Research tells us that there is a happiness formula (H=S+C+V). Happiness = Set Point + Conditions of Living + Voluntary Choices. We are born with our own happiness meter. Some of us are just born happier than others, regardless of life circumstances. We have a happiness set point that accounts for 40 to 50% of our overall happiness. A measly 7 – 12% of our happiness is the result of conditions of living – our home, our car, our job, our relationships. The remaining 40 to 50% is based on our voluntary choices – how we think and feel about our lives.
This is very encouraging! A large part of our happiness is based on choice! It’s based on what we can control! As psychologist William James says, “The greatest discovery of any generation is that a human can alter his life by altering his attitude.”
In order to boost your happiness set point and change your attitude, there are a few things you can choose to do.
Be Patient. Every moment is precious. Don’t waste your time being angry, upset or frustrated.
Praise Yourself. You deserve it! And besides, who else will praise you if you don’t bother to do it?
Tell 3 People You Love Them. A simple act that not only makes you happy, it makes at least 3 more people happy as well.
One Hour Each Day For You. There are 24 hours in each day. Surely you can find just one for you. Take the time to do whatever you want or even to do nothing at all.
Be Compassionate. Everyone is experiencing life. Sometimes the experiences are difficult, demanding and painful. Treat everyone you meet with the same understanding that you would want.
Forgive the Past. The mind replays what the heart can’t delete. Let your heart be free and your mind will follow.
Set Goals & Affirmations. When we envision the future and imagine our success, we experience the joy now. We become inspired and act on our desires.
Practice Gratitude. The simplest way to achieve a sense of peace and happiness is to focus on what you are grateful for in your life. It’s also the simplest way to insure that you will receive more of what you want.
If life is getting you down… choose a different attitude. Practice reminders of grace. You’ll be happy you took control and made the choice.