned, even those who have passed on. I think we can assume our loved ones do not want us to continue to suffer the loss of their physical presence. Remember…Love is eternal. Soul is eternal. Life is temporary.

Since I find the words of Henry Scott-Holland to be of comfort, I’d like to share his poem. May it remind you that All is Well.

 

Death Is Nothing At All   

Death is nothing at all.
It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Nothing has happened.

Everything remains exactly as it was.
I am I, and you are you,
and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was.
There is absolute and unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?

Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval,
somewhere very near,
just round the corner.

All is well.
Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!

 

 

 

 

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Oct 14 2017

Default Mode

Category: Inspirational Quotes,Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 8:00 am

dreaming

 

Daydreaming, meditating or fantasizing about the future is just letting your mind wander. Scientists tell us that when we are engaged in these alpha state activities, our brains are engaged in what is referred to as self-generated cognition, using our default mode network. Self-generated cognition is just another way of saying that you are focused on thinking about a thought that you created. The thought didn’t occur to you from any association with your external environment. There was not a stimulus to your thought. You are in your own head. You may be planning some future action. You may be remembering something from the past. You may just be thinking about your day. Your mind is wandering. You are not doing anything. You are simply being.

This default mode activity helps us to think deeply and creatively. When we become quiet and meditative, we are better able to solve problems and shift our perspective. Engagement with our inner mind allows us an opportunity to make meaning out of our life experiences. We can connect the dots and get a better grasp of the bigger picture. When we are in this state of consciousness, we are more creative and expressive about our ideas and thoughts. When we tap into our emotions, we are more able to empathize and sympathize with others. Reflecting on our own emotional states helps us to identify with our community. We recognize that each human being experiences a wide range of emotional ups and downs, and in that recognition, we feel a connection to humanity. We’re all in this together.

In order to take advantage of this default mode, you must break away from the external distractions and go within. You must allow your mind to be silent. Do this by using deep breathing methods to create a self-hypnotic or meditative state.

When you separate yourself from conscious thoughts, your subconscious mind is consolidating past experiences and preparing to react to similar experiences in the future. You are not wasting your time by daydreaming. You are actively engaged in creating your reality. Your brain is very much at work even though it may feel like you’re on pause. In fact, a group of brain regions actually increase in activity whenever you aren’t focused on a task. This is known as the default mode network or stream of consciousness. Remember that the word “default” means that something happens automatically or without any active consideration.

Since we are constantly being exposed to a large amount of information streaming into our surroundings, it could be that this default mode helps us to make sense of the information. Our resting state is able to process our internal reactions and responses to our outside environment. When we take the time to go within, we can reflect on our actions and review our perceptions, We can come to terms with things. We can make plans and move on. When we go within, we have access to our inner wisdom.

Your inner wisdom is accessed through silent reflection. You know the answers to your problems. You know more than anyone else about how to solve whatever problem you may have. Your soul knows what you need to do and how you need to be. Don’t keep secrets from yourself. Go within. Take advantage of your own default mode.  Viktor Frankl reminds us of our power and where we can access it.  He says, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

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Sep 18 2017

Gratitude: The Wonder Drug for Depression

Category: Gratitude,Health & Wellness,Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 4:03 pm

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The essence of all you appreciate is constantly flowing into your reality. As a creator, you create with your thoughts. When you are thinking about what you like or enjoy, you are in the process of creating more of it. When you become more aware of the moments of your life, you engage your senses. You are grateful in the now moment. You appreciate the good that is happening now or you recall the pleasant memory of the past. When you are in this state of awareness, your brain is producing neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine.

When you are feeling grateful, an area of your brain stem region produces dopamine, which increases your enjoyment of what you are experiencing. In addition, when you are feeling gratitude toward others, it increases activity in social dopamine circuits. You enjoy people more and social interactions are more fun. Another area of your brain, the anterior cingulate cortex is busy producing serotonin. This neurotransmitter affects your mood; your appetite and digestion; your ability to sleep; your memory; and your sexual desire and function. Serotonin inhibits impulses so you are better able to control your bad habits. When you are depressed, you lose control. Anti-depressants such as Wellbutrin and Prozac boost the neurotransmitters dopamine and serotonin.

In his book, The Upward Spiral, Dr. Alex Korb addresses the research which has found that gratitude is a powerful anti-depressant. He acknowledges that scientists don’t fully understand depression, but they know it relates to neurotransmitters produced in the brain.  Depression also relates to the prefrontal cortex, which is used for critical thinking and decision making. In addition, the limbic system is involved. This system includes the emotional center of the brain, the amygdala; and the hippocampus, which plays a role in the formation of new memories. Depression affects brain functions which inhibit our ability to heal.

Korb explains how we keep ourselves in a downward spiral when we focus on negative thoughts. Anxiety about the future and worry about things we don’t want reinforces the depressed brain. Remember, you must focus on the now moment, the only moment there is. Bad memories or self-criticism about past behavior are in the past. Let go! You must focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want! Why spend your valuable thought energy on creating negative circumstances which create negative emotions?

Pay attention. Focus on gratitude for your physical body. Acknowledge that it is constantly in your service, no matter how you treat it. Focus on gratitude for your loved ones and their presence in your life. Feel the love. Focus on gratitude for the experience of life. Appreciate your talents, skills and abilities. Know that you have within you everything you need to create the life you want. You can choose to focus on gratitude and benefit from the positive effects in your brain and your physical body. You can choose the upward movement. You can rewire yourself so that it’s easier to feel the positive emotions which produce positive results.

Melody Beattie says, “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”

Apparently, gratitude is a better anti-depressant than Prozac or Wellbutrin. And gratitude has no negative side effects!

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Sep 14 2017

Turning Mistakes Into Lessons

Category: Choices,Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 12:03 pm

 

missed

 

We all make mistakes. It’s the way we learn. We try. We fail. We try again. Each time we do better because we know better. There is no need to regret your mistakes! Mistakes are not only tolerable, but are actually desirable. Einstein says, “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”

I’m sure that you can recall a time when you made a mistake… a mistake that taught you something. Even though it may have been unpleasant, you learned something from the mistake. I want you to begin to appreciate the fact that without having made mistakes like that, you would have never learned and progressed. We learn more from doing things wrong than from doing things right. Mistakes have consequences. Sometimes those consequences are immediate. Other times, the consequences may take years to surface.

Your imperfect mistakes have been perfect opportunities for a wealth of learnings; an indispensable foundation to build on. So don’t be mistaken about mistakes; the more unpleasant it is, the more beneficial the lesson will be. Paulo Coelho says, You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.”

In order to turn your mistakes into lessons, it’s good to consider a few things. You need to consider the story you are telling yourself about the mistake. What role are you playing? Perpetrator? Victim? Hero?

 

This is what happened. Allow yourself to look at what occurred. Become an outside observer. Consider the factors leading up to the mistake. Consider what you believe happened. Consider the beliefs of others.


This is what I did.
Consider your actions and why you thought it was the right action at the time. Or maybe you knew it wasn’t the right action and you did it anyway. Consider why. Did you act consciously and mindfully? Did negative emotions affect your actions? Accept responsibility for your actions.


This has been the cost.
Consider the negative consequences of your actions. How were you affected? How were others affected? Was the cost too much to pay? Accept responsibility for the cost.


This is what I learned.
Consider your thoughts, beliefs and actions.  Understand why you did what you did. Look for the positive consequences of your new perspective. Accept yourself.


This is what I could do differently in the future.
Consider other choices you could have made. Consider the beliefs that led up to the choice that led to a mistake. Acknowledge your ability to respond in different ways and to make better choices in similar circumstances.

 

I’d like you to consider the benefit of having the courage to be imperfect. Human beings are not perfect. It really is all right to be human… and to make some mistakes…so that you can learn and grow. Make amazing mistakes, fantastic and interesting mistakes. Just do the best you can do.

 

 

 

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Jun 26 2017

Just One Thing

Category: Control,Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 4:29 pm

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So maybe life isn’t going as you expected. The year is half over and those New Year’s resolutions have not panned out. Maybe you regret what you’ve done or maybe you regret what you didn’t do. Maybe that job you were hoping for didn’t come through. You didn’t even get the rejection call from the employer. Or maybe that man you’ve been dating did make the rejection call. Maybe you can’t pay your rent and you don’t know what to do next. Any one of those things can send us into a feeling of overwhelm or panic. We look for answers. We ask, “how did this happen?” We consider all the things we did wrong. We determine many ways to blame. We think of all the ways we may be able to fix the situation. And sometimes we can’t think of any way at all. When this happens, we experience “analysis paralysis.” And then nothing happens. We can’t take action. Our analysis of the situation has literally paralyzed our ability to act.

When we experience regrets about what we could have done; should have done; or what would happen if we had done…we dwell on all the negative aspects of the situation. We focus on everything we perceive to have done wrong. We judge ourselves and others. We assign responsibility for the situation. CouldaShouldaWoulda World is not a place you want to visit! Remember you did what you did with what you knew at the time. You made choices. Your life is a reflection of your choices.

We would all be better served if we chose to concentrate our efforts on changing just one aspect of our thoughts and actions. When we spend our time thinking about all the things that we need to change, it’s impossible to focus on taking constructive action on just one thing. When we focus, everything is much easier to accomplish.

You don’t need to address everything at once…you just need to focus on one thing! And do you know what that one thing is? The one thing you can do to influence your outside world…is to go within and to focus on what you want! This one thing is the most powerful and influential thing you can do. Ralph Waldo Emerson says, “Do the thing and you will have the Power.”

We all have the ability to do the thing. You are born with an imagination and desire. You have gifts, skills, talents and abilities. It’s an inside thing. Using your ability to visualize, imagine, pretend and experience, you create your life. You determine what you want. You have the ability to make the choices to create the actions which bring the experience into your reality.

Stop analyzing what you are doing wrong. Let go of the regrets. Kiss the blame goodbye. And begin again in this moment. Remember the only time there will ever be is this now moment. Now go within. Focus. Do the thing.

 

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Mar 03 2017

Faith & Belief – The Way Things Are

Category: Belief,Inspirational Quotes,Spiritual ExplorationPatricia @ 2:51 pm

faith

 

            Your subconscious mind is ruled by faith. This faith is created by years of believing in the way things are. This is not necessarily truth, but rather it is individual belief based on particular life experiences. Your subconscious mind responds to the orders you give it based upon what your conscious mind believes and accepts to be true.  Your personal subconscious memory bank decides what to expect. If you have experienced failure, your subconscious will come to expect failure, unless the memories can be cleared and new expectations programmed.

Clearing the negative accumulation in your memory bank affects conscious reactions to new life experiences. Using self-hypnosis, you can choose to direct your conscious mind to use the faculties of your subconscious mind to create new beliefs. These beliefs create a thought vibration which attracts similar experiences. Over time and repetition, these beliefs and their demonstration create faith. Napoleon Hill states in Think & Grow Rich that “Faith is a state of mind which may be induced or created by affirmation or the repeated instructions to the subconscious mind, through the principle of auto-suggestion…Repetition of affirmations of orders to your subconscious mind is the only known method of voluntary development of the emotion of faith”.

Faith has many levels. When your subconscious mind is convinced, it begins to act. So it is important that you make sure your subconscious mind believes the right things. Faith is based on past experiences and the best knowledge available at the time. Realistic faith determines what can be believed, however, it may be self-limiting based on that knowledge. For example, limitations are realistic based on factors outside of the individual’s control. A man of six feet tall cannot realistically expect to become a jockey, so his faith is limited. Positive faith is the way a situation is approached with optimism, hope and faith in the possibilities.  Active faith can be demonstrated and proven when an individual takes action based on positive, realistic, limited faith. This level of faith is exhibited in self-confidence and a positive belief in yourself and your abilities to accomplish goals.

Your subconscious mind allows you to travel through time and space in order to make decisions which are best for your self-actualization. Remember, the mind doesn’t know the difference between what is imagined and what is perceived to be reality.  When your subconscious is convinced, these things become real to you. When you challenge the boundaries of your reality, you increase your faith in what you believe to be true or possible. Dan Custer, in his book, The Miracle of Mind Power, says, “You are the center of your experience. Your world of experience is formed and given direction by you. You are the point of your own individual thinking; inspired by your desires, planned by your imagination and brought into experience by your belief or your faith. The universal law of mind brings your experiences into shape and form according to the way you think in your heart.”

You are able to program yourself to stop doing something, start doing something, or do something differently. By directing your thoughts, you create an action which elicits a response and reaction from your subconscious mind. Without direction, there is no action. The subconscious is a vehicle. Conscious guidance and faith are necessary to drive the vehicle to the desired destination. It is vital to understand that each individual is limited only by their beliefs. There are no limitations, there is only limited thinking! Although the conscious mind is limited by our faith, the individual subconscious/subjective part of us is linked with the collective Superconscious. Being Universal, this subjective part of us is without limit.

The objective/conscious mind deals with the outside world and the physical state of being within it. The greatest function of the conscious mind is reasoning. This function is based on your beliefs about what you’ve observed, or your objective/individual perception of reality. The most influential source of these beliefs comes from the knowns in your subconscious mind. A known is something that has been learned or experienced before; one understands it and is comfortable with it. Positive and negative knowns create your lifescript, or your individual beliefs about who you are and how life is supposed to be.

Belief creates faith. Proof is unnecessary for those who believe; impossible for those who don’t.  We decide what is reasonable to believe based on our experiences and our critical reasoning. The conscious mind can only know as much as it has experienced, explored or been taught to know. It reflects the limited knowledge and abilities of the individual being expressed at that particular time. When the conscious mind has the physical knowledge and experience, the subconscious mind incorporates it into the memory bank and makes it available to access in the future. The conscious teaches the subconscious with more knowledge and experience about the beliefs in the way things are.

The conscious mind is ruled by belief. When you set a goal, your beliefs about success or failure determine the outcome. Imagination enhances belief in the results. Conscious, subconscious and SuperConscious all work together in divine harmony. As physical beings, the individual conscious mind is in a position to direct evolution of the spiritual experience. The key to the success of that evolution is belief and faith.

The subconscious mind is ruled by faith and will act according to that faith. When you are faithful to the subjective/ subconscious image, you believe that it will appear in the objective/conscious world. You take conscious action based on certainty which sends a clear message to the SuperConscious.  The Universal Mind, the SuperConscious responds to the belief in the positive outcome. Thoughts become things. Faith is answered and manifestation results. You experience your life the way you believe it to be.

 

 

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Jan 19 2017

No Expiration Date. No Time Limit. No Other Life.

Category: Choices,Inspirational Quotes,MotivationPatricia @ 12:49 pm

grandma moses

 

Later in life, some of us experience regret about what we didn’t accomplish. We didn’t achieve what we wanted. We didn’t fulfill our true potential. We didn’t travel the world. We didn’t find our soul mate. We didn’t learn to play the piano. These “didn’ts” can cause pain. They can make us feel as if we had failed at life.

The ability to do new things and learn new skills does not expire. We can always improve and become better versions of ourselves. My dad passed away at the age of 93. One of the many things he taught me was that you could do anything you set your mind to do; you could learn anything. And there were no limits as to when you could begin. When he was 75, he decided to learn how to paint with oils. So he got an easel, some canvases and paints. And then he painted.  When he was 88, he invested in a computer so that he could learn about the internet. And then he explored the new world of cyberspace.

Almost without exception, some of the regret experienced later in life is a result of not “achieving” something. When one feels that they haven’t fulfilled their true potential, it can leave a painful mark. Self-discovery and improvement can happen at any time in life. The ability to improve oneself does not expire. It is a never-ending process.

“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another island. There is no other land; there is no other life but this.” – Henry David Thoreau

There are many stories of people who began new careers at an advanced age. One such person is Anna Mary Robertson, known as Grandma Moses. She began her painting career at the age of 78 (I think maybe Dad was inspired by her) and painted until her passing at the age of 101.

There is also a lesser known woman who should be acknowledged: Doreetha Daniels. Doreetha, a multiple stroke victim with vision and hearing problems recently received her college degree from College of the Canyons in Santa Clara, California. Doreetha is 99 years old. She advised prospective students: “Don’t give up. Do it. Don’t let anybody discourage you. Say that, ‘I’m going to do it,’ and do it for yourself.”

One faculty member said: “Doreetha is a living testament to the saying ‘if there is a will, there is a way’…” Doreetha was motivated to go to college by two things. She was tired of her hobbies and wanted to expand her interests. And she was inspired by her grandchildren, who after starting families and careers, went back to school for graduate degrees.

Consider Thoreau’s words …“there is no other life but this.” Take the opportunity to live it to the fullest. Live until the very end. There is no limitation to what you can accomplish. There is no time limit to being actively engaged in life.

 

 

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Dec 08 2016

Celebrating Friends & New Worlds

Category: Choices,Gratitude,Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 1:41 pm

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“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”  Anaïs Nin

Recently, I celebrated a friend. I celebrated her birth day and her death day.  Mostly I celebrated our friendship. Susan touched my heart and soul. She awakened a dream. Together we created a new world for each other. We met at a pivotal moment in time where each of us was destined to serve the other. As fellow travelers on life’s soul journey, we were meant to cross paths.

Sometimes in life, we are given the experience of enjoying a life-long friendship; the golden ones that endure the test of time. But sometimes, we are not given that luxury of time. And then we learn that the value of friendship is not measured by the amount of days we spend with someone… it’s about how we spend our moments. Our physical time together was very short – just over a year -14 months. During that time, we experienced the changes – heat and cold, rain and rainbows, sunrise and sunset, moonlight and starshine. We celebrated birthdays and holidays. We laughed and cried together. We dreamed a future that never came to pass. We spoke every day and shared our hearts. Life’s precious moments. Our journey was not a simple, easy path. It was wild and untamed, filled with surprises. At times otherworldly. It was turbo-charged and traveled at warp speed. It was also spent in timeless silence as we surveyed our beloved mountain and became one with the earth. Oh dear friend, I miss you and wish you were still here with me to experience more of life!

Friendship matters. I know I don’t have to tell you that. Everyone knows that. You have friends. And you have lost friends. I think what I want to tell you is this…

Friendship is a choice we make. It’s a choice to love more. Some friendships are simple. Some are very complex. But all friendships are valuable. Sometimes we don’t make a conscious choice to become friends with someone; to begin a relationship. It happens. We accept it. As beings, we are not meant to be alone. We need others. Relationships help us to grow and become stronger, wiser, better.  The joy of loving far outweighs the pain of loss.

Friendship is a gift of great value. Treat it with respect and great care. Give it your attention. Do it now. If it matters. Each friendship is an agreement. Honor the agreements or negotiate new ones. We make a pact to be together to share in the experience of life. We support each other. We challenge each other. We disappoint one another. We bring joy to each other. We bear witness. Life is not meant to be a solitary experience. Each one of us is an important part of the tribe of humanity.

A friend opens up new worlds. You get to experience life from their unique perspective and understanding. You taste new flavors. Friends spice things up.  You hear the music of a different soundtrack and learn to dance to a different beat. You can adopt or reject the new but you can never become unaware of its existence. You have been changed just by the exposure to it. When you are fortunate enough to experience a life-long friendship, you gain more. You learn from the choices you see your friends make. You gain another source of wisdom and a trusted advisor.

Muhammad Ali said “Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.” May you experience new worlds and celebrate the friends in your life!

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Nov 24 2016

Direct the Dream

 

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Even if you don’t play golf, you have probably heard of Jack Nicklaus, the professional golfer who is nicknamed The Golden Bear. He is widely regarded as the greatest golfer of all time, having won a total of 18 major championships during the past 25 years.

And whether you play golf or not, you can benefit from one of the techniques Jack Nicklaus used to become such a great golfer. Obviously, Nicklaus has certain athletic abilities which he has refined and developed. He has done the physical work to become great. He has also done the mental work. Not only has he used his subconscious mind to stay focused and visualize the desired outcome, he has used his subconscious as a sports clinic. There is a story told about a dream he had when he was not performing well. When he analyzed the dream he figured out why his game was off. He had a dream where he was really owning the links; playing better than he had in a long while. After analysis, the champ realized that in the dream, he was gripping his club differently than he was doing in real life. He said, “I tried it the way I did in my dream and it worked. I feel kind of foolish admitting it, but it really happened in a dream.”

Your subconscious mind knows more than your conscious mind. You can trust it to guide and direct you. Besides, it’s going to do it even if you don’t trust it! Your subconscious mind is the 88% of your mind that is directing your motivation and behavior. It is also your goal-achieving machine. Your subconscious mind speaks to you in images. You can also speak to and direct your subconscious mind through images.

Dr. Denis Waitley has done studies where athletes are connected to a biofeedback machine during visualization. When they imagine going through a practice or performance, the studies show that the same muscles are engaged as if they were actually doing the exercise. Remember, the mind doesn’t know the difference between what you imagine and what you perceive as reality. Using hypnosis, guided imagery and visualization trains the mind to achieve automatic reactions and responses. When doing this, all senses are engaged. Effective visualization uses sight, sound, taste, touch and emotion. This can give an athlete (or anyone!!!) a renewed level of self- confidence.

The meditative state which is achieved by self-hypnosis allows one to give instructional self-talk to improve specific techniques or skills, athletic or otherwise. Well-known sports figures Kobe Bryant, LeBron James and Tiger Woods all have meditation practices. Tell yourself, “Keep your knees bent.” “Chin up.” “You can do it.” According to sports psychologist Antonis Hatzigeorgiadis, “The mind guides action. If we succeed in regulating our thoughts, then this will help our behavior.”

When Jack Nicklaus had his dream, he trusted himself and his own inner guidance. He acted on his inner wisdom. When you go within, (whether in the dream state, the meditative state, the hypnotic state, whatever you want to name it state) you transcend conscious thought. You achieve a heightened state of focused concentration, effortless calm and confidence. You let go of the outside reality as you know it. This state of mind keeps pressures and distractions from harming you. When you go within, you know everything. This is the beginning of dreaming and from this point you can direct the dream. Trust yourself. Believe in your dreams.

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Apr 30 2014

Your Garden

Category: Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 11:55 am

April Garden

“Kind hearts are the gardens. Kind thoughts are the roots.

Kind words are the flowers. Kind deeds are the fruits.

Take care of your garden. And keep out the weeds.

Fill it with sunshine, kind words and kind deeds.”

~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

 

 

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Dec 31 2013

This Moment

Category: Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 4:26 pm

Smiling Patricia - El Matador Beach

“Begin doing what you want to do now. We are not living in eternity. We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand – and melting like a snowflake.”  ~ Marie Beynon Ray

As the year comes to an end, we make note of this space in time. We welcome the possibilities of the new year to come. As we experience this life, we are well-advised to appreciate this precious moment. May each and every one of us spend it doing what we want to do.

 

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Oct 22 2013

The Choice to Enjoy

Category: Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 10:13 am

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“There is a vision for life, and the vision is the same for all of us. That vision is just to enjoy life, to enjoy God; it is exactly the same thing. And to suffer is just an option. Please, just enjoy life.” ~Don Miguel Ruiz

 

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Aug 28 2013

Measuring Up

Category: Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 4:07 pm

“The real contest is always between what you’ve done and what you’re capable of doing. You measure yourself against yourself and nobody else.”     ~ Geoffrey Gaberino.

Are you being the best you that you can imagine? If not, why not? Being the best you is being aligned with your joy. Stretch. Dream big. And realize that no one else on the planet is capable of dreaming your dreams.

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Jul 08 2013

3 Aspects of a Goal

Category: Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 7:25 pm

 

  “There are a lot more people with wishbones than backbones.” ~ Mark Gomberg        Wishbone

Many times people’s goals are nothing but weak desires. They find ways and reasons to stay within their comfort zone. Sometimes, they put it off until it’s too late.

When you set a goal, it is important to consider that within that goal there are three different aspects of it. No matter if the goal is losing weight, starting a business or planning a trip, all three aspects need to be addressed before you can expect success.

The first part of the goal is the Result. This is the end outcome. I weigh 125 pounds. I have successfully opened my store. I am enjoying lunch at a Paris café.

The second part of the goal is the Process. This is what you must do in order to move toward your goal. Rome wasn’t built in a day. You must commit to the step by step Process to move toward the Result goal. I make healthy choices at each meal time. I commit to 8 hours of focus on my business. I set aside an hour each day to plan my trip.

The third part of the goal is the Feeling. I think this is the key ingredient to your success. The desire creates the emotion which sets the Process in motion. Ask yourself…how do I want to Feel when I’m doing the Process goal? You may find that you don’t want to do the steps of the Process goal. It may appear too difficult. Or you may not believe it’s possible. Perhaps you have a fear of success or you have created limitations to your life.

Your Feelings about doing the Process to achieve the Results is the beginning of your success. It’s not about making wishes, its about making dreams happen. Do you expect the Result and are you willing to accept that anything you set your mind to accomplish is possible?  When it comes to achieving goals with grace and ease, The Mind Matters!

And the time to get started is Now!

 

 

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Jun 26 2013

How do I begin?

Category: Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 10:54 pm

“The starting point of all achievement is desire.”   ~ Napoleon Hill

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Dec 13 2012

An Incredible Experiment

Category: Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 9:41 am

“We are the miracle of force and matter making itself over into imagination and will. Incredible. The Life Force experimenting with forms. You for one. Me for another. The Universe has shouted itself alive. We are one of the shouts.”     ~ Ray Bradbury

 

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Nov 29 2012

The Art of Life

Category: Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 4:01 pm

“Words are my paintbrush and my life is the canvas. What I paint with words is the way I see myself; the way I see my entire reality. What I paint is my life and how it looks depends on how I use the words. ”

~ Fifth Agreement byDon Miguel Ruiz

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Nov 05 2012

What are you waiting for?

Category: Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 8:35 am

“You’re off to great places; today is the day.

Your mountain is waiting.

                So get on your way!”               

~ Dr. Suess

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Sep 11 2012

Reflections of the Past

Category: Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 10:42 am

“Just as the moon has no light of its own, but can only reflect the light of the sun, so are past and future only pale reflections of the light, power, and reality of the eternal present.”  ~ Eckhart Tolle

Sometimes we may feel burdened by the past but the past is simply a memory stored in the mind. When we dwell on past pain or trouble, we reactivate the memory. Your present reality can reflect that pain. Or you can choose to experience happiness and success right now. Shed the past the way Serpent sheds her skin. Look forward to the future you are creating right now. It is a reflection of your thoughts.

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Aug 15 2012

Kindness

Category: Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 5:08 pm

“Kind words create confidence, kind thinking creates profoundness, kindness in giving creates love.”
~ Lao-Tzu, Chinese philosopher (604 BC – 531 BC)

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