Dec 14 2017

How to Tell Your “Self” to Sleep

Category: Control,Health & Wellness,Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 8:44 am



Have you had trouble sleeping? Tossing and turning all night long? Staring at the ceiling? Checking the clock? Did you know that your mind must be in the Alpha brain-wave stage to fall asleep? This is when you’re still conscious, but your body is relaxed. You must relax both your mind and your body in order to fall asleep. This Alpha brain-wave stage is the state you access when you meditate or when you enter the hypnotic state. It allows access to your subconscious mind. This state enables you to focus inward. It allows you to leave the outside world behind; to turn off your rampant and roaming conscious mind so you can relax.

When you have trouble falling asleep, you often focus on that trouble. You tell yourself, “I don’t sleep well.” Or, “It’s been ages since I’ve had a good night’s sleep.” You think about what you don’t want. But… you must remember that what you focus on expands. All you can think about is NOT sleeping!!!

Your thought energy is an incredible tool. You can control this tool. Imagine you’re lying awake in bed. You’re frustrated by your inability to fall asleep. You think, “I’m SO tired! I just want to sleep.” And then you think, “My co-worker Susie is so annoying. I can’t get any work done while she’s jabbering on about her stupid wedding!” And then you think about the wedding which makes you think about your lack of a relationship which makes you sad. And then you think, “Okay, I’m not going to think anymore. No thinking. Stop!”

And then you get more frustrated as you repeat the process over and over again. Susie’s wedding. Mom’s health. Your weight. Bills. Responsibilities. Thoughts creating emotions creating physical responses. An endless stream of thoughts are constantly running through your mind. Thoughts which disturb you. Thoughts which interfere with your ability to relax. You can control what you focus on. You can control your thoughts. You can make that choice.

The first step to changing anything is to become aware of what is happening. When a thought pops into your mind, become the Outside Observer. Notice what you’re thinking and say, “I just noticed myself thinking about…” Consider this…if “I” noticed “myself”…who am “I”? “And who is my “self”?” Could it be that the “I” is the eternal all-knowing soul? And is the “self” the ego/personality of the physical experience? Is the “I” the one that is in control of the “self”? When you recognize that, you become a conscious choice maker. You recognize your power. You will find that there is a great sense of peace and wellbeing within the presence of the “I”.

The next step to remember is, “What you focus on expands.” Being aware of your control over what you are thinking, you now have the ability to direct your “self” into a place of deep relaxation. The most powerful point of focus is your breathing. When you’re focusing on your breathing, you are focusing on something very powerful. You are feeding the cells of your body and you are connecting with the “I”. Breath is the source energy of Life. Simply focusing on the inhale and the exhale will direct your body to relax and enter the Alpha brain-wave state.  It’s easy. Try it.

The secret to your success is the last step: Repetition. Practice. Breathe. Count your breaths. Focus. If your mind wanders (which is likely), become aware of your power to direct your thoughts. And begin again to focus on your breath. The in breath and the out breath. When you reach ten breaths, you will notice a wave of relaxation will flow through your body. When this happens, you will know that you have made the shift from the high-frequency Beta brain-waves to the relaxed state of the Alpha. Now tell your “self” to sleep and your subconscious mind will take care of the rest.


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Nov 27 2017

Time to Reflect

Category: Choices,ControlPatricia @ 2:43 pm



As the year begins to wind down, it is a good time to reflect on what has happened this year. Consider what your life looked like last January. And now consider how your life has changed since then. What is different? Where are you now? How did you get there? Is it where you want to be? If so, or if not, maybe there are some things you could still accomplish this year.

Your life experience is constantly in a state of flux and change. Nothing remains the same. And I will remind you…you are making the choices that are creating your life experience. You are directing your soul’s journey. Your actions and reactions to your life experience are based on your limited ego’s beliefs about the way things are.

What New Year’s resolutions did you make? Did you achieve these goals? Or did you decide to give up on them? How did you get derailed from your original mission? What changes did you make? Are you happy with the decisions you made?

Often we set goals that are not fueled by passion. If it is a goal that we think we “should” accomplish, we may not have the necessary drive to succeed. Or maybe our goal changes as we become more knowledgeable about what it is we are doing. Goals do not have to be set in stone. They can be more liquid and malleable. They can grow and change as you grow and change.

Now is a good time to consider what to do next. Ask yourself, “What are my new goals and dreams?” When you do this, consider a holistic view of your life. Consider Body, Mind and Spirit. Look at all of these areas of your life separately:

  • Physical Health and Energy. Nourishment. Exercise. Rest.
  • Home Environment. Creating a sacred space of safety and comfort.
  • Play. Pleasure. Passion. Sexuality. Creativity.
  • Confidence and Personal Power. Abundance. Career.
  • Love of Self. Love of Others. Inner Peace and Acceptance.
  • Communication and Expression of Thoughts, Ideas and Feelings. Sharing of Self.
  • Going within to gain intuitive knowledge. Use of imagination and intellect.
  • Connection with Spirit. Oneness with All. Following Your Path.

Is there anything left undone in any of these areas? Is there anything that you need/want to let go of? Any limitations or fears? Any resentment or disappointment? Do you need to forgive anyone…including yourself? What needs your attention? When you give attention to the things standing in your way, you are able to find a way to get around the obstacle. Letting go of the things you no longer need in your life makes way for new and better things to appear.

You can make a commitment to do just three things between now and the first of January. These three things can help you to become a better you to begin the new year. You can honor yourself and your goals by laying a solid foundation to create an environment for you to thrive. You can start right now. There is no need to wait for the calendar date to change. There will never be a time when it is not now.









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Oct 20 2017

Energy Efficient

Category: Choices,Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 5:01 pm

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Being physically active requires energy. When you run, swim or jump, your body uses up a lot of fuel moving about. You may not realize how much fuel you are consuming, but you do realize that you are expending energy. You get tired and you need rest. Thinking also requires a lot of energy. Planning for a delightful future takes a lot. Worrying about a dismal future takes a lot more. Using mind consciousness is very expensive. Even though your brain is only 2 percent of your body’s weight, it consumes 20 percent of your body’s energy!

So, how can you save on the energy you are using? Or wasting? You can economize that energy by choosing to practice the habit of mindfulness. You know, paying attention in the moment. Engaging your senses in the experience. Being aware. Focusing on the Now. When you are mindful, you exist in the present moment. This allows your mind consciousness to relax. You can let go of the energy of regretting the past. You can let go of the coulda-shoulda-woulda thoughts. When you relax into the moment, you can release thoughts that create worry about the future. You can stop wasting your time by predicting what you don’t want to happen. You can experience a release from anxiety or depression.

Thoughts are constantly running through our minds, and therefore, the vibrational energy is also constantly in motion. When you focus, you experience the now moment. If you think about the past, you’re thinking about it now. If you think about the future, you’re thinking about it now. Choose your thoughts. Choose carefully.

We often create by default because we are getting whatever we are thinking about now. And whatever it is we are giving our attention to – wanted or unwanted – is what we will receive. Whatever you are thinking about, you are attracting. And you are doing it right now. All the time. With every thought you think.

If you want to be more energy efficient, take charge of your life by taking charge of your thoughts. Allow the natural rhythm of your breath to create a peaceful sense of relaxation. Clear your mind of any mental or emotional clutter. Allow yourself unlimited freedom to create. Use your brain more effectively and efficiently and get the most benefit from all that energy you are consuming. You’ll get more bang for your buck!


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Oct 14 2017

Default Mode

Category: Inspirational Quotes,Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 8:00 am



Daydreaming, meditating or fantasizing about the future is just letting your mind wander. Scientists tell us that when we are engaged in these alpha state activities, our brains are engaged in what is referred to as self-generated cognition, using our default mode network. Self-generated cognition is just another way of saying that you are focused on thinking about a thought that you created. The thought didn’t occur to you from any association with your external environment. There was not a stimulus to your thought. You are in your own head. You may be planning some future action. You may be remembering something from the past. You may just be thinking about your day. Your mind is wandering. You are not doing anything. You are simply being.

This default mode activity helps us to think deeply and creatively. When we become quiet and meditative, we are better able to solve problems and shift our perspective. Engagement with our inner mind allows us an opportunity to make meaning out of our life experiences. We can connect the dots and get a better grasp of the bigger picture. When we are in this state of consciousness, we are more creative and expressive about our ideas and thoughts. When we tap into our emotions, we are more able to empathize and sympathize with others. Reflecting on our own emotional states helps us to identify with our community. We recognize that each human being experiences a wide range of emotional ups and downs, and in that recognition, we feel a connection to humanity. We’re all in this together.

In order to take advantage of this default mode, you must break away from the external distractions and go within. You must allow your mind to be silent. Do this by using deep breathing methods to create a self-hypnotic or meditative state.

When you separate yourself from conscious thoughts, your subconscious mind is consolidating past experiences and preparing to react to similar experiences in the future. You are not wasting your time by daydreaming. You are actively engaged in creating your reality. Your brain is very much at work even though it may feel like you’re on pause. In fact, a group of brain regions actually increase in activity whenever you aren’t focused on a task. This is known as the default mode network or stream of consciousness. Remember that the word “default” means that something happens automatically or without any active consideration.

Since we are constantly being exposed to a large amount of information streaming into our surroundings, it could be that this default mode helps us to make sense of the information. Our resting state is able to process our internal reactions and responses to our outside environment. When we take the time to go within, we can reflect on our actions and review our perceptions, We can come to terms with things. We can make plans and move on. When we go within, we have access to our inner wisdom.

Your inner wisdom is accessed through silent reflection. You know the answers to your problems. You know more than anyone else about how to solve whatever problem you may have. Your soul knows what you need to do and how you need to be. Don’t keep secrets from yourself. Go within. Take advantage of your own default mode.  Viktor Frankl reminds us of our power and where we can access it.  He says, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

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Oct 01 2017

Money. Money. Money.

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 2:25 pm


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How do you feel about money? What’s your relationship like? We all have a relationship with money. A very intimate and personal relationship. It’s a relationship that started when you were very young. You were given money and you were told its value. You quickly learned the difference between a penny and a quarter. And even though the coins were fun to play with and to count, you soon learned that the paper money was worth more. You learned how to shop and how to spend. Maybe you compared how much money you had with how much money your sister, brother or friend had. Maybe you spent your money as soon as you got it or maybe you were taught to put it in your piggy bank to save it for a later date.

As a child, you heard your parents talking about money. A conversation may have been a joyful exchange about how much to spend on a new car or the cost of a vacation. Or the conversation could have been a heated argument about how there wasn’t enough money to pay the rent. Just like with everything else, you were programmed about money by your life experience. Mom and Dad, your extended family, your environment all had an influence about how you feel about money. And that influence extends to how you act with money. You were taught about what money means. You believed what you were told.

Maybe you learned, “you have to work hard for your money.” Or maybe you learned, “you need to make your money work for you.” Perhaps you learned that “money can’t buy happiness” or that “the rich are different”. Adam Smith, an economist, says, All money is a matter of belief.”

Our beliefs affect our actions. If you were raised in a family where there was little money, you learned about lack. You may have developed spending guilt. You may be afraid to spend your money, for fear that you will not have more. You may tell yourself that you can’t afford it. When this happens, you project feelings of “lack”. You may become miserly. When you are projecting this vibration of lack, you are also attracting more of it. The truth is, in order to manifest more money, you need to be projecting feelings of abundance, not lack! Even when you are spending the money, you need to feel good about doing it. You need to feel that you are worth it. There is a very widespread limiting belief about money that you have to save it in order to be prosperous. No one ever got rich by putting all their money into a savings account. Do you believe money is a limited resource?

Sometimes we are taught to use money to increase our status. Will Rogers said, Too many people spend money they earned…to buy things they don’t want…to impress people that they don’t like.”  How do you spend your money? Are you guilty of using your charge card to pay for lunch for the whole table even though you don’t have enough cash in your wallet to pay for your own meal? Do you spend more than you can afford to buy designer labels? It’s good to have money and it’s good to spend money. It’s also good to understand what you’re spending it on and why you’re spending it. Don’t resort to retail therapy. Make sure that you haven’t lost sight of the things that money can’t buy.

Money is merely an energy exchange. It’s a tool. You earn money for your time and talent…for the energy you put into your job. You can then use the money to exchange it for goods and services that you want and need. You exchange your energy with someone else so that you both will benefit. Money will take you wherever you want to go, but it is necessary for you to be the driver. I encourage you to say “Yes” to life. Spend the money on the things you want to do. Take the trip. Your prosperity beliefs were formed long ago. You didn’t have a choice. But you do have a choice now.

Know that as a soul on life’s journey, you have a destiny to fulfill. The Universe wants to support you. It wants you to succeed! Expect the best. Ask yourself, “what would my life be like, if money were no object?”  Imagine what you would do. Imagine how you would live. Imagine with intention. The Universe is responding to your thoughts…and the way you feel about your thoughts. Emotion is the fuel of creation. Tell yourself: “I am a money magnet.” “Money flows to me constantly.” “I am attracting cash and income from new and unexpected sources.” “I have all the money I need and more.” “I am worthy of abundance.”  It feels good to think those thoughts, doesn’t it?

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Sep 28 2017

Stop Whining

Category: ControlPatricia @ 12:53 pm


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What’s your complaint? What annoys you? Who is doing things to you…making you feel angry or sad?  Are there obstacles standing in your way? Limitations? Problems that need solving?  Does your life suck? If it does suck, do you think that complaining about it is going to change it? Do you think anyone wants to listen to your complaints? Do you expect others to fix things for you? If they did fix it, would you be satisfied? Or would you complain that they didn’t do it right? No one is responsible for you except you. Figure out the solution to your problem.

Marcus Aurelius, the Roman emperor best known for his Meditations on Stoic philosophy, advises that we should deal with any obstacles quickly. Do this instead of wasting time complaining about the obstacle. He says, “A cucumber is bitter. Throw it away. There are briars in the road. Turn aside from them. This is enough. Do not add, ‘And why were such things made in the world?’”  In other words, deal with it. And move on.

Are you guilty of complaining? Or maybe you know someone who is skilled at whining or grumbling? Some of us spend a lot of time focusing on what we don’t like; don’t want and don’t need. We find solace in going over all the details of what is wrong and who is at fault.  This happens with individuals. It also happens within a relationship or a community. This negative and futile behavior is heightened when we are experiencing problems and differences in opinions about how to solve those problems. Asking why doesn’t help. Moaning about the way things are and wringing our hands in despair is never a solution to any problem.

With all situations in life, you must look at the solution…not the problem. If you know where you want to be, it’s easier to figure out how to get there. When focusing your attention on the solution, you are energetically aligned with the positive outcome. You can envision the successful accomplishment of your goal and know what steps you need to take to achieve it. You can imagine your future. You can imagine feeling better. You can take action. It is important to focus on what it is you want and why you want it. With that focus of intention, the who, when and where of what you want will fall into place. You don’t have to know all the answers right now. Einstein says, “When the solution is simple, God is answering.”

Experiencing life is a series of ups and downs; joys and sorrows. Bad things happen. There is no value to focusing on the bad things. Move on. Complaining will get you nowhere that you want to be. Whining is a waste of time. Throw away the cucumber. In the final analysis, it’s about how you respond to the bitterness; how you deal with the problem. It’s about what you intend to do right now that determines your future success. It’s always about now. It’s always about you.



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Aug 31 2017

A Reminder From Harvey

Category: ControlPatricia @ 3:43 pm

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Southeastern Texas is suffering. Hurricane Harvey is causing unprecedented and catastrophic flooding. More than 50 inches of rain are expected to fall as Harvey slowly moves through the area. Within the storm are extreme winds and isolated tornadoes. Estimates expect the damage total to exceed $10 billion. The rivers are rising. Lives will be lost. Even those of us not living in the danger zone are monitoring the effects of this massive storm. We don’t really know what the long term effects will be. We just know that it’s bad. Very bad. A storm like Harvey reminds us of how vulnerable we are; how powerless we are over the forces of nature. A simple shift in the wind can mean the difference between life and death.

We live in a universe of duality and contrast. There is darkness and light; left and right. For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Extremely bad conditions can create extremely good reactions. In fact, they often do just that. Disasters bring out the best in us. Boundaries of race, religion, economic status…blue tribe or red tribe do not matter. These arbitrary divisions really don’t matter at all. All that matters is humanity. We witness the selflessness of those who put their own lives in danger in order to help others.  People actively and willingly look out for others. We rise to the occasion. A life is a life is a life. All lives matter.

When disaster strikes, community becomes stronger. We recognize that we are not in this alone. We are neighbors. We can do more together. We need each other. We care about each other. A community is really no more than a big family. Sometimes we forget that. It’s easy to do. We forget about being kind to each other. We don’t remember how much we depend on each other. Disaster gives us an opportunity to remember what we value.

As individuals, we are no more than a tiny speck of matter. Together we are the whole of humanity. Perhaps Harvey is here to remind us that we need to work together to get things done; to remember that each individual is an important part of the whole community. Harvey reminds us that we can’t forget the ones who need help. And that everyone deserves to be helped. Harvey reminds us that it could get personal…it could be you that needs help the next time.

When disaster strikes, we may feel powerless. And then we can access the situation. We can consider our actions; decide what we can control.  In that moment, we are able to feel our own power. We take action to take care of what matters. Harvey is big enough to get our attention. Harvey can remind us that each one of us has the power to do what is right; to help one another. We are better able to face our biggest challenges when we do it together.




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Aug 22 2017

Enjoying the Picnic – With or Without Ants

Category: Choices,ControlPatricia @ 8:35 am




The warm, lazy days of summer offer an opportunity to spend more time outside in nature. We play more. Longer days also allow us to relax; to experience more of the sweetness of life. There is an abundance of color and growth in the natural world. We make a point of taking a vacation or a staycation. A common activity is to pack a picnic basket and enjoy a simple meal under the welcoming shade of a tree. We can enjoy the sounds of the birds and the wind rustling through the branches. We can stretch out and take a nap on the soft grass and feel the earth beneath our feet. We can engage in meditative thought in peaceful surroundings. We can also be annoyed. Even in the quiet beauty of nature, we can become distracted by negative thoughts.

Your thoughts can take the form of a mosquito buzzing in your ear, keeping you tuned into an unpleasant distraction or an unwelcome thought. Or your thoughts can seem like a line of ants marching across your picnic blanket, messing up your solitude and wreaking havoc on your plans. In either case, you can choose to observe the mosquito or the ants. You can swat at the mosquito and allow it to disturb you. Or you can ignore it. You can watch as the ants march off the other side of the blanket and disappear from sight. Or you can panic and rearrange everything on your blanket to avoid contact with them. In either case, you could focus on the annoying things. You could fuss over them. You could get angry with them. You could feel sad that they have ruined your picnic. You could even let them bite you!

But you have power over the annoying insects. You have power over the annoying thoughts. You decide. It’s your choice. It’s always your choice.

Are you making yourself suffer? Maybe you think the mosquito or the ant is what is making you unhappy…those things outside of you that are out to get you…to make you suffer. But it’s not the outside things that are making you suffer. It’s your reaction to the things. And you are in control of your reactions. You have the freedom to make a choice to react differently when the annoying things get to you.

When you focus on the negative, you suffer. When you react in a negative manner, you increase your suffering. Pay attention to your thoughts. Focus on the ones that make you happy. Relax and enjoy the picnic. Summer will be over soon. Everything in life is temporary. Don’t waste your time slapping at mosquitos or fretting over ants. Stay within your place of inner peace when outside things threaten to annoy you.




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Aug 08 2017

Vibrating Abundance

Category: Choices,Law of AttractionPatricia @ 8:36 am



We all want abundance in our lives. Whether it is wealth, a loving relationship, or a thriving career…we want to experience the joy of having it all. Maybe you’ve tried to use the Law of Attraction, based on the immutable Law of Vibration. Perhaps you’ve written the affirmations, made the vision board and done the work. You are waiting for results, but you haven’t achieved success. It’s frustrating when your efforts at manifestation don’t happen. Maybe you’re missing something.  Take a moment to consider what it might be.

You must be patient. When things aren’t happening according to your time schedule, don’t let doubt stand in your way. When you are projecting a vibration of confidence and belief in your success, you are allowing all you desire to come to you. BUT…when seeds of doubt creep in, everything stops. The creative source of the universe responds to your confidence and your doubt! Imagine you were taking a road trip. You set your course believing that if you continue on the highway, you will arrive at your destination. You don’t doubt, stop or turn back. You follow your plan. Don’t annoy yourself by asking, “Am I there yet? Am I there yet?”

You must take action. You need to actively participate in the process of bringing about your desire. It’s important to make a plan, set realistic goals and follow through. You must hold yourself accountable. Lying around dreaming about how it feels to live your dream life is just not enough. Believe in your success and you will take action.

You must pay attention to your thoughts. You can never get rich by thinking about being poor. You can never get thin by thinking about being fat. It is far more powerful to be “for” something than to be “against” it. If you are thinking thoughts of lack, then that is what you are calling into existence. Instead of thinking about what you don’t want, think about what you do want. And when you are thinking…notice the emotion you are feeling. The emotion is the fuel. Good thoughts create motivation. Good thoughts create good results.

Your thoughts create your energetic vibration. You are like a broadcasting tower for a TV station, sending your thoughts out into the universe. Like attracts like. Your soulmate. Your employer. Your experiences. You attracted all of it. You can learn to control your mental vibration at will. You can choose your thoughts. You can attract what you want.

You must align with your goals. Wayne Dyer says, “Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.”  When we are tuned into the vibration, we are in alignment with what we want. When you are taking the steps to achieve a goal, check in with yourself. Are you in alignment with it? Have you made progress? Does it feel good to continue? Don’t force yourself to continue, if you decide to take a different approach.

You must face the truth of what you have created in your life. And what you have not. Whether you are creating consciously or subconsciously, you are responsible for your creations. In the subtle field of energy, you attract what you are aligned with. Sometimes it’s difficult to accept that you “attracted” a bad relationship or unemployment or disease. Realize that what you put in, you get out. In order to achieve your goals, you must act with true integrity.

It is imperative that you control your thinking. You must focus on the positive and on what you want. This allows you to be in vibrational alignment with your goals. Your energetic signature or your emotional vibrational frequency is your magnetic force, attracting that with which you are aligned. Consider the “why” and the “what” of your goal. Trust that your vibrational force will attract the “how”, “who”, “where” and “when”.

It’s not that all the “bad” things will disappear. Things happen. Your life is affected by outside forces. Your perception of them can change. Your choices can change. Your actions can change. Your vibration can change. It’s a choice you make.





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Jul 19 2017

Potent Side Effects of Generosity

Category: ChoicesPatricia @ 8:55 am



After 9 surgeries for a bad heart, Andy Mackie was prescribed more than 15 medications. The side effects were miserable. And the misery was costing at least $600 every month. Andy decided that he didn’t want to spend the remaining days of his life feeling miserable, so he decided to stop all his medications. The doctors said he would die within a year. They were wrong.

Andy loved music, so he decided to use the money he would have spent on his heart medicines to buy 300 harmonicas to give to children. He contacted the local schools and set up classes to teach the children how to play. Mackie said, “I tell them music is a gift, you give it away – you give it away and you get to keep it forever.”

And when he didn’t die the next month, he decided to do the same thing. He bought a few hundred more. And every month after that, Andy Mackie continued to buy harmonicas, give them to children and provide lessons. He forgot about dying. His efforts were recognized in 2005 at the Northwest Folklife Festival where he set the Guinness World Record for the largest harmonica band ever to perform in one place.

Thirteen years after he stopped his medications, Andy Mackie finally passed away at the age of 72. During those final years, he gave away 20,000 harmonicas, taught hundreds of children to play them, personally built 5500 strum sticks and created a foundation to continue his dream. He lived his life with joy.

What can we learn from Andy? I think he is a perfect example of thinking about what you want…instead of what you don’t want. Andy could have accepted the fate that his doctors decided. He could have chosen a life of misery and pain, waiting for death. Instead, he chose love instead of fear. He chose to think about what he loved. He chose to act on his thoughts. He recognized how his actions affected others. He was joyful in his work. His body continued to serve him because he believed in life more than he believed in death.

How can you use the lessons Andy taught? Look outside of yourself. How can others benefit from your generosity? What do you have to give? Consider that although generosity is an action that is done without an expected return, in that giving, you may also receive great benefits. What you put forth comes back to you.

It appears that Andy Mackie did not have a bad heart after all. His generosity came from a heart that was filled with the love of music and the spirit of giving. For Andy, giving that love to the children was the very best medicine of all.

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Jun 26 2017

Just One Thing

Category: Control,Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 4:29 pm


So maybe life isn’t going as you expected. The year is half over and those New Year’s resolutions have not panned out. Maybe you regret what you’ve done or maybe you regret what you didn’t do. Maybe that job you were hoping for didn’t come through. You didn’t even get the rejection call from the employer. Or maybe that man you’ve been dating did make the rejection call. Maybe you can’t pay your rent and you don’t know what to do next. Any one of those things can send us into a feeling of overwhelm or panic. We look for answers. We ask, “how did this happen?” We consider all the things we did wrong. We determine many ways to blame. We think of all the ways we may be able to fix the situation. And sometimes we can’t think of any way at all. When this happens, we experience “analysis paralysis.” And then nothing happens. We can’t take action. Our analysis of the situation has literally paralyzed our ability to act.

When we experience regrets about what we could have done; should have done; or what would happen if we had done…we dwell on all the negative aspects of the situation. We focus on everything we perceive to have done wrong. We judge ourselves and others. We assign responsibility for the situation. CouldaShouldaWoulda World is not a place you want to visit! Remember you did what you did with what you knew at the time. You made choices. Your life is a reflection of your choices.

We would all be better served if we chose to concentrate our efforts on changing just one aspect of our thoughts and actions. When we spend our time thinking about all the things that we need to change, it’s impossible to focus on taking constructive action on just one thing. When we focus, everything is much easier to accomplish.

You don’t need to address everything at once…you just need to focus on one thing! And do you know what that one thing is? The one thing you can do to influence your outside world…is to go within and to focus on what you want! This one thing is the most powerful and influential thing you can do. Ralph Waldo Emerson says, “Do the thing and you will have the Power.”

We all have the ability to do the thing. You are born with an imagination and desire. You have gifts, skills, talents and abilities. It’s an inside thing. Using your ability to visualize, imagine, pretend and experience, you create your life. You determine what you want. You have the ability to make the choices to create the actions which bring the experience into your reality.

Stop analyzing what you are doing wrong. Let go of the regrets. Kiss the blame goodbye. And begin again in this moment. Remember the only time there will ever be is this now moment. Now go within. Focus. Do the thing.


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Apr 10 2017

Feeling Under Pressure

Category: Choices,ControlPatricia @ 6:08 pm



Growth can be uncomfortable and stressful.  Change is difficult. A lobster doesn’t have a choice. He has to change. He literally outgrows his shell. He must act in order to survive. And that action literally puts his survival at risk. Imagine the stress! I wonder if a lobster finds it difficult to decide when it’s time to leave the past behind and create something new.

In order for a lobster to grow, it must periodically shed its hard shell. The act of escaping from the old shell is known as ecdysis. This word comes from the Greek, ekdysis, meaning “getting out”.  Since lobsters continue to grow throughout their lives, they spend much of their time either preparing for or recovering from getting out.

Ecdysis is a complicated process. Preparation is required. A new exoskeleton is created beneath the old one. If any limbs have been lost, they begin to regenerate. The lobster’s body knows just what to do. It removes blood and causes appendages to dissolve. The shell opens allowing the lobster to withdraw its shriveled limbs from the old skeleton. The escape can take anywhere from several minutes to more than half an hour to complete. If the shedding is prolonged, it usually results in death because the lobster in the midst of ecdysis is entirely helpless and vulnerable, virtually unable to move. Once freed, the lobster remains secluded for several days while its shell hardens. Within the first five to seven years of its life, a lobster may shed its shell up to 25 times. It gets easier, however. Adult lobsters only shed about once every one or two years.

The lobster is uncomfortable with the ways things are. It feels itself under pressure. Its growth has created stress and the stress is building. The lobster knows what to do. It has to get out. It doesn’t fight the change. It doesn’t think about whether it is worthy of changing; or if it deserves to live a bigger life. It doesn’t evaluate whether it has all the facts or whether it knows how to make the change.

What can we learn from the lobster? Lobster is a symbol of solitude and regeneration; the need to shed the outer shell and to go within. Personal growth lies within our inner world. Lobsters continually transform themselves into something bigger, casting off what restricts them. They get out of their own way! And they do it without judgment or ego! Lobsters take a big risk, leaving themselves vulnerable and alone, stripped of all protection. They have faith in their ability to create a new version of themselves.

Lobster tells us to not let the opinions and restrictions of the outside world define you. Heed your own instincts. Trust yourself. Break free and continue to grow throughout your life. Seek solace in solitude and take that time to better understand yourself and your life’s mission. When you go within, you find your true happiness and fulfillment. And you come out bigger and better than you were before. All of life is change and growth is renewal.




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Apr 04 2017

Useful and Beautiful

Category: Choices,ControlPatricia @ 10:28 am



Spring cleaning. Life cleaning. We all have to do it. I make it a practice to sort through the drawers, closets and cupboards in my home; to let go of what is no longer needed.  Last year, I decided to look at everything with a common requirement. Everything I keep must be useful and/or beautiful. I’ve come to accept that what I deem to be beautiful may not be useful in a conventional way. However, my definition of useful has expanded. It’s my life, so I get to make the choices. (Same as you!) Art is useful for creating a pleasing environment; photographs serve as a memory aid and an emotional boost. The process is time consuming and sometimes emotionally draining but it’s necessary. We’ve all seen what can happen if we fail to do it… hoarding happens.

I know I’m not alone in this pursuit. I think many of us struggle with taking time to clean out the things that are no longer of value. It’s the reason why storage units were invented. It’s a relatively new concept of modern living for when people just have way too much stuff. They literally have outgrown their own homes. They have filled up every nook and cranny with stuff that they think they need. And now there is no more room for the stuff they do need. Rather than get rid of stuff, they move it to another space. And they pay rent on that space. Sometimes they never even return to get their stuff. It sits collecting dust, only to be sold at auction to pay for the cost of keeping it in storage. How do you experience the new, if the old is taking up space? How do you experience life’s present moment, if you are weighed down by the past? Christina Scalise, in her book, “Organize Your Life and More” says, “Clutter is the physical manifestation of unmade decisions fueled by procrastination.”

Sometimes the old stuff is not even your own stuff. I have stuff from my mom and dad. They no longer have any use for worldly possessions. I hold on to the remnants. Yes, I’ve narrowed the remnants down to just a few boxes. But those boxes contain much more than just stuff. It is stuff that belonged to people I love. It’s different than ordinary stuff. Everything is like a limited edition.  Experts call it the “endowment effect”. An insignificant item may be endowed with an exaggerated value making it feel more important to you. Regardless of that effect, I will continue to apply my beautiful and useful rules so that I can let it go. Do you have that stuff in your life? Do you want to be responsible for other people’s stuff? Did your grown child leave behind stuff that is cluttering up your space? Is it taking up space you could use for your own stuff? When you hold on to other people’s stuff, you may have trouble setting boundaries or saying “no”. You are only responsible for your own stuff. Make it useful and beautiful.

Fung Shui experts agree that your living space is a reflection of your inner space…your subconscious mind. Your home is a container for your stuff. When you clear away the clutter in your living space, you can transform your entire existence. Personal transformation can occur when we let go of the things that no longer serve us. This can create balance and a place that nurtures serenity and inner peace. What you keep around you needs to change and grow, as you change and grow. Your home needs to reflect who you are…right now. When you discard the clutter, regard it as a sign of your progression in life. Acknowledge its purpose in your life. You may be surprised to note that many of the things you possess have already fulfilled their role. The dress made you feel fabulous at the party. The shoes have danced or hiked. The battered suitcase has taken you where you wanted to go. The chipped dishes have held many delicious meals. Be grateful for the experiences, process the past and let go. All that will remain are the things that you really treasure. Right now. Ownership of things does not bring happiness. Things help you to experience the journey. They remind you of the journey. They are not the journey. Life is not about having. Life is about being. May it be a useful and a beautiful life journey.












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Mar 28 2017

Impossible? What Do You Think?

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 12:03 pm

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Chris Bertish made history this month. One day at a time. One stroke at a time. He did what many would consider impossible. Chris Bertish, a world champion big wave surfer from South Africa, recently completed a trans-Atlantic journey on a 20-foot stand-up paddleboard. Yes, that’s right. On a paddleboard. Across the Atlantic Ocean. Alone. He made the decision. He made the plan. He believed it was possible. And then he did it…through the power of his own mind, through the power of his own thoughts.

Bertish made the journey as a way to raise money for charity and test the limits of possibility. His motto is “Dream it, See it, Believe it, Achieve it.” The Lunchbox Fund, Operation Smile, and Signature of Hope were the three main beneficiaries of the reported $6 million raised by this amazing journey. When we are inspired to do for others, we are fueled by more power and determination. The goal becomes bigger than the individual. Success matters more.

The journey from Morocco’s Agadir Harbor, to Antigua’s English Harbor took ninety three days. It is estimated that to travel the distance of 4,050 miles, 2,088,000 paddle strokes were required. To do this, it was necessary to consume 8,000-10,000 calories per day. The average distance traveled every day was 44 miles. More than a marathon. Every day. For ninety three days.

Bertish said, “This whole project is about breaking boundaries and redefining what is possible. Ninety-five percent of the world thought it was impossible. The words ‘impossible’ and ‘can’t’ are motivators for me to find solutions, get creative and make the impossible possible.” You decide what is possible in your life. You decide what your limits are. And it is your choice to break those limits. Anything is possible if you believe it is possible.

As you can imagine, there were challenges along the way. More than a dozen things broke and needed to be jury-rigged. And remember the repairs needed to be done in treacherous conditions, including a couple of close encounters with sharks and 20-foot seas. One of the biggest challenges came when the solar panels which allowed him to make fresh drinking water stopped working properly. Unable to make the three gallons of water needed to survive on a daily basis, he said “I had to train my body to survive on a gallon to a gallon and a half of water each day. That way, I could manage the other systems that would keep me alive, like powering the automatic identification systems so giant tankers could see me and wouldn’t run me over in the middle of the night.”  The body is a reflection of your subconscious mind. Through mindfulness and meditative thought you can cause changes in your body functions, when you believe you can.

In the 1980’s, Dr. Herbert Benson did studies on the mind-body connection. His research showed that highly trained Tibetan monks were able to control their body temperature by using the power of their mind.  Through deep concentration, the monks were able to generate enough heat that they were able to dry wet blankets with their body heat. The meditating monks could increase the temperature of their fingers and toes by as much as 46.94 °F.  Like the Tibetan monks, Indian yogis are also able to manipulate their physiological processes. Research done in 1936 showed that yogis were able to slow their heart rate down so slow that it was only detectable with an EKG. And of course you are aware of the placebo effect. It is so widely accepted as fact that most medical tests use it as a way of proving if a drug works on its own or because people “think” it works. If we think it works, it does. Our body responds physiologically, producing real biological effects, as a reaction to a belief or an inert substance. An amusing study was done by a group of Princeton students. The experimenters served non-alcoholic O’Douls at a keg party then watched as their guests acted as if they were drinking regular beer. Generally behaving as if they were drunk, they acted silly, slurred their words and staggered around. Their belief affected their body’s reactions and their behavior. Bertish reinforces this when he says, “What I find fascinating about adventure is it teaches you about your limits and shows you that you can push your body to overcome things that most people think aren’t humanly possible. It makes you realize how incredible the human body is if you teach it to do something and shift the normality of what it’s expected to do.”

There were multiple life-threatening low-points, “where it was about having the right mental attitude to stay strong and not fall apart and just endure every hour, every day, every night … night after night, stroke after stroke, for 93 days straight’. Bertish says, “How did I get through it? It was all about going stroke-by-stroke, just getting through the next hour, the next day, the next night, the next storm. If you stay focused on what is happening right in front of you and never give up, you’ll eventually make it to your goal.” Success happens when you stay in the now moment. We can not be present and aware if we are thinking about something that happened in the past or what might happen in the future. The now moment is the moment of power…the moment of creation.

So is there something “impossible” that you would like to accomplish? What’s your excuse? What do you need to motivate yourself? Perhaps there is a charity worth your support. Perhaps there is challenge you want to give to yourself. What are your limits? Who created them? There are no limits. There are only limited thoughts. Chris Bertish has decided to embrace “limitless living. We can achieve, explore and do anything we want in life.” I congratulate and applaud Chris Bertish on this amazing achievement; not only for his own personal goal, but for the recipients of his charitable giving.  He is absolute proof that The Mind Matters!!!









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Mar 23 2017

Choices For Your Future

Category: ChoicesPatricia @ 8:16 am

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Imagine being able to transport yourself to a time in the future. Ten years from now, where are you and what are you doing? What are you wearing? What is your home like? Who do you live with? What is your financial status? Are you healthy? Are you happy? What do you imagine your life will be like? How do you think the future happens? Is it all random or do you have any control?

When you consider the future, you will find that there are really three simple choices to decide upon.  You control your choices and you also control your actions. So, simply stated, you control your future.

You could continue to do the same thing as you are doing now…thinking the same thoughts; doing the same actions. Ten years may pass, but nothing but your physical body changes. You age. You have fewer options. You live in the same place. You work at the same career. You do the same leisure activities. If you are alone, you are still alone. If you are in a bad relationship, you are still in a bad relationship. You have the same amount of money. Over the next ten years, you will not grow at all. You will remain the same. Remaining the same is the most difficult to do. Outside circumstances influence inner choices and sometimes it is impossible not to grow. But really, why would you want to remain the same? How boring!!!

You could do less than what you are doing now…thinking negative thoughts; acting in a self-destructive manner. Many things may change ten years from now when you’re thinking about what you don’t want to happen. You may have lost your job; lost your home; lost a good relationship. And the worst that can happen is that you may have lost your health. Over the next ten years, you will experience a downward spiral, leading you to a life of depression and despair. Making bad choices and doing stupid things is very easy to do when you don’t pay attention. But, then, the consequences make life a lot more difficult.

You could do things differently than you do right now… focusing your positive thoughts on the experiences you want to have. Everything may change in ten years when you take control of your thoughts and your actions… starting now. You may become a happier, healthier, wiser version of yourself. Over the next ten years, you could experience a joyful and successful life. Doing things differently may seem difficult at first. But the results of achieving positive goals makes life worthwhile.

You get to decide. The Now you creates the Future you. How would you like your future to be? You really do have some control over how it all turns out. Imagine that. In the magical state of creation, the economic exchange is different than that of the U. S. Treasury. You may not have unlimited cash flow, but you do have unlimited imagination. You can choose to have it all. Or you can choose to have nothing at all. You can afford to have the life of your dreams. You know that when you dream, anything is possible. Dream on.

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Feb 21 2017

Hyperarousal is Not Sexy

Category: Health & Wellness,Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 2:31 pm



Are you hyperaroused? That sounds kind of sexy, but it isn’t. Hyperarousal or acute stress response is your body’s response to fear. What are you afraid of? The world can be a very scary place. We all have fears. Some of them are real. Some are imaginary. But the mind doesn’t know the difference between what we perceive as reality and what we imagine. The body doesn’t know the difference either. The body perceives imaginary fear and responds with the same reaction as it would to a real threat. Although our bodies are amazing, they are primitive and fragile. In order to protect ourselves, we are genetically wired to perceive danger and impending threats to our physical well-being. We are wired to act according to our perceptions in order to maintain not only our own body, but the genetic heritage of future generations. And we are also wired to recover from the fear and return to a state of homeostasis. It is a beautiful system designed to insure the basic survival of the organism – you.

Perhaps you know hyperarousal by another name – the fight-flight syndrome. It is a physiological reaction that happens in response to a perceived attack or threat to survival. In primitive times, if you confronted a saber-tooth tiger or some other beast, you had two choices. You could run as fast as possible to get away from the danger. Or you could choose to find a weapon and put up a fight. Your body reacts to fear, perceived or real, with a discharge of the sympathetic nervous system, releasing norepinephrine and epinephrine to create a boost of energy and muscle response. Your body releases cortisol, which increases blood pressure and blood sugar. Estrogen and testosterone are released, along with the neurotransmitters dopamine and serotonin.

While all these chemicals are flooding your body, your heart rate accelerates and your skin may flush or pale. Your stomach and upper intestinal tract slows down or stops. Digestion is put on hold. Sexual functions are not functioning. Your blood vessels constrict and your pupils dilate. You may suffer from a relaxation of your bladder or your anal sphincter. You could suffer the temporary loss of your hearing. Your peripheral vision may fail; you only have tunnel vision focusing on the object of your fear. You may experience shaking. Your awareness is intensified. This surge is responsible for the super-human strength of a mother who lifts a car off of her child or a hero who walks into danger to save another.

This ability serves us well, but it has a cost. When we are on guard against a threat, our body’s natural defenses wear down. When we suffer from frequent stress – or when we frequently perceive life as stressful – an essentially healthy response to stress can become distress. The fight-flight syndrome bypasses our rational mind and moves us into the primitive mode of survival. Everyone is a possible enemy. We overreact from a place of distorted thinking and fear is magnified. When we are stuck in survival mode, our consciousness is focused on fear, not love. We are overwhelmed with stress and lose the ability to relax as we deal with a series of emergencies. We become skilled worriers, a condition brilliantly described by Mark Twain who said, “I’ve experienced many terrible things in my life, a few of which actually happened.”

All external circumstances affect how the body reacts internally to stress. In our modern world, driving in heavy traffic on the freeway can create the conditions that illicit the same response as being face-to-face with that saber-tooth tiger. Watching the evening news can create a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease. It can instill fears about an imagined imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome. Fight has become anxiety. Flight has become depression. There is much evidence that a cumulative buildup of stress hormones can lead to disorders such as irritable bowel syndrome and high blood pressure. Disorders of the immune system can create autoimmune diseases such as lupus and allergies and a susceptibility to infection and chronic fatigue.

And all external circumstances also affect how the body recovers from stress; the rest-digest response, or the relaxation response. When we make the effort to change our external environment (our perceived reality) by getting out of toxic, harmful relationships or soul-crushing jobs, we take action to make our environment spiritually safer. When we choose to change our perceptions of our reality – viewing our difficulties as events which make us stronger, wiser and better – our attitudes and reactions change.

The relaxation response is a physiologic response which you can create whenever you want. When you’re walking or doing a repetitive exercise, focus on a positive word such as “love.”

Practicing yoga can quiet the mind. Focus on the breathing can trigger relaxation almost immediately. Singing, chanting or prayer is beneficial. Being mindful of your life experience can be a form of active meditation which elicits the relaxation response. Walking on the beach listening to the waves or watching the flickering flames of a fire can be as peaceful as focused meditation. The important thing is to practice going within whenever you have the opportunity. With practice, everything becomes easier and more automatic. Practice now so you’ll be ready when you need it. You don’t throw yourself off a boat in the middle of a stormy sea to learn how to swim. You learn to take care of yourself in quiet and calm waters, like a lake with no ripples. A quiet mind opens up your perceptions. It makes you more aware of what is happening around you. A quiet mind helps you to make positive choices. It helps you to stand in your own truth. It frees you. You are strong and prepared; ready to handle whatever comes your way.










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Dec 27 2016

Emptying Out

Category: ChoicesPatricia @ 12:06 pm



In her book, Footprints on the Path, Eileen Caddy says, “Life is full and overflowing with the new. But it is necessary to empty out the old to make room for the new to enter.”   It’s that time of year again. That New Year time. We all look to the future with hope and enthusiasm. Anything is possible next year. We reflect on what we have and what we don’t have. We want new experiences, new relationships, new material goods to come into our life. We dream.

In order for anything new to happen, we need to empty out the old stuff; the clutter we have collected and the emotions we continue to feel. Clutter is a state of confusion and disorder. Clutter in our outside world is just a reflection of the clutter within.

Everything that is old is not necessarily bad or useless. Consider a piece of antique furniture or a treasured friendship. But some old stuff has to go. Holding on to old, worn-out things that don’t function right doesn’t make sense. You deserve better. Things should be useful…or beautiful. Staying within relationships which create tension or anxiety brings more of the same. Let go. Not everyone is part of your destiny. Realize that some people belong in the past. They are part of your history. We must let go of what no longer serves our best interest now. Not only at this time of year, but on a regular basis. The philosopher Lao Tzu says, “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”

Your subconscious mind is the ultimate repository of the old. It has catalogued every circumstance and emotion you have experienced. It is not possible to empty out. But you can let go of the negative perceptions that you no longer want in your life. You can look upon your life experiences and choices with love, compassion and mercy for yourself. You can let go of false beliefs. When you let go of self-doubt, you become more confident. When you release fear, you become more loving. When you no longer judge yourself as unworthy, you become more successful. When you empty out the heavy burden of negativity, you become better, stronger, wiser.

When you empty out, you are not left with a glass that is half-filled. You are left with room to fill it with something new. And you can even let it overflow. You get to choose how you fill it and what it looks like, tastes like and feels like! And you don’t have to wait until the calendar changes and a New Year is declared. You can declare yourself as a New You whenever you want…as long as you have done the work of getting rid of the clutter that is holding you back…the clutter that says there is no time or no room or no place to go. Clutter can make you feel stuck or overwhelmed. It can weigh you down. It will never go away by itself. No one can take care of it for you. You decide what you want in life. And what you don’t. It’s up to you. As the powerful, creative being that you are, everything in life is really up to you.

May the year 2017 be a time of joy!





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Oct 31 2016

Stop Scaring Yourself!

Category: ControlPatricia @ 12:49 pm






Do you ever feel anxious? If so, apparently you are not alone. Do you realize that over the past eight years, Google searches for terms related to anxiety have doubled? The searches have included all sorts of anxiety: driving, flying and travel in general; separation anxiety; performance anxiety; anxiety at work, at school and at home. It’s not just the different kinds of anxiety, it’s also time specific searches. “Anxiety in the morning” is popular. “Anxiety at night” is even more popular. The number one search is “anxiety attack symptoms.” Attack!!! Who is attacking you? Just thinking about all the anxiety in the world can make you feel anxious and afraid!!!

So, what is anxiety? The dictionary defines it as “painful or apprehensive uneasiness of mind usually over an impending or anticipated ill.” It’s also defined as “an abnormal and overwhelming sense of apprehension and fear often marked by physiological signs (as sweating, tension, and increased pulse), by doubt concerning the reality and nature of the threat, and by self-doubt about one’s capacity to cope with it.”

What if there were a solution? There is a solution! And it’s all in your head! Anxiety is created when you are thinking about what you don’t want. So, stop it! And start thinking about what you do want! If you are creating an “uneasiness of mind” over something that is not happening, realize that you are making it up. The anxiety is a result of your anticipation. You are in control of what you think about. When you experience the symptoms of a panic attack, your body is reacting to your thoughts. The symptoms are very real. You can feel as if you’re going to faint, break out in a cold sweat and bring on heart palpitations. You can literally think yourself into full-fledged fight/flight survival mode. You’re making yourself sick over an imaginary threat. Again, I tell you, stop it!!!

Anxiety is fed by doubt. It could be doubt about what may happen or doubt about your ability to deal with what may happen. Since you’re making up what may happen, perhaps you could consider making up something good about your ability to deal with what may happen. The opposite of doubt is confidence. Simple. It’s a choice you can make. What you tell yourself is very important. What you tell yourself determines what you are and are not able to do. So tell yourself that even if it’s difficult, you will be able to do it. Because when you tell yourself that you can and you will, you will find that you can and you will accomplish whatever it is you truly want to accomplish.  Your anxiety can not attack you when you take control of your doubt. There is no reason to scare yourself!


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Oct 17 2016

Plan Backwards

Category: Choices,Control,Health & Wellness,Motivation,Weight ManagementPatricia @ 11:39 am




When we set a goal, we think about it as a future event, situation or experience. We set a date. It is something in the distance…a destination at the end of a journey. One way to move forward to meet a big goal is to plan backwards.

When your goal is complex or requires the passage of time for completion, you need to break it down into more “doable” goals. A doable goal requires less time to see the results. It’s important to recognize the successful completion of every step along the way to your success. Remember, there is no express elevator to achieving success. You have to take one step at a time. Recognizing your progress helps to motivate you to continue. You have the end in sight. Setting up step by step goals can also help you to be more aware and conscious of any changes or deviations that need to be made.

Let’s say you want to lose 20 pounds for an event that is three months away. Obviously, this is not a goal you can achieve in a weekend. In order to lose the 20 pounds, you need to start planning backwards to break the goal down into little, easily achievable goals. Imagine that you want to lose 2 pounds every week. This is a doable goal. To lose 2 pounds, you need to cut your caloric intake or increase your caloric burn. It requires 3500 extra calories to gain a pound, which means that it would take 7000 less calories to lose those 2 pounds. If you break that down, you see that you need to eliminate 1000 calories each day to achieve your goal. This is a doable goal. Many people eat 3 meals and at least 2 snacks every day. If you decrease your intake each time you eat by just 200 calories, you’ve done it! You have successfully taken a big, overwhelming goal and you divided it into very small, achievable goals. You are able to achieve a small goal multiple times during the day. When you check your weight after seven days, you are able to celebrate your success. If you did not lose the anticipated 2 pounds, you are able to make an adjustment to insure your success next week. You keep your end goal in mind.

When you commit to your success, you will be able to achieve your goal in just 10 weeks!!! You might want to consider beginning this goal right now. There will be no need for New Year’s resolutions. You will be happily dancing your way into the New Year weighing 20 pounds less than you do right now!

Planning backwards helps you to move forward for all kinds of big goals. Consider a big goal you may have. Perhaps you want to take that dream vacation or buy a new car. Begin saving today. If it’s a goal, you will find a way to take action. If you can’t find a way, than it is not a goal… it’s just a wish. And after time, it may become a regret.

Make a commitment to your goal. Take the first step to succeed in your plan. Keep your goal in mind and follow the steps backwards until you have reached the beginning, which is where you are right now. Get excited about what you plan to accomplish because without excitement and enthusiasm, you’ll lose sight of your plan and you won’t move forward. You can do it!


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Oct 11 2016

Confine Yourself

Category: Choices,ControlPatricia @ 11:17 am



Marcus Aurelius (121-180 AD) believed happiness was to be achieved by living “according to nature” in harmony with the principle which orders the universe. A Roman emperor and philosopher who composed bits of wisdom in a work called Meditations, he believed that the serenity of someone who lived in the present moment could not be affected by misfortunes of the past or the fear of the future. He advised, “Confine yourself to the present.”

Have you considered this bit of advice? When you’re thinking about the past, you’re thinking about it now. When you’re thinking about the future, you’re thinking about it now. There is only the now moment. Thinking about the past may cause you to feel regret or depression. Thinking about the future may create anxiety or fear. When you stay in the moment, you have more creative control. You can not change the past and the future does not exist.

Your thoughts are a constant stream of consciousness. They exist in the moment. And you are in control of your thoughts…in the moment. You decide what to focus upon. You decide what feelings you want to evoke. When you think about things in the past that disturb you, you create the same vibrational energy that you felt during that time in the past when you had the experience. The principle which orders the universe responds to your vibrational thought energy right now. It responds to your focus and how you are feeling about it. Be aware that you could be re-creating past problems or similar situations. Do you want that? When you let go of the past that disturbs you, you are able to create new experiences. You grow. You become better. Wiser.

You get what you’re thinking about. You can spend your thought energy however you want. I would hope that you would want to invest in your own happiness. When you think about things in the past that make you happy, you get the benefit of re-creating that vibrational energy now. Your body responds well to happy, positive thoughts. It actually functions better in a tension free environment. Gina Bellin says, “The only way to deal with the future is to function efficiently in the now.” When you’re thinking the happy thoughts in the present, you are depositing into a future where you will receive more.

When you “confine” yourself, you set boundaries, limits and restrictions. When you “confine yourself to the present”, you decide what your priority is in the moment. When limiting your actions to insure your priority is accomplished, you are more efficient and effective. When you restrict your thoughts to what you want, you are able to create a sense of peace and serenity. And you can do that right now.

Your future self will benefit from what you do right now. Take the advice of a wise man from the past.




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