Do you know what it means to feel confident with yourself? To be comfortable with your actions? To feel as if you are in control? Everybody can learn to be more confident. It begins with telling yourself that you can be.
When you are confident you can remain “calm, cool and collected”. Being confident in yourself allows you to relax in stressful and challenging situations. When you are uncertain about the outcome and can still remain in control of your emotions and reactions, you can do anything. Confidence is the opposite of doubt.
Being confident is an attitude you choose. It is a response to outside influences and other opinions. What other people think of you is really not your business. It doesn’t matter. And you’re probably making it up anyway. When you are confident you are not concerned about what others think of you.
You can be confident about many things – tying your shoes, using a hammer. But maybe you’re not confident about public speaking. Confidence in specific situations is what really matters. When you use the power of your imagination to think about how you will be successful in what you want in life, you build your self-confidence in that area. The mind doesn’t know the difference in what you perceive to be reality and what you imagine. And when you focus on what you want, your subconscious mind (your goal-achieving machine) will get busy on the task of making it happen. Your subconscious mind is patiently waiting for your conscious mind to set a direction.
Here are three simple strategies to help you to be more confident.
- Imagine the specific situation where you want to feel confident in the future. Imagine yourself as the best you. See yourself with loving eyes. Accept yourself for who you are.
- Focus on the emotions you want to feel in that situation. Perhaps think about feeling calm, relaxed and at peace with yourself. Give your subconscious mind specific instructions about how to respond.
- Allow yourself to get into a relaxed state and begin to visualize, imagine, pretend and experience the future you want to create. Use all your senses to make it more real to you. Set the blueprint for your subconscious mind. Create the belief in your success.
What you tell yourself matters. What you tell yourself ultimately determines what you are and are not able to do. So, even if it’s difficult, tell yourself you’ll be able to do it. And you will find that you can and you will… by the power of your own thoughts…the power of your mind.