Dec 07 2017

The Next Room

Category: Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 12:47 pm

room next door


Three Thanksgivings have gone by since we last celebrated together.  Holidays are emotional triggers. Markers of moments. A timeline progression experienced year after year. Memories stored away to warm our hearts. The people and events of the past come alive when we reflect. And in that reflection, we may experience the pain of loss. We long for the way things were. In other languages, there are certain words that have no direct equivalents. They are untranslatable. One such word is “saudade”. It is a Portuguese and Galician word that can refer to a feeling of melancholy and nostalgia. It is a knowing and a sadness that this thing that you feel a longing for will never happen again.

We have all experienced the pain of losing a loved one. My life experiences have shown me that time truly does heal. It gives perspective. It allows for growth and insight. It dulls the pain; fills the loss. Death is a part of life. It’s a given. Even though each one is unique, we all get the full death experience. We KNOW this. But it doesn’t seem to matter. Doesn’t matter the circumstances of the death. Doesn’t matter the illness. Doesn’t matter where or when. Doesn’t matter how old. The death of a loved one always causes a shock to the system; a heart-stopping jolt. It hurts. At first it hurts more than you think you can bear. It’s with you every moment of your day, rising and subsiding, but always there. And then it doesn’t hurt anymore. It’s replaced by a feeling of love and understanding; an appreciation.

Holidays are upon us. Brace yourself for any “saudade” triggers. Instead of focusing on the loss or any other negative emotion such as guilt or fear….focus on the love. Allow yourself to feel that love in every cell of your body. It’s the best for everyone concerned, even those who have passed on. I think we can assume our loved ones do not want us to continue to suffer the loss of their physical presence. Remember…Love is eternal. Soul is eternal. Life is temporary.

Since I find the words of Henry Scott-Holland to be of comfort, I’d like to share his poem. May it remind you that All is Well.


Death Is Nothing At All   

Death is nothing at all.
It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Nothing has happened.

Everything remains exactly as it was.
I am I, and you are you,
and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was.
There is absolute and unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?

Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval,
somewhere very near,
just round the corner.

All is well.
Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!





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Aug 22 2017

Enjoying the Picnic – With or Without Ants

Category: Choices,ControlPatricia @ 8:35 am




The warm, lazy days of summer offer an opportunity to spend more time outside in nature. We play more. Longer days also allow us to relax; to experience more of the sweetness of life. There is an abundance of color and growth in the natural world. We make a point of taking a vacation or a staycation. A common activity is to pack a picnic basket and enjoy a simple meal under the welcoming shade of a tree. We can enjoy the sounds of the birds and the wind rustling through the branches. We can stretch out and take a nap on the soft grass and feel the earth beneath our feet. We can engage in meditative thought in peaceful surroundings. We can also be annoyed. Even in the quiet beauty of nature, we can become distracted by negative thoughts.

Your thoughts can take the form of a mosquito buzzing in your ear, keeping you tuned into an unpleasant distraction or an unwelcome thought. Or your thoughts can seem like a line of ants marching across your picnic blanket, messing up your solitude and wreaking havoc on your plans. In either case, you can choose to observe the mosquito or the ants. You can swat at the mosquito and allow it to disturb you. Or you can ignore it. You can watch as the ants march off the other side of the blanket and disappear from sight. Or you can panic and rearrange everything on your blanket to avoid contact with them. In either case, you could focus on the annoying things. You could fuss over them. You could get angry with them. You could feel sad that they have ruined your picnic. You could even let them bite you!

But you have power over the annoying insects. You have power over the annoying thoughts. You decide. It’s your choice. It’s always your choice.

Are you making yourself suffer? Maybe you think the mosquito or the ant is what is making you unhappy…those things outside of you that are out to get you…to make you suffer. But it’s not the outside things that are making you suffer. It’s your reaction to the things. And you are in control of your reactions. You have the freedom to make a choice to react differently when the annoying things get to you.

When you focus on the negative, you suffer. When you react in a negative manner, you increase your suffering. Pay attention to your thoughts. Focus on the ones that make you happy. Relax and enjoy the picnic. Summer will be over soon. Everything in life is temporary. Don’t waste your time slapping at mosquitos or fretting over ants. Stay within your place of inner peace when outside things threaten to annoy you.




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Jun 26 2017

Just One Thing

Category: Control,Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 4:29 pm


So maybe life isn’t going as you expected. The year is half over and those New Year’s resolutions have not panned out. Maybe you regret what you’ve done or maybe you regret what you didn’t do. Maybe that job you were hoping for didn’t come through. You didn’t even get the rejection call from the employer. Or maybe that man you’ve been dating did make the rejection call. Maybe you can’t pay your rent and you don’t know what to do next. Any one of those things can send us into a feeling of overwhelm or panic. We look for answers. We ask, “how did this happen?” We consider all the things we did wrong. We determine many ways to blame. We think of all the ways we may be able to fix the situation. And sometimes we can’t think of any way at all. When this happens, we experience “analysis paralysis.” And then nothing happens. We can’t take action. Our analysis of the situation has literally paralyzed our ability to act.

When we experience regrets about what we could have done; should have done; or what would happen if we had done…we dwell on all the negative aspects of the situation. We focus on everything we perceive to have done wrong. We judge ourselves and others. We assign responsibility for the situation. CouldaShouldaWoulda World is not a place you want to visit! Remember you did what you did with what you knew at the time. You made choices. Your life is a reflection of your choices.

We would all be better served if we chose to concentrate our efforts on changing just one aspect of our thoughts and actions. When we spend our time thinking about all the things that we need to change, it’s impossible to focus on taking constructive action on just one thing. When we focus, everything is much easier to accomplish.

You don’t need to address everything at once…you just need to focus on one thing! And do you know what that one thing is? The one thing you can do to influence your outside world…is to go within and to focus on what you want! This one thing is the most powerful and influential thing you can do. Ralph Waldo Emerson says, “Do the thing and you will have the Power.”

We all have the ability to do the thing. You are born with an imagination and desire. You have gifts, skills, talents and abilities. It’s an inside thing. Using your ability to visualize, imagine, pretend and experience, you create your life. You determine what you want. You have the ability to make the choices to create the actions which bring the experience into your reality.

Stop analyzing what you are doing wrong. Let go of the regrets. Kiss the blame goodbye. And begin again in this moment. Remember the only time there will ever be is this now moment. Now go within. Focus. Do the thing.


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Jun 13 2017

Measuring Up

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 9:51 am

measure 1928


 “The real contest is always between what you’ve done and what you’re capable of doing. You measure yourself against yourself and nobody else.”     ~ Geoffrey Gaberino.

When we measure something or someone, we judge, evaluate and rate. We scrutinize in order to form an assessment by judging. This judgment is made according to a comparison with a certain standard.  Each one of us has our own standards by which we measure ourselves and others. These standards and values are based on subconscious programming and beliefs about what is good and bad, right and wrong. When we measure, it is based on a directly observable value or performance. We determine what is best, based on our own limited perceptions and reality. Just like everything else, this measurement involves choices which determine the importance or value of something.

Have you been measuring yourself against others? Or against yourself? There is really no point at all in measuring yourself against others. When you compare your self to someone else, you put your self in competition with their self. And then you both lose. Each one of us is a unique being with individual and specific gifts, skills and talents which are perfectly aligned to support our life’s mission. You have everything you need to create the life you want. If you were to compare, you would find that no one else has what you need. You may wrongly assess the importance or value of something based on your own personal perceptions. You may think you need something that someone else possesses. You may be lying to yourself and making up stories that are hurtful or limiting.

When you measure yourself against yourself, you can determine how you can do better. And then you can do it! Perhaps you are judging your level of fitness and have determined that you are unsatisfied with how you measure up. Ask yourself how you can improve. You know what you need to do. And you know it is entirely up to you. No one else is feeding you. No one else is moving your body. No one else is making your choices. It’s you. Just you. So stop comparing your body to some one else’s body. Their body is a result of their choices. It has nothing to do with you. Instead, ask yourself what you can do to get the results you want. Make the judgment that you are capable of doing better. Decide that you are capable of making healthy food choices and that you will make time to exercise. Compare your actions with your results and then judge yourself to be doing well. Measure this week’s self against last week’s self. Enjoy your ability to create your success and accomplish your goals.

Are you being the best you that you can imagine? If not, why not? Being the best you is being aligned with your joy. Your joy. No one else’s joy. Your dreams. No one else’s dreams. Stretch your imagination. Dream big. And realize that no one else on the planet is capable of dreaming your dreams or living your joy. Only you can measure up to that.




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May 23 2017

Dream A Little Dream

Category: Choices,MotivationPatricia @ 8:56 am



In the magical state of creation (where you spend every moment of your life, whether you are aware of it or not), the economic exchange is affected by different rules. The dream state operates on another level. The only currency is energy. And the only price to be paid is with your imagination – your thought energy. You may not have cash flow, but you always have an unlimited supply of imagination. The state of creation does not follow the same order as the U.S. economy. There is plenty for everyone. You can have it all. Or you can choose to have nothing at all. It’s a choice we make based on the focus of our thoughts…what we think about; what we believe about what we think; how we feel about what we think.

So, considering you can afford the life of your dreams, what are you dreaming? Everyone has thoughts and dreams of a better life. No matter how good life is, it can always be better. Consider the thoughts which bring a smile to your face. Or the ones which make your belly tingle with excitement. And then think the thoughts which make your heart happy. These thoughts can make you feel like a million bucks! Or even more!

Take a moment out of your everyday life and give yourself a little dream time. You deserve it. You can afford it! And you really can’t afford not to do it! There are twenty-four hours in the day. Surely, your dreams are worth as little as a measly fifteen minutes!

Play a little game. A dreaming game. Begin by setting your intention. Make sure that your intention is set in a way that is best for all concerned. Then simply write out this sentence:

“Even though I don’t know how this will happen, I am grateful because it is now (fill in a date) and I am (enjoying, looking at, experiencing, earning, etc.) my (new salary of $xxx, new home, new car, vacation, etc.) and I feel _____________.”

When you consider this sentence, pay close attention to how the dream thought makes you feel. Emotions are very, very important in the state of creation. Emotions are the fuel which fire up and feed your dream. Thought creates emotion which creates action. When you play the dreaming game, make the fire bigger by thinking about different aspects of your success. For example, if you’re dreaming of a new car, fill in all the details. Make a list of the car’s features and why you like them. Think about the value of independence and mobility that a car offers. Consider how you will feel when you are driving this new car and the places you will go. Step outside of yourself, and see yourself having the experience of a new car. And then feel the gratitude for your ability to create this experience. As you fill in all the details, your imagination is free to dream big. Your dream creates passion.

When dreaming, you know that anything can happen. Even impossible things. You are now dreaming.

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Jan 30 2017

Negative Thoughts Can Create Positive Results

Category: Choices,MotivationPatricia @ 2:47 pm



There is duality in the universe; light and darkness, heat and cold. This duality is reflected in our emotions. Like emotions, energy also comes in two forms: positive and negative. Each has its own distinct vibration. I often encourage my clients to focus on the positive aspects of their lives…to think of what they want. When we are thinking positive thoughts we feel positive feelings. We like that. When we are thinking negative thoughts we don’t like how we feel. We feel uncomfortable. But sometimes negative thoughts can bring positive results. Sometimes negative energy can create positive change.

If you want to get in shape, you can think about all the positive reasons to do that. You can think about how you’ll have more energy; your clothes will fit better; you’ll feel good about yourself. All those positive thoughts can motivate you to take the actions necessary to succeed. You can reinforce those thoughts by writing them down. When we write things down, it solidifies our commitment to our goal. We are more likely to be successful. When we give our subconscious mind visual reminders of our goals, it creates more reinforcement. Pictures and illustrations are guides for our goal-achieving machine. Both words and visual reminders add fuel to the fire. When you think about your success, you are motivated to take the steps to achieve it. You connect with the positive results and your belief that you can succeed.

Now, I’d like you to consider several reasons why you don’t want to be out of shape. You could think about the health consequences of high blood pressure or diabetes or heart disease or any other grim reality that can result from being out of shape. You could consider how you’re not able to enjoy physical activities; suffering from erectile dysfunction or sleep apnea. You could realize that your longevity is being affected; you could die sooner and miss out on precious time with loved ones. You could accept the negative consequences… or you can use your fear of these things to drive you to do something to prevent them from happening! Fear can be a powerful force for motivation. Fear helps you connect with your power to take control to avoid the negative consequences.

Using both positive and negative energy together can be the key to your success. The powerful momentum fueled by your positive thoughts and desires combined with the fear of negative consequences can create amazing results! When you are confronted by the thoughts of a future you do not want to experience, you are motivated to make the changes necessary so that it will not come to pass. Often we have to confront our worse fears before we are able to find the strength and willpower to do what is right for us. Embrace the darkness. Move into the light.



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Jan 19 2017

No Expiration Date. No Time Limit. No Other Life.

Category: Choices,Inspirational Quotes,MotivationPatricia @ 12:49 pm

grandma moses


Later in life, some of us experience regret about what we didn’t accomplish. We didn’t achieve what we wanted. We didn’t fulfill our true potential. We didn’t travel the world. We didn’t find our soul mate. We didn’t learn to play the piano. These “didn’ts” can cause pain. They can make us feel as if we had failed at life.

The ability to do new things and learn new skills does not expire. We can always improve and become better versions of ourselves. My dad passed away at the age of 93. One of the many things he taught me was that you could do anything you set your mind to do; you could learn anything. And there were no limits as to when you could begin. When he was 75, he decided to learn how to paint with oils. So he got an easel, some canvases and paints. And then he painted.  When he was 88, he invested in a computer so that he could learn about the internet. And then he explored the new world of cyberspace.

Almost without exception, some of the regret experienced later in life is a result of not “achieving” something. When one feels that they haven’t fulfilled their true potential, it can leave a painful mark. Self-discovery and improvement can happen at any time in life. The ability to improve oneself does not expire. It is a never-ending process.

“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another island. There is no other land; there is no other life but this.” – Henry David Thoreau

There are many stories of people who began new careers at an advanced age. One such person is Anna Mary Robertson, known as Grandma Moses. She began her painting career at the age of 78 (I think maybe Dad was inspired by her) and painted until her passing at the age of 101.

There is also a lesser known woman who should be acknowledged: Doreetha Daniels. Doreetha, a multiple stroke victim with vision and hearing problems recently received her college degree from College of the Canyons in Santa Clara, California. Doreetha is 99 years old. She advised prospective students: “Don’t give up. Do it. Don’t let anybody discourage you. Say that, ‘I’m going to do it,’ and do it for yourself.”

One faculty member said: “Doreetha is a living testament to the saying ‘if there is a will, there is a way’…” Doreetha was motivated to go to college by two things. She was tired of her hobbies and wanted to expand her interests. And she was inspired by her grandchildren, who after starting families and careers, went back to school for graduate degrees.

Consider Thoreau’s words …“there is no other life but this.” Take the opportunity to live it to the fullest. Live until the very end. There is no limitation to what you can accomplish. There is no time limit to being actively engaged in life.



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Nov 24 2016

Direct the Dream


3rd eye thought


Even if you don’t play golf, you have probably heard of Jack Nicklaus, the professional golfer who is nicknamed The Golden Bear. He is widely regarded as the greatest golfer of all time, having won a total of 18 major championships during the past 25 years.

And whether you play golf or not, you can benefit from one of the techniques Jack Nicklaus used to become such a great golfer. Obviously, Nicklaus has certain athletic abilities which he has refined and developed. He has done the physical work to become great. He has also done the mental work. Not only has he used his subconscious mind to stay focused and visualize the desired outcome, he has used his subconscious as a sports clinic. There is a story told about a dream he had when he was not performing well. When he analyzed the dream he figured out why his game was off. He had a dream where he was really owning the links; playing better than he had in a long while. After analysis, the champ realized that in the dream, he was gripping his club differently than he was doing in real life. He said, “I tried it the way I did in my dream and it worked. I feel kind of foolish admitting it, but it really happened in a dream.”

Your subconscious mind knows more than your conscious mind. You can trust it to guide and direct you. Besides, it’s going to do it even if you don’t trust it! Your subconscious mind is the 88% of your mind that is directing your motivation and behavior. It is also your goal-achieving machine. Your subconscious mind speaks to you in images. You can also speak to and direct your subconscious mind through images.

Dr. Denis Waitley has done studies where athletes are connected to a biofeedback machine during visualization. When they imagine going through a practice or performance, the studies show that the same muscles are engaged as if they were actually doing the exercise. Remember, the mind doesn’t know the difference between what you imagine and what you perceive as reality. Using hypnosis, guided imagery and visualization trains the mind to achieve automatic reactions and responses. When doing this, all senses are engaged. Effective visualization uses sight, sound, taste, touch and emotion. This can give an athlete (or anyone!!!) a renewed level of self- confidence.

The meditative state which is achieved by self-hypnosis allows one to give instructional self-talk to improve specific techniques or skills, athletic or otherwise. Well-known sports figures Kobe Bryant, LeBron James and Tiger Woods all have meditation practices. Tell yourself, “Keep your knees bent.” “Chin up.” “You can do it.” According to sports psychologist Antonis Hatzigeorgiadis, “The mind guides action. If we succeed in regulating our thoughts, then this will help our behavior.”

When Jack Nicklaus had his dream, he trusted himself and his own inner guidance. He acted on his inner wisdom. When you go within, (whether in the dream state, the meditative state, the hypnotic state, whatever you want to name it state) you transcend conscious thought. You achieve a heightened state of focused concentration, effortless calm and confidence. You let go of the outside reality as you know it. This state of mind keeps pressures and distractions from harming you. When you go within, you know everything. This is the beginning of dreaming and from this point you can direct the dream. Trust yourself. Believe in your dreams.

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Oct 31 2016

Stop Scaring Yourself!

Category: ControlPatricia @ 12:49 pm






Do you ever feel anxious? If so, apparently you are not alone. Do you realize that over the past eight years, Google searches for terms related to anxiety have doubled? The searches have included all sorts of anxiety: driving, flying and travel in general; separation anxiety; performance anxiety; anxiety at work, at school and at home. It’s not just the different kinds of anxiety, it’s also time specific searches. “Anxiety in the morning” is popular. “Anxiety at night” is even more popular. The number one search is “anxiety attack symptoms.” Attack!!! Who is attacking you? Just thinking about all the anxiety in the world can make you feel anxious and afraid!!!

So, what is anxiety? The dictionary defines it as “painful or apprehensive uneasiness of mind usually over an impending or anticipated ill.” It’s also defined as “an abnormal and overwhelming sense of apprehension and fear often marked by physiological signs (as sweating, tension, and increased pulse), by doubt concerning the reality and nature of the threat, and by self-doubt about one’s capacity to cope with it.”

What if there were a solution? There is a solution! And it’s all in your head! Anxiety is created when you are thinking about what you don’t want. So, stop it! And start thinking about what you do want! If you are creating an “uneasiness of mind” over something that is not happening, realize that you are making it up. The anxiety is a result of your anticipation. You are in control of what you think about. When you experience the symptoms of a panic attack, your body is reacting to your thoughts. The symptoms are very real. You can feel as if you’re going to faint, break out in a cold sweat and bring on heart palpitations. You can literally think yourself into full-fledged fight/flight survival mode. You’re making yourself sick over an imaginary threat. Again, I tell you, stop it!!!

Anxiety is fed by doubt. It could be doubt about what may happen or doubt about your ability to deal with what may happen. Since you’re making up what may happen, perhaps you could consider making up something good about your ability to deal with what may happen. The opposite of doubt is confidence. Simple. It’s a choice you can make. What you tell yourself is very important. What you tell yourself determines what you are and are not able to do. So tell yourself that even if it’s difficult, you will be able to do it. Because when you tell yourself that you can and you will, you will find that you can and you will accomplish whatever it is you truly want to accomplish.  Your anxiety can not attack you when you take control of your doubt. There is no reason to scare yourself!


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Sep 26 2016

More Confident in 3 Easy Steps

Category: Belief,ChoicesPatricia @ 10:09 am



Do you know what it means to feel confident with yourself? To be comfortable with your actions? To feel as if you are in control? Everybody can learn to be more confident. It begins with telling yourself that you can be.

When you are confident you can remain “calm, cool and collected”. Being confident in yourself allows you to relax in stressful and challenging situations. When you are uncertain about the outcome and can still remain in control of your emotions and reactions, you can do anything. Confidence is the opposite of doubt.

Being confident is an attitude you choose. It is a response to outside influences and other opinions. What other people think of you is really not your business. It doesn’t matter. And you’re probably making it up anyway. When you are confident you are not concerned about what others think of you.

You can be confident about many things – tying your shoes, using a hammer. But maybe you’re not confident about public speaking. Confidence in specific situations is what really matters. When you use the power of your imagination to think about how you will be successful in what you want in life, you build your self-confidence in that area. The mind doesn’t know the difference in what you perceive to be reality and what you imagine. And when you focus on what you want, your subconscious mind (your goal-achieving machine) will get busy on the task of making it happen. Your subconscious mind is patiently waiting for your conscious mind to set a direction.

Here are three simple strategies to help you to be more confident.

  1. Imagine the specific situation where you want to feel confident in the future. Imagine yourself as the best you. See yourself with loving eyes. Accept yourself for who you are.
  2. Focus on the emotions you want to feel in that situation. Perhaps think about feeling calm, relaxed and at peace with yourself. Give your subconscious mind specific instructions about how to respond.
  3. Allow yourself to get into a relaxed state and begin to visualize, imagine, pretend and experience the future you want to create. Use all your senses to make it more real to you. Set the blueprint for your subconscious mind. Create the belief in your success.

What you tell yourself matters. What you tell yourself ultimately determines what you are and are not able to do. So, even if it’s difficult, tell yourself you’ll be able to do it. And you will find that you can and you will… by the power of your own thoughts…the power of your mind.


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Jul 18 2016

Adding Fuel to Your Fire

Category: HabitsPatricia @ 11:52 am




You are unique in all the world. But…do you compare yourself to others? Do you watch reality TV shows like The Bachelorette or Keeping Up With the Kardashians? Are you keeping up? Or do you feel as if you have fallen behind? Do you have a fabulous wardrobe? Are you attending trendy events? Are you being pursued by a number of attractive, eligible bachelors? Maybe you’re tuning into home improvement shows or viewing outrageous real estate for sale? Do you look around your home and think, “What a dump!” STOP IT! Stop comparing yourself to others in a negative way! When you feel envious of other’s success, you can quickly decrease your own happiness. You can make yourself feel like a failure. Yes, you. STOP IT! When you feel the negative emotion of envy or jealousy, you lower your personal vibration. You actually put yourself in a vibrational place where you will attract what you don’t want …to fail. You will not attract that success you desire by thinking of yourself as less than others.

However, positive comparison is a different story. It can be helpful if you’re comparing yourself to another by admiring them rather than being jealous of their success. It’s a different vibration. When you admire, you are adjusting your vibration to match that of your successful friend. When you admire, you also imitate. Remember, imitation is the most sincere form of flattery. If your friend is being promoted, study his habits and behaviors at the office. What does he do to create that success? Is he responsible? Innovative? Helpful? Emulating him may help you. Or what about your friend who is the picture of perfect health? When you compare your habits to hers you may realize why. You may notice that she takes a walk every day at lunch while you sit at your desk and munch on snacks. Join her for a walk. If you want to be like her, do what she does.

Note the similarity or dissimilarity between your actions and the actions of others. If you want to have more of what they have, do more of what they do. Learn from them. They have something you want. How did they get it?

When you compare yourself to others in a healthy way it can fuel your determination to become more successful. This is one of the reasons why groups like Alcoholics Anonymous and Weight Watchers help so many people to achieve their goals. It is positive comparison.  We begin to think, “If they can do it, so can I!” We see that it is possible to achieve what others have achieved. We begin to change our beliefs about what is possible. We see better when we stand on the shoulders of those who have been there before us. Believing it is possible makes it so. When we compare ourselves to others in this way, we fuel the fires of our determination to do better; to be better.

And consider this…the images you watch on TV and in social media affect your view of your world and your place in it. They help to create your beliefs about your reality and it is not always a positive influence. If you really want to affect your reality, turn off the TV and all those outside communication devices. Or do a little research on the people you want to emulate. They may have lessons for you. And, most of all, I invite you to go within. The images are far more fascinating and beneficial to you. And your imagination is always the best source of fuel to feed your fire.


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Jun 01 2016

Just an Outside Number

Category: Spiritual ExplorationPatricia @ 12:24 pm




Birthdays can bring on a variety of emotions. We all have memories of good ones and bad ones. Regardless of past experiences, a birthday is your own special holiday…the first day of a 365 day journey around the sun. You do, however, share your birthday with others. In fact, Google reports that “if your birthday is any day except February 29, you share your birthday with approximately 1/365 of any population or an estimated 19 million people around the world”. But of course, you don’t know most of them. The day belongs to you. That is…if you give your self permission to celebrate you…and to celebrate the completion of your journey around the sun. Often that is a difficult thing to do. We deny ourselves permission because we believe other things are more important. Things outside ourselves.

I believe that a birthday should be recognized with fun. That doesn’t mean that you have to have a party and celebrate with others. Although great fun, that celebration is also outside of you. Whether with myself or others, I take time to go within and reflect on this journey. I like to consider where I’ve been and where I’m going. It’s kind of like a personal New Year’s Day. Regardless of the outside number, a common ritual of most birthday celebrations is to blow out the candles on the cake. We go within. We make a secret wish for the coming year.

As beings in society we need a way to organize time. A birthday is a way to measure time. It places us in the position where we are in the world. It signifies where we “should” be. As youngsters, we are measured for size and developmental abilities. Our social skills are judged and measured by others. We’re told to “act our age”. We’re told to “grow up”. We’re told to “stop acting like a child”.  If you’re six years old, you are a child! Age is a societal barometer. It restricts us. We are not allowed to vote, drink, or marry until we have reached a certain age. It is all based on a number. An outside number. It is not a reflection of inner skills or emotional maturity or civic knowledge.  We are considered “under age”, “too young”, “too old” and “over the hill”. We are part of generations which are defined by age. Baby Boomers. Generation X. Millennials. This is also outside of you. When you go within… you are eternal. Timeless.

Have you ever considered this question first asked by Satchel Paige? “How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you was”? Maybe you’d like to be younger? Or would you like to add a few years? Maybe there is an age that you’ve experienced and you feel as if you’ve never aged since then. Or maybe you have always been you…no matter what the outside number. Life is more about how you feel on the inside than it is about the outside number. Look around. Everyone is living individual lives and individual perceptions about the way things are. If you believe you are limited in your choices because you have not lived the required amount of years or because you have lived longer, then your beliefs will create limited choices. It has nothing to do with age. It has to do with you. The inner you.

Society tells us that we should enter college at 18. What if we aren’t interested until we are 33? If you believe that at the age of 65, you are officially old and retired from life, you will be. Do not regret an upcoming birthday. Do not regret growing. Old age is a privilege that is denied to many people. Celebrate yourself! Your age is just an outside number. Mark Twain reminded us that “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it don’t matter.”  Go within and listen to what really matters. May all your wishes come true!

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May 10 2016

Check Your Attitude

Category: ControlPatricia @ 7:01 pm



Do you feel in control of your life? Or does it feel like everything is out of control? It can be scary when situations in life change and you’re not sure what to do next. When you’re doing something new and unfamiliar, you may be frightened until you know what to expect. If you want to feel more in control, check your attitude. Your attitude is the control center of your life. And your attitude is based on your thoughts and beliefs.

As human beings, we are programmed to consider new experiences with a certain amount of fear. We can feel uncomfortable. We want to know what to expect so we can feel comfortable; more in control of the situation. Your attitude about yourself and your abilities affects your expectations. Your attitude is your belief in yourself and is a reflection of your self-confidence. Your behavior is a reflection of your attitude. Your attitude is the way your think or feel about something. It is your view; the way you approach life. It is your personal perspective of the way things are…your story.

Remember that the new and unfamiliar future only exists in your thoughts. And you are in control of your thoughts. We are making it up as we go. We tell ourselves a story about what might happen. We base the story on what has happened in the past and our feelings about what has happened. Sometimes we tell ourselves a good story and we feel good. When we allow ourselves to imagine and experience a positive expectation, we benefit from those thoughts. We are more prepared and at ease in new situations. We feel more confident about our actions. We get to practice through visualization in our mind’s eye before we experience the reality. We get inspired to follow through on our goals when we get in touch with our feelings about the achievement of the goal or the end of the story.

Sometimes we tell ourselves a very bad story which makes us feel out of control. When you tell a bad story, you experience fear and anxiety about things which don’t even exist yet! When you’re worrying about the future, you are literally planning for things you don’t want to happen. All the time and energy you spend in this negative emotional state is working against you. You are literally creating your own worst fears. And your physical body is reacting to and suffering from those thoughts!

I want to remind you that you are always in control of your thoughts. You are making up the story…good or bad. You are consciously making a choice about which thoughts to focus upon. Why not spend your time and energy focusing on your desires instead of your fears? Imagine the best case scenario. Focus on what you want instead of what you don’t want! You want to be slim. You don’t want to be fat. You want to be prosperous. You don’t want to struggle financially. You want to be loveable. You don’t want to be alone. Just that shift in thinking will make a difference about how you feel. It will also make a difference in how you act and how you react. In that moment, you actively take part in the creation of your life. You take control of the situation. You create the story. And your attitude creates the happy ending!


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Mar 29 2016

The Joyful Journey

Category: ChoicesPatricia @ 11:35 am

Path to Boney


Life is a journey. An unknown adventure. An unopened book. Many wise people over the years have told us that it’s all about the journey, not the destination. We all embark upon our life’s journey as helpless, innocent beings. Strangers in a strange land. Did you ever notice how a baby often has an expression of complete bewilderment? WTF moments? Each one of us is given instructions about what to do and what to expect. To make things more interesting, we all get different instructions. We are told about our talents and our chances to succeed. Or not. And then the journey begins. One step at a time. One experience at a time. One moment at a time. And then the journey of life comes to an end. The destination.

Greg Anderson, author of The 22 Non-Negotiable Laws of Wellness, says, “Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.” If we don’t enjoy the steps along the way to our goal, we will not reach it. No matter what, we all only do what we truly want to do. If we don’t want to do it, there are many reasons we have to justify our failure to follow through. Procrastination. We make time for what matters. And we always make time for what feels good.

When you set a goal, you are setting a destination. It’s important to consider each of the steps on the journey which are necessary to achieve the goal. Sometimes the journey can teach you a lot about your destination. When you use your imagination to explore the future, you are able to see the steps which will trip you up…the ones you don’t want to do. Each step is a destination and a journey in itself. Consider a step which makes you feel fearful or incompetent or overwhelmed. Perhaps you’ve set a limit for yourself. Perhaps you believe your goal is too big or too difficult. Remember it’s all about what you tell yourself. If you tell yourself you will succeed, you will. Imagine having fun every step of the way. Imagine the joyful journey to add fuel to your fire.

Earl Nightingale tells us, “We are at our very best, and we are happiest, when we are fully engaged in work we enjoy on the journey toward the goal we’ve established for ourselves. It gives meaning to our time off and comfort to our sleep. It makes everything else in life so wonderful, so worthwhile.”

Each one of us makes choices every day about how we will live our journey. There are many ways we can make that journey more joyful. Think about little things you can do every day to make a difference in how you perceive and experience your life. You deserve it. You owe it to yourself. And no one else is doing it for you! When I leave my home to make my way to my office, I have a choice about the road I travel to reach my destination. When I turn left at the light I commit to joining the rush of traffic on the 101 freeway where I enter a fast paced group of four lanes of cars. Frontage road businesses and sound walls become a blur outside my window. I am focused in flight-fight mode as I drive defensively at speeds of 60-65 mph over the next ten miles before my exit. When I arrive, I take a moment to settle myself and transition into a calm state of being.

But if I make a choice to turn right at the light, I embark on a different journey. Just moments from home, at a leisurely pace of 40 mph, I travel by the wide open spaces of national park land and Boney Mountain ridge. This route is a little longer. Maybe three miles and six or seven minutes. But it is worth my time. I’m able to enjoy the view of this magnificent display of nature and feel a sense of connection to it. I travel through a winding road past pastures where horses graze and hawks fly. Sometimes in the early morning, I encounter thick fog that blankets the valley with a quiet softness. I’m surrounded by tranquil beauty. I drive with my sunroof open to listen to the silence over this journey. When I arrive at my destination, I am in a state of peace.

A simple choice. Turn left. Or turn right. Forget about the destination. Think about the joy of the journey. Take time to enjoy each step of this amazing journey called life. And regarding that final destination, consider this thought from Enoch Powell. “If my ship sails from sight, it doesn’t mean my journey ends, it simply means the river bends.”




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Mar 16 2016

Filling in the Blanks

Category: Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 10:34 am

3rd eye thought


Even though I don’t know how this will happen, I thank the Universe because…  It is now ________(date) and I am ________(enjoying, looking at, experiencing, earning, etc.) my________(salary of $xxx, recovery, new home, new car, vacation, relationship, etc.) and I feel ________.

Imagine how you would fill in the blanks. Let yourself go wild! And now, do it! Set your intention. Create your affirmation. Make a commitment to accomplish your goal within a certain time period. Be specific. And then focus on it. Imagination lets you see and feel the big picture. Imagination creates the previews of life’s coming attractions. When we use our imagination, we are able to facilitate healing, enhance performance and relieve symptoms of both physical and emotional ailments. Our imagination is not limited to sight, but also uses sound, taste, touch and emotions as well. When we allow our self to go within, we find inspiration and release subconscious limitations. We also learn new skills more quickly. Visualizing your success boosts your confidence and helps you learn to believe in yourself.

All successful individuals have started with a vision. They took the time to set an intention. They imagined and affirmed what they wanted to be, to do and to have. And then they instructed their subconscious mind with clarity and repetition. Once your subconscious mind gets hold of a new thought, it will take over and automatically assume the result is real. If we supply the end results, our subconscious will supply the “how to.” It will show us how to reach that end result. Your subconscious mind is a goal-achieving machine. It is ready and waiting for your conscious direction.

Each time you visualize or imagine your goal, always put yourself in the picture. See yourself involved in the activities of your goal. If you want a new car, imagine yourself driving it. If you want a new relationship, imagine yourself experiencing the feelings it evokes. If you want a new job, imagine yourself actively doing that job. See yourself acting and reacting the way you want to be in the future. It doesn’t matter how you acted today or yesterday. Imagining future success and positive experiences changes your lifescript, or your past programming about the way things are. You realize that you have the power to direct your life.

When you use your imagination, you create choices. And then you create belief in those choices. Realize that other choices are not possible, until they are downloaded as beliefs and perception into the subconscious mind. Until we change the programming, we are not able to see the other choices. We only know what we know. We automatically act out beliefs until we are exposed to other beliefs. Or until we chose to intentionally download new beliefs.

As human beings, all we do is create experiences. There is nothing else we do. In order to create an experience, we must first imagine it. As we focus on what we want, our thought energy has creative power. The subconscious mind accepts whatever we are imagining in our inner world and uses it to create our outer experience of reality.

The world of images is the source of power in our physical world. Imagining what we want is like creating a model before we build the real thing. We need to dream, but dreams are too big to realize all at once. Dreams come a size too large so we can grow into them. They must be broken down into manageable pieces. Pieces which can be created right now. Always think as you wish things to be. Now.

Hypnosis and Therapeutic Imagery are incredibly powerful tools to access the visionary power of your subconscious mind. When your mind is in the Alpha state, you are more creative and focused and better able to imagine your ideal way of being. As you imagine your ideal, you are emotionally connected to that image right Now. The process allows you to speak more clearly to the Universe, because whether you believe it or not, the Universe is listening to your every thought. When you’re filling in the blanks, imagine only the best for yourself and all concerned.



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Feb 29 2016

Taking a Leap!

Category: CreativityPatricia @ 9:58 am



Happy Leap Year! February 29 is a date that usually occurs only every four years. It’s happening this year! For all the Leaplings, who spend the majority of your lives with no official birthday, I hope you enjoy your celebration. Happy Birthday! You finally get to celebrate on your official day, instead of having to compromise. You do not have to be allocated a March 1 birthday this year!

Leap day is added to the calendar as a corrective measure, because the Earth does not orbit around the sun in precisely 365 days. Mother Nature does not conform to a calendar. If this day were not added, our calendar would be off by about 25 days after 100 years. It’s easy to see that as time passed, without this correction, eventually July would be a winter month in the Northern Hemisphere. By inserting this day, the drift is corrected.

Sometimes when life happens, we also need to make adjustments to correct our drift. Otherwise, life slips out of sync. Our world can be turned upside-down. We can travel down the wrong road and end up in a place we don’t want to be in. A lot of times, we have to take a leap of faith to make a change or correction to our path. We may need to see things in a different way or move in a different direction. In life, a drift may take more than one day to correct.

Julia Cameron, author of The Artist’s Way, says, “Creativity is always a leap of faith. You’re faced with a blank page, blank easel, or an empty stage.” We are all artists creating our experience of life. We are given a blank page and we write the story. We fill in all the details. We are the main character of the story as well as the director. We set goals and imagine their successful completion. And in that moment, we take a leap of faith in order to make our dreams become our reality.

Falling in love is a giant leap of faith. Yet we all do it! When we commit to marriage we are leaping into the unknown, trusting that our partner will turn out to be the one we believe them to be. Staying in love requires keeping the faith. Loving is worth the risk. Ray Bradbury tells us, “Living at risk is jumping off the cliff and building your wings on the way down.”

We all take risks in order to become better versions of ourselves. You may not need to leap off a cliff. Maybe you only need to take a small step to advance. Maybe it’s making a phone call to ask someone for a date. Or updating your resume to find a new job. Or signing up for a class. Maybe it’s starting an exercise program or changing the way you nourish yourself. Take a risk. Make that leap. This year, why not observe your celebration of Leap Day with a new perspective? No step is too small. Remember what Neil Armstrong said when he explored the surface of the moon? “This is one small step for a man, one giant leap for mankind.”  A single step in the right direction can be life-changing. It can be a monumental leap. Just like one day is all that is needed to correct the calendar, just one step can adjust the drift and make the difference in keeping your life in sync. Have faith in your wings.



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Feb 15 2016

Build. Visit. Find Peace.

Category: Spiritual ExplorationPatricia @ 3:50 pm



What is a sanctuary? The dictionary offers three definitions. They are: 1. a sacred or holy place; 2. a place that offers protection; 3. a hiding place. Although it is wonderful to visit sacred places such as shrines, temples and churches, a sanctuary does not need to be a physical place. To find refuge and retreat from the outside world, we can simply go within to our own sacred place of being. When we allow ourselves to be in a state of mindful awareness, we are able to create a safe haven for ourselves. Just like a child finding cover in a secret hiding place, we are able to be alone with our thoughts.

You build your sanctuary with your imagination and past experiences. Everything you’ve ever experienced is available to you. And you can add the entire catalog of images and emotions you have experienced through photographs, movies and books. Your subconscious mind records every event and emotion. When sharing memories with a friend, have you ever had the experience of their recalling a different story of the event? They may embellish things that you found unremarkable or remember someone else’s actions in a different manner. That’s because our most vivid memories are most strongly connected to our own individual emotions.

When you are mindful of the details during the experience, you are more easily able to re-experience them in your imagination. Just think the memory and you will feel the emotion. In fact, our strongest memories are associated with our strongest emotions – good or bad. Your body/mind doesn’t know the difference between what you imagine and what you perceive to be reality. For the purpose of creating a sanctuary, obviously, your focus is on the past good memories.

Once you have taken the time to build your sanctuary, it’s like a full-time vacation property…a second home. And everything you need is there waiting for you. There is no need to pack. There is no need to book a reservation or deal with airport security. It’s almost as good as using the Star Trek transporter and being “beamed” to your destination. Your travel time is brief. Your vehicle is familiar and comfortable. You are simply transported to your sanctuary by focused breathing. It is a dreamship powered by your imagination.

There is no start-up building cost or minimum monthly fees to maintain your sanctuary. The only cost involved is your time. In as little as 15 minutes per day spent visiting your sanctuary, you will notice a difference in your life! You may experience reduced stress and anxiety, better tolerance to pain, improved well-being and a more positive attitude about your life.

Perhaps you feel that you are very busy and already have too much to do. Perhaps you’re thinking, “Why do I need a sanctuary? And what do I do while I’m there?” You need do nothing while in your sanctuary. It is a time to be a human being rather than a human doing. It is a place where you allow yourself to dream and flow and create. It is an opportunity to grow and focus on the good in your life.

Studies show that concentrated, focused breathing is beneficial to your health. It may reduce hypertension, heart disease and other stress-related diseases and actually help you to maintain a healthy weight. Taking time to focus on your well-being makes you more productive and better able to concentrate and solve problems. Allowing time for yourself allows you to be more kind and loving to others. Visiting your sanctuary helps you to create a sacred space in a very hectic world.

Building a sanctuary is a joyful process. Visiting it often is even more joyful. Let go of any limiting thoughts that tell you that you don’t have 15 minutes every day to go within. If you need help getting started, I’ve mastered the process and I’d be happy to show you the way. It’s a delightful experience. And it’s really easy. Because when building your sanctuary, there are no limitations. Except, of course, the ones you create.


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Nov 05 2015

Memories Can Fool You

Category: ChoicesPatricia @ 2:24 pm



Memories are shaped by what you feel and what you believe. They are created by your perceptions. The neuroscientist Gerald M. Edelman often speaks of perceiving as “creating,” and remembering as “recreating” or “recategorizing.” Your memory works like a reconstruction. Neuroscientists have shown that each time we remember something, we are reconstructing the event, or making a new memory. We are reassembling it from bits and pieces throughout the mind. And psychologists state that we suppress memories that are painful or damaging to our self-esteem or our perception of who we are. We re-write the story to reflect our beliefs. Memory is changeable and unreliable. It is adaptive and flexible.

Imagine a wonderful memory. Perhaps you were with a loved one, doing something fun and enjoying each other. When you remember a moment of laughter or a special touch, you feel the warmth and happiness. You may recall words that opened your heart or made you feel good about yourself. You may be reminded of a sight or a sound, a feeling or a fragrance. Each sensory piece adds to the memory…your thoughts and beliefs about the experience and the way it was.

And then time passes. The future can influence the past. Travel back in time to that memory… back to that wonderful memory just as you first recalled it. And now add this perspective to your memory. Since that time, the people you shared the memory with are no longer in your present life. Does your memory remain the same? Or will it be tainted? Does your current knowledge influence your perception of the past you remember?

Perhaps your relationship ended because you learned your other was having an affair. Perhaps it was happening right at the time you were experiencing your wonderful memory. Maybe the relationship broke because of something you did. The laughter and fun you recall now feel different in your memory. Diminished. Your wonderful memory has changed. It has been distorted by negative emotions. When memories change, perception changes. A wedding album of photos can serve as a reminder of a joyful day and the beginning of a wonderful future. And after a divorce happens, the same photographs become a reminder of lost dreams and broken promises. It’s not that the reality of the experience changed. The perception of it has changed. And perception influences your feelings about your memories. What is truth? Whatever you believe it is.

Or maybe it wasn’t the relationship that died. Maybe it was the other person in the relationship. Maybe your memory is of the last time you ever saw each other. All faults have been forgiven. And now the memory has become more important and taken on a new significance. Everything has meaning. Everything about the meeting and the person has been elevated to reverence. Again, your perception of the experience has changed the memory. Future influences past. It’s not possible for the memory to stay the same. It has been reconstructed.

Editing might be a way to learn from experience and benefit from life lessons. If recalling a difficult time were not offset by the knowledge that things worked out, we may not gain confidence. If remembering a disastrous breakup helps us to avoid a toxic relationship, we may experience real love. Perhaps it’s better if we can rewrite our memories every time we recall them. Reconstruction may be the mind’s way of keeping us in the present by revising old memories in view of everything that has happened since.

Of course, we all know that others have different impressions and memories about shared experiences. Often husbands and wives or immediate family members tend to agree about the past. They tend to come to a shared representation of what happened. Each individual has their own perception, but they agree on the event and the emotional impact. It happens when we share a moment in history, such as September 11, 2001. We assimilate what we read, what we are told, what others say and think. As a society we see and hear with other eyes and ears and enter into and contribute to the common mind. We create a shared memory, an accepted belief of the truth.

But I ask you to consider if there are any individual memories which have been tainted, diminished or elevated? What is the truth? Whatever you decide it is. If you think about the past, choose to focus on the good memories. Reconstruct with love. When you feel the good feelings again, you are creating a vibrational attraction to more of the same. And you are creating that right Now. The only time there ever will be. Remember that!




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Oct 27 2015

Your Own Little Universe

Category: CreativityPatricia @ 7:05 pm


Reality is a tricky thing. It’s not the same for everyone. Anais Nin said, “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” Each one of us creates our own reality based on our past experiences; our beliefs; our subconscious programming. It is our lifescript. We decide what is real based on the state of things as they are or appear to be. Timothy Leary coined the term Reality Tunnel, meaning a kind of realism that represents the individual world each person occupies. The theory states that, with a subconscious set of mental filters formed by beliefs and experiences, everyone interprets the same world differently. In other words, “Truth is in the eye of the beholder.”

The term Reality Tunnel can also apply to groups of people united by beliefs. We might share religious beliefs. Or share ideas about our particular ethnic heritage or country. Certainly as citizens of planet Earth, we do share some common beliefs about what is real, but we all live in our own individual Universe. When you consider that two people sitting opposite each other are experiencing a completely unique view of their surroundings, it’s easy to see how each individual’s perception of the location will be different. In fact, it is impossible for it to be the same. Each one is experiencing a different view of reality.

I have come to realize that Facebook is my own little Universe. And it is yours too! Each one of us has created our own version of reality. If Facebook were a country, its population would match that of China, the most populous country on Earth! As of the second quarter of 2015, Facebook had 1.49 billion monthly active users. That means roughly half of all Internet users on the planet use the site. And each one of those users has a different reality.

Your Facebook page reflects your inner reality and what you believe is important to share with the outside world. It reflects your sense of humor; your political and spiritual beliefs; your day-to-day life experience. You decide what is worthy of posting. Most of us post photos and videos. Some of us complain. Some of us inform and inspire; others educate or instigate. Some post recipes or evidence of them. Some post things that make you laugh or cry. Some share love and some share hate. Some of us share way too much!!! Each individual page is an individual Reality Tunnel. It is a visible representation of the thoughts and beliefs in the invisible world of each person’s mind.

And then there is the News Feed. Another unique reflection of you because it reflects your friends’ thoughts and beliefs. And remember what your mama told you…we are influenced by the company we keep. The average Facebook user has 130 friends and is connected to 80 pages or groups. The News Feed is the collective Reality Tunnel which reinforces your beliefs and your view of the world. It literally feeds you the news which reflects and reinforces your view of reality. It is also your opportunity to observe and judge other people’s lives. You have the option to “like” whatever your friend has said. You can agree or disagree and make your opinions known. You can “comment”. If it’s something you feel strongly about, you can feed the news to your other friends by choosing to “share”. And then connections happen and your Universe expands.

Perhaps you can do a little experiment with one of your real life friends. Log on to each other’s Facebook account and take a look at the News Feed. You may feel as if you are visiting a foreign country…as if you are a stranger in a strange land. You can learn from this. You can experience the world in a different way with new perspectives and ideas. You can enter a new Reality Tunnel to take a look around. There may be thoughts you want to bring back with you. Remember reality is constantly changing. You are in control of what you focus your thoughts upon. In other words, you are in control of what you post. And you are also in control of what you choose to “like” and “share” with others. You are not just creating your Facebook page, you are creating your own Reality Tunnel… your own Universe. You have the power to make it Amazing!






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Oct 06 2015

Do You Want to Think Like a Genius?

Category: Law of AttractionPatricia @ 1:01 pm


Did you ever wish that you could come up with answers to all of your problems? Do you want to think more creatively like Einstein or Leonardo Da Vinci or Steve Jobs? Geniuses think a little differently than the average guy. And you can learn how to do that too!

The first step is to look at a problem from many different points of view. A genius is receptive to new ideas, new relationships and new experiences. You reach a higher level of consciousness when you achieve new levels of understanding. Einstein told us, “You cannot solve a problem with the same type of thinking that is creating it.” You must step out of the box. Pretend to be someone else. What might they do differently than you have done?

Next, you must persist. Thomas Edison, who tried more than 10,000 times to create the lightbulb, said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” You must not be afraid to fail! Geniuses do not give up when things get difficult. They are driven by their desires.

You must visualize. Einstein said that all of his most important thinking was done by “combinatory play” with images in his mind. He said that it was a way of sifting through data, perceptions and materials to come up with combinations that are new and useful. Since visual thinking uses the right side of the brain, it presents new problem-solving abilities. Visualization is a skill you can develop. Practice. It’s fun.

You must use your imagination. Einstein believed that you could stimulate thought by allowing imagination to run wild. He also performed “thought experiments” which requires you to ask yourself a question and then visualize a situation and perform experimental action to see what happens. You need not perform a direct experiment if you use your imagination. Remember the mind doesn’t know the difference between what you imagine and what you perceive to be reality.

You must have the courage to ask questions. Successful people ask better questions. Develop your curiosity. Think about the solutions rather than the problem. Ask yourself, “What can I learn from my situation?” Or, “What can I do differently?” You must play with ideas with a sense of childlike wonder. Ask “Why?”

You become what you think about. Your life is the visible representation of the invisible thoughts in your mind. Whatever you focus your thoughts upon, becomes your reality. The Wright brothers focused their thoughts, time and talents on building a machine that could fly. Bill Gates concentrated on building a personal computer. All geniuses use the Law of Attraction, creating a reality aligned with their thoughts.

And most of all, in order to think like a genius, do what you love! The most successful people in the world, genius or not, find work that inspires them. Creating your life is fun when you are in control. And you are always in control of your thoughts. No one else is living in your head!

So, now that you know how to think like a genius, what are you going to do about it? It has been said that it is the willingness to explore all approaches that is important. Even after you have found a promising one, keep looking. There may be more and better ideas. I suggest that you give yourself permission to play with some new ideas and consider some new possibilities. Experiment with yourself. Direct your subconscious mind to explore.




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