Dec 14 2017

How to Tell Your “Self” to Sleep

Category: Control,Health & Wellness,Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 8:44 am



Have you had trouble sleeping? Tossing and turning all night long? Staring at the ceiling? Checking the clock? Did you know that your mind must be in the Alpha brain-wave stage to fall asleep? This is when you’re still conscious, but your body is relaxed. You must relax both your mind and your body in order to fall asleep. This Alpha brain-wave stage is the state you access when you meditate or when you enter the hypnotic state. It allows access to your subconscious mind. This state enables you to focus inward. It allows you to leave the outside world behind; to turn off your rampant and roaming conscious mind so you can relax.

When you have trouble falling asleep, you often focus on that trouble. You tell yourself, “I don’t sleep well.” Or, “It’s been ages since I’ve had a good night’s sleep.” You think about what you don’t want. But… you must remember that what you focus on expands. All you can think about is NOT sleeping!!!

Your thought energy is an incredible tool. You can control this tool. Imagine you’re lying awake in bed. You’re frustrated by your inability to fall asleep. You think, “I’m SO tired! I just want to sleep.” And then you think, “My co-worker Susie is so annoying. I can’t get any work done while she’s jabbering on about her stupid wedding!” And then you think about the wedding which makes you think about your lack of a relationship which makes you sad. And then you think, “Okay, I’m not going to think anymore. No thinking. Stop!”

And then you get more frustrated as you repeat the process over and over again. Susie’s wedding. Mom’s health. Your weight. Bills. Responsibilities. Thoughts creating emotions creating physical responses. An endless stream of thoughts are constantly running through your mind. Thoughts which disturb you. Thoughts which interfere with your ability to relax. You can control what you focus on. You can control your thoughts. You can make that choice.

The first step to changing anything is to become aware of what is happening. When a thought pops into your mind, become the Outside Observer. Notice what you’re thinking and say, “I just noticed myself thinking about…” Consider this…if “I” noticed “myself”…who am “I”? “And who is my “self”?” Could it be that the “I” is the eternal all-knowing soul? And is the “self” the ego/personality of the physical experience? Is the “I” the one that is in control of the “self”? When you recognize that, you become a conscious choice maker. You recognize your power. You will find that there is a great sense of peace and wellbeing within the presence of the “I”.

The next step to remember is, “What you focus on expands.” Being aware of your control over what you are thinking, you now have the ability to direct your “self” into a place of deep relaxation. The most powerful point of focus is your breathing. When you’re focusing on your breathing, you are focusing on something very powerful. You are feeding the cells of your body and you are connecting with the “I”. Breath is the source energy of Life. Simply focusing on the inhale and the exhale will direct your body to relax and enter the Alpha brain-wave state.  It’s easy. Try it.

The secret to your success is the last step: Repetition. Practice. Breathe. Count your breaths. Focus. If your mind wanders (which is likely), become aware of your power to direct your thoughts. And begin again to focus on your breath. The in breath and the out breath. When you reach ten breaths, you will notice a wave of relaxation will flow through your body. When this happens, you will know that you have made the shift from the high-frequency Beta brain-waves to the relaxed state of the Alpha. Now tell your “self” to sleep and your subconscious mind will take care of the rest.


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Oct 20 2017

Energy Efficient

Category: Choices,Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 5:01 pm

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Being physically active requires energy. When you run, swim or jump, your body uses up a lot of fuel moving about. You may not realize how much fuel you are consuming, but you do realize that you are expending energy. You get tired and you need rest. Thinking also requires a lot of energy. Planning for a delightful future takes a lot. Worrying about a dismal future takes a lot more. Using mind consciousness is very expensive. Even though your brain is only 2 percent of your body’s weight, it consumes 20 percent of your body’s energy!

So, how can you save on the energy you are using? Or wasting? You can economize that energy by choosing to practice the habit of mindfulness. You know, paying attention in the moment. Engaging your senses in the experience. Being aware. Focusing on the Now. When you are mindful, you exist in the present moment. This allows your mind consciousness to relax. You can let go of the energy of regretting the past. You can let go of the coulda-shoulda-woulda thoughts. When you relax into the moment, you can release thoughts that create worry about the future. You can stop wasting your time by predicting what you don’t want to happen. You can experience a release from anxiety or depression.

Thoughts are constantly running through our minds, and therefore, the vibrational energy is also constantly in motion. When you focus, you experience the now moment. If you think about the past, you’re thinking about it now. If you think about the future, you’re thinking about it now. Choose your thoughts. Choose carefully.

We often create by default because we are getting whatever we are thinking about now. And whatever it is we are giving our attention to – wanted or unwanted – is what we will receive. Whatever you are thinking about, you are attracting. And you are doing it right now. All the time. With every thought you think.

If you want to be more energy efficient, take charge of your life by taking charge of your thoughts. Allow the natural rhythm of your breath to create a peaceful sense of relaxation. Clear your mind of any mental or emotional clutter. Allow yourself unlimited freedom to create. Use your brain more effectively and efficiently and get the most benefit from all that energy you are consuming. You’ll get more bang for your buck!


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Oct 14 2017

Default Mode

Category: Inspirational Quotes,Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 8:00 am



Daydreaming, meditating or fantasizing about the future is just letting your mind wander. Scientists tell us that when we are engaged in these alpha state activities, our brains are engaged in what is referred to as self-generated cognition, using our default mode network. Self-generated cognition is just another way of saying that you are focused on thinking about a thought that you created. The thought didn’t occur to you from any association with your external environment. There was not a stimulus to your thought. You are in your own head. You may be planning some future action. You may be remembering something from the past. You may just be thinking about your day. Your mind is wandering. You are not doing anything. You are simply being.

This default mode activity helps us to think deeply and creatively. When we become quiet and meditative, we are better able to solve problems and shift our perspective. Engagement with our inner mind allows us an opportunity to make meaning out of our life experiences. We can connect the dots and get a better grasp of the bigger picture. When we are in this state of consciousness, we are more creative and expressive about our ideas and thoughts. When we tap into our emotions, we are more able to empathize and sympathize with others. Reflecting on our own emotional states helps us to identify with our community. We recognize that each human being experiences a wide range of emotional ups and downs, and in that recognition, we feel a connection to humanity. We’re all in this together.

In order to take advantage of this default mode, you must break away from the external distractions and go within. You must allow your mind to be silent. Do this by using deep breathing methods to create a self-hypnotic or meditative state.

When you separate yourself from conscious thoughts, your subconscious mind is consolidating past experiences and preparing to react to similar experiences in the future. You are not wasting your time by daydreaming. You are actively engaged in creating your reality. Your brain is very much at work even though it may feel like you’re on pause. In fact, a group of brain regions actually increase in activity whenever you aren’t focused on a task. This is known as the default mode network or stream of consciousness. Remember that the word “default” means that something happens automatically or without any active consideration.

Since we are constantly being exposed to a large amount of information streaming into our surroundings, it could be that this default mode helps us to make sense of the information. Our resting state is able to process our internal reactions and responses to our outside environment. When we take the time to go within, we can reflect on our actions and review our perceptions, We can come to terms with things. We can make plans and move on. When we go within, we have access to our inner wisdom.

Your inner wisdom is accessed through silent reflection. You know the answers to your problems. You know more than anyone else about how to solve whatever problem you may have. Your soul knows what you need to do and how you need to be. Don’t keep secrets from yourself. Go within. Take advantage of your own default mode.  Viktor Frankl reminds us of our power and where we can access it.  He says, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

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Feb 21 2017

Hyperarousal is Not Sexy

Category: Health & Wellness,Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 2:31 pm



Are you hyperaroused? That sounds kind of sexy, but it isn’t. Hyperarousal or acute stress response is your body’s response to fear. What are you afraid of? The world can be a very scary place. We all have fears. Some of them are real. Some are imaginary. But the mind doesn’t know the difference between what we perceive as reality and what we imagine. The body doesn’t know the difference either. The body perceives imaginary fear and responds with the same reaction as it would to a real threat. Although our bodies are amazing, they are primitive and fragile. In order to protect ourselves, we are genetically wired to perceive danger and impending threats to our physical well-being. We are wired to act according to our perceptions in order to maintain not only our own body, but the genetic heritage of future generations. And we are also wired to recover from the fear and return to a state of homeostasis. It is a beautiful system designed to insure the basic survival of the organism – you.

Perhaps you know hyperarousal by another name – the fight-flight syndrome. It is a physiological reaction that happens in response to a perceived attack or threat to survival. In primitive times, if you confronted a saber-tooth tiger or some other beast, you had two choices. You could run as fast as possible to get away from the danger. Or you could choose to find a weapon and put up a fight. Your body reacts to fear, perceived or real, with a discharge of the sympathetic nervous system, releasing norepinephrine and epinephrine to create a boost of energy and muscle response. Your body releases cortisol, which increases blood pressure and blood sugar. Estrogen and testosterone are released, along with the neurotransmitters dopamine and serotonin.

While all these chemicals are flooding your body, your heart rate accelerates and your skin may flush or pale. Your stomach and upper intestinal tract slows down or stops. Digestion is put on hold. Sexual functions are not functioning. Your blood vessels constrict and your pupils dilate. You may suffer from a relaxation of your bladder or your anal sphincter. You could suffer the temporary loss of your hearing. Your peripheral vision may fail; you only have tunnel vision focusing on the object of your fear. You may experience shaking. Your awareness is intensified. This surge is responsible for the super-human strength of a mother who lifts a car off of her child or a hero who walks into danger to save another.

This ability serves us well, but it has a cost. When we are on guard against a threat, our body’s natural defenses wear down. When we suffer from frequent stress – or when we frequently perceive life as stressful – an essentially healthy response to stress can become distress. The fight-flight syndrome bypasses our rational mind and moves us into the primitive mode of survival. Everyone is a possible enemy. We overreact from a place of distorted thinking and fear is magnified. When we are stuck in survival mode, our consciousness is focused on fear, not love. We are overwhelmed with stress and lose the ability to relax as we deal with a series of emergencies. We become skilled worriers, a condition brilliantly described by Mark Twain who said, “I’ve experienced many terrible things in my life, a few of which actually happened.”

All external circumstances affect how the body reacts internally to stress. In our modern world, driving in heavy traffic on the freeway can create the conditions that illicit the same response as being face-to-face with that saber-tooth tiger. Watching the evening news can create a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease. It can instill fears about an imagined imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome. Fight has become anxiety. Flight has become depression. There is much evidence that a cumulative buildup of stress hormones can lead to disorders such as irritable bowel syndrome and high blood pressure. Disorders of the immune system can create autoimmune diseases such as lupus and allergies and a susceptibility to infection and chronic fatigue.

And all external circumstances also affect how the body recovers from stress; the rest-digest response, or the relaxation response. When we make the effort to change our external environment (our perceived reality) by getting out of toxic, harmful relationships or soul-crushing jobs, we take action to make our environment spiritually safer. When we choose to change our perceptions of our reality – viewing our difficulties as events which make us stronger, wiser and better – our attitudes and reactions change.

The relaxation response is a physiologic response which you can create whenever you want. When you’re walking or doing a repetitive exercise, focus on a positive word such as “love.”

Practicing yoga can quiet the mind. Focus on the breathing can trigger relaxation almost immediately. Singing, chanting or prayer is beneficial. Being mindful of your life experience can be a form of active meditation which elicits the relaxation response. Walking on the beach listening to the waves or watching the flickering flames of a fire can be as peaceful as focused meditation. The important thing is to practice going within whenever you have the opportunity. With practice, everything becomes easier and more automatic. Practice now so you’ll be ready when you need it. You don’t throw yourself off a boat in the middle of a stormy sea to learn how to swim. You learn to take care of yourself in quiet and calm waters, like a lake with no ripples. A quiet mind opens up your perceptions. It makes you more aware of what is happening around you. A quiet mind helps you to make positive choices. It helps you to stand in your own truth. It frees you. You are strong and prepared; ready to handle whatever comes your way.










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Sep 08 2016

Forgive…A Little Bit

Category: Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 6:48 pm



Recently, a young woman shared a story about her friend. She was visibly distraught and very concerned about his wellbeing. He was just 46 years old and was in hospital with kidney failure. His condition was now life-threatening. How did this happen? And how did it happen so quickly? Decisions needed to be made about dialysis and future treatments. What was going to happen next? I inquired about his emotional state of mind. In particular I asked if he had been angry about something…if he had been pissed off. Her response confirmed my intuitive understanding of how this may have developed. She told me that yes, he was angry. He didn’t get along with his family. He felt judged and abandoned. He was quick to judge others and felt a need to make right any wrongs he felt were being inflicted on himself or his friends. Basically, life was pissing him off. The kidney is the organ of the physical body responsible for filtering the blood to sift out toxic waste products and extra water before it is eliminated through the urinary tract. If the toxins and extra fluids build up to such a degree that the organ is unable to process them, the organ will fail. It is vital that we process our emotions and then let them go.

The mind-body connection is a powerful component of health and well-being. We have come to understand that our thoughts and emotions play a very large part in this. The science of behavioral epigenetics studies the effect of both positive and negative emotional states. These studies show the influence of the emotions on the physical body and their impact on a cellular level. From this research, The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention states that there is an emotional component in 85% of all illnesses.  In other words, in 85% of all cases, there is no organic/physical cause for the illness. The illness is caused by negative, toxic thoughts and emotions.

Often the emotional component is based on forgiveness or the lack of it. When you forgive someone, you benefit; your physical body benefits. Forgiveness happens naturally when you let go of resentment and anger. When you relinquish the desire to punish someone or plot an act of revenge, forgiveness happens. The natural state of forgiveness is basically an absence of the need for revenge or the desire to hurt someone. Maybe you can’t even imagine forgiving someone but can you imagine forgiving just a little bit? How about just 1% forgiveness? It’s a start. You can still hold on the other 99% resentment if you want. You’re making the choice.

You might tell yourself, “Even though I’m very angry and upset about what SoandSo did, I choose to let go of just 1% of my resentment. And I give myself permission to hold on to everything else.” If you do this, you will probably find that you are able to let go of that 1% because you were allowed to retain the rest. Righteous indignation has a certain appeal. And if you let go of that 1%, you are in a better place than when you started. You’ve begun the process. You can let go of another 1% tomorrow and the next day and the day after that. Letting go of anger and resentment guarantees forgiveness. You owe it to yourself and to your body to begin the process.  Ralph Waldo Emerson tells us, “For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.” And apparently, you may give up a whole lot more than that. A lack of peace of mind and a lack of forgiveness can be deadly.




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Sep 01 2016

Summer Vacation Stories

Category: Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 4:05 pm




Since school is officially back in session, the summer holiday season is over. If you haven’t taken your summer vacation yet, you better hurry! And if you did…how was it? We have all experienced both good and bad vacations. Both give us stories to share and times to remember. And each one of us has our own unique way of doing that. What is your way?

Vacations are always set with the best of intentions. Whether spent in your own back yard or relaxing in some exotic spot, a vacation is a time of rest and recreation. We set time aside to suspend our work or our studies to get away from the day-to-day activities of life. A vacation is like a recess during the school day. We take a break to run and jump and play. We visit with our friends. We change our environment. Then we return to our work where we are able to function better and more efficiently. We need to take a break!

As Americans, we are very vacation deprived. Many countries mandate a vacation. The U.S. does not. You must take 30 days off every year in France. Some countries require 20 days of vacation, including Ireland, Italy, Australia and Greece. Japan and Canada only require 10. Many employers in the U.S. offer paid vacation benefits but the most senior employees receive only 13 days. And a lot of people don’t use all of them! No wonder we’re stressed out.

Sometimes vacations live up to our expectations. We experience amazing adventures. We are enlightened. We enjoy a multitude of wonderful meals in an array of different settings. We learn a new skill. We re-connect with our loved ones. Or we fall in love. We see great beauty in nature, museums, architecture and in each other. We return from our vacation with a sense of joy or peace or satisfaction. We are so happy that we were able to do what we did!!! And we did our vacation in our own unique way.

Other times vacations are challenging, frightening, frustrating and even life-threatening. We’ve all seen the reports of cruise ship passengers suffering through no power, no water, illness and high seas. It’s not just ships at sea that can ruin a vacation; it’s also airports, train wrecks and traffic jams. Sometimes reservations are lost and your hotel room is not available as planned. And I think most of us who have done a fair amount of travel have a lost luggage story to share.

We can end up in the wrong place at the wrong time. Consider a young woman vacationing on the beach in Nice, France when a truck runs through the crowd. Sometimes it’s the weather… a trip to Mexico during hurricane season can result in a flooded hotel with no food or fresh water. And no way out. Other times, we can experience illness or injury. Or we don’t get along with our travel companions. Our vacation just sucks. And we had to pay for it. We are so happy to return home!!!

Maybe you never had the opportunity to get away for a vacation this year. You enjoyed a staycation in the comfort of your own home. Or maybe you weren’t able to take time away from work to do that. Not everyone can afford to take a vacation. The average vacation cost for a week for a family of four is about $4000. Maybe you’re saving your money for the vacation of a lifetime.

Whatever your summer vacation experience has been, I’d like you to consider that you are in control of the story you tell yourself and others about that experience. You are always in control of the story you tell. It’s an easy story to tell when it goes the way you want it to go. It’s easy to repeat a story that makes you feel happy or allows you to share your positive experiences. We like the reactions we get and it reinforces our good story. But when our experience has been one that we didn’t like or one that caused us discomfort or loss, it’s harder to tell that story from a place of control. You may feel like a victim because of circumstances beyond your control like airport security and bad weather. And you may want to repeat that victim story because of the reactions you get. You may want to be the victim because it gives you an excuse to act in a certain way or blame others for your circumstances. Some of us enjoy a little pity party. But why consider yourself a victim if you can re-write that story to make yourself feel as if you were the hero of the story? You can always be the hero of your story. You are the director and the star of this movie called Life. You can decide. And then you can begin to plan your next vacation because you deserve to take a break.








Mar 16 2016

Filling in the Blanks

Category: Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 10:34 am

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Even though I don’t know how this will happen, I thank the Universe because…  It is now ________(date) and I am ________(enjoying, looking at, experiencing, earning, etc.) my________(salary of $xxx, recovery, new home, new car, vacation, relationship, etc.) and I feel ________.

Imagine how you would fill in the blanks. Let yourself go wild! And now, do it! Set your intention. Create your affirmation. Make a commitment to accomplish your goal within a certain time period. Be specific. And then focus on it. Imagination lets you see and feel the big picture. Imagination creates the previews of life’s coming attractions. When we use our imagination, we are able to facilitate healing, enhance performance and relieve symptoms of both physical and emotional ailments. Our imagination is not limited to sight, but also uses sound, taste, touch and emotions as well. When we allow our self to go within, we find inspiration and release subconscious limitations. We also learn new skills more quickly. Visualizing your success boosts your confidence and helps you learn to believe in yourself.

All successful individuals have started with a vision. They took the time to set an intention. They imagined and affirmed what they wanted to be, to do and to have. And then they instructed their subconscious mind with clarity and repetition. Once your subconscious mind gets hold of a new thought, it will take over and automatically assume the result is real. If we supply the end results, our subconscious will supply the “how to.” It will show us how to reach that end result. Your subconscious mind is a goal-achieving machine. It is ready and waiting for your conscious direction.

Each time you visualize or imagine your goal, always put yourself in the picture. See yourself involved in the activities of your goal. If you want a new car, imagine yourself driving it. If you want a new relationship, imagine yourself experiencing the feelings it evokes. If you want a new job, imagine yourself actively doing that job. See yourself acting and reacting the way you want to be in the future. It doesn’t matter how you acted today or yesterday. Imagining future success and positive experiences changes your lifescript, or your past programming about the way things are. You realize that you have the power to direct your life.

When you use your imagination, you create choices. And then you create belief in those choices. Realize that other choices are not possible, until they are downloaded as beliefs and perception into the subconscious mind. Until we change the programming, we are not able to see the other choices. We only know what we know. We automatically act out beliefs until we are exposed to other beliefs. Or until we chose to intentionally download new beliefs.

As human beings, all we do is create experiences. There is nothing else we do. In order to create an experience, we must first imagine it. As we focus on what we want, our thought energy has creative power. The subconscious mind accepts whatever we are imagining in our inner world and uses it to create our outer experience of reality.

The world of images is the source of power in our physical world. Imagining what we want is like creating a model before we build the real thing. We need to dream, but dreams are too big to realize all at once. Dreams come a size too large so we can grow into them. They must be broken down into manageable pieces. Pieces which can be created right now. Always think as you wish things to be. Now.

Hypnosis and Therapeutic Imagery are incredibly powerful tools to access the visionary power of your subconscious mind. When your mind is in the Alpha state, you are more creative and focused and better able to imagine your ideal way of being. As you imagine your ideal, you are emotionally connected to that image right Now. The process allows you to speak more clearly to the Universe, because whether you believe it or not, the Universe is listening to your every thought. When you’re filling in the blanks, imagine only the best for yourself and all concerned.



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Feb 24 2016

Believe It or Not…You Get What You Expect

Category: Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 1:02 pm



There are many examples of how the body reacts to the mind…without any logic or reason. One example of this phenomenon is the physical reaction to the expectation of fear. Yes, the expectation. Not the actual experience. When you fear needles, the mere anticipation of receiving an injection creates reactions in your body. It can cause physical changes such as increased respiration and heartbeat, an increased production of adrenaline and insulin and a change in body temperature. This expectation phenomenon also occurs when we think about sex. Just the thought of it produces physical changes in the body. Hormones begin to flow and the body responds to the mind. Remember the mind doesn’t know the difference between what you are imagining and what you perceive to be reality. All of these physical changes begin with the mind. Thoughts alone trigger primitive physiological responses. Obviously, The Mind Matters.

Our bodies are always talking to us, reminding us of what we are thinking. We need to take the time to listen. Sometimes we even use organic language to reflect what our body is saying. We describe an emotion which creates a physical reaction in a particular area of the body. Maybe we feel that our boss is a “pain in the neck” or a “pain in the butt”, and then we suffer from a stiff neck or sciatica. Could it be that heart problems such as angina or heart attack are a result of emotional heartache? Perhaps when we live with a partner who constantly complains or berates us, we develop ear infections or hearing loss. Does a child suffer from a tummy ache when he has to do something that creates anxiety and makes him “sick to his stomach”? When we feel as if we get no support or as if we’ve been “stabbed in the back”, does it result in back pain and weakness? When your mind is thinking, “I’m afraid of what will happen”, your body is experiencing anxiety. And when you’re thinking, “I wish things were different; I regret what happened”, your body feels depression.

In order to have a wonderful, healthy body, you must begin with a calm and healthy mind.       The science of epigenetics tells us that our perception of the world around us is responsible for the body’s health 90% of the time. Bruce Lipton is a researcher in the field of behavioral epigenetics. This science studies the effects of stress, diet, behavior, toxins and other factors which activate chemical switches that regulate gene expression. This gene expression determines whether we develop disease. Or not. Lipton says, “Medicine has acknowledged that illness is seeded in the first six years of life, when beliefs are downloaded by the family into the child’s subconscious.”

When we are little, we have no choice about exposure to limiting beliefs or fears. Each one of us is programmed by outside influences…parents, siblings, extended family, friends, teachers, religious leaders, culture, nationality. We are a blank canvas, or as Lipton illustrates, we are a blank iPod. He says, “When you get a new iPod, there are no recordings, so you can’t play anything. Once you download songs to memory, you can play the downloaded songs. In fact, they are the only songs you can play. There are plenty of other choices for songs, but they can’t play on your iPod until you download them. Similarly, whatever has been downloaded into the subconscious memory is the only choice available to be heard and seen in the body. Other choices are not possible until they are downloaded as beliefs and perception into the subconscious. Thus we automatically act out our parent’s beliefs until we are exposed to other beliefs or intentionally download new beliefs.”

In essence, you only know what you know. You are restricted by your own experiences, beliefs and perceptions. Everybody is!!! You are creating your own personal view of reality, based on whatever has been downloaded and accepted by you. Your body and your physical state of well-being are a reflection of this reality. Your body is a reflection of your subconscious mind and your beliefs about who you are.

Hypnotherapy allows a direct connection between body and mind. It opens communication between conscious, subconscious and superconscious. While in the hypnotic state, you are able to change your programming and create a new blueprint for your health and well-being. Your subconscious mind is a goal achieving machine. You can consciously program new beliefs to create a new way of being. The physical world is a mirror of your beliefs and expectations. You can modify your perception of the way things are. I know the way. Would you like to learn? There is nothing to fear.




















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Jan 18 2016

Mindful or Mind Full?

Category: Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 5:48 pm



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“It makes no difference what the clock says or what the calendars says. It is still now and always will be now.” Joe Goldsmith

A new year. That’s what the calendar tells us. That’s what the stroke of midnight signifies on December 31st. We have marked time and declared a new beginning of the calendar year. But is it really a “new” year? It only matters if you are a calendar. But, it really doesn’t matter what the clock says or what the calendar says. We don’t have a choice in this. It is always the now moment. No matter if we’re thinking of the past or thinking of the future, we are doing it right now as we experience the moment.

As 2016 begins, is your mind full of regrets about what was left undone in 2015? Is your mind full of sad thoughts about what was lost last year? Or maybe your mind is full of anxiety about what will happen next? Life happens. Our minds fill up with thoughts about our “must dos” and “need tos” and “shoulds”. We drift down memory lane and our minds fill up with thoughts about our “could’ves” and “would’ves”.

Have you become a human “doing” rather than a human “being”? Is your mind full? Or are you mindful? Often when we focus on the past, we feel a negative emotion such as regret or disappointment or even anger. And when we focus on the future, we may feel a negative emotion such as fear or doubt. In either case, we are hurting ourselves. And we need to stop it!

Mindfulness is incredibly simple and also incredibly difficult. Mindfulness is just the act of being present. It’s paying attention to what is happening in the moment instead of focusing on the past or the future. It’s paying attention on purpose.

So, how do you incorporate more mindfulness into your life? I know you’re already too busy to meditate (sigh). But I suggest you try something I’m certain you will enjoy. I’m also certain that you’ve done this at least once or twice in your lifetime. One of the easiest ways to practice the art of mindfulness is to simply experience a sunset. Really experience it. Experience it with all of your senses. Stop whatever it is you are doing. Give yourself the gift of three big deep breaths. Focus on the inhale and the exhale. This will bring body, mind and spirit together. And then pay attention to the details. Watch the show of light and color unfold. At least give it as much attention as you do when you watch a TV show or a ball game. Be aware.

Or how about taking the time to slowly enjoy every delicious morsel of your favorite food? Nourish all of your senses when you observe color and texture as well as the subtleties of flavor. When you pay attention to the details, you are mastering the art of mindful eating. Being present slows you down. You enjoy your meals more and studies have shown a link to significant weight loss.

Another simple way to learn mindfulness is to connect with your inner child. Become a kid again. Approach life with curiosity and a sense of wonder. Look at things in a new way. Taste new foods. Listen to the sounds of life and make music. Learn a new skill or language or game. Write. Draw. Create. Sing. Dance. Explore. Be mindful of what brings you happiness. And then do it. Live.

The Buddhist monk, Thich Nhat Hanh says, You are caught in the past or in the future. You are not there in the present moment, living your life deeply. That is forgetfulness. Mindfulness is when you are truly there, mind and body together. You breathe in and out mindfully, you bring your mind back to your body, and you are there. When your mind is there with your body, you are established in the present moment. Then you can recognize the many conditions of happiness that are in you and around you, and happiness just comes naturally.”

When you are mindful of the moments, you literally fill your mind with the details that enhance your memories and recreate your feelings of pleasure. May 2016 bring you many moments of joy. And may you have the presence of mind to recognize those moments and be mindful of the experience.




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May 19 2015

Faith & Experience

Category: Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 12:49 pm

Apacheta on Mt. Munay

Years ago, Bill Moyers interviewed Joseph Campbell, an American mythologist, writer and lecturer. Moyers asked him, “Are you a man of faith?” Campbell laughed and responded, “I don’t need faith; I have experience.” When you have experienced, you move beyond faith to a place of knowing.

Experience teaches us what to believe in. If we experience that a man is untruthful, we now have knowledge. We then trust that we cannot believe him. We have faith that he will repeat his actions. Faith is trust, confidence and belief. Experience is knowledge and history.

Your life experiences have taught you about the way life is. That is, the way life is… for you. These experiences and beliefs have created your lifescript. From this, you know where you can place your faith. Your subconscious mind is ruled by faith. This faith is created by years of believing in the way things are. This is not necessarily truth, but it is individual belief based on particular life experiences.

Your personal subconscious memory decides what you can expect to happen. If you have experienced failure, your subconscious will come to expect failure, unless the memories can be cleared and new expectations programmed. You can consciously choose to direct yourself to create new beliefs. Napoleon Hill states in Think and Grow Rich that “Faith is a state of mind which may be induced or created by affirmation…repetition of orders to your subconscious mind is the only known method of voluntary development of the emotion of faith.”

The only way faith can be demonstrated and proven is by taking action. This level of faith is exhibited in self-confidence and a positive belief in your abilities to accomplish your goals. It is vital to understand that each of us is limited only by our beliefs or our faith. There are no limitations; only limited thinking.

By consciously directing your subconscious mind through hypnosis or meditation, you are able to let go of limited thinking. The mind does not know the difference between what you imagine and what you perceive to be reality. If you become comfortable with something through your imagination, you then become comfortable with it in your reality. You change your faith in the way things are. You have knowledge of a different experience.

Life is a series of experiences. One experience after another based on the faith of what is to be expected. Has some part of your life experience created negative beliefs or faith in limited success? Would you like to make some revisions in your lifescript to create new and better experiences? You can. All you need do is give yourself permission to change your perception about the way things are.









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Feb 03 2015

Love Yourself First

Category: Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 11:14 am



February is the month when we celebrate Valentine’s Day, which makes one think of love and romance. Love is a whole lot more than romance. “Love” is a word that holds many meanings.

Sometimes we think we love someone but then come to realize that we were only attached to them. Attachment is not love. We become attached to the way things are. We like the routine and the familiarity of the relationship. We like to know that we have a date for Saturday night or Valentine’s Day. We may become attached to the way someone makes us feel. And we can become attached to experiencing those feelings. We enjoy the attention we receive. We want to feel wanted. We like to feel that we belong to someone. And that they belong to us. We are bonded together in a relationship.

When we are comfortable with things the way they are, we become attached to keeping them that way. And when situations change or people change, we suffer. Is this love or is it only attachment to our own needs?

What do you mean when you say, “I love you?” Robert Heinlein said, “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” Since the word “love” is difficult to define, let’s look at three Greek words which help us to understand its meaning. They are: Eros, Philia, and agape. Eros refers to the sensual, sexual expression of love. This is romantic love for your significant other. The word Philia means deep affection. This describes the love you might have for a close friend or a relative. The word agape means divine love or the love of God for man and of man for God. The expression of your agape is in giving. When your love for another transcends Eros and Philia, you come to a place of unconditional acceptance. You love not only “because of” but “despite”. This is love for one another as we love ourselves; brotherly love.

When we are suffering from a perceived lack of love in our lives and feel that our needs are not met, we look for the cause. Often we look outside of ourselves. We discover our attachments and create a sense of lack. Just as no one can make you happy, no one can make you suffer. It’s you. It’s always you. You and your perceptions about the way things are or the way things should be. You need to love yourself first and foremost.

I invite you to focus on loving yourself this February. Really loving and accepting yourself just as you are. Go for the agape! Love yourself because of all your gifts, skills and talents. And also love yourself despite your failures, bad habits and faults. Let go of negative attachments and false beliefs. John Lennon told us, “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create.”

Before you go to sleep every night, relax and breathe deeply. Direct your attention to the heart area, and meditate upon words of love. Think loving thoughts. Recall loving experiences. Let go of attachments which cause suffering. Tell yourself, “I love and accept myself as I am.” This pleasant process can completely transform your health. You may also discover that a shift is taking place in every phase of your life. That is the lovely power of love and love never fails you.








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Nov 18 2014

Freedom to Celebrate Gratitude

Category: Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 4:24 pm

yellow leaves

As a society, we set aside a day each year to gather, feast and be thankful. We are free to join the celebration in any way we see fit. On Thanksgiving Day, we each celebrate our own unique version of gratitude. Even though most homes will be feasting on turkey and all the trimmings, some will share lasagna or enchiladas or vegan fare. As we gather with our families and friends, we are also free to be kind and loving or to be angry and resentful. Holiday get-togethers in close quarters have been known to be experiences which range anywhere from wonderful to disastrous. To help you with the upcoming holiday season, I’d like to share some thoughts about freedom which may make you think about your actions and reactions.

May you have the freedom to be present in the moment and be able to see and hear what is going on right now. May you be free to let go of the judgment of what should be or what used to be or what may be. Often when we gather as adult children, we revert to childish behavior because of buttons which are pushed by our parents or siblings. Ex-spouses and blended families add layers of emotional triggers. The past is over. Think about who you are now and act accordingly.

May you have the freedom to speak your truth and say what you think. May you be free to let go of concerns about what anyone else thinks about your truth. Remember that it’s okay to let others know what you think. Your thoughts are important. If you don’t value them, why would anyone else?

May you have the freedom to feel your true emotions without fear. May you be free to let go of beliefs about what anyone else feels about your feelings. Your feelings are important. The more you express your feelings, the more confident you become. Your feelings are unique to you and no one has the right to judge them.

May you have the freedom to ask for what you want. May you let go of the need to ask permission. When we learn to ask for what we want, we very often get it! Give yourself permission.

May you have the freedom to take a risk or a leap of faith so that you may be better, stronger, wiser.

May you let go of the need to think small in order to be secure. We limit ourselves with limited thinking. Start to dream big and expect that you will grow wings.

And since no one else can do it for you, may you grant yourself the freedom to be you…the very best you can imagine. You will feel gratitude in every atom of your being. You will realize that Thanksgiving Day is a state of mind rather than a place in time. Join the celebration every moment of every day.

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Sep 08 2010

Choose Your Thoughts…Choose Your Body

Choices you make are controlled by your subconscious thoughts and past programming. Many times, negative thoughts create negative and self-defeating actions or inactions which prevent you from achieving your full potential.  These thoughts and beliefs can be changed. I’ve just created two Meditations to help you to make better choices.

Joyful jump

Well-being makes you jump for joy!

Listening to TheMindMatters:Nourishment and TheMindMatters:Movement will allow you to relax and visit your inner space, your place of creation, where you can choose positive thoughts and emotions which will motivate and inspire you. The Meditations are a soothing and relaxing way to communicate with your subconscious mind. You are reaching the most powerful part of your mind and so, this time, you will succeed in achieving your fitness goals.

Your food choices, portions, cravings and eating habits are motivated by subconscious programming. We seek “comfort food” when we have stress or anxiety. We indulge in treats when we are lonely or bored. We crave foods for the sensual feelings we experience while we eat. We feed our emotions. We swallow our unexpressed feelings. We are weighed down by our emotional burdens. When you love and accept yourself, you are better able to express your emotions and needs. You have a healthier relationship with your feelings which creates the ability to make better choices in how you nourish yourself.

When you listen to TheMindMatters:Nourishment, you access the power of your subconscious mind, the 88% of your mind which controls your behavior. You will succeed in letting go of the unwanted excess weight and you will keep it off for the rest of your life. You will set a realistic goal and carry it out successfully. You will achieve and maintain your ideal weight, size and shape with the power of the MindBody connection. The time to start is now!

Your desire and motivation to exercise and be physically active is based on your past subconscious programming. Negative thought patterns are created in many ways. By accessing your subconscious mind, positive thought patterns can be created to replace the negative ones. You will succeed in creating and maintaining an enjoyable exercise program which will keep you fit and flexible for the rest of your long, healthy life.

When you listen to TheMindMatters:Movement, you re-program your mind to accept and be motivated by the benefits of exercise and physical activity. The benefits include but are not limited to: reduce stress; increase energy, strength and flexibility; build healthy immune system; cleanse and de-toxify; boost metabolism; tone & firm muscles; cardio-vascular health; youthful & healthy appearance; longer and healthier life.

What you tell yourself has the greatest power over your life. What you tell yourself determines what you can and can not do. Tell yourself that you deserve to have a strong and healthy body. Tell yourself that the time to start to honor and respect your body is now! It’s a choice you make.

 Choose Your Thoughts…Choose Your Body

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Jul 31 2010

Self-hypnosis for Children with Tourette

Category: Hypnotherapy,Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 2:13 pm

Children with Tourette syndrome found help for their tics via sessions of self-hypnosis.

The Los Angeles Times reports a new study about children with Tourette syndrome has been published in the Journal of Developmental & Behavioral Pediatrics. By using sessions of self-hypnosis for help with their tics, 79% of the participants said their tic control had improved to a degree that they were satisfied with the technique.

Tourette syndrome is typically treated with medication. With all medication there are side effects. With pharmaceutical treatment comes the possibility of mild to severe side effects such as anxiety, weight gain and sluggishness. Teaching children relaxation techniques to create a state of self-hypnosis has no negative side effects. It does, however, have many, many positive effects. The confidence and self-esteem which results in being more in control of your behavior is priceless.

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Nov 23 2009

Benefits of Focused Breathing

Category: Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 4:08 pm

Recent studies continue to show the benefits of focused breathing and meditation for physical and spiritual health. In Dr. Herbert Benson’s 1975 book The Relaxation Response, he stated that breathing “may be used as a new approach to aid in the treatment and perhaps prevention of diseases such as hypertension.”

One of the most recent studies was conducted by Dr. Vernon A. Barnes, a physiologist at the Medical College of Georgia. It showed that teenagers at risk for having high blood pressure were able to lower their daytime blood pressures. This was done by simply practicing 15 minutes of transcendental meditation (focused and concentrated breathing) twice daily, over a period of four months.

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Nov 23 2009

Hurried Woman Syndrome

Category: Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 2:52 pm

It is estimated that about 60 million women suffer from the symptoms of Hurried Woman Syndrome. Dr. Brent Bost of Texas coined the phrase to include women between the ages of 25 and 55, and often with children between the ages of 4 and 16, as being most affected by this syndrome. A stressful career or burdensome responsibilities can all contribute to making the symptoms worse.

These avoidable stresses are those that often come from busy lifestyle choices and a hectic schedule. Chronic stress causes a chemical imbalance which causes fatigue. It also causes an increase in appetite which causes weight gain which causes more fatigue and the cycle continues.

Hypnotherapy can help with the three major symptoms of Hurried Woman (or Man!) Syndrome: Fatigue or Low Mood, Weight Gain and Low Sex Drive (libido).

If you suffer from any or all of these symptoms, give yourself permission to stop the cycle. Slow down. You’re worth it!

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Nov 03 2009

The Gift of Inner Exploration…priceless…

Category: Self-Meditation & Mindfulness,Therapeutic ImageryPatricia @ 10:30 am

Hypnosis and Imagery are very powerful tools for your health and well-being. They are also tools for your enjoyment and exploration.

During hypnosis your physical body benefits from the natural effects of endorphins, the pleasure hormones that suppress pain sensations. You may feel as if you’ve experienced the benefits of a massage. The hypnotic state calms your emotions. It allows you to release tensions and reinforce positive feelings. Using Imagery, you can experience heightened senses by creating a sanctuary, a vacation for your spirit. Your mind becomes more focused, allowing you to create your future. Energy flows where your attention is directed. Your subconscious mind is a goal-achieving machine.

Consider the gift of a Hypnotherapy or Imagery session for that special person who has “everything”. Perhaps someone who could benefit from scheduled relaxation? How about someone who would like to improve their golf game? Or talk to their Inner Guide? Perhaps someone who wants to explore the possibility of a past life? Maybe someone who is about to celebrate a birthday or graduation or retirement?

Within an altered state of consciousness and a dreamship powered by unlimited imagination, it is possible to travel to any place on the planet… or beyond. It is possible to travel to any time…the past…the future…the in-between.  Create a journey of your choice.

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Oct 29 2009

Emotions Can Make You Fat

Category: Self-Meditation & Mindfulness,Weight ManagementPatricia @ 11:19 am

Are you reaching for cookies or ice cream when you feel lonely, stressed or upset? There is a biological reason we reach for sweets when we’re feeling low. Elizabeth Somer, R.D., in her book Food & Mood says “The very taste of something sweet on the tongue immediately releases endorphins, our body’s natural morphine like chemicals that can produce feelings of euphoria and satisfaction.”

 In Calm Energy: How People Regulate Mood with Food and Exercise, Robert Thayer, PhD., a psychology professor at CSU Long Beach, says he believes the key to breaking the emotional eating cycle is finding some way to deal with stress.

 Self-hypnosis may be the answer. When you are in the hypnotic state, you experience a sense of calm and well being and the body naturally produces endorphins. Self-hypnosis can help you to imagine your ideal self, your ideal body, and create the mind-set which will help you to achieve that image of yourself. This process involves concentration on your breathing, which has a stronger effect on emotional change than any other function of your body.

 Like any new skill, the degree of success one achieves with self-hypnosis conditioning is determined by the amount of practice time involved. I have found that once a person is conditioned to the hypnotic state through hetero-hypnosis (induction by another person), it is far easier to achieve the self-hypnotic state.

 If you would like to learn self-hypnosis techniques to achieve your ideal body or your ideal life, I can help.

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