Nov 27 2017

Time to Reflect

Category: Choices,ControlPatricia @ 2:43 pm



As the year begins to wind down, it is a good time to reflect on what has happened this year. Consider what your life looked like last January. And now consider how your life has changed since then. What is different? Where are you now? How did you get there? Is it where you want to be? If so, or if not, maybe there are some things you could still accomplish this year.

Your life experience is constantly in a state of flux and change. Nothing remains the same. And I will remind you…you are making the choices that are creating your life experience. You are directing your soul’s journey. Your actions and reactions to your life experience are based on your limited ego’s beliefs about the way things are.

What New Year’s resolutions did you make? Did you achieve these goals? Or did you decide to give up on them? How did you get derailed from your original mission? What changes did you make? Are you happy with the decisions you made?

Often we set goals that are not fueled by passion. If it is a goal that we think we “should” accomplish, we may not have the necessary drive to succeed. Or maybe our goal changes as we become more knowledgeable about what it is we are doing. Goals do not have to be set in stone. They can be more liquid and malleable. They can grow and change as you grow and change.

Now is a good time to consider what to do next. Ask yourself, “What are my new goals and dreams?” When you do this, consider a holistic view of your life. Consider Body, Mind and Spirit. Look at all of these areas of your life separately:

  • Physical Health and Energy. Nourishment. Exercise. Rest.
  • Home Environment. Creating a sacred space of safety and comfort.
  • Play. Pleasure. Passion. Sexuality. Creativity.
  • Confidence and Personal Power. Abundance. Career.
  • Love of Self. Love of Others. Inner Peace and Acceptance.
  • Communication and Expression of Thoughts, Ideas and Feelings. Sharing of Self.
  • Going within to gain intuitive knowledge. Use of imagination and intellect.
  • Connection with Spirit. Oneness with All. Following Your Path.

Is there anything left undone in any of these areas? Is there anything that you need/want to let go of? Any limitations or fears? Any resentment or disappointment? Do you need to forgive anyone…including yourself? What needs your attention? When you give attention to the things standing in your way, you are able to find a way to get around the obstacle. Letting go of the things you no longer need in your life makes way for new and better things to appear.

You can make a commitment to do just three things between now and the first of January. These three things can help you to become a better you to begin the new year. You can honor yourself and your goals by laying a solid foundation to create an environment for you to thrive. You can start right now. There is no need to wait for the calendar date to change. There will never be a time when it is not now.









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Oct 31 2017


Category: Choices,GratitudePatricia @ 12:27 pm




Are you content? Or are you unsatisfied with the way things are? Do you want more? Do you believe “the one with the most toys wins”? Sometimes when we are in a state of wanting more, we become oblivious to the good that is happening in our lives. We feel as if we are lacking something. We can get distracted by thinking about what we don’t have and then we forget about all that we do have.

Lao Tzu was an ancient Chinese philosopher and writer. He is known to be the founder of Taoism.  His wisdom has served as guidance for centuries. One of the things he often wrote about was contentment. He referred to contentment as “the greatest treasure”. Being content is defined as a state of happiness and satisfaction; a place of peace and wellbeing.  Lao Tzu also advised to, “Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.”

Being content is being grateful for what is. It’s about being satisfied with what you have achieved…so far. Look around your home. Everything there is a fulfillment of your wishes. Yes, everything…even the old sofa. You may have wished for that sofa many years ago. And yes, now you may wish for a new one. But remember that the old sofa represents your wishes. It represents the fulfillment of your needs. Continue to feel the pleasure derived from this. That pleasure is gratitude for what is. That gratitude leads to contentment. If you are feeling unsatisfied with your sofa when it looks lumpy, consider that the lumps were created by the sofa’s service to your needs. It has held and supported you through many years. And then consider this: global statistics show that if you have a roof over your head covering that sofa, you are richer than 93% of the world’s population! Are you feeling content yet?

You may feel that you are lacking some things in your life. You may be. But, I’d like you to focus on what you are not lacking. You are a powerful being, capable of achieving whatever you believe you can achieve. You are worthy of success, love and happiness. Your life experience is a result of the choices you have made. Choices based on your beliefs about the way things are. Because you are a powerful being, you are capable of making new choices…better choices…choices which encourage your contentment and wellbeing.

Being unsatisfied is not always a bad thing. You won’t make progress if you don’t get unsatisfied from time to time. It is a necessary and temporary condition. Recognize that when you are not satisfied with the way things are, you have the power to change that. Those changes can result in your growth and contentment.

May you feel as if the whole world belongs to you. Because it does.




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Oct 20 2017

Energy Efficient

Category: Choices,Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 5:01 pm

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Being physically active requires energy. When you run, swim or jump, your body uses up a lot of fuel moving about. You may not realize how much fuel you are consuming, but you do realize that you are expending energy. You get tired and you need rest. Thinking also requires a lot of energy. Planning for a delightful future takes a lot. Worrying about a dismal future takes a lot more. Using mind consciousness is very expensive. Even though your brain is only 2 percent of your body’s weight, it consumes 20 percent of your body’s energy!

So, how can you save on the energy you are using? Or wasting? You can economize that energy by choosing to practice the habit of mindfulness. You know, paying attention in the moment. Engaging your senses in the experience. Being aware. Focusing on the Now. When you are mindful, you exist in the present moment. This allows your mind consciousness to relax. You can let go of the energy of regretting the past. You can let go of the coulda-shoulda-woulda thoughts. When you relax into the moment, you can release thoughts that create worry about the future. You can stop wasting your time by predicting what you don’t want to happen. You can experience a release from anxiety or depression.

Thoughts are constantly running through our minds, and therefore, the vibrational energy is also constantly in motion. When you focus, you experience the now moment. If you think about the past, you’re thinking about it now. If you think about the future, you’re thinking about it now. Choose your thoughts. Choose carefully.

We often create by default because we are getting whatever we are thinking about now. And whatever it is we are giving our attention to – wanted or unwanted – is what we will receive. Whatever you are thinking about, you are attracting. And you are doing it right now. All the time. With every thought you think.

If you want to be more energy efficient, take charge of your life by taking charge of your thoughts. Allow the natural rhythm of your breath to create a peaceful sense of relaxation. Clear your mind of any mental or emotional clutter. Allow yourself unlimited freedom to create. Use your brain more effectively and efficiently and get the most benefit from all that energy you are consuming. You’ll get more bang for your buck!


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Oct 01 2017

Money. Money. Money.

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 2:25 pm


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How do you feel about money? What’s your relationship like? We all have a relationship with money. A very intimate and personal relationship. It’s a relationship that started when you were very young. You were given money and you were told its value. You quickly learned the difference between a penny and a quarter. And even though the coins were fun to play with and to count, you soon learned that the paper money was worth more. You learned how to shop and how to spend. Maybe you compared how much money you had with how much money your sister, brother or friend had. Maybe you spent your money as soon as you got it or maybe you were taught to put it in your piggy bank to save it for a later date.

As a child, you heard your parents talking about money. A conversation may have been a joyful exchange about how much to spend on a new car or the cost of a vacation. Or the conversation could have been a heated argument about how there wasn’t enough money to pay the rent. Just like with everything else, you were programmed about money by your life experience. Mom and Dad, your extended family, your environment all had an influence about how you feel about money. And that influence extends to how you act with money. You were taught about what money means. You believed what you were told.

Maybe you learned, “you have to work hard for your money.” Or maybe you learned, “you need to make your money work for you.” Perhaps you learned that “money can’t buy happiness” or that “the rich are different”. Adam Smith, an economist, says, All money is a matter of belief.”

Our beliefs affect our actions. If you were raised in a family where there was little money, you learned about lack. You may have developed spending guilt. You may be afraid to spend your money, for fear that you will not have more. You may tell yourself that you can’t afford it. When this happens, you project feelings of “lack”. You may become miserly. When you are projecting this vibration of lack, you are also attracting more of it. The truth is, in order to manifest more money, you need to be projecting feelings of abundance, not lack! Even when you are spending the money, you need to feel good about doing it. You need to feel that you are worth it. There is a very widespread limiting belief about money that you have to save it in order to be prosperous. No one ever got rich by putting all their money into a savings account. Do you believe money is a limited resource?

Sometimes we are taught to use money to increase our status. Will Rogers said, Too many people spend money they earned…to buy things they don’t want…to impress people that they don’t like.”  How do you spend your money? Are you guilty of using your charge card to pay for lunch for the whole table even though you don’t have enough cash in your wallet to pay for your own meal? Do you spend more than you can afford to buy designer labels? It’s good to have money and it’s good to spend money. It’s also good to understand what you’re spending it on and why you’re spending it. Don’t resort to retail therapy. Make sure that you haven’t lost sight of the things that money can’t buy.

Money is merely an energy exchange. It’s a tool. You earn money for your time and talent…for the energy you put into your job. You can then use the money to exchange it for goods and services that you want and need. You exchange your energy with someone else so that you both will benefit. Money will take you wherever you want to go, but it is necessary for you to be the driver. I encourage you to say “Yes” to life. Spend the money on the things you want to do. Take the trip. Your prosperity beliefs were formed long ago. You didn’t have a choice. But you do have a choice now.

Know that as a soul on life’s journey, you have a destiny to fulfill. The Universe wants to support you. It wants you to succeed! Expect the best. Ask yourself, “what would my life be like, if money were no object?”  Imagine what you would do. Imagine how you would live. Imagine with intention. The Universe is responding to your thoughts…and the way you feel about your thoughts. Emotion is the fuel of creation. Tell yourself: “I am a money magnet.” “Money flows to me constantly.” “I am attracting cash and income from new and unexpected sources.” “I have all the money I need and more.” “I am worthy of abundance.”  It feels good to think those thoughts, doesn’t it?

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Sep 28 2017

Stop Whining

Category: ControlPatricia @ 12:53 pm


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What’s your complaint? What annoys you? Who is doing things to you…making you feel angry or sad?  Are there obstacles standing in your way? Limitations? Problems that need solving?  Does your life suck? If it does suck, do you think that complaining about it is going to change it? Do you think anyone wants to listen to your complaints? Do you expect others to fix things for you? If they did fix it, would you be satisfied? Or would you complain that they didn’t do it right? No one is responsible for you except you. Figure out the solution to your problem.

Marcus Aurelius, the Roman emperor best known for his Meditations on Stoic philosophy, advises that we should deal with any obstacles quickly. Do this instead of wasting time complaining about the obstacle. He says, “A cucumber is bitter. Throw it away. There are briars in the road. Turn aside from them. This is enough. Do not add, ‘And why were such things made in the world?’”  In other words, deal with it. And move on.

Are you guilty of complaining? Or maybe you know someone who is skilled at whining or grumbling? Some of us spend a lot of time focusing on what we don’t like; don’t want and don’t need. We find solace in going over all the details of what is wrong and who is at fault.  This happens with individuals. It also happens within a relationship or a community. This negative and futile behavior is heightened when we are experiencing problems and differences in opinions about how to solve those problems. Asking why doesn’t help. Moaning about the way things are and wringing our hands in despair is never a solution to any problem.

With all situations in life, you must look at the solution…not the problem. If you know where you want to be, it’s easier to figure out how to get there. When focusing your attention on the solution, you are energetically aligned with the positive outcome. You can envision the successful accomplishment of your goal and know what steps you need to take to achieve it. You can imagine your future. You can imagine feeling better. You can take action. It is important to focus on what it is you want and why you want it. With that focus of intention, the who, when and where of what you want will fall into place. You don’t have to know all the answers right now. Einstein says, “When the solution is simple, God is answering.”

Experiencing life is a series of ups and downs; joys and sorrows. Bad things happen. There is no value to focusing on the bad things. Move on. Complaining will get you nowhere that you want to be. Whining is a waste of time. Throw away the cucumber. In the final analysis, it’s about how you respond to the bitterness; how you deal with the problem. It’s about what you intend to do right now that determines your future success. It’s always about now. It’s always about you.



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Sep 14 2017

Turning Mistakes Into Lessons

Category: Choices,Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 12:03 pm




We all make mistakes. It’s the way we learn. We try. We fail. We try again. Each time we do better because we know better. There is no need to regret your mistakes! Mistakes are not only tolerable, but are actually desirable. Einstein says, “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”

I’m sure that you can recall a time when you made a mistake… a mistake that taught you something. Even though it may have been unpleasant, you learned something from the mistake. I want you to begin to appreciate the fact that without having made mistakes like that, you would have never learned and progressed. We learn more from doing things wrong than from doing things right. Mistakes have consequences. Sometimes those consequences are immediate. Other times, the consequences may take years to surface.

Your imperfect mistakes have been perfect opportunities for a wealth of learnings; an indispensable foundation to build on. So don’t be mistaken about mistakes; the more unpleasant it is, the more beneficial the lesson will be. Paulo Coelho says, You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.”

In order to turn your mistakes into lessons, it’s good to consider a few things. You need to consider the story you are telling yourself about the mistake. What role are you playing? Perpetrator? Victim? Hero?


This is what happened. Allow yourself to look at what occurred. Become an outside observer. Consider the factors leading up to the mistake. Consider what you believe happened. Consider the beliefs of others.

This is what I did.
Consider your actions and why you thought it was the right action at the time. Or maybe you knew it wasn’t the right action and you did it anyway. Consider why. Did you act consciously and mindfully? Did negative emotions affect your actions? Accept responsibility for your actions.

This has been the cost.
Consider the negative consequences of your actions. How were you affected? How were others affected? Was the cost too much to pay? Accept responsibility for the cost.

This is what I learned.
Consider your thoughts, beliefs and actions.  Understand why you did what you did. Look for the positive consequences of your new perspective. Accept yourself.

This is what I could do differently in the future.
Consider other choices you could have made. Consider the beliefs that led up to the choice that led to a mistake. Acknowledge your ability to respond in different ways and to make better choices in similar circumstances.


I’d like you to consider the benefit of having the courage to be imperfect. Human beings are not perfect. It really is all right to be human… and to make some mistakes…so that you can learn and grow. Make amazing mistakes, fantastic and interesting mistakes. Just do the best you can do.




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Aug 22 2017

Enjoying the Picnic – With or Without Ants

Category: Choices,ControlPatricia @ 8:35 am




The warm, lazy days of summer offer an opportunity to spend more time outside in nature. We play more. Longer days also allow us to relax; to experience more of the sweetness of life. There is an abundance of color and growth in the natural world. We make a point of taking a vacation or a staycation. A common activity is to pack a picnic basket and enjoy a simple meal under the welcoming shade of a tree. We can enjoy the sounds of the birds and the wind rustling through the branches. We can stretch out and take a nap on the soft grass and feel the earth beneath our feet. We can engage in meditative thought in peaceful surroundings. We can also be annoyed. Even in the quiet beauty of nature, we can become distracted by negative thoughts.

Your thoughts can take the form of a mosquito buzzing in your ear, keeping you tuned into an unpleasant distraction or an unwelcome thought. Or your thoughts can seem like a line of ants marching across your picnic blanket, messing up your solitude and wreaking havoc on your plans. In either case, you can choose to observe the mosquito or the ants. You can swat at the mosquito and allow it to disturb you. Or you can ignore it. You can watch as the ants march off the other side of the blanket and disappear from sight. Or you can panic and rearrange everything on your blanket to avoid contact with them. In either case, you could focus on the annoying things. You could fuss over them. You could get angry with them. You could feel sad that they have ruined your picnic. You could even let them bite you!

But you have power over the annoying insects. You have power over the annoying thoughts. You decide. It’s your choice. It’s always your choice.

Are you making yourself suffer? Maybe you think the mosquito or the ant is what is making you unhappy…those things outside of you that are out to get you…to make you suffer. But it’s not the outside things that are making you suffer. It’s your reaction to the things. And you are in control of your reactions. You have the freedom to make a choice to react differently when the annoying things get to you.

When you focus on the negative, you suffer. When you react in a negative manner, you increase your suffering. Pay attention to your thoughts. Focus on the ones that make you happy. Relax and enjoy the picnic. Summer will be over soon. Everything in life is temporary. Don’t waste your time slapping at mosquitos or fretting over ants. Stay within your place of inner peace when outside things threaten to annoy you.




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Aug 08 2017

Vibrating Abundance

Category: Choices,Law of AttractionPatricia @ 8:36 am



We all want abundance in our lives. Whether it is wealth, a loving relationship, or a thriving career…we want to experience the joy of having it all. Maybe you’ve tried to use the Law of Attraction, based on the immutable Law of Vibration. Perhaps you’ve written the affirmations, made the vision board and done the work. You are waiting for results, but you haven’t achieved success. It’s frustrating when your efforts at manifestation don’t happen. Maybe you’re missing something.  Take a moment to consider what it might be.

You must be patient. When things aren’t happening according to your time schedule, don’t let doubt stand in your way. When you are projecting a vibration of confidence and belief in your success, you are allowing all you desire to come to you. BUT…when seeds of doubt creep in, everything stops. The creative source of the universe responds to your confidence and your doubt! Imagine you were taking a road trip. You set your course believing that if you continue on the highway, you will arrive at your destination. You don’t doubt, stop or turn back. You follow your plan. Don’t annoy yourself by asking, “Am I there yet? Am I there yet?”

You must take action. You need to actively participate in the process of bringing about your desire. It’s important to make a plan, set realistic goals and follow through. You must hold yourself accountable. Lying around dreaming about how it feels to live your dream life is just not enough. Believe in your success and you will take action.

You must pay attention to your thoughts. You can never get rich by thinking about being poor. You can never get thin by thinking about being fat. It is far more powerful to be “for” something than to be “against” it. If you are thinking thoughts of lack, then that is what you are calling into existence. Instead of thinking about what you don’t want, think about what you do want. And when you are thinking…notice the emotion you are feeling. The emotion is the fuel. Good thoughts create motivation. Good thoughts create good results.

Your thoughts create your energetic vibration. You are like a broadcasting tower for a TV station, sending your thoughts out into the universe. Like attracts like. Your soulmate. Your employer. Your experiences. You attracted all of it. You can learn to control your mental vibration at will. You can choose your thoughts. You can attract what you want.

You must align with your goals. Wayne Dyer says, “Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.”  When we are tuned into the vibration, we are in alignment with what we want. When you are taking the steps to achieve a goal, check in with yourself. Are you in alignment with it? Have you made progress? Does it feel good to continue? Don’t force yourself to continue, if you decide to take a different approach.

You must face the truth of what you have created in your life. And what you have not. Whether you are creating consciously or subconsciously, you are responsible for your creations. In the subtle field of energy, you attract what you are aligned with. Sometimes it’s difficult to accept that you “attracted” a bad relationship or unemployment or disease. Realize that what you put in, you get out. In order to achieve your goals, you must act with true integrity.

It is imperative that you control your thinking. You must focus on the positive and on what you want. This allows you to be in vibrational alignment with your goals. Your energetic signature or your emotional vibrational frequency is your magnetic force, attracting that with which you are aligned. Consider the “why” and the “what” of your goal. Trust that your vibrational force will attract the “how”, “who”, “where” and “when”.

It’s not that all the “bad” things will disappear. Things happen. Your life is affected by outside forces. Your perception of them can change. Your choices can change. Your actions can change. Your vibration can change. It’s a choice you make.





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Aug 01 2017

Behaving As If

Category: ChoicesPatricia @ 10:30 am



Do you have a role model? Perhaps you act as a role model for someone else? In some way, we are all role models to each other. Reflections. Good and bad illustrations of how to be. Since there is no reason to focus on a bad example, let’s focus on the good aspects of a role model. A good role model is always positive and confident in themselves and their abilities. A good role model is happy and grateful for their achievements, yet continues to strive for more. A role model serves as an example. Albert Einstein says, “Setting an example is not the main means of influencing others; it is the only means.”

When you are confronted with a challenge in your own life, consider asking yourself, “What would my role model do?” Observe how they approach problems or situations which are similar to your own personal dilemmas. Find out how they achieved their goals and what they would do differently if they were starting over. Use their example. Heed their advice. Pay attention to the qualities of their presence and demeanor. Are they decisive? Calm? In control? Do they seek the advice of others? Are they confident in their abilities? Do they avoid mediocrity and make great efforts for excellence? Act as if you are the same. And you will become that.

Your thoughts, words and actions influence people every moment of the day. They also influence you! Choose to be positive in your approach to life. Walk your talk – be consistent with your words and your actions. As Theodore Roosevelt said, “I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do! That is character!”  That is also integrity. A good role model is honest and trustworthy even when no one is watching.

By demonstrating good behavior, you deliver a strong message to others every day. This message is delivered when you accept responsibility for your actions. It is also delivered when you hold others accountable for their bad behavior and speak up when you need to do so. You influence others. When you follow the Ethics of Reciprocity, which is also known as the Golden Rule of “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” (Matt. 7:12), you create a connection. Almost all organized religions, philosophical systems, and secular systems of morality include such an ethic. Eric Allenbaugh reminds us of this when he says, “You are in charge of your feelings, beliefs, and actions. And you teach others how to behave toward you. While you cannot change other people, you can influence them through your own behaviors and actions. By being a living role model of what you want to receive from others, you create more of what you want in your life.”  You also attract people of like character and integrity.

Listen to your conscience.  You know what to do. Everyone will benefit.




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Jul 26 2017

The Neighborhood

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 3:54 pm



A voice was silenced this week. A voice fueled by anguish and pain. Chester Bennington, a singer and songwriter who was the front man for the group Linkin Park, was found dead by suicide at the age of 41. Chester led a troubled life which included drug and alcohol abuse. The troubles began as a child. His parents divorced. He suffered sexual abuse. He was beaten. Life was not fun.

Earlier this year in an interview with Music Choice, he said. “My whole life, I’ve just felt a little off. I find myself getting into these patterns of behaviour or thought – especially when I’m stuck up here [in my head]; I like to say that, ‘This is like a bad neighbourhood, and I should not go walking alone.’”

How is the neighborhood in your head? Is it a scary place where you can get lost in self-ridicule and punishment? Are you afraid to walk down Memory Lane? Unable to confront the demons who may live there? Maybe you learned to escape the neighborhood in the same way that Chester escaped… with substance abuse. Or maybe you escaped in a different way.

The neighborhood in your head may be occupied by a committee who judges you. You are never good enough. “You should do this.” “You better not do that.” The committee may be made up of your parents, your boss, your spouse. The committee may be as large as an entire set of cultural beliefs and religious rules. It could be as small as your own ego. The committee may give you the wrong directions so you end up in a place you didn’t intend to go. Your neighborhood may be confusing place where the streets are not clearly marked; a place where you can lose your way. Your neighborhood may be made of one way streets and dead-ends. It may be very small and limited by the beliefs of the committee.

Chester knew that he “should not go walking alone.” But he did. When the neighborhood in your head is a really bad neighborhood, perhaps it would be best to share the thoughts with someone outside the neighborhood. Someone who has a different perspective; someone who knows a detour route around the bad side of town. It’s a good idea to check in with someone who doesn’t live in the neighborhood. They may know things you don’t know.

Remember you created the neighborhood. You may have created it intentionally. It may have been created by default. You moved in. You can move out. You decided what to bring along and what to leave behind. You can tear things down and you can build new things. The neighborhood is created by your thoughts and the pattern of your thoughts. When you repeat thoughts to yourself, over and over again, something happens. Whether these thoughts are true or not, you accept them as your truth. These thoughts become your beliefs. You act on your beliefs. When you choose to focus on the good thoughts…when you follow the wise advice of Mr. Rogers, “it’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood.”

When you were born, you did not come with an instruction manual. You were not given a map to show you how to get around the bad neighborhoods. You made your way the best way you knew how. If you’re feeling the neighborhood in your head needs some redevelopment, perhaps you need someone to walk along with you…until you can make it a safer place to be. I’ll hold your hand.






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Jul 19 2017

Potent Side Effects of Generosity

Category: ChoicesPatricia @ 8:55 am



After 9 surgeries for a bad heart, Andy Mackie was prescribed more than 15 medications. The side effects were miserable. And the misery was costing at least $600 every month. Andy decided that he didn’t want to spend the remaining days of his life feeling miserable, so he decided to stop all his medications. The doctors said he would die within a year. They were wrong.

Andy loved music, so he decided to use the money he would have spent on his heart medicines to buy 300 harmonicas to give to children. He contacted the local schools and set up classes to teach the children how to play. Mackie said, “I tell them music is a gift, you give it away – you give it away and you get to keep it forever.”

And when he didn’t die the next month, he decided to do the same thing. He bought a few hundred more. And every month after that, Andy Mackie continued to buy harmonicas, give them to children and provide lessons. He forgot about dying. His efforts were recognized in 2005 at the Northwest Folklife Festival where he set the Guinness World Record for the largest harmonica band ever to perform in one place.

Thirteen years after he stopped his medications, Andy Mackie finally passed away at the age of 72. During those final years, he gave away 20,000 harmonicas, taught hundreds of children to play them, personally built 5500 strum sticks and created a foundation to continue his dream. He lived his life with joy.

What can we learn from Andy? I think he is a perfect example of thinking about what you want…instead of what you don’t want. Andy could have accepted the fate that his doctors decided. He could have chosen a life of misery and pain, waiting for death. Instead, he chose love instead of fear. He chose to think about what he loved. He chose to act on his thoughts. He recognized how his actions affected others. He was joyful in his work. His body continued to serve him because he believed in life more than he believed in death.

How can you use the lessons Andy taught? Look outside of yourself. How can others benefit from your generosity? What do you have to give? Consider that although generosity is an action that is done without an expected return, in that giving, you may also receive great benefits. What you put forth comes back to you.

It appears that Andy Mackie did not have a bad heart after all. His generosity came from a heart that was filled with the love of music and the spirit of giving. For Andy, giving that love to the children was the very best medicine of all.

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Jul 11 2017

Being You

Category: Belief,ChoicesPatricia @ 2:04 pm

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You don’t have a choice. Everyone else is taken. You need to be you. But, what does that mean? To be authentically you, you need to be true to your own personality, spirit, or character. You need to be sincere in your words and actions. I think it means to be loving and accepting towards yourself as you discover who you are. Carl Jung says, “The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”

By definition, Humanistic psychologists would say that authentic people are psychologically mature and fully functioning as human beings. When you are being you, you have a realistic perception of yourself and your place in the world. You are thoughtful and accepting of others as well as yourself. When you are being authentic, you are able to freely express your emotions. The real you understands what motivates you. You are able to laugh at yourself and learn from your mistakes. You understand what you want and what you don’t want.

When you’re not being you, you suffer. Your body suffers. Listen to your body. When you lie to yourself or others, your body may suffer from a churning stomach. You may notice a sore throat or a cough as you speak words that are not true for you. Also notice this…what is true tends to make you feel stronger.

Lying is never being you. Pretending, people-pleasing and performing are not okay. When you lie, you suffer. Your integrity suffers. Your authenticity suffers. Don’t lie. Most importantly, don’t lie to yourself.  Accept the ugly bits of yourself. Accept your emotions, including the difficult ones. Emotions are there to help you in the moment. Process them and move on. Don’t hide from yourself. If you don’t recognize and accept your flaws, how can you possibly grow?

Being you is not about being perfect. It’s not about being the ideal version of yourself. We are all in a state of learning and growth. If you’re still alive and breathing, you’re still learning how to be you. You’re not done yet. Remember, learning is often messy. We make mistakes. We do things wrong. When you reject parts of yourself, you’re hiding from you. You’re not being real.

When you are authentically you, you are capable of anything. You will find that you have within you everything you need to create the life you want. The life that is unique to you. You stay in your own truth; you focus on your own business.

Byron Katie teaches that there are only three kinds of business: Mine, Yours, and God’s. She writes:

“Much of our stress comes from mentally living out of our own business. When I think, “You need to get a job, I want you to be happy, you should be on time, you need to take better care of yourself,” I am in your business. When I’m worried about earthquakes, floods, war, or when I will die, I am in God’s business…

Being mentally in your business keeps me from being present in my own…To think that I know what’s best for anyone else is to be out of my business. Even in the name of love, it is pure arrogance, and the result is tension, anxiety, and fear. Do I know what’s right for me? That is my only business.”

Being you has nothing to do with anyone else. You are the only one responsible for you. If you’re trading your own authenticity, you may suffer. You may experience anxiety or depression. You may know addiction or anorexia. When you are not being you because you don’t feel that it’s safe to be authentic, you may suffer from resentment, blame or even rage. When you trade your authenticity to please others, you will know grief.

Begin now. Recognize your truth. Speak it. Live it. Be you. Know that you are the only one there is. So you are the only one who knows how to do it. You know it in your heart.


















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Jul 05 2017

Telomeres Are Telling on You

Category: Health & Wellness,Positive ThinkingPatricia @ 5:34 pm



You may be guilty of killing your cells! Destroying the building blocks of your body! And you may be doing it without even knowing! Researchers have found that negative thoughts can lead to premature cell death. You don’t want your cells to die! Dead cells equal aging! The lifespan of a cell is dictated in part by a cellular structure called a telomere. The telomere protects your genetic data and helps cells to divide. But, every time a cell divides, the telomere gets shorter. After a while, it becomes too short and it is unable to divide. When this happens, the cell dies.

In addition to negative thoughts, it’s also been noted that hostile thoughts shorten these cellular structures. This leads to premature aging of cells, which means premature aging of you! A recent study published in Journal of Behavioral Medicine found that cynical men had a much higher risk of heart attack and stroke. When compared to less skeptical people, those who think cynical and hostile thoughts create a negative impact on their telomeres. This impact results in high levels of cardiovascular disease, metabolic disease, and depression. Hostile, cynical people die at a younger age.

Maybe you’re not hostile, but are you pessimistic? In research from 2014, investigators measured pessimism and telomere length in 490 men. Not surprisingly, more pessimistic men have shorter telomeres. And size matters! In another study, researchers found that pessimism could not only create poor health, it could cause an illness to progress at a far faster rate. When pessimists developed cancer or heart disease, they died sooner.

Perhaps you’re guilty of over analysis? Even though something may have happened years ago, you continue to analyze the situation. This miserable and purposeless rumination can kill you! Let it go! Forgive! Agonizing over the past creates anxiety and depression, which leads to production of high levels of cortisol, the stress hormone. You are shortening your telomeres, slowly killing them. And you know what happens next…

The good news is that you can take action to lengthen your telomeres and keep them functioning for a longer period of time. The actions are not difficult or demanding. You’ve probably heard it all before. I’ll remind you again. Control your stress. Sleep. Exercise regularly. Eat foods that are high in antioxidants, vitamin C and vitamin E. Practice mindful meditation. Think good thoughts. I’ll repeat. Think the thoughts that make you feel good. Hopeful thoughts. Loving thoughts. Forgiving thoughts. Focus on what you want. Focus on the positive. It’s not just about the lala woowoo everybody be happy now. It’s about your health and longevity. And you contribute to it. One way or another.

Your thoughts matter! Negativity. Cynicism. Hostility. Pessimism. Rumination. Stop. Just stop. Stop hurting yourself. Your thoughts influence your actions. Your thoughts influence your health. Your thoughts create your reality. Now you know better. Do better.



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Jun 26 2017

Just One Thing

Category: Control,Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 4:29 pm


So maybe life isn’t going as you expected. The year is half over and those New Year’s resolutions have not panned out. Maybe you regret what you’ve done or maybe you regret what you didn’t do. Maybe that job you were hoping for didn’t come through. You didn’t even get the rejection call from the employer. Or maybe that man you’ve been dating did make the rejection call. Maybe you can’t pay your rent and you don’t know what to do next. Any one of those things can send us into a feeling of overwhelm or panic. We look for answers. We ask, “how did this happen?” We consider all the things we did wrong. We determine many ways to blame. We think of all the ways we may be able to fix the situation. And sometimes we can’t think of any way at all. When this happens, we experience “analysis paralysis.” And then nothing happens. We can’t take action. Our analysis of the situation has literally paralyzed our ability to act.

When we experience regrets about what we could have done; should have done; or what would happen if we had done…we dwell on all the negative aspects of the situation. We focus on everything we perceive to have done wrong. We judge ourselves and others. We assign responsibility for the situation. CouldaShouldaWoulda World is not a place you want to visit! Remember you did what you did with what you knew at the time. You made choices. Your life is a reflection of your choices.

We would all be better served if we chose to concentrate our efforts on changing just one aspect of our thoughts and actions. When we spend our time thinking about all the things that we need to change, it’s impossible to focus on taking constructive action on just one thing. When we focus, everything is much easier to accomplish.

You don’t need to address everything at once…you just need to focus on one thing! And do you know what that one thing is? The one thing you can do to influence your outside world…is to go within and to focus on what you want! This one thing is the most powerful and influential thing you can do. Ralph Waldo Emerson says, “Do the thing and you will have the Power.”

We all have the ability to do the thing. You are born with an imagination and desire. You have gifts, skills, talents and abilities. It’s an inside thing. Using your ability to visualize, imagine, pretend and experience, you create your life. You determine what you want. You have the ability to make the choices to create the actions which bring the experience into your reality.

Stop analyzing what you are doing wrong. Let go of the regrets. Kiss the blame goodbye. And begin again in this moment. Remember the only time there will ever be is this now moment. Now go within. Focus. Do the thing.


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Jun 19 2017

Once Every Year

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 4:18 pm



You probably didn’t. But about 814,000 other people in the United States celebrated a special day with me.  On another day you will celebrate a special day too, because each one of us has our own special holiday. It’s a day that is set aside once a year to celebrate your own personal trip around the sun. Your birthday. It’s the day of your beginning; the moment you arrived.

It is the custom to bestow birthday wishes on the celebrant. We wish others a “happy” birthday. Maybe despite conflicting evidence, we all want each other to experience happiness. And we make an effort to tell them so. Facebook makes it easy to reach out. At least on this one day. I appreciate all the happy. Every wish feels good. Others treat us differently on our birthday. There may be gifts and outings. People sing a special song to us. We get birthday hugs and kisses, cards and flowers. Maybe we make a wish and blow out the candles on our birthday cake. We receive outward expressions of love. Often we treat ourselves differently too. You may give yourself permission to splurge on something you want. You may challenge yourself to do something dramatic like skydiving or some other death-defying act. You may gather your loved ones around you. Or you may allow yourself to let go of your responsibilities for just one day…because it’s your birthday.

So what is this special holiday and what does it mean to you? You have your own personal perception of how to celebrate your birthday. Certain birthdays are considered milestones. When you reach 21 years of age, you are considered to legally be an adult. At 16, you can drive a car. At 65, you can enroll in Medicare and consider yourself to be a senior citizen. A birthday is nothing more than a measurement of time, but the number can have different perceptions and meaning.  If you’re unemployed and living in your parent’s basement, perhaps you’re not celebrating your success at 35 in the same way as if you had reached that age when you were established in your career. Birthdays can give us an opportunity to compare ourselves with others and then rate ourselves accordingly. This is never a good idea. You are where you are in your life because of the choices you have made. If you’re not happy with the comparison, accept your choices and then decide to make better ones. Remember a birthday is merely a record of how many times you have circled the sun. When you make different choices along your journey, you end up in a different place from where you began.

Birthday experiences and celebrations change as we age. Our parents may make a big deal out of our first birthday but we don’t even remember it. At about 4 or 5, we start to remember the birthday parties and look forward to gifts and special outings. We count our age as 4, going on 5. Or we say we are 4 and a half. Counting makes us feel bigger and smarter. Until it doesn’t. At a certain point as the numbers increase, some of us don’t even want to acknowledge our birthday any more. Counting can make us feel used up or worn out or “over the hill”. We evaluate where we’ve been and where we are going, according to what we believe to be true.

Our birthdays are part of our own unique lifescript. This is a belief system about the way things are and about who you are. Your lifescript began at birth. Your parents began to define you. They gave you a name. They offered a way of life. You were given information about your economic status in the world…about money….how to earn it…how to spend it…how much you could have…what you were worth. You were given information about your gender. They told you how to be a boy or a girl…about sex…love and power. Your lifescript was written before you were born by your culture, ethnicity, place of origin. You were given limits. You were told how to be and you made choices based on the beliefs about what you were told. And it all began on the day you were born.

On the anniversary of your birth…your special holiday…give your self permission to be re-born into a life where you decide how to be. Re-write your lifescript to support your wishes and dreams. And may this birth day be happy.

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Jun 13 2017

Measuring Up

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 9:51 am

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 “The real contest is always between what you’ve done and what you’re capable of doing. You measure yourself against yourself and nobody else.”     ~ Geoffrey Gaberino.

When we measure something or someone, we judge, evaluate and rate. We scrutinize in order to form an assessment by judging. This judgment is made according to a comparison with a certain standard.  Each one of us has our own standards by which we measure ourselves and others. These standards and values are based on subconscious programming and beliefs about what is good and bad, right and wrong. When we measure, it is based on a directly observable value or performance. We determine what is best, based on our own limited perceptions and reality. Just like everything else, this measurement involves choices which determine the importance or value of something.

Have you been measuring yourself against others? Or against yourself? There is really no point at all in measuring yourself against others. When you compare your self to someone else, you put your self in competition with their self. And then you both lose. Each one of us is a unique being with individual and specific gifts, skills and talents which are perfectly aligned to support our life’s mission. You have everything you need to create the life you want. If you were to compare, you would find that no one else has what you need. You may wrongly assess the importance or value of something based on your own personal perceptions. You may think you need something that someone else possesses. You may be lying to yourself and making up stories that are hurtful or limiting.

When you measure yourself against yourself, you can determine how you can do better. And then you can do it! Perhaps you are judging your level of fitness and have determined that you are unsatisfied with how you measure up. Ask yourself how you can improve. You know what you need to do. And you know it is entirely up to you. No one else is feeding you. No one else is moving your body. No one else is making your choices. It’s you. Just you. So stop comparing your body to some one else’s body. Their body is a result of their choices. It has nothing to do with you. Instead, ask yourself what you can do to get the results you want. Make the judgment that you are capable of doing better. Decide that you are capable of making healthy food choices and that you will make time to exercise. Compare your actions with your results and then judge yourself to be doing well. Measure this week’s self against last week’s self. Enjoy your ability to create your success and accomplish your goals.

Are you being the best you that you can imagine? If not, why not? Being the best you is being aligned with your joy. Your joy. No one else’s joy. Your dreams. No one else’s dreams. Stretch your imagination. Dream big. And realize that no one else on the planet is capable of dreaming your dreams or living your joy. Only you can measure up to that.




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May 30 2017

Agreeing To Be Married

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 12:52 pm



A lot of weddings will take place this month. Did you know that there are more weddings in June than any other month? Did you ever wonder why? The tradition has been around since the Roman Empire. June is named after the Roman goddess Juno, who was considered to be the protector of women in all aspects of life, but especially in marriage and in childbirth.

A wedding is the public ceremony where two individuals agree to their commitment to each other… until they don’t. Unfortunately, one-third of marriages end in divorce. Fortunately, that statistic is down from one-half. As a society, we’re getting a little better at being more compassionate and forgiving of our spouses.

A lot of thought and effort goes into creating a wedding ceremony. There are many traditions and many cultures. And there is also a sense of individuality expressed in the ceremony. Couples spend months of their lives and thousands of dollars of their financial energy to create the spectacle that is a wedding. Don’t get me wrong. I love weddings. And I’ve had the great pleasure to be the officiant performing the wedding ceremony. But…marriage is not about the wedding ceremony! Not at all. It would be more beneficial if couples gave as much attention to the details and planning of a marriage.

Marriage is about agreements. All relationships are about agreements. Two people make agreements with each other about how the relationship will be. They decide what roles they will play; and how and when they will play those roles. Behavior is agreed upon. Limits are set. Responsibilities are negotiated. People decide how to have disagreements and solve problems. If not, there may be resentment or anger or jealousy. Individuals decide what is acceptable and what is not. In every relationship, there is a “deal breaker”…if one of the individuals does the unacceptable. And then a new agreement must be negotiated which allows for healing and growth. If not, the relationship will suffer and eventually come to an end.

Each one of us learns about marriage from what we witness from our own parents and extended family. Society and religious traditions tell us more. We learn about expectations, duties, authority. We are taught and subconsciously programmed about relationships; the way things are. If we are fortunate, we learn about love, compassion, understanding and acceptance. But not all of us are fortunate. Some of us learned about relationships from parents who failed at it. So some of us learned how to fail.

A marriage is a partnership contract. Marriage is a choice you make every day…over and over…and that choice is reflected in how you treat each other. It is a commitment to value your marriage above your own interests. A marriage is like its own separate entity, almost like a company where you both work as equal partners. When the employee gives care and attention to their job, the company thrives. When the company thrives, it is able to support the employee’s needs. The marriage, just like the company, has needs to be fulfilled.

Just like everything else in life, how we behave in a marriage is how we are taught to behave; how we are expected to behave; how we agree to behave. And our behavior is based on the past programming and perceptions of our individual subconscious mind. The behavior and character of a marriage is based on the past programming of two subconscious minds and their ability to understand and support each other’s behaviors and beliefs. This is not an easy task!!! However it is a task that is well worth learning and perfecting.

As we enter the month of June, I invite you to think about your own marriage whether you’re in it now, have been in it and left it, or hope to be in it. Consider the agreements you’ve made. Consider if they are serving both individuals as well as the marriage. Or consider how and why the agreements didn’t serve. Consider how you may make a new agreement or a new commitment to make the marriage stronger. Think about how a new relationship may benefit from what you learned in the past. We all become stronger, better and wiser within relationships. It creates contrast and conflicts and helps us to see things from another’s perspective. Our partners encourage us to be more. They inspire us and challenge us to grow. Our partners also support us, make us laugh and share our life experience. Marriage is worth the effort. As a June bride, having spent more than four decades in a relationship, I can happily attest to that.


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May 23 2017

Dream A Little Dream

Category: Choices,MotivationPatricia @ 8:56 am



In the magical state of creation (where you spend every moment of your life, whether you are aware of it or not), the economic exchange is affected by different rules. The dream state operates on another level. The only currency is energy. And the only price to be paid is with your imagination – your thought energy. You may not have cash flow, but you always have an unlimited supply of imagination. The state of creation does not follow the same order as the U.S. economy. There is plenty for everyone. You can have it all. Or you can choose to have nothing at all. It’s a choice we make based on the focus of our thoughts…what we think about; what we believe about what we think; how we feel about what we think.

So, considering you can afford the life of your dreams, what are you dreaming? Everyone has thoughts and dreams of a better life. No matter how good life is, it can always be better. Consider the thoughts which bring a smile to your face. Or the ones which make your belly tingle with excitement. And then think the thoughts which make your heart happy. These thoughts can make you feel like a million bucks! Or even more!

Take a moment out of your everyday life and give yourself a little dream time. You deserve it. You can afford it! And you really can’t afford not to do it! There are twenty-four hours in the day. Surely, your dreams are worth as little as a measly fifteen minutes!

Play a little game. A dreaming game. Begin by setting your intention. Make sure that your intention is set in a way that is best for all concerned. Then simply write out this sentence:

“Even though I don’t know how this will happen, I am grateful because it is now (fill in a date) and I am (enjoying, looking at, experiencing, earning, etc.) my (new salary of $xxx, new home, new car, vacation, etc.) and I feel _____________.”

When you consider this sentence, pay close attention to how the dream thought makes you feel. Emotions are very, very important in the state of creation. Emotions are the fuel which fire up and feed your dream. Thought creates emotion which creates action. When you play the dreaming game, make the fire bigger by thinking about different aspects of your success. For example, if you’re dreaming of a new car, fill in all the details. Make a list of the car’s features and why you like them. Think about the value of independence and mobility that a car offers. Consider how you will feel when you are driving this new car and the places you will go. Step outside of yourself, and see yourself having the experience of a new car. And then feel the gratitude for your ability to create this experience. As you fill in all the details, your imagination is free to dream big. Your dream creates passion.

When dreaming, you know that anything can happen. Even impossible things. You are now dreaming.

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Apr 27 2017

Lack or Abundance

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 9:57 am


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What are you lacking? If you are having thoughts about the lack of financial success…the lack of a relationship… the lack of health and wellbeing…than that is what you are creating. You are creating a vibrational frequency that is equal to lack. You are creating what you don’t want. This kind of thinking is totally counter-productive. You can not get thin while thinking about being fat. You can not get rich by thinking about being poor. The thought is the vibrational key. The thought is the expectation. When you are thinking negative thoughts, you are creating the expectation of negative circumstances. And so it is with positive thoughts creating positive events. You are receiving exactly what you are thinking about…what you expect to receive.

The world is full of abundance and opportunity, but far too many people come to the fountain of life with a sieve instead of a tank car… a teaspoon instead of a steam shovel. They expect little and as a result they get little. ~ Ben Sweetland

If you want to use your thought energy in a far more productive manner, stop planning for what you don’t want. Stop thinking about worst case scenarios. Instead, begin to visualize, imagine, pretend or experience a best case scenario. And then think about the way you feel. You’ve created another vibration. A productive one. The feeling, or emotion, is a creative force. When you focus on this feeling, you add fuel to the fire of co-creation. Napoleon Hill tells us, “Remember, no more effort is required to aim high in life, to demand abundance and prosperity than is required to accept misery and poverty.”

Consider that your subconscious mind is like a fine-tuned high performance vehicle. Your conscious mind is the driver. When you have a thought, it is like a key in the ignition. It starts the vehicle. It begins the journey. The feeling or emotion that is evoked by the thought is the fuel; the gas that gets the vehicle moving.

The fountain of life is abundant and overflowing. Although the individual has a limited field of vision, there is an unlimited supply of abundance available. There is enough for everyone. You are free to take what you need. Are you driving your tank car to the fountain? Or are you arriving by foot with a sieve? What are you expecting? Lack or Abundance? Just like everything else…it’s a choice. It begins with a thought.



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Apr 10 2017

Feeling Under Pressure

Category: Choices,ControlPatricia @ 6:08 pm



Growth can be uncomfortable and stressful.  Change is difficult. A lobster doesn’t have a choice. He has to change. He literally outgrows his shell. He must act in order to survive. And that action literally puts his survival at risk. Imagine the stress! I wonder if a lobster finds it difficult to decide when it’s time to leave the past behind and create something new.

In order for a lobster to grow, it must periodically shed its hard shell. The act of escaping from the old shell is known as ecdysis. This word comes from the Greek, ekdysis, meaning “getting out”.  Since lobsters continue to grow throughout their lives, they spend much of their time either preparing for or recovering from getting out.

Ecdysis is a complicated process. Preparation is required. A new exoskeleton is created beneath the old one. If any limbs have been lost, they begin to regenerate. The lobster’s body knows just what to do. It removes blood and causes appendages to dissolve. The shell opens allowing the lobster to withdraw its shriveled limbs from the old skeleton. The escape can take anywhere from several minutes to more than half an hour to complete. If the shedding is prolonged, it usually results in death because the lobster in the midst of ecdysis is entirely helpless and vulnerable, virtually unable to move. Once freed, the lobster remains secluded for several days while its shell hardens. Within the first five to seven years of its life, a lobster may shed its shell up to 25 times. It gets easier, however. Adult lobsters only shed about once every one or two years.

The lobster is uncomfortable with the ways things are. It feels itself under pressure. Its growth has created stress and the stress is building. The lobster knows what to do. It has to get out. It doesn’t fight the change. It doesn’t think about whether it is worthy of changing; or if it deserves to live a bigger life. It doesn’t evaluate whether it has all the facts or whether it knows how to make the change.

What can we learn from the lobster? Lobster is a symbol of solitude and regeneration; the need to shed the outer shell and to go within. Personal growth lies within our inner world. Lobsters continually transform themselves into something bigger, casting off what restricts them. They get out of their own way! And they do it without judgment or ego! Lobsters take a big risk, leaving themselves vulnerable and alone, stripped of all protection. They have faith in their ability to create a new version of themselves.

Lobster tells us to not let the opinions and restrictions of the outside world define you. Heed your own instincts. Trust yourself. Break free and continue to grow throughout your life. Seek solace in solitude and take that time to better understand yourself and your life’s mission. When you go within, you find your true happiness and fulfillment. And you come out bigger and better than you were before. All of life is change and growth is renewal.




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