Sep 14 2017

Turning Mistakes Into Lessons

Category: Choices,Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 12:03 pm

 

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We all make mistakes. It’s the way we learn. We try. We fail. We try again. Each time we do better because we know better. There is no need to regret your mistakes! Mistakes are not only tolerable, but are actually desirable. Einstein says, “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”

I’m sure that you can recall a time when you made a mistake… a mistake that taught you something. Even though it may have been unpleasant, you learned something from the mistake. I want you to begin to appreciate the fact that without having made mistakes like that, you would have never learned and progressed. We learn more from doing things wrong than from doing things right. Mistakes have consequences. Sometimes those consequences are immediate. Other times, the consequences may take years to surface.

Your imperfect mistakes have been perfect opportunities for a wealth of learnings; an indispensable foundation to build on. So don’t be mistaken about mistakes; the more unpleasant it is, the more beneficial the lesson will be. Paulo Coelho says, You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.”

In order to turn your mistakes into lessons, it’s good to consider a few things. You need to consider the story you are telling yourself about the mistake. What role are you playing? Perpetrator? Victim? Hero?

 

This is what happened. Allow yourself to look at what occurred. Become an outside observer. Consider the factors leading up to the mistake. Consider what you believe happened. Consider the beliefs of others.


This is what I did.
Consider your actions and why you thought it was the right action at the time. Or maybe you knew it wasn’t the right action and you did it anyway. Consider why. Did you act consciously and mindfully? Did negative emotions affect your actions? Accept responsibility for your actions.


This has been the cost.
Consider the negative consequences of your actions. How were you affected? How were others affected? Was the cost too much to pay? Accept responsibility for the cost.


This is what I learned.
Consider your thoughts, beliefs and actions.  Understand why you did what you did. Look for the positive consequences of your new perspective. Accept yourself.


This is what I could do differently in the future.
Consider other choices you could have made. Consider the beliefs that led up to the choice that led to a mistake. Acknowledge your ability to respond in different ways and to make better choices in similar circumstances.

 

I’d like you to consider the benefit of having the courage to be imperfect. Human beings are not perfect. It really is all right to be human… and to make some mistakes…so that you can learn and grow. Make amazing mistakes, fantastic and interesting mistakes. Just do the best you can do.

 

 

 

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Jul 19 2017

Potent Side Effects of Generosity

Category: ChoicesPatricia @ 8:55 am

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After 9 surgeries for a bad heart, Andy Mackie was prescribed more than 15 medications. The side effects were miserable. And the misery was costing at least $600 every month. Andy decided that he didn’t want to spend the remaining days of his life feeling miserable, so he decided to stop all his medications. The doctors said he would die within a year. They were wrong.

Andy loved music, so he decided to use the money he would have spent on his heart medicines to buy 300 harmonicas to give to children. He contacted the local schools and set up classes to teach the children how to play. Mackie said, “I tell them music is a gift, you give it away – you give it away and you get to keep it forever.”

And when he didn’t die the next month, he decided to do the same thing. He bought a few hundred more. And every month after that, Andy Mackie continued to buy harmonicas, give them to children and provide lessons. He forgot about dying. His efforts were recognized in 2005 at the Northwest Folklife Festival where he set the Guinness World Record for the largest harmonica band ever to perform in one place.

Thirteen years after he stopped his medications, Andy Mackie finally passed away at the age of 72. During those final years, he gave away 20,000 harmonicas, taught hundreds of children to play them, personally built 5500 strum sticks and created a foundation to continue his dream. He lived his life with joy.

What can we learn from Andy? I think he is a perfect example of thinking about what you want…instead of what you don’t want. Andy could have accepted the fate that his doctors decided. He could have chosen a life of misery and pain, waiting for death. Instead, he chose love instead of fear. He chose to think about what he loved. He chose to act on his thoughts. He recognized how his actions affected others. He was joyful in his work. His body continued to serve him because he believed in life more than he believed in death.

How can you use the lessons Andy taught? Look outside of yourself. How can others benefit from your generosity? What do you have to give? Consider that although generosity is an action that is done without an expected return, in that giving, you may also receive great benefits. What you put forth comes back to you.

It appears that Andy Mackie did not have a bad heart after all. His generosity came from a heart that was filled with the love of music and the spirit of giving. For Andy, giving that love to the children was the very best medicine of all.

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Jan 10 2017

Getting To Be Healthy

Category: Health & Wellness,Meridian TappingPatricia @ 11:51 am

 

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Well-being makes you jump for joy!

 

Healing is not nearly as complex, difficult and mystical as we’ve been taught to believe. Healing doesn’t necessarily require outside help, prescription drugs or a doctor’s advice. Healing is an inside job. Healing happens when we minister to ourselves; when we attend to our needs. Consider this: healthy = heal-thy (self). In order to improve or repair our health, we must give ourselves time to mend. It is our own responsibility to nourish and nurture ourselves.

Healing doesn’t happen by itself. Change requires effort and commitment. Goals and plans may be difficult to achieve. But so what! Stop whining! This is your life! Your life has value. It is worth living up to the fullest potential. In order for optimal change or healing to happen, four essential elements need to be present.

 

 
1 – You need to decide that you deserve to heal. Whether the healing is physical or emotional; whether it is mental or spiritual, you deserve to heal. If you need, forgive yourself. You need to tell yourself that it is possible to change. You need to set an intention to get out of your own way. Often we sabotage ourselves and block the process of healing. First, accept that you are the only one who can grant yourself permission to heal.
2 – You need to become aware of the problem; to understand the cause of the problem. Once you become aware, you can not become unaware. You become more conscious of your behaviors; your actions and reactions. When you become aware, you are able to let go of blocks and limitations. If you don’t recognize that something is standing in your way, you continue to trip over it.
3 – You need to know what you don’t want. When you recognize what you don’t want, you are better able to gain clarity around what you do want. You are then able to focus on new possibilities and options. Your perceptions change. When you change your perceptions, you change your actions and behaviors.
4 – You need to release the old in order to realign yourself with the new intentions. What does that mean? Your thoughts, beliefs and actions carry an energetic vibration. Consider how you feel when you are fearful. That is an energetic vibration. Now consider how you feel when you are joyful. That is also an energetic vibration. Feel the difference? Using energy modalities such as Emotional Freedom Techniques and other meridian based therapies help to release the old energetic resonance and realign your energy system with the new intentions. I can help with this. I can teach you how to do it.

 

To be healthy is to be whole – spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically. When you are healthy, you are in a state of balance and harmony. Many of us want to get healthy. We want less stress. We want to exercise more. We want to eat more nutritious food. We want to lose weight. We want to rest. We want to let go of toxic relationships. We want to take better care of ourselves. We want more fun; more love. Give yourself permission. Set the intention now. Getting healthy is a good thing. Getting to be healthy is even better.

 

 

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Sep 08 2016

Forgive…A Little Bit

Category: Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 6:48 pm

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Recently, a young woman shared a story about her friend. She was visibly distraught and very concerned about his wellbeing. He was just 46 years old and was in hospital with kidney failure. His condition was now life-threatening. How did this happen? And how did it happen so quickly? Decisions needed to be made about dialysis and future treatments. What was going to happen next? I inquired about his emotional state of mind. In particular I asked if he had been angry about something…if he had been pissed off. Her response confirmed my intuitive understanding of how this may have developed. She told me that yes, he was angry. He didn’t get along with his family. He felt judged and abandoned. He was quick to judge others and felt a need to make right any wrongs he felt were being inflicted on himself or his friends. Basically, life was pissing him off. The kidney is the organ of the physical body responsible for filtering the blood to sift out toxic waste products and extra water before it is eliminated through the urinary tract. If the toxins and extra fluids build up to such a degree that the organ is unable to process them, the organ will fail. It is vital that we process our emotions and then let them go.

The mind-body connection is a powerful component of health and well-being. We have come to understand that our thoughts and emotions play a very large part in this. The science of behavioral epigenetics studies the effect of both positive and negative emotional states. These studies show the influence of the emotions on the physical body and their impact on a cellular level. From this research, The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention states that there is an emotional component in 85% of all illnesses.  In other words, in 85% of all cases, there is no organic/physical cause for the illness. The illness is caused by negative, toxic thoughts and emotions.

Often the emotional component is based on forgiveness or the lack of it. When you forgive someone, you benefit; your physical body benefits. Forgiveness happens naturally when you let go of resentment and anger. When you relinquish the desire to punish someone or plot an act of revenge, forgiveness happens. The natural state of forgiveness is basically an absence of the need for revenge or the desire to hurt someone. Maybe you can’t even imagine forgiving someone but can you imagine forgiving just a little bit? How about just 1% forgiveness? It’s a start. You can still hold on the other 99% resentment if you want. You’re making the choice.

You might tell yourself, “Even though I’m very angry and upset about what SoandSo did, I choose to let go of just 1% of my resentment. And I give myself permission to hold on to everything else.” If you do this, you will probably find that you are able to let go of that 1% because you were allowed to retain the rest. Righteous indignation has a certain appeal. And if you let go of that 1%, you are in a better place than when you started. You’ve begun the process. You can let go of another 1% tomorrow and the next day and the day after that. Letting go of anger and resentment guarantees forgiveness. You owe it to yourself and to your body to begin the process.  Ralph Waldo Emerson tells us, “For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.” And apparently, you may give up a whole lot more than that. A lack of peace of mind and a lack of forgiveness can be deadly.

 

 

 

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Aug 23 2016

Expiration Date

Category: ChoicesPatricia @ 7:28 pm

 

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Are you familiar with the story of Stamatis Moraitis? Stamatis was a Greek immigrant living in the United States. In 1976 he was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer and told he had only “6 to 9 months to live”. He was offered aggressive treatment but he refused chemotherapy and medication that was prescribed. Apparently a number of doctors concurred with the diagnosis and agreed that treatment would not save his life.  Considering the high cost of health care and funerals in America, he decided to save his money and chose a different kind of therapy.

Stamatis and his wife packed their bags and headed back to the island of his birth, Ikaria, to spend what he thought would be his final months alive. He settled in with his elderly parents in a small house on a vineyard, where he reconnected with his community and re-established friendships. He played games and drank wine and sat in the sunshine.  He started going to his old church and felt a renewal of his faith. After six months, he planted a vegetable garden and began tending the vineyard. He made himself useful. And he didn’t die.

Not only did he not die after six months… he was actually feeling better than ever. He enjoyed the love and company of his wife and took a lot of naps. He spent time outdoors enjoying the coastal air. He read books. He followed no schedule and rarely looked at his watch. He laughed with his friends and family. He ate food fresh from the earth and drank wine from the grapes he grew in the vineyard.

At one point, 25 years after his diagnosis, Stamatis went back to the United States to ask his doctors what had happened. How did he recover from terminal lung cancer? He wanted “to see if the doctors could explain it” to him. He wasn’t able to ask that question because all the doctors were dead. Almost 40 years after his doctor-prescribed “expiration date”, Stamatis died peacefully – and not from cancer – in 2013. He was 102 years old.

So, why am I telling you this story? Maybe you have been diagnosed with a terminal illness and given your estimated time. Maybe you love someone with an upcoming “expiration date”. Maybe you can change your beliefs about what is possible. And when those beliefs change, maybe you can find hope. Maybe you can change your habits to include the medicine of love…faith, family and friends. Maybe you can embrace a lifestyle of healthy food, sunshine and useful physical activity. Maybe you can change that diagnosis.

When Stamatis chose to focus on the simple joys of life, his body responded by embracing more of life. Happy feeds the cells of your body. Love nurtures and nourishes. When he began to live as if every day may be his last day, he began to live mindfully in the moment. Stamatis followed his heart. We can all learn from him.

 

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Jun 21 2016

Is Your Mind Hurting Your Body?

Category: Recommended Reading & ListeningPatricia @ 3:11 pm

 

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The mind-body connection is a well-established fact. When we think thoughts that are harmful to us on an emotional level, we create discomfort and disease in our physical body. We are hurting ourselves all the time. And sometimes we aren’t even aware that we are doing it. Perhaps you’ve overheard someone say, “This job is killing me.” Or maybe they said, “I am sick and tired of the way my spouse treats me.” Maybe you’ve said it yourself.

Are you aware that The Center for Disease Control states, there is an emotional component in 85% of all illnesses?  In other words, there is no organic cause for the illness. Eighty-five percent! Science tells us that we are capable of creating illness. We can harm ourselves. I think this is a very encouraging fact. It means that we are also capable of creating wellness! The power of the mind is quite remarkable. Often miraculous!

In Dr. Lissa Rankin’s book Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself she cites much data that supports this. There are two examples I find fascinating. One is referenced by Anthony Robbin who describes a case of a split personality. One personality was diabetic; the other was not. How can that be? They shared a body which was exposed to the same conditions and diet. One personality exhibited normal blood sugars but when she shifted to the diabetic alter ego, her blood sugars rose. When the personality flipped, so did the blood sugar levels.

Another case was described by Psychiatrist Bennett Braun, author of The Treatment of Multiple Personality Disorder. In this instance, a young man named Timmy exhibited allergic reactions with one personality while the other personality was not affected.  When one personality drank orange juice, Timmy would break into blistering hives. If the allergic personality was in the midst of an allergy attack and he shifted back to the non-allergic personality, the hives would instantly disappear. Again, both personalities live in the same body. What makes the flip?

Most of us only have one mind and one personality living in our body. But that mind/personality has many aspects. One aspect may want to eat chocolate cake. Another aspect may want to have a slender figure. Both aspects are controlled by one mind. The mind is able to make the choice. Your mind is in control of your conscious actions. But sometimes your emotions get tangled. You may feel sad. You may believe that chocolate cake will make you feel happy. And when your emotions enter the picture, your subconscious mind is directing your actions and reactions. Your conscious desire for a slender figure is overtaken by your subconscious belief that food will satisfy your emotional need. Perhaps when emotional needs are ignored, distorted and out of control, the mind feels the need to split apart.

I invite you to consider your level of wellness. Is there a part of you that is suffering from illness? If so, trust that there is also a part of you that is not. There is a part of you that knows what you need to do to heal. If you’ve lost touch with that part, I can help you get back together. You can make a flip and remain there…by the power of your own mind…by the power of your own thoughts.

 

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Jun 07 2016

Tangled Hearts

Category: Spiritual ExplorationPatricia @ 10:09 am

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Friendships are vital to our well-being. We need our people. It has been said, A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words. But like all relationships…because people change, friendships change. Friendships require attention and commitment. And sometimes, one or both of you loses that connection. Growing apart doesn’t change the past. You have grown together and your hearts are tangled. Which is worse? When a good friend moves away? Or when you lose touch with a good friend who lives near you?

In the case of a friend moving away, you have no choice. You can’t stop by to visit or get together for lunch. You can’t plan on going dancing or taking a hike. Your options are limited. You have no choice about seeing that person face to face if they live somewhere else. They may be far across the world. You have no control over the situation. The friend has moved away because it was their choice. It is their life’s journey. You accept. You miss them but you wish them well. Together you plan on how you will visit; the ways you will communicate when you are no longer close in the physical world. The friend who moves away is not moving away from you. They are moving toward their own dreams and reality. Even though you will miss each other, you are able to wish each other well. You can laugh and cry and appreciate your time together. You can recognize your value to each other. Give a kiss or a hug. Say farewell. Until we meet again.

What about when your friend is close by? You may not have seen each other in a long time. Perhaps you haven’t even spoken. Maybe you wonder why or maybe you know why. But in this case, your options are unlimited. You have many choices. Distance is not an issue. Time is. You have many opportunities to plan to be together. Yet, you are losing touch. Are you too busy? Are you uncomfortable? Are you bored? Is it because the relationship doesn’t matter? What if it does matter? Scanning Facebook posts is not the same as being a friend in the real world. If the friendship matters, do not neglect it. Honor that heart connection. Consider your feelings if you were made aware that your friend had passed away before you made that call. It can happen. What if there were things left unsaid? What if you no longer had the opportunity to speak your heart? What if your choices were taken away?

When you reach out to someone you love, you reinforce the heart connection. Maybe the relationship doesn’t serve you anymore. Maybe you’re done with it and you’d like to “move away” from it. I suggest that you give yourself the opportunity to give the friendship a proper burial and the respect it deserves. Tell your friend that you are grateful for the memories you share. Thank them for being a part of your life. Wish them well and then send them on their way. Know that every relationship serves a purpose. Our friends help us to grow and become better. When we witness their life choices, we are able to understand experiences outside of our own self. Most of all, friends help us to learn a little more about love. Loving more is a priceless gift. When you honor the friendship and let it go with love and understanding, your heart connection remains.

When you speak from your heart, you also give your friend the opportunity to do the same. You may find that they may not want to let you go. They may want to reinforce that connection. You may want that too. You’ll find that when you speak your truth, you don’t lose friends… you learn who the real ones are. The Forever Friends. But for those friendships that are not meant to be forever… say good bye to your friendships when they have come to an end. When you say good bye, you are saying a contraction of “God be with you” (godbwye). You are in my heart. And all is well.

 

 

 

 

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May 03 2016

Three Simple Rules

Category: ChoicesPatricia @ 9:38 am
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We all have rules we live by. A rule is a regulation or a principle that governs conduct or behavior. There are specific rules to every sport or game. In baseball, three strikes and you are out. There are rules that govern driving. We all know that the rule is to stop at a stop sign. In All the Little Live Things, Wallace Stegner says,  says, “It is the beginning of wisdom when you recognize that the best you can do is choose which rules you want to live by, and it’s persistent and aggravated imbecility to pretend you can live without any.” Rules are a necessary part of life. They help us to feel safe. We know what to expect in a given situation based upon the accepted rules of the society or group.

I encourage everyone to follow three simple rules. Even though they are simple, sometimes they are hard to follow. When you break any one of these three rules, you suffer. You punish yourself. You are the authority who enforces the rules. You are the one who understands the rules of conduct for any activity in your life. You know the rules you follow when there is nobody watching. Author Robert Heinlein says, “I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do.”

It’s a good idea to reconsider the rules you’ve been following. You may find that some of the rules are nothing more than old habits. You may want to consider adding some new rules to your life.  If no one has taught you any of these rules, or if someone has taught you a different rule that isn’t working for you; you may want to consider adopting my three simple rules. I know that you would benefit, so please give them a try.

1. Love Yourself. Loving yourself allows you to love others. It allows peace of mind and a sense of contentment. When you love yourself, you respect yourself; you respect your body and your life. You honor your thoughts and feelings and feel worthy of expressing yourself. When you love yourself, you are more understanding of your limitations and more aware of your strengths. Loving yourself allows you to love and connect with all of humanity. It enhances your compassion for others.

2. Accept Yourself. Accepting yourself as you are right now is empowering. Accepting yourself allows a sense of value and worth regardless of your size, age, weight or level of fitness; regardless of your job, your status, your level of education, your wealth. Accepting yourself allows you to celebrate the glorious and unique being that you are. It also allows you to be more accepting and tolerant of others.

3. Pleasure Yourself. Pleasuring yourself is an instinctive act. As human beings, our lives are based on a pain/pleasure reward system. We are programmed to seek out physical, sensual pleasure; whether through food, sunshine or sex, dancing, singing, and laughing. The more we experience pleasure, the more pleasure we can experience. Each time we experience pleasure, we literally create neural pathways which induce the pleasure response throughout our bodies. As we experience pleasure, within our brain we “click” our amygdala forward to the frontal lobes, which results in and reinforces more creative and imaginative thinking. Pleasure also produces the hormonal release of endorphins, creating a healthier body and a sense of well being.Following the rules can make your body, mind and spirit feel good. Each one of us must embrace the secret, private pleasures that feed our souls and enrich our lives. We must love ourselves enough to accept what gives us pleasure and actively seek it out. It’s simple.

 

 

 

 

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Mar 08 2016

Teachers Can Be Frustrating!

Category: Positive ThinkingPatricia @ 2:12 pm
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Are there people in your life who are creating difficult situations for you? Are you unhappy with their behaviors? Are you frustrated by them? Maybe you’re disappointed. You expected more.

When we love another person, we are affected by their behavior, actions and life decisions. If your child is suffering from drug dependence, you suffer their pain. If your roommate is irresponsible, you may need to pay all of the rent and suffer financial instability. If your mate ignores health problems, you may suffer the loss of your loved one. When we suffer because of the thoughtless and inconsiderate actions of others, we get frustrated. And when we get frustrated, it’s difficult to feel loving towards those individuals who are causing our pain. We get a little cranky. We lose patience.

I like to remind myself that everybody is doing the best they can. Sure, some people appear to be doing a really bad job but I don’t think anybody wants to be a failure. Nobody wants to be an alcoholic or morbidly obese or unemployed. No one wants to feel fear or shame or grief. Life happens and we respond to situations based on our subconscious programming. We react the way we believe we are supposed to react. We make decisions based on what we believe to be the truth. Everybody has their own truth…their own reality.

Since I want my reality to be peaceful and loving, I strive for compassion towards everyone. I recognize that we are all on our own soul’s journey. Each being I am blessed to encounter on this journey is a treasure…a teacher. When you are annoyed with someone, you are taught to be more patient and understanding. If you have been abandoned, you have been given the opportunity to gain independence and self-reliance. When you feel angry, you have the option to exercise compassion and forgiveness. Relationships teach. We grow or expand our consciousness through interactions with others. It may be painful to experience a relationship where someone exerts power over you and creates fear. But that relationship allows you to learn how to take your power back. It teaches you courage and reinforces your self-determination. Learning that you can’t control others allows you the strength to let go.

When we can look outside of ourselves, we can see that each one of us is struggling to figure out how to be in the world. We’re all the same. One. Nick Polizzi, Director of The Sacred Science offers the “Just Like Me” Mantra.” He suggests using it when you are frustrated with an individual.

Just like me, you are seeking some happiness in your life.

Just like me, you are trying to avoid suffering in your life.

Just like me, you have known sadness.

Just like me, you want to be loved.

Just like me, you were once an innocent child.

Just like me, you are a spirit on a journey.

Be good to one another. We’re all in this together. You are just like Me. We have a lot to learn.

 

 

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Oct 15 2015

Breathe More Eat Less

Category: Weight ManagementPatricia @ 1:25 pm

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Studies show that just twenty minutes a day focused on calming thoughts is very beneficial. It decreases the risk of hypertension, reduces chronic pain, and can reverse the loss of brain cells that occur from prolonged stress. It even turns off the mechanisms that increase your appetite! Sitting, breathing and not thinking can actually help you to lose weight. Imagine that!

Your breathing is controlled by your subconscious mind, part of the sympathetic nervous system. You don’t have to think about breathing. It just happens. But that can be a problem. When you get stressed, your breathing changes. Your breath feels different. It becomes more shallow and faster. It moves from your lower belly to high in your chest. In the meantime, the stress is causing your adrenal glands to pump out the hormones needed to manage your anxiety. You are now in fight-flight reaction, ready to attack the saber-toothed tiger or run back into your cave. Your bloodstream is filled with the toxins of fear and your muscles are tense.

After that ordeal, you are hungry. Over time the adrenaline and cortisol hormones that are released create a buildup of belly fat. Isn’t it ironic that weight loss plans cause stress because they involve changes in behavior? And scheduling time for a workout adds even more stress? And then there is the stress of realizing that your pants are too tight! Why does this happen? Thousands of years ago, when people were faced with starvation, the stress would activate this fat trigger to keep us alive. Unfortunately, our bodies have not adapted their reactions to modern day life. They can’t tell the difference between life-or-death situations or traffic on the way to work. Whether it is physical, emotional or mental, conscious or subconscious stress, it releases cortisol into your body. Cortisol makes you gain weight and stops you from losing weight.

Breathing is not stressful! In fact, it is not only absolutely essential to life, it is enjoyable! Try it right now. Take a big deep breath. Inhale as fully as you possibly can. And then exhale fully. And again. Doesn’t that feel good?

Sitting comfortably and focusing on your breath is actually a form of meditation or self-hypnosis. It helps you to center yourself. You always benefit from going within and getting in touch with the human being who is you. Allowing this time to breathe in balance and harmony between body and mind is very beneficial for creative thinking and intuitive knowledge. You may not be able to devote twenty minutes every day to this practice, but surely you can give yourself at least five!

As the holiday season of over-indulgence begins, I suggest you become more mindful of your breathing. And also become more aware of how you are nourishing yourself. Take the time to start each meal with five deep breaths. Become mindful of the food; note the aroma, the colors and textures. Practice a moment of gratitude for the abundance of the earth. Set an intention about wellness and health. Breathe in the fullness of life. Breathe out any stress.

 

 

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Jul 09 2015

Tending the Garden

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 12:58 pm

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Summer is here! We have just celebrated the Summer Solstice, the longest day of the year. The name of the event literally means “sun stands still”. The sun reaches the farthest point in its journey, pauses and then turns back towards the equator. We are given more light. Longer days. It almost feels like we have more time. We are busy, like the bees.

Even though we live in a world far removed from the natural rhythm of the seasons, it would be wise to pause and consider our connection to the passage of time and the ways of nature. We can look to the farmer for understanding. First of all, the farmer believes in the future. That’s why he plants a seed. There would be no point in planting the seed if there was not a belief and a faith that the seed would sprout, flourish and come into form. The farmer also chooses the type of seed he wants to harvest. He doesn’t plant corn and expect to harvest tomatoes. The farmer tends to the seed. He focuses his energy on it. He waters it and feeds it and ensures that it has adequate light. He never loses sight of his goal, imagining the abundant harvest as he watches the plant grow. The farmer works with the forces of nature and is in balance with the changing of the seasons.

“Your mind is a garden. Your thoughts are the seeds. You can either plant flowers or deal with the weeds.” ~anonymous

Each one of us is tending the garden of our mind, planting seeds all the time. And we all harvest what we have planted. A positive thought is like a flower. It’s beautiful to look at and brings a joyful experience. A negative thought is like a weed. It interferes with the flower, crowding it and distracting from its beauty. Your focus on the thought determines the outcome you will experience. A simple formula of positive thought equals positive experience; and negative thought equals negative experience. This is the way your garden grows.

Just like the farmer planting the seed, when you plant a thought it is a conscious action. You decide to focus on that thought. You believe it is possible. Your conscious mind is ruled by belief. This belief is based on what you have observed, or your individual perception of reality about who you are and how life is supposed to be. Belief creates faith. Your subconscious mind is ruled by faith and will act according to that faith. If your subconscious mind does not have faith in the outcome, it will not be possible. In Think & Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill states, “Faith is a state of mind which may be induced or created by affirmation…Repetition of orders to your subconscious mind is the only known method of voluntary development of the emotion of faith”. The farmer has faith in the harvest.

If you’ve lost faith in the seeds you’ve planted…things like losing weight or changing habits or achieving goals in relationships or career…perhaps it’s time to take advantage of the long days of summer to visualize and affirm the harvest of your life. You have the ability to convince your subconscious mind to take action. Positive faith can be enhanced. When the subconscious mind is convinced, it begins to act. Hypnosis is an extremely effective way to clear the past and get rid of the weeds that are cluttering your garden. It is also a proven method of selectively planting seeds which will blossom into a beautiful life experience. Sometimes a farmer needs new tools.

 

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May 19 2015

Faith & Experience

Category: Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 12:49 pm

Apacheta on Mt. Munay

Years ago, Bill Moyers interviewed Joseph Campbell, an American mythologist, writer and lecturer. Moyers asked him, “Are you a man of faith?” Campbell laughed and responded, “I don’t need faith; I have experience.” When you have experienced, you move beyond faith to a place of knowing.

Experience teaches us what to believe in. If we experience that a man is untruthful, we now have knowledge. We then trust that we cannot believe him. We have faith that he will repeat his actions. Faith is trust, confidence and belief. Experience is knowledge and history.

Your life experiences have taught you about the way life is. That is, the way life is… for you. These experiences and beliefs have created your lifescript. From this, you know where you can place your faith. Your subconscious mind is ruled by faith. This faith is created by years of believing in the way things are. This is not necessarily truth, but it is individual belief based on particular life experiences.

Your personal subconscious memory decides what you can expect to happen. If you have experienced failure, your subconscious will come to expect failure, unless the memories can be cleared and new expectations programmed. You can consciously choose to direct yourself to create new beliefs. Napoleon Hill states in Think and Grow Rich that “Faith is a state of mind which may be induced or created by affirmation…repetition of orders to your subconscious mind is the only known method of voluntary development of the emotion of faith.”

The only way faith can be demonstrated and proven is by taking action. This level of faith is exhibited in self-confidence and a positive belief in your abilities to accomplish your goals. It is vital to understand that each of us is limited only by our beliefs or our faith. There are no limitations; only limited thinking.

By consciously directing your subconscious mind through hypnosis or meditation, you are able to let go of limited thinking. The mind does not know the difference between what you imagine and what you perceive to be reality. If you become comfortable with something through your imagination, you then become comfortable with it in your reality. You change your faith in the way things are. You have knowledge of a different experience.

Life is a series of experiences. One experience after another based on the faith of what is to be expected. Has some part of your life experience created negative beliefs or faith in limited success? Would you like to make some revisions in your lifescript to create new and better experiences? You can. All you need do is give yourself permission to change your perception about the way things are.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Apr 21 2015

Earth Day – Honoring the Great Mother

Category: Spiritual ExplorationPatricia @ 9:40 am

Wheel on Mt. Munay - South

As a community, we have officially declared April 22 to be Earth Day. On this day, many of us will participate in an activity designed to connect us with taking care of our planet. Earth Day was established in 1970 and achieved a rare political alignment, enlisting support from Republicans and Democrats, rich and poor, business and labor, city dwellers and farmers. The first Earth Day led to the creation of the U. S. Environmental Protection Agency and the passage of the Clean Air, Clean Water, and Endangered Species Acts. Earth Day is the largest civic event in the world, celebrated simultaneously around the globe by people of all backgrounds, faiths and nationalities. If we don’t take care of the planet, she cannot take care of us. And we are all in this together!

A childhood immersed in the world of Mother Nature, I grew up in Connecticut on four acres of woods. Tall and mighty oaks, graceful maples, stunning white birches formed a canopy where I played with the fairies amidst the lady slippers and moss of the forest floor. Our property overlooked a salt-water river where I swam off the dock and dangled bait to catch the crabs and fish. Seasons in New England offered a taste of the grand buffet of abundance offered by our Earth. The colors alone are beyond magnificent – from the green showcase of spring awakening; the brilliant blue of summer’s glorious skies; the outrageous red landscape of fall; to the quiet surrender of winter’s blanket of white. I watched the birds fly south in the grey skies and then listened to their joyful song when they returned to their ancestral home. The serpents displayed an array of patterns which taught me to distinguish those who could cause me harm. Squirrels, raccoons, deer, rabbits, chipmunks, skunks shared my world along with cats, dogs and horses. The animals taught me about life and death; instinct and survival. I learned about collective consciousness when I watched the ants build and defend their homes. The North Star was a guiding light in the heavens. I chewed on sweet grasses, drank nectar from the honeysuckle vines and feasted on the wild raspberries. I spit watermelon seeds into the fertile earth of the garden and watched the vines appear. I wandered in solitude in the woods and along the shore and I knew that I was a part of it all. One.

It’s not surprising that my spiritual path is the way of the Shaman. A Shaman acts on behalf of humanity to foster harmony and balance with Nature. We dream the world into being for the good of all concerned. There is a reverence for Earth and an attunement with the cycles of the seasons, the sun, the moon and the cosmic energies. Initiated as a Pampa Mesayoq, I practice being in alignment with caring for the environment. Honoring Pachamama, our mother and all her creatures – the two-legged, the four-legged, the creepy crawlers, the plant people, the stone people, the furred, the finned, the winged ones, all of our relations – matters because it is a reverence for life.

My message for Earth Day is this: We are one. We are connected. Do something nice for your Mother! She gives you everything you need, including life itself! When you honor her, you honor your life. And most importantly, you honor your children and your children’s children. You make a statement that your action is a belief in the future. Come into right relationship with your true mother, Mother Earth, Mother Nature, Gaia, Pachamama, Parvati, Terra, the Cosmic Mother. Earth Day is something to celebrate Every Day.

 

 

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Mar 24 2015

How to Stop Your Head From Exploding!

Category: Positive ThinkingPatricia @ 12:20 pm

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Einstein tells us that “Imagination is more important than knowledge. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.” What are you imagining? Are you thinking about what you want or about what you don’t want? The life you imagine is the life you live!

Do you realize you have a choice about what you are thinking? And you get to make that choice… one thought at a time. In 1994, I didn’t know I could make a choice. I didn’t know that I had the power to control my thoughts. Instead, I let them control me.

It was a very stressful time. The Northridge earthquake…perhaps some of you remember. Well, I experienced some personal aftershocks. My husband was injured. It was a minor injury but there were complications. Flesh-eating bacteria! Eleven Days of ICU. Survival not guaranteed. And even though my prayers were answered, there was recovery and rehab and the stress didn’t end.

During that time, I would say to anyone who was listening, “If I have to take any more of this, my head is going to explode.” In November, it happened. I had a mini-stroke. A T.I.A. A little explosion left me with the inability to speak or move. Distorted time. After a moment or two or… an eternity, it passed. I re-wired. I was one of the lucky ones. I recovered completely. Stress didn’t kill me… but it did inspire me to learn better ways to cope with it.

Are you suffering from stress? Are you thinking about things that you don’t want to happen? Are you worrying about the future? Napoleon Hill says “If you don’t control what you think, you can’t control what you do.”

With more than 12 years of clinical practice, I’ve developed a lot of tools to help you take control of your thoughts. I know secrets! I’d like to share 3 tips to help you let go of some stress.

  1. Use your inner eye to create your outer world.

Your imagination uses your mind to think and your heart to feel. When you focus on what you don’t want, you feel stress, anxiety or worry. Worrying is literally planning for things you don’t want to happen! When you focus on what you do want, you feel good, empowered, and confident. Anything you want to do or have or be is possible. Positive thoughts have a positive effect. Make a choice! The mind doesn’t know the difference between what is real and what is imaginary.

  1. Thoughts are powerful. Think thoughts of gratitude.

Become more aware of people, places and things which affect your life experience in a positive way. When you pay attention, you experience more appreciation. Make note of the positive things happening in your everyday life and expect more of the same. Look for the happy place! Recognize and appreciate that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped fo

  1. You are a creator. You create with every thought. And you do it Now.

Whatever you are thinking about, you are creating. You are literally broadcasting “this…bring me more of this…” So, don’t say things like… “If I have to take any more of this, my head will explode!”

If you think about the past, you’re thinking it about it now. If you think about the future, you’re thinking about it now. We often create by default because we are getting whatever we are giving our attention to – wanted or unwanted. All the time. With every thought you think. If you want to create a stress-free future, you must do it now. And there will never be a time when it is not now.

Are you living your best life? If not, why not? Are you willing to invest in yourself? Invest in your future? The future is Now. Use your MindSight and take advantage of the power of your subconscious mind! Remember, the Mind Matters!

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Feb 03 2015

Love Yourself First

Category: Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 11:14 am

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February is the month when we celebrate Valentine’s Day, which makes one think of love and romance. Love is a whole lot more than romance. “Love” is a word that holds many meanings.

Sometimes we think we love someone but then come to realize that we were only attached to them. Attachment is not love. We become attached to the way things are. We like the routine and the familiarity of the relationship. We like to know that we have a date for Saturday night or Valentine’s Day. We may become attached to the way someone makes us feel. And we can become attached to experiencing those feelings. We enjoy the attention we receive. We want to feel wanted. We like to feel that we belong to someone. And that they belong to us. We are bonded together in a relationship.

When we are comfortable with things the way they are, we become attached to keeping them that way. And when situations change or people change, we suffer. Is this love or is it only attachment to our own needs?

What do you mean when you say, “I love you?” Robert Heinlein said, “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” Since the word “love” is difficult to define, let’s look at three Greek words which help us to understand its meaning. They are: Eros, Philia, and agape. Eros refers to the sensual, sexual expression of love. This is romantic love for your significant other. The word Philia means deep affection. This describes the love you might have for a close friend or a relative. The word agape means divine love or the love of God for man and of man for God. The expression of your agape is in giving. When your love for another transcends Eros and Philia, you come to a place of unconditional acceptance. You love not only “because of” but “despite”. This is love for one another as we love ourselves; brotherly love.

When we are suffering from a perceived lack of love in our lives and feel that our needs are not met, we look for the cause. Often we look outside of ourselves. We discover our attachments and create a sense of lack. Just as no one can make you happy, no one can make you suffer. It’s you. It’s always you. You and your perceptions about the way things are or the way things should be. You need to love yourself first and foremost.

I invite you to focus on loving yourself this February. Really loving and accepting yourself just as you are. Go for the agape! Love yourself because of all your gifts, skills and talents. And also love yourself despite your failures, bad habits and faults. Let go of negative attachments and false beliefs. John Lennon told us, “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create.”

Before you go to sleep every night, relax and breathe deeply. Direct your attention to the heart area, and meditate upon words of love. Think loving thoughts. Recall loving experiences. Let go of attachments which cause suffering. Tell yourself, “I love and accept myself as I am.” This pleasant process can completely transform your health. You may also discover that a shift is taking place in every phase of your life. That is the lovely power of love and love never fails you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Jan 06 2015

A Dream or A Vision?

Category: Law of AttractionPatricia @ 8:49 am
The elevator to success is out of order. You'll have to take one step at a time.

The elevator to success is out of order. You’ll have to take one step at a time.

 

“The difference between a dreamer and a visionary is that the visionary takes steps to make the dream happen.” ~ Ron Fox

A vision gives you a big picture of life. It’s like a road map that guides your direction or a blueprint that shows you the steps you need to take. It helps you to get to where you want to go. A vision can give your life meaning. It can inspire you and fuel you with energy and passion. Holding a vision connects you to your destiny.

A vision can help you to focus on what is important to you. When you focus, you broadcast a clear message out into the world. You attract resources you need. You find support from others who may share your vision. You make your dreams become your reality.

Perhaps your vision is unclear. You’re uncertain about what you want. If you don’t care, it doesn’t matter much. You’ll create by default. Your life will be a reflection of what others have told you about who you are and what you should do. You will have accepted limitations and false beliefs. You will follow a path without a clear vision of where it goes. And you may not like it when you get there!

I invite you to create a vision of the life you want to live. You know the one. You’ve glimpsed it. You’ve had flashes of inspiration and bliss. It’s a life that is unique to you and you are the only one who has all the qualifications to make it an amazing success. If you are a musician, you must make music. If you are an artist, you must create. Whatever you are, you must be you. You must do it in order to be at peace with yourself.

When you are ready to take the steps from vision to reality, do this:

  1. You must define it. Begin by being specific in defining your personal vision of success. Whatever you feel you are seeking, from material goods to better interpersonal relationships, visualize it for yourself. When you have a clear definition of success, it becomes more real to you. You become comfortable with the future you are creating.
  1. You must truly want it. Get in touch with the desire, the longing that is attached to a particular goal. Allow yourself to feel all the emotions attached to this vision of success. As you imagine, bring to mind the feeling of success and accomplishment. Experience the emotional response to the outcome. When you are in touch with your feelings about your goals, you set the creative process in motion. Thought + Emotion = Physical Manifestation.
  1. You must believe it is possible. “For those who believe, no proof is necessary. For those who don’t believe, no proof is possible.” ~ John & Lyn St. Clair Thomas
  1. You must accept that it will happen. Successful change requires self-acceptance, a positive attitude and the ability to concentrate on and develop your strengths. When you tell yourself you can and will, you have taken the first step towards accomplishing what you want to accomplish. And you will find that you can and will accomplish your goal.

The Mind Matters. There is no limitation to mind power and the ability to direct it to make positive things happen. Are you ready to experience your vision? It starts with the first step.

 

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Jul 10 2014

Preferences versus Priorities

Category: ChoicesPatricia @ 1:14 pm

 

You decide which path to take.

You decide which path to take.

Are your preferences in conflict with your priorities? Are you making progress towards achieving your goals and aspirations? Or do you feel that what you want is always out of your reach? Maybe it’s time to understand the different choices involved. Decisions you make about what you would prefer to do can have a negative impact on the things that really matter in your life.

Priority is considered a prime concern – the primary issue. It is the thing of most important consideration. It takes precedence over other things, as it is of greater importance. A priority might be paying the mortgage before you spend the money on a vacation.

A preference is something you like better. You would rather have that particular thing. It’s something you are partial to or that you favor. It’s something you would choose over other things; a first choice. A preference is a liking, bias, taste and fondness. It is a favorite. A preference may be something as simple as chocolate ice cream.

Often we make choices based on our preferences rather than our priorities. This may not be a good idea! What if your priority is to lose ten pounds….and your preference is to eat pizza and sit on the sofa watching movies? Your preferences would sabotage your priority! Your subconscious programming and desires can get in the way of achieving your conscious goals.

If you preferred to eat more fuel than you could consume, your body has stored it away for you. Now you’ve got an extra ten pounds to carry around. The reason this happened is that you made choices based on your preferences. And now you would prefer to lose those ten pounds! Until it becomes a priority, it won’t happen. You must make a choice to focus on your priority now. Changing your preferences isn’t easy. It’s not like you get to choose between cheese or pepperoni pizza…now you have to choose something other than pizza …something like grilled chicken! And you feel deprived. Feeling deprived may even cause you to forget all about your priorities and indulge in the comfort of that pizza…your preference in the moment. It can become a vicious cycle where none of your needs are met.

One of the ways you can become more conscious of your actions is to simply ask yourself this question… What matters most?

Perhaps you need to continue to ask…

Does this choice serve my best interests? Does it help me to move closer to achieving my goal? What takes precedence? Is it the momentary pleasure of eating the pizza? Or is it the end result of mastering my weight? Is my health and fitness more important than the fondness for the flavor? What choice will make me feel more confident and in control?

Preferences and priorities can create difficulties in all aspects of our lives. It becomes a control issue. What is controlling your choices? Your preferences or your priorities? Marriage may be a priority but our preferences may lead us to make choices which jeopardize our marriage. We may desire financial stability and set a priority to save money, but our fondness for fine dining, travel, or designer clothes stops us from doing so. Graduating from college is only accomplished when priorities overcome preferences. Building a successful career requires making conscious choices based on the most important considerations.

When faced with a decision between conflicting desires, it is always in your best interest to take the time to consider which decision serves your priority. You can be faced with many appealing opportunities, some of which may be entertaining but send you in the wrong direction. You are creating your life with your thoughts and your actions. Focus your thoughts on your goals and aspirations which propel you forward to success. Make your self and your life a priority. Choose what matters most! You have the power to make the choice right now in the moment.

Your life is a series of moments. Each moment gives you the opportunity to focus on the choice which matters most. When you live your life aligned with what is important to you, your priority becomes your preference. It all works together to serve you. You actually get both at the same time. All your needs are met. All your desires are fulfilled. Sweet!

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Jun 12 2014

Give Yourself Permission

Category: Spiritual ExplorationPatricia @ 1:25 pm

Do you remember field trips? A day of learning, exploring and adventure that took place outside of the classroom? Do you remember the excitement and anticipation leading up to the big day? And of course, you must not forget the all-important “permission slip” which was necessary proof that your parents knew where you were going and they with okay with you taking a day off from the responsibilities of school. Without it, you were unable to board the bus and were assigned to some other classroom to do stupid busywork. All the while your friends have 96 bottles of beer on the wall and you know you are missing out!

Our Magic Bus

Our Magic Bus

A field trip meant a bus ride, often to new and unfamiliar territory. You might even cross a state line! You got to sing silly songs and make faces at drivers passing by. Instead of your teacher telling you what to do, you were now instructed to listen to somebody’s mom or dad and stay with your buddy. Of course, teaming up with your good friend was always a plus because you got to spend more time together. Hopefully your group got a “cool” parent who would let you get away with stuff like buying an ice cream instead of eating what was packed in your brown bag lunch.

A field trip is an ordinary day made extraordinary because we choose to make it happen. We make a plan to have fun. It’s a decision we make to step out of the day to day and create a different experience. A “permission slip” is still necessary but now you are the one in control. You can board any damn bus that you want and you can take it wherever you want to go. But you have to grant yourself permission first.

A few weeks ago I gave myself permission and took a field trip to Santa Cruz Island, part of the Channel Islands National Park, an amazing galapago just off shore of the gold coast of California.  My friend Susan was planning a trip from Chicago and we had discussed this adventure during one of her previous visits. Everything was aligned for now. I invited another friend, Amy, to join us. She shares a love of the sea and was in need of such a field trip. She said “Yes”, the magic word.

Our field trip was magical. A very brisk wind was howling when we first set out aboard our bus – Island Packers’ ferry.  The sea was a bit choppy but we had sunny, clear skies and warm temperatures. During the crossing, we were visited by hundreds of dolphins. Squeals of delight (both human and dolphin) filled the air. We were met with more than a dozen whales. Amazing, gigantic, graceful blues, grays and humpbacks. Wow! I’ve sailed this channel for more than twenty years and although I have been blessed with many whale sightings, this was awesome!

Approaching Santa Cruz Island

Approaching Santa Cruz Island

Upon disembarking the vessel we were warned of the dangers; reminded of the remoteness and the distance from any medical facility; and strongly cautioned about the lack of drinking water available.  We were told of the presence of the hanta virus and rodents and to stay away from the foxes and not to feed any animals. When released from orientation, we took a short walk where we feasted on our deluxe picnic lunch in the shade of a eucalyptus grove. From there we began a hike (moderate to strenuous by park standards) which brought us up a very steep trail. Trusting that we would be rewarded with a scenic view at the top, we trudged our way up. It was 88 degrees and very sunny and we whined a bit. When we reached a place where there was no longer a climb in elevation, we were still far from any view of the ocean but we knew it must be just ahead. And then the reward…

View to the East from Scorpion Anchorage to Anacapa Island

View to the East from Scorpion Anchorage to Anacapa Island

After our hike, we made our way to the beach where we nestled ourselves in the cool shadows of an open cave carved into the cliff on the rocky shore. We planted ourselves on the smooth boulders and sat there with our feet in the sand while the waves splashed over them. We gazed at the mainland and the civilization which seemed so very very far away from this wild island.  We reveled in the now moment of the experience. And we congratulated ourselves for making the time to do it.

Scorpion Rock from the Beach

California Coast from Scorpion Beach

On our return crossing, we were again greeted by a massive congregation of dolphins as a fine ending to the day. Do you remember that summertime childhood feeling you would get when you had been outside in the sun playing all day long? A little sleepy. Content. Your mind full of happy.

Summer’s here. I encourage you to make the choice to plan a field trip. Take a day and make it fun. Discover the child again. What are you waiting for? Tick tock. Time is passing. Give yourself permission. Now.

 

 

 

 

 

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Apr 30 2014

Your Garden

Category: Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 11:55 am

April Garden

“Kind hearts are the gardens. Kind thoughts are the roots.

Kind words are the flowers. Kind deeds are the fruits.

Take care of your garden. And keep out the weeds.

Fill it with sunshine, kind words and kind deeds.”

~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

 

 

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Jan 14 2014

Crossing Monkey Bars

Category: Pain ManagementPatricia @ 4:08 pm

“Letting go of a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. “ ~ C.S. Lewis

monkey-bars

Do you deserve to be angry? Are there circumstances in your life that are unjust? Have you had an experience where you were treated badly? Maybe you deserve to be sad too! Or frustrated. Or disappointed. I’d like you to consider that even though circumstances may create a right to be angry, you also have a right to be happy instead. You deserve it.  Letting go of negative thoughts and the emotions they create is always in your best interest.

Do you realize that whoever you are angry with or whatever you are angry about is not experiencing the results of your wrath? But you are!!! When you’re angry with your boss, or spouse, or kid, or government…they don’t suffer what you suffer. When you think angry thoughts, your body suffers. You may grind your teeth or clench your fists. You may experience flushing, paling or sweating. However you feel your anger, it’s much like the fight/flight response of survival. Stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol flood through your body. Your amygdala, the part of the brain that deals with emotion, is going crazy. It wants to act! And it wants to act right now! Meanwhile, the frontal lobe which controls reasoning, is desperately pulsing to balance it out. This is why it’s a good idea to count to ten before acting!

If you constantly think you deserve to be angry, this state of response can start to cause damage. Your nervous system is overworked and can eventually become overexerted. You can potentially damage your heart, your liver and your kidney. Anger may also be accompanied by depression or anxiety. Chronic anger can create disease and early death.

“If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.” ~Ajahn Chah

I’d like to remind you that you deserve happiness and joy. You have a right to experience a life filled with the good stuff. Make a decision now to let go of the thoughts that create anger or any negative emotions. You are only hurting yourself. And that’s just not right. You deserve better.

 

 

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