Sep 28 2017

Stop Whining

Category: ControlPatricia @ 12:53 pm


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What’s your complaint? What annoys you? Who is doing things to you…making you feel angry or sad?  Are there obstacles standing in your way? Limitations? Problems that need solving?  Does your life suck? If it does suck, do you think that complaining about it is going to change it? Do you think anyone wants to listen to your complaints? Do you expect others to fix things for you? If they did fix it, would you be satisfied? Or would you complain that they didn’t do it right? No one is responsible for you except you. Figure out the solution to your problem.

Marcus Aurelius, the Roman emperor best known for his Meditations on Stoic philosophy, advises that we should deal with any obstacles quickly. Do this instead of wasting time complaining about the obstacle. He says, “A cucumber is bitter. Throw it away. There are briars in the road. Turn aside from them. This is enough. Do not add, ‘And why were such things made in the world?’”  In other words, deal with it. And move on.

Are you guilty of complaining? Or maybe you know someone who is skilled at whining or grumbling? Some of us spend a lot of time focusing on what we don’t like; don’t want and don’t need. We find solace in going over all the details of what is wrong and who is at fault.  This happens with individuals. It also happens within a relationship or a community. This negative and futile behavior is heightened when we are experiencing problems and differences in opinions about how to solve those problems. Asking why doesn’t help. Moaning about the way things are and wringing our hands in despair is never a solution to any problem.

With all situations in life, you must look at the solution…not the problem. If you know where you want to be, it’s easier to figure out how to get there. When focusing your attention on the solution, you are energetically aligned with the positive outcome. You can envision the successful accomplishment of your goal and know what steps you need to take to achieve it. You can imagine your future. You can imagine feeling better. You can take action. It is important to focus on what it is you want and why you want it. With that focus of intention, the who, when and where of what you want will fall into place. You don’t have to know all the answers right now. Einstein says, “When the solution is simple, God is answering.”

Experiencing life is a series of ups and downs; joys and sorrows. Bad things happen. There is no value to focusing on the bad things. Move on. Complaining will get you nowhere that you want to be. Whining is a waste of time. Throw away the cucumber. In the final analysis, it’s about how you respond to the bitterness; how you deal with the problem. It’s about what you intend to do right now that determines your future success. It’s always about now. It’s always about you.



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Sep 14 2017

Turning Mistakes Into Lessons

Category: Choices,Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 12:03 pm




We all make mistakes. It’s the way we learn. We try. We fail. We try again. Each time we do better because we know better. There is no need to regret your mistakes! Mistakes are not only tolerable, but are actually desirable. Einstein says, “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”

I’m sure that you can recall a time when you made a mistake… a mistake that taught you something. Even though it may have been unpleasant, you learned something from the mistake. I want you to begin to appreciate the fact that without having made mistakes like that, you would have never learned and progressed. We learn more from doing things wrong than from doing things right. Mistakes have consequences. Sometimes those consequences are immediate. Other times, the consequences may take years to surface.

Your imperfect mistakes have been perfect opportunities for a wealth of learnings; an indispensable foundation to build on. So don’t be mistaken about mistakes; the more unpleasant it is, the more beneficial the lesson will be. Paulo Coelho says, You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.”

In order to turn your mistakes into lessons, it’s good to consider a few things. You need to consider the story you are telling yourself about the mistake. What role are you playing? Perpetrator? Victim? Hero?


This is what happened. Allow yourself to look at what occurred. Become an outside observer. Consider the factors leading up to the mistake. Consider what you believe happened. Consider the beliefs of others.

This is what I did.
Consider your actions and why you thought it was the right action at the time. Or maybe you knew it wasn’t the right action and you did it anyway. Consider why. Did you act consciously and mindfully? Did negative emotions affect your actions? Accept responsibility for your actions.

This has been the cost.
Consider the negative consequences of your actions. How were you affected? How were others affected? Was the cost too much to pay? Accept responsibility for the cost.

This is what I learned.
Consider your thoughts, beliefs and actions.  Understand why you did what you did. Look for the positive consequences of your new perspective. Accept yourself.

This is what I could do differently in the future.
Consider other choices you could have made. Consider the beliefs that led up to the choice that led to a mistake. Acknowledge your ability to respond in different ways and to make better choices in similar circumstances.


I’d like you to consider the benefit of having the courage to be imperfect. Human beings are not perfect. It really is all right to be human… and to make some mistakes…so that you can learn and grow. Make amazing mistakes, fantastic and interesting mistakes. Just do the best you can do.




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Oct 06 2015

Do You Want to Think Like a Genius?

Category: Law of AttractionPatricia @ 1:01 pm


Did you ever wish that you could come up with answers to all of your problems? Do you want to think more creatively like Einstein or Leonardo Da Vinci or Steve Jobs? Geniuses think a little differently than the average guy. And you can learn how to do that too!

The first step is to look at a problem from many different points of view. A genius is receptive to new ideas, new relationships and new experiences. You reach a higher level of consciousness when you achieve new levels of understanding. Einstein told us, “You cannot solve a problem with the same type of thinking that is creating it.” You must step out of the box. Pretend to be someone else. What might they do differently than you have done?

Next, you must persist. Thomas Edison, who tried more than 10,000 times to create the lightbulb, said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” You must not be afraid to fail! Geniuses do not give up when things get difficult. They are driven by their desires.

You must visualize. Einstein said that all of his most important thinking was done by “combinatory play” with images in his mind. He said that it was a way of sifting through data, perceptions and materials to come up with combinations that are new and useful. Since visual thinking uses the right side of the brain, it presents new problem-solving abilities. Visualization is a skill you can develop. Practice. It’s fun.

You must use your imagination. Einstein believed that you could stimulate thought by allowing imagination to run wild. He also performed “thought experiments” which requires you to ask yourself a question and then visualize a situation and perform experimental action to see what happens. You need not perform a direct experiment if you use your imagination. Remember the mind doesn’t know the difference between what you imagine and what you perceive to be reality.

You must have the courage to ask questions. Successful people ask better questions. Develop your curiosity. Think about the solutions rather than the problem. Ask yourself, “What can I learn from my situation?” Or, “What can I do differently?” You must play with ideas with a sense of childlike wonder. Ask “Why?”

You become what you think about. Your life is the visible representation of the invisible thoughts in your mind. Whatever you focus your thoughts upon, becomes your reality. The Wright brothers focused their thoughts, time and talents on building a machine that could fly. Bill Gates concentrated on building a personal computer. All geniuses use the Law of Attraction, creating a reality aligned with their thoughts.

And most of all, in order to think like a genius, do what you love! The most successful people in the world, genius or not, find work that inspires them. Creating your life is fun when you are in control. And you are always in control of your thoughts. No one else is living in your head!

So, now that you know how to think like a genius, what are you going to do about it? It has been said that it is the willingness to explore all approaches that is important. Even after you have found a promising one, keep looking. There may be more and better ideas. I suggest that you give yourself permission to play with some new ideas and consider some new possibilities. Experiment with yourself. Direct your subconscious mind to explore.




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Apr 07 2015

Traveling the Time Tunnel

Category: Energy BodyPatricia @ 9:22 am


Einstein told us, “Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.” When we imagine how things will be, our minds fill in all the details. It is as if we are really “there” in another time or place. When we become conscious of our inner reality, we also experience the emotions that are evoked from the daydream. We can use this ability to “feel” the future to help us to decide about how we want to live future experiences. If it doesn’t feel good when we imagine it, we can be absolutely certain that it will not be good if we choose to physically experience it. A performer does not show up without a rehearsal. Imagining or pretending is a form of rehearsal which prepares us for life.

Often we have decisions to make. There may be two or more different options or approaches to a situation. How can we know what is best? Our imagination knows! Our subconscious mind can give us the answer! Because the mind doesn’t know the difference between what we imagine and what we perceive to be reality, we can travel through a time tunnel to experience the future so we can make the right choices in the present.

When you imagine a situation, your subconscious mind reacts to your thoughts and to your beliefs about your thoughts. Its reactions are based on your faith about the way things are, or your lifescript. Your body produces appropriate hormones which elicit physical feelings based on your thoughts and past experiences. You may feel threatened or angry when you travel to an anticipated confrontation with an individual. Or you may feel comforted or happy if you imagine the situation unfolding in a different way. These feelings are important to note! You are creating your future experiences. How do you want to feel about your actions? Act accordingly.

Imagine the goal and play the role. Imagine the steps you will need to take to reach the goal or the resolution to a problem. Pay attention to the feelings you may have regarding each of those steps. When you identify a negative response, consider another option until your feelings are in alignment with your success.

We all have an innate ability to project ourselves to a different perception of time. We are all time travelers. We navigate the journey. When we remember, we are traveling into the past. When we project or fantasize, we are traveling into the future. Time is imaginary. It is a concept. The only time that exists is this moment. And this moment is the creative Now.

Now is the moment when you can enter the time tunnel. Now is the moment to begin your future by exploring the unlimited opportunities available to you. Take the trip. No reservations are required. No deposit. You don’t need a passport. And you are always in control of your experiences. At the end of the tunnel, you realize what life is…a series of experiences until you reach your final destination.

By using the power of your subconscious mind, accessed through hypnosis or meditation, you can rewrite your lifescript, adjust your beliefs, and release your limitations. You can be certain that your future experiences throughout time will be all that you imagined!



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Mar 24 2015

How to Stop Your Head From Exploding!

Category: Positive ThinkingPatricia @ 12:20 pm



Einstein tells us that “Imagination is more important than knowledge. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.” What are you imagining? Are you thinking about what you want or about what you don’t want? The life you imagine is the life you live!

Do you realize you have a choice about what you are thinking? And you get to make that choice… one thought at a time. In 1994, I didn’t know I could make a choice. I didn’t know that I had the power to control my thoughts. Instead, I let them control me.

It was a very stressful time. The Northridge earthquake…perhaps some of you remember. Well, I experienced some personal aftershocks. My husband was injured. It was a minor injury but there were complications. Flesh-eating bacteria! Eleven Days of ICU. Survival not guaranteed. And even though my prayers were answered, there was recovery and rehab and the stress didn’t end.

During that time, I would say to anyone who was listening, “If I have to take any more of this, my head is going to explode.” In November, it happened. I had a mini-stroke. A T.I.A. A little explosion left me with the inability to speak or move. Distorted time. After a moment or two or… an eternity, it passed. I re-wired. I was one of the lucky ones. I recovered completely. Stress didn’t kill me… but it did inspire me to learn better ways to cope with it.

Are you suffering from stress? Are you thinking about things that you don’t want to happen? Are you worrying about the future? Napoleon Hill says “If you don’t control what you think, you can’t control what you do.”

With more than 12 years of clinical practice, I’ve developed a lot of tools to help you take control of your thoughts. I know secrets! I’d like to share 3 tips to help you let go of some stress.

  1. Use your inner eye to create your outer world.

Your imagination uses your mind to think and your heart to feel. When you focus on what you don’t want, you feel stress, anxiety or worry. Worrying is literally planning for things you don’t want to happen! When you focus on what you do want, you feel good, empowered, and confident. Anything you want to do or have or be is possible. Positive thoughts have a positive effect. Make a choice! The mind doesn’t know the difference between what is real and what is imaginary.

  1. Thoughts are powerful. Think thoughts of gratitude.

Become more aware of people, places and things which affect your life experience in a positive way. When you pay attention, you experience more appreciation. Make note of the positive things happening in your everyday life and expect more of the same. Look for the happy place! Recognize and appreciate that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped fo

  1. You are a creator. You create with every thought. And you do it Now.

Whatever you are thinking about, you are creating. You are literally broadcasting “this…bring me more of this…” So, don’t say things like… “If I have to take any more of this, my head will explode!”

If you think about the past, you’re thinking it about it now. If you think about the future, you’re thinking about it now. We often create by default because we are getting whatever we are giving our attention to – wanted or unwanted. All the time. With every thought you think. If you want to create a stress-free future, you must do it now. And there will never be a time when it is not now.

Are you living your best life? If not, why not? Are you willing to invest in yourself? Invest in your future? The future is Now. Use your MindSight and take advantage of the power of your subconscious mind! Remember, the Mind Matters!

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Sep 28 2011

Five Steps to a Positive Attitude

Category: Positive ThinkingPatricia @ 8:36 am

1. Choose the good thoughts.

What are you telling yourself? Pay attention to your thoughts and how they affect your body. If it doesn’t feel good, choose another thought.

Think about what you want. Think only in terms of the positive. It is far more powerful to be in favor of something positive rather than to be against something negative. Be “for” peace instead of “against” violence. Be “for” prosperity instead of “against” lack.

2. Praise Yourself

Eliminate negative self-talk! Appreciate your talents and gifts. Acknowledge your skills and abilities; your strengths and positive attributes. Treat yourself with the same loving respect you give to others. Love and accept yourself as you are right now.

Appreciate your body and how it serves you. Daydream and imagine yourself as the ideal…physically, emotionally, mentally. If you can see it, you can be it. The mind doesn’t know the difference between what you imagine and what you perceive as reality.

When you see yourself as healthy and successful, your mind becomes comfortable with it. Your confidence is boosted and you are able to achieve your goals.

3. Practice Gratitude

Note five things every night that you are grateful for. The essence of all you appreciate is constantly flowing into your reality. “This. I want more of this.”

Grateful people report higher levels of positive emotions, vitality and life satisfaction and lower levels of depression and stress. They tend to exercise more and feel better physically.

Robert Emmons, a psych professor at UC Davis found that a 21-day gratitude intervention produced high energy, positive moods, greater sense of feeling connected, more optimistic ratings of one’s life and better sleep duration and quality.

4. Focus on the solution, not the problem.

Einstein said that all of his most important and productive thinking was done by “combinatory play” with “images” in his mind. Thought experiments. Ask a question, Visualize a situation and perform experimental action.

Whatever you are thinking about is literally planning for the future. When you are worrying and doubtful, you are planning for and attracting something you don’t want. Life is a mirror and will reflect back to the thinker what is thought about. Choose the good thoughts.

5. Be present in the Now.

Stay focused on the present moment. Life begins now. Life is happening right now. If you are thinking about the past, you are thinking about it now. If you are thinking about the future, you are thinking about it now. The past and future exist in our thoughts.
Life exists in the moment.

Life is a series of moments. Each and every moment is an opportunity for choice.Focus on what you can do today, right now.
Breathe. All is well.

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Jul 01 2010

Independence Day

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 6:12 pm

Independence Day is a celebration recognizing the freedom of the United States of America, a country of self-determination and sovereignty. Why not make this 4th of July, your own personal day of independence?

Uncle Sam celebrates Independence Day with Patricia in Channel Islands Harbor, Oxnard

Uncle Sam celebrates Independence Day with Patricia

Do you recognize and rejoice in your own personal liberty? Or do you feel trapped or limited? Will you allow yourself the freedom to make the right choices to create joy in your life? Or will you make up some reason why it’s not possible? Do you embrace self-rule and self-government? Or are you influenced by the choices or restrictions of others?

Like all beliefs, your view of personal freedom and liberty is a perception of your subconscious mind. It is a thought that you keep practicing. You can choose to change the thought at any time.

You are completely in control of your freedom as well as your limitations. You set your own boundaries. What limitations have you set on your success and happiness? Would you like to be free of self-imposed limitations? Would you like to create your own Independence Day?

We live our lives based on our perceptions and beliefs, often unaware that there may be a new and different way to approach a situation. Einstein tells us “Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them.”

Our founding fathers created a new way of government and a new way of thinking. They imagined “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness”. We have benefited from their vision and their beliefs.

Why not approach a situation in a different way? Explore the use of powerful mindbody energy techniques to let go of self-imposed limitations. Access the power of your subconscious mind to imagine a future of self-mastery and a new way of being. You deserve to pursue happiness. It’s an inalienable right. Happy Independence Day!

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Mar 22 2010

Miracle of The Mind

Category: Positive ThinkingPatricia @ 7:08 pm

Morris Goodman crashed his plane. The doctors said that his injures were too severe for him to survive. They stated that he would be a vegetable for the rest of his life. He wasn’t able to move, breathe or swallow. He was connected to machines and the only physical movement he could do was to blink.

He was completely consciously aware, and spent days and nights visualizing how it would feel to walk out of the hospital with his own legs. During the months spent at the hospital he kept telling himself that he would be out of it “before Christmas”. And that’s exactly what happened, just before Christmas.

The doctors dubbed him “The Miracle Man”, and never understood how what they witnessed was possible.

There are many documented cases of people who, with the power of positive thinking and positive feelings, have eliminated deadly physical conditions. Medicine is unable to explain it scientifically, but at the same time doctors and scientists accept it as a fact: “miracles” happen.

Albert Einstein said, “There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle”.

Either way you decide to live, you are right. You create your reality.

I can help you to use the power of your subconscious mind, the 88% of your mind that controls your behavior. I can help you to focus on positive thoughts and positive emotions to create a more positive reality. I can help you to tell yourself that anything you set your mind to accomplish is possible.

Be realistic; plan for a miracle.

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Oct 29 2009

Align Your Thought Field

Category: Energy Body,Meridian TappingPatricia @ 10:46 am

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) (see is an unconventional method which offers remarkable results. It can be used to release negative thoughts and emotions and reinforce positive affirmations and beliefs. You can let go of limiting beliefs that keep you from living the life you want. EFT can be used to focus and choose positive thoughts by affirming what you want. Since you are only able to process one emotion at a time, you must make a choice. EFT helps you to make that choice energetically.

 EFT is a form of Energy Psychology, Meridian Therapy, or Thought Field Therapy. It is an obvious extension of Einstein’s discovery that ALL matter, including the human body, is composed of energy. When we experience a negative emotion or physical discomfort or pain, it is because there has been a disruption in our energy system. The thought energy affects the emotional energy which affects the physical energy. EFT works by tapping on a series of points on the body which correspond to acupuncture points in the energy meridian system. Tapping on the conduits between the energy body and the physical body releases blockages and limitations and enhances the well-being and functioning of the individual. EFT is an emotional version of acupuncture, except you stimulate the meridian points by tapping on them with your fingertips. Tuning into a problem or a limiting belief can be done by simply thinking bout it. Thinking will bring about the energy disruptions involved which then …and only then… can be balanced by tapping the 9-Step Sequence.

 To release negative emotions, rate each of the negative beliefs or experiences using a number scale from 1 to 10, giving each a rating about how bad it makes you feel – a subjective unit of discomfort (SUD). Take a deep breath, focus on your issue and create a set-up phrase, which identifies the problem.

 “Even though I have …this problem… I deeply and completely accept myself.”

 Examples of “this problem” may be something like:

 “Even though my father told me I was lazy…”

“Even though I’ve failed before…”

“Even though I’m overweight…”

“Even though I’m unworthy…”

“Even though I’m really angry with my husband…”

 Using two fingers begin by tapping on the first spot. Either tap on the thymus gland located at the center of the breastbone, or tap on the side of the hand at the karate chop point. While tapping, focus on your issue and breathe deeply. Do this while repeating the set-up phrase three times. It doesn’t matter if you tap on either your right or left side. Or you can use both hands while tapping through the 9-Step Sequence; tapping on both sides of the body at the same time.

 Now, while saying “releasing this problem”…”don’t need this problem”…” letting go of this problem”, tap on the remaining spots of the 9-Step Sequence: 

2. inner eyebrow

3. outer eyebrow

4. under eye

5. under nose

6. chin

7. collarbone

8. under arm

9. crown of head.

 For a particularly intense issue, continue tapping on the outer side of the thumb, pointer, middle and little fingers, as well as the karate chop point on the side of the hand. Evaluate your SUD and continue the process until you have reached a level of comfort. You may also use the 9-Step Sequence to release any unwanted emotions at the time you are experiencing the feeling. It is not necessary to verbally express and identify the emotions…just tap. To reinforce and choose positive behaviors and affirmations, use the 9-Step Sequence to tap as you focus on your choices. For example, after you have “released anxiety” you can then “choose to be calm”. You can also choose confidence, focus, motivation, joy, freedom, empowerment or any other positive emotion. After you have written your affirmations, take a moment to tap through the 9-Step Sequence while you read and focus on your affirmation. Notice if you are energetically aligned with your desires. If not, take the opportunity to tap away any limitations.

 There are many ways to fine tune the procedure. The set-up phrase, identifying the problem or formulating the affirmation or choice, is a very important factor. Please contact a Certified EFT Practitioner for assistance. Belief in the process is unnecessary. EFT is like gravity or electricity. It works whether you believe in it or not. In order to achieve results, you just have to do it. Persistently and consistently.

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