Sep 26 2017

Reduce Your Suffering

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 9:48 am

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Unfortunately, it is part of the human condition to experience an unkind remark; an attack on physical appearance or ability; a hypocritical judgment. People can be cruel to each other with their words and their actions. And they can do these things for no apparent reason. As Don Miguel Ruiz advises us in his book, The Four Agreements, “Don’t take anything personally”! It’s not about you! Any statement, action or reaction of another human being is not about you or anything you may have done. When you can separate yourself from the opinions and actions of other people, you can reduce your personal angst and suffering. Those opinions and actions are all about that other human being’s life experience.

Remember, each one of us is the sum total of what we have experienced in our life. We are successfully fulfilling our life script based on our beliefs. What we perceive and therefore, know to be true, is based on our individual beliefs. Each one of us is living our life based on our own truth. We only know what we have been told by others and what we have experienced by ourselves. We have a limited perspective and consequently, we have a limited understanding.

Most people you meet will say and do whatever they do based on their own beliefs about the way things are. Each one of us has our own set of fears and beliefs. We have reached a conclusion about life based on our own attempts to survive. We develop coping mechanisms to get us through. We seek to numb ourselves to our feelings by turning to food, drugs, alcohol, sex and gambling. We look outside of ourselves to lay blame for our anger and frustration. We suffer.

Most of another’s bad attitudes, defenses and fearful behavior has nothing to do with you. Even when that bad attitude may appear to be aimed directly at you! The behavior has more to do with a past event when the person experienced a similar situation. The reaction is about all the other times. Especially the first time.  We react in the now moment based on our past programming…right or wrong. We perceive only what we believe.

When you can recognize that nothing is personal, you are able to get over it. You don’t feel abused or mistreated. You move on since you know the reaction is not about you; it is not about what is happening now. Their reaction is based on their past suffering. Do not be offended! Take the opportunity to extend kindness and compassion.

Another’s actions may cause you pain. You may feel frustrated or disappointed. You may know anger or betrayal. Know that your worth is not determined by what anyone else says or does or believes. Take those things less seriously. Focus on your own truth; the integrity of who you are. When you live your life as your authentic self, other’s opinions and behaviors do not hinder your happiness or your success. There is no need to suffer when you are living authentically. There is no need to care about other’s opinions of what you do and who you are. It doesn’t matter what they think or do. Instead, care about what you think of what you are doing. Be the best you. Tranquility will replace suffering.

 

 

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Sep 18 2017

Gratitude: The Wonder Drug for Depression

Category: Gratitude,Health & Wellness,Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 4:03 pm

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The essence of all you appreciate is constantly flowing into your reality. As a creator, you create with your thoughts. When you are thinking about what you like or enjoy, you are in the process of creating more of it. When you become more aware of the moments of your life, you engage your senses. You are grateful in the now moment. You appreciate the good that is happening now or you recall the pleasant memory of the past. When you are in this state of awareness, your brain is producing neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine.

When you are feeling grateful, an area of your brain stem region produces dopamine, which increases your enjoyment of what you are experiencing. In addition, when you are feeling gratitude toward others, it increases activity in social dopamine circuits. You enjoy people more and social interactions are more fun. Another area of your brain, the anterior cingulate cortex is busy producing serotonin. This neurotransmitter affects your mood; your appetite and digestion; your ability to sleep; your memory; and your sexual desire and function. Serotonin inhibits impulses so you are better able to control your bad habits. When you are depressed, you lose control. Anti-depressants such as Wellbutrin and Prozac boost the neurotransmitters dopamine and serotonin.

In his book, The Upward Spiral, Dr. Alex Korb addresses the research which has found that gratitude is a powerful anti-depressant. He acknowledges that scientists don’t fully understand depression, but they know it relates to neurotransmitters produced in the brain.  Depression also relates to the prefrontal cortex, which is used for critical thinking and decision making. In addition, the limbic system is involved. This system includes the emotional center of the brain, the amygdala; and the hippocampus, which plays a role in the formation of new memories. Depression affects brain functions which inhibit our ability to heal.

Korb explains how we keep ourselves in a downward spiral when we focus on negative thoughts. Anxiety about the future and worry about things we don’t want reinforces the depressed brain. Remember, you must focus on the now moment, the only moment there is. Bad memories or self-criticism about past behavior are in the past. Let go! You must focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want! Why spend your valuable thought energy on creating negative circumstances which create negative emotions?

Pay attention. Focus on gratitude for your physical body. Acknowledge that it is constantly in your service, no matter how you treat it. Focus on gratitude for your loved ones and their presence in your life. Feel the love. Focus on gratitude for the experience of life. Appreciate your talents, skills and abilities. Know that you have within you everything you need to create the life you want. You can choose to focus on gratitude and benefit from the positive effects in your brain and your physical body. You can choose the upward movement. You can rewire yourself so that it’s easier to feel the positive emotions which produce positive results.

Melody Beattie says, “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”

Apparently, gratitude is a better anti-depressant than Prozac or Wellbutrin. And gratitude has no negative side effects!

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Aug 22 2017

Enjoying the Picnic – With or Without Ants

Category: Choices,ControlPatricia @ 8:35 am

 

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The warm, lazy days of summer offer an opportunity to spend more time outside in nature. We play more. Longer days also allow us to relax; to experience more of the sweetness of life. There is an abundance of color and growth in the natural world. We make a point of taking a vacation or a staycation. A common activity is to pack a picnic basket and enjoy a simple meal under the welcoming shade of a tree. We can enjoy the sounds of the birds and the wind rustling through the branches. We can stretch out and take a nap on the soft grass and feel the earth beneath our feet. We can engage in meditative thought in peaceful surroundings. We can also be annoyed. Even in the quiet beauty of nature, we can become distracted by negative thoughts.

Your thoughts can take the form of a mosquito buzzing in your ear, keeping you tuned into an unpleasant distraction or an unwelcome thought. Or your thoughts can seem like a line of ants marching across your picnic blanket, messing up your solitude and wreaking havoc on your plans. In either case, you can choose to observe the mosquito or the ants. You can swat at the mosquito and allow it to disturb you. Or you can ignore it. You can watch as the ants march off the other side of the blanket and disappear from sight. Or you can panic and rearrange everything on your blanket to avoid contact with them. In either case, you could focus on the annoying things. You could fuss over them. You could get angry with them. You could feel sad that they have ruined your picnic. You could even let them bite you!

But you have power over the annoying insects. You have power over the annoying thoughts. You decide. It’s your choice. It’s always your choice.

Are you making yourself suffer? Maybe you think the mosquito or the ant is what is making you unhappy…those things outside of you that are out to get you…to make you suffer. But it’s not the outside things that are making you suffer. It’s your reaction to the things. And you are in control of your reactions. You have the freedom to make a choice to react differently when the annoying things get to you.

When you focus on the negative, you suffer. When you react in a negative manner, you increase your suffering. Pay attention to your thoughts. Focus on the ones that make you happy. Relax and enjoy the picnic. Summer will be over soon. Everything in life is temporary. Don’t waste your time slapping at mosquitos or fretting over ants. Stay within your place of inner peace when outside things threaten to annoy you.

 

 

 

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Aug 08 2017

Vibrating Abundance

Category: Choices,Law of AttractionPatricia @ 8:36 am

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We all want abundance in our lives. Whether it is wealth, a loving relationship, or a thriving career…we want to experience the joy of having it all. Maybe you’ve tried to use the Law of Attraction, based on the immutable Law of Vibration. Perhaps you’ve written the affirmations, made the vision board and done the work. You are waiting for results, but you haven’t achieved success. It’s frustrating when your efforts at manifestation don’t happen. Maybe you’re missing something.  Take a moment to consider what it might be.

You must be patient. When things aren’t happening according to your time schedule, don’t let doubt stand in your way. When you are projecting a vibration of confidence and belief in your success, you are allowing all you desire to come to you. BUT…when seeds of doubt creep in, everything stops. The creative source of the universe responds to your confidence and your doubt! Imagine you were taking a road trip. You set your course believing that if you continue on the highway, you will arrive at your destination. You don’t doubt, stop or turn back. You follow your plan. Don’t annoy yourself by asking, “Am I there yet? Am I there yet?”

You must take action. You need to actively participate in the process of bringing about your desire. It’s important to make a plan, set realistic goals and follow through. You must hold yourself accountable. Lying around dreaming about how it feels to live your dream life is just not enough. Believe in your success and you will take action.

You must pay attention to your thoughts. You can never get rich by thinking about being poor. You can never get thin by thinking about being fat. It is far more powerful to be “for” something than to be “against” it. If you are thinking thoughts of lack, then that is what you are calling into existence. Instead of thinking about what you don’t want, think about what you do want. And when you are thinking…notice the emotion you are feeling. The emotion is the fuel. Good thoughts create motivation. Good thoughts create good results.

Your thoughts create your energetic vibration. You are like a broadcasting tower for a TV station, sending your thoughts out into the universe. Like attracts like. Your soulmate. Your employer. Your experiences. You attracted all of it. You can learn to control your mental vibration at will. You can choose your thoughts. You can attract what you want.

You must align with your goals. Wayne Dyer says, “Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.”  When we are tuned into the vibration, we are in alignment with what we want. When you are taking the steps to achieve a goal, check in with yourself. Are you in alignment with it? Have you made progress? Does it feel good to continue? Don’t force yourself to continue, if you decide to take a different approach.

You must face the truth of what you have created in your life. And what you have not. Whether you are creating consciously or subconsciously, you are responsible for your creations. In the subtle field of energy, you attract what you are aligned with. Sometimes it’s difficult to accept that you “attracted” a bad relationship or unemployment or disease. Realize that what you put in, you get out. In order to achieve your goals, you must act with true integrity.

It is imperative that you control your thinking. You must focus on the positive and on what you want. This allows you to be in vibrational alignment with your goals. Your energetic signature or your emotional vibrational frequency is your magnetic force, attracting that with which you are aligned. Consider the “why” and the “what” of your goal. Trust that your vibrational force will attract the “how”, “who”, “where” and “when”.

It’s not that all the “bad” things will disappear. Things happen. Your life is affected by outside forces. Your perception of them can change. Your choices can change. Your actions can change. Your vibration can change. It’s a choice you make.

 

 

 

 

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Jul 05 2017

Telomeres Are Telling on You

Category: Health & Wellness,Positive ThinkingPatricia @ 5:34 pm

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You may be guilty of killing your cells! Destroying the building blocks of your body! And you may be doing it without even knowing! Researchers have found that negative thoughts can lead to premature cell death. You don’t want your cells to die! Dead cells equal aging! The lifespan of a cell is dictated in part by a cellular structure called a telomere. The telomere protects your genetic data and helps cells to divide. But, every time a cell divides, the telomere gets shorter. After a while, it becomes too short and it is unable to divide. When this happens, the cell dies.

In addition to negative thoughts, it’s also been noted that hostile thoughts shorten these cellular structures. This leads to premature aging of cells, which means premature aging of you! A recent study published in Journal of Behavioral Medicine found that cynical men had a much higher risk of heart attack and stroke. When compared to less skeptical people, those who think cynical and hostile thoughts create a negative impact on their telomeres. This impact results in high levels of cardiovascular disease, metabolic disease, and depression. Hostile, cynical people die at a younger age.

Maybe you’re not hostile, but are you pessimistic? In research from 2014, investigators measured pessimism and telomere length in 490 men. Not surprisingly, more pessimistic men have shorter telomeres. And size matters! In another study, researchers found that pessimism could not only create poor health, it could cause an illness to progress at a far faster rate. When pessimists developed cancer or heart disease, they died sooner.

Perhaps you’re guilty of over analysis? Even though something may have happened years ago, you continue to analyze the situation. This miserable and purposeless rumination can kill you! Let it go! Forgive! Agonizing over the past creates anxiety and depression, which leads to production of high levels of cortisol, the stress hormone. You are shortening your telomeres, slowly killing them. And you know what happens next…

The good news is that you can take action to lengthen your telomeres and keep them functioning for a longer period of time. The actions are not difficult or demanding. You’ve probably heard it all before. I’ll remind you again. Control your stress. Sleep. Exercise regularly. Eat foods that are high in antioxidants, vitamin C and vitamin E. Practice mindful meditation. Think good thoughts. I’ll repeat. Think the thoughts that make you feel good. Hopeful thoughts. Loving thoughts. Forgiving thoughts. Focus on what you want. Focus on the positive. It’s not just about the lala woowoo everybody be happy now. It’s about your health and longevity. And you contribute to it. One way or another.

Your thoughts matter! Negativity. Cynicism. Hostility. Pessimism. Rumination. Stop. Just stop. Stop hurting yourself. Your thoughts influence your actions. Your thoughts influence your health. Your thoughts create your reality. Now you know better. Do better.

 

 

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Mar 28 2017

Impossible? What Do You Think?

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 12:03 pm

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Chris Bertish made history this month. One day at a time. One stroke at a time. He did what many would consider impossible. Chris Bertish, a world champion big wave surfer from South Africa, recently completed a trans-Atlantic journey on a 20-foot stand-up paddleboard. Yes, that’s right. On a paddleboard. Across the Atlantic Ocean. Alone. He made the decision. He made the plan. He believed it was possible. And then he did it…through the power of his own mind, through the power of his own thoughts.

Bertish made the journey as a way to raise money for charity and test the limits of possibility. His motto is “Dream it, See it, Believe it, Achieve it.” The Lunchbox Fund, Operation Smile, and Signature of Hope were the three main beneficiaries of the reported $6 million raised by this amazing journey. When we are inspired to do for others, we are fueled by more power and determination. The goal becomes bigger than the individual. Success matters more.

The journey from Morocco’s Agadir Harbor, to Antigua’s English Harbor took ninety three days. It is estimated that to travel the distance of 4,050 miles, 2,088,000 paddle strokes were required. To do this, it was necessary to consume 8,000-10,000 calories per day. The average distance traveled every day was 44 miles. More than a marathon. Every day. For ninety three days.

Bertish said, “This whole project is about breaking boundaries and redefining what is possible. Ninety-five percent of the world thought it was impossible. The words ‘impossible’ and ‘can’t’ are motivators for me to find solutions, get creative and make the impossible possible.” You decide what is possible in your life. You decide what your limits are. And it is your choice to break those limits. Anything is possible if you believe it is possible.

As you can imagine, there were challenges along the way. More than a dozen things broke and needed to be jury-rigged. And remember the repairs needed to be done in treacherous conditions, including a couple of close encounters with sharks and 20-foot seas. One of the biggest challenges came when the solar panels which allowed him to make fresh drinking water stopped working properly. Unable to make the three gallons of water needed to survive on a daily basis, he said “I had to train my body to survive on a gallon to a gallon and a half of water each day. That way, I could manage the other systems that would keep me alive, like powering the automatic identification systems so giant tankers could see me and wouldn’t run me over in the middle of the night.”  The body is a reflection of your subconscious mind. Through mindfulness and meditative thought you can cause changes in your body functions, when you believe you can.

In the 1980’s, Dr. Herbert Benson did studies on the mind-body connection. His research showed that highly trained Tibetan monks were able to control their body temperature by using the power of their mind.  Through deep concentration, the monks were able to generate enough heat that they were able to dry wet blankets with their body heat. The meditating monks could increase the temperature of their fingers and toes by as much as 46.94 °F.  Like the Tibetan monks, Indian yogis are also able to manipulate their physiological processes. Research done in 1936 showed that yogis were able to slow their heart rate down so slow that it was only detectable with an EKG. And of course you are aware of the placebo effect. It is so widely accepted as fact that most medical tests use it as a way of proving if a drug works on its own or because people “think” it works. If we think it works, it does. Our body responds physiologically, producing real biological effects, as a reaction to a belief or an inert substance. An amusing study was done by a group of Princeton students. The experimenters served non-alcoholic O’Douls at a keg party then watched as their guests acted as if they were drinking regular beer. Generally behaving as if they were drunk, they acted silly, slurred their words and staggered around. Their belief affected their body’s reactions and their behavior. Bertish reinforces this when he says, “What I find fascinating about adventure is it teaches you about your limits and shows you that you can push your body to overcome things that most people think aren’t humanly possible. It makes you realize how incredible the human body is if you teach it to do something and shift the normality of what it’s expected to do.”

There were multiple life-threatening low-points, “where it was about having the right mental attitude to stay strong and not fall apart and just endure every hour, every day, every night … night after night, stroke after stroke, for 93 days straight’. Bertish says, “How did I get through it? It was all about going stroke-by-stroke, just getting through the next hour, the next day, the next night, the next storm. If you stay focused on what is happening right in front of you and never give up, you’ll eventually make it to your goal.” Success happens when you stay in the now moment. We can not be present and aware if we are thinking about something that happened in the past or what might happen in the future. The now moment is the moment of power…the moment of creation.

So is there something “impossible” that you would like to accomplish? What’s your excuse? What do you need to motivate yourself? Perhaps there is a charity worth your support. Perhaps there is challenge you want to give to yourself. What are your limits? Who created them? There are no limits. There are only limited thoughts. Chris Bertish has decided to embrace “limitless living. We can achieve, explore and do anything we want in life.” I congratulate and applaud Chris Bertish on this amazing achievement; not only for his own personal goal, but for the recipients of his charitable giving.  He is absolute proof that The Mind Matters!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Mar 09 2017

Do This. Live Longer.

Category: Health & Wellness,Positive ThinkingPatricia @ 1:33 pm

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An optimistic outlook helps you live longer. Expecting good things brings good things. Positive thinking is a powerful medicine…with no negative side effects! A new study from the Harvard School of Public Health states that case. It was found that factors such as optimism, life satisfaction and happiness are associated with a reduced risk of cardio-vascular disease. This reduced risk is regardless of other factors such as smoking or weight or age.

Eric Kim, research fellow in the Department of Social and Behavioral Sciences and co-lead author of the study said, “Our new findings suggest that we should make efforts to boost optimism, which has been shown to be associated with healthier behaviors and healthier ways of coping with life challenges.” It may be that higher optimism has a direct impact on our biological health. Apparently scientific studies show that more than any other factor, it is positive thinking that enhances longevity.

The science of happiness is increasingly suggesting a link between happiness and health. A study analyzed data from 2004 to 2012 from 70,000 women enrolled in the Nurses’ Health Study. Josh Richardson in an article in Prevent Disease reports that “The most optimistic women had a 16 percent lower risk of dying from cancer; 38 percent lower risk of dying from heart disease; 39 percent lower risk of dying from stroke; 38 percent lower risk of dying from respiratory disease; and 52 percent lower risk of dying from infection.”

It appears that optimism, happiness and good health go together hand-in-hand. Scientific studies have been finding that happiness can make our hearts healthier, our immune systems stronger, and our lives longer. Positive thoughts actually affect and enhance our cellular structure.

Do you want to live longer? Do you want to be healthier while you are living? And just what is optimism? The dictionary defines it as “a disposition or tendency to look on the more favorable side of events or conditions and to expect the most favorable outcome”. It’s about focus on what you want and the belief that it is possible. If you don’t believe it is possible, you don’t have faith in the outcome. Optimism is a state of having positive beliefs. It is based on confidence, enthusiasm and trust. Remember, a belief is simply a thought you think over and over.

You may be aware of some thoughts about optimism which are part of our culture. Thoughts like, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” “There are plenty of fish in the sea.” And of course, “Look at the glass as half full instead of half empty.” I prefer to think of my glass as re-fillable!

You can write your own prescription for this “miracle” of longevity. Your optimism can be altered with a few simple interventions. Remember everything begins with a thought. And everything good begins with a good thought! Lao Tzu tells us, “Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success.”  Life is but a dream.

Give your attention to what you want by acknowledging and focusing on the positive things taking place in your everyday life. Be present in the now moment. Focus on your loved ones. Enjoy the beauty of nature. Watch a funny movie. Read an inspiring story. Become more aware of the moments of your life and engage your senses as you appreciate the good, exciting and notable events happening. The essence of all you appreciate is constantly flowing into your reality. When you pay attention, it becomes obvious.

What are you choosing to think about? Remember there is no one else in your head but you. You are creating the thoughts. And the thoughts are creating your reality. And apparently the thoughts you are thinking are also determining how long you’ll be around to think about things.
 

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Jan 19 2017

No Expiration Date. No Time Limit. No Other Life.

Category: Choices,Inspirational Quotes,MotivationPatricia @ 12:49 pm

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Later in life, some of us experience regret about what we didn’t accomplish. We didn’t achieve what we wanted. We didn’t fulfill our true potential. We didn’t travel the world. We didn’t find our soul mate. We didn’t learn to play the piano. These “didn’ts” can cause pain. They can make us feel as if we had failed at life.

The ability to do new things and learn new skills does not expire. We can always improve and become better versions of ourselves. My dad passed away at the age of 93. One of the many things he taught me was that you could do anything you set your mind to do; you could learn anything. And there were no limits as to when you could begin. When he was 75, he decided to learn how to paint with oils. So he got an easel, some canvases and paints. And then he painted.  When he was 88, he invested in a computer so that he could learn about the internet. And then he explored the new world of cyberspace.

Almost without exception, some of the regret experienced later in life is a result of not “achieving” something. When one feels that they haven’t fulfilled their true potential, it can leave a painful mark. Self-discovery and improvement can happen at any time in life. The ability to improve oneself does not expire. It is a never-ending process.

“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another island. There is no other land; there is no other life but this.” – Henry David Thoreau

There are many stories of people who began new careers at an advanced age. One such person is Anna Mary Robertson, known as Grandma Moses. She began her painting career at the age of 78 (I think maybe Dad was inspired by her) and painted until her passing at the age of 101.

There is also a lesser known woman who should be acknowledged: Doreetha Daniels. Doreetha, a multiple stroke victim with vision and hearing problems recently received her college degree from College of the Canyons in Santa Clara, California. Doreetha is 99 years old. She advised prospective students: “Don’t give up. Do it. Don’t let anybody discourage you. Say that, ‘I’m going to do it,’ and do it for yourself.”

One faculty member said: “Doreetha is a living testament to the saying ‘if there is a will, there is a way’…” Doreetha was motivated to go to college by two things. She was tired of her hobbies and wanted to expand her interests. And she was inspired by her grandchildren, who after starting families and careers, went back to school for graduate degrees.

Consider Thoreau’s words …“there is no other life but this.” Take the opportunity to live it to the fullest. Live until the very end. There is no limitation to what you can accomplish. There is no time limit to being actively engaged in life.

 

 

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Dec 20 2016

Happy Holidays! Or Not?

Category: Choices,Positive ThinkingPatricia @ 3:00 pm

 

 

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Happy Holidays. Merry Christmas. Happy Hanukkah. Feliz Navidad. Celebrate the season! It’s a wonderful time of the year to appreciate each other. We all have many memories attached to this season. I think most of them are good or we wouldn’t continue with the traditions. Because of the feelings attached to these memories, at this time of year, our emotions can get a little out of whack. We are more sensitive. Hopeful. Things seem bigger. More dramatic. Everything is magnified. Good things are better. Bad things are worse. During the holiday season, some of us may not feel like celebrating. Extra time and effort are required and we are already overwhelmed with the necessities of life. It’s been a difficult and divisive time in our society. There are many among us who face a personal challenge this year.

We may have lost a loved one and the world is a different place than it was last year. It is emptier. We mourn what was. And sometimes reminders of past joy can bring pain. We don’t want to look. We don’t want to feel. Maybe we have less money to spend on our loved ones. Or maybe we have less time to spend with them because they are scattered all over the world. Or could it be that they are right next door but the emotional distance is just too far to travel? Maybe we feel we are all alone with no loved ones.

All feelings are valid and need to be acknowledged. You deserve to feel your emotions. It’s the only way you can process them and let them go. The season reminds us of Joy – the #1 emotion. It doesn’t get any better than Joy. If you’re not feeling Joy, what are you feeling? If you’re feeling Fear, Grief or Depression, you’ve hit the bottom. You’re at the lowest end of the emotional scale. There are many emotions you could consider feeling. You could move on up to Insecurity or Jealousy or Anger and it’s not too much of a stretch to get to Blame or Disappointment. As bad as they are, these emotions are better than Fear. As you move past Frustration and Pessimism, you will find Hopefulness and Optimism. You can make the conscious choice to move up to Enthusiasm where you will find that Passion is within reach. From there, you have nowhere else to go but up – to reach Joy. Although you may have reason to deserve to feel any emotion, remember you deserve to feel Joy.

The holidays are a symbol of hope and a promise of miracles. That alone is worth celebrating. The American essayist, Hamilton Wright Mabie reminds us, “Blessed is the season which engages the whole world in a conspiracy of love.”  As we enter the holiday season, I encourage you to select what you love about the holidays and reinforce it or recreate it. You can choose to participate or you can choose to remove yourself. Whatever you choose to do, do it with your heart. Do it because it feels good for you. Let the stress go. Stress was never the intention of a holiday.

Like it or not, the season will be over before we know it. Just like everything in life, it is temporary. There is great value in recognizing the reality of impermanence. When we remain in the now moment we are able to cherish the people and circumstances which bring joy and we acknowledge that difficult times will pass. Remember that your feelings matter. Treat yourself with love and respect. And find your Joy. It’s the best holiday gift you can receive. It’s worth celebrating.
 

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Nov 14 2016

Four Great Questions

Category: ChoicesPatricia @ 12:02 pm

 

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How do you begin your day? Many of us have morning rituals that help (or hurt) our productivity and peace of mind. Depending on your circumstances, you may not have a lot of time to focus on any rituals. You may not have the time to focus at all. You may be rushing off to work or getting the kids ready for school. But what if you did have the time for a little morning contemplation? If it’s possible (remember all things are possible if you believe) you may want to create a daily practice which was suggested by someone who lived long ago in what you may think of as less hectic than modern times. After all, our ancestors did not have as many outside influences on their time. Their world was smaller and quieter than ours but they had their own challenges to overcome.

Pope Saint Gregory I (c. 540 – 12 March 604), commonly known as Saint Gregory the Great, was a pope of the Catholic Church. You may be familiar with Gregorian chants from that era. Gregory the Great suggested a daily practice which he believed would help people to be more effective in life. He encouraged people to take a moment each morning to be mindful and to ask  four questions of themselves.

 

  1. Where are you? In other words, what is the state of your life? How is your health; relationships; financial well-being?
  1. Where are you not? How do you relate to the perfect version of you? What is missing? What parts of your life need attention?
  1. Where have you been? Consider your spiritual progress and understanding based on your past life experiences. What have you learned about what you want and what you don’t want?
  1. Where will you be one day? Envision your heaven; your ideal self living your ideal life. Consider your future, for as Gregory explains, you will receive it if you want it.

 

When you take a moment to go within, you are better able to see what is affecting your life from the outside. In considering where you are in life, you are able to reinforce the positive aspects of your being. When considering where you are not, you are able to become aware of what is missing or less than what you want. Thinking about where you have been allows you to look back and see from a different perspective. It also allows you to feel gratitude for your experiences. It gives you strength and builds your confidence. Planning for the future is a way to have a little preview of life’s coming attractions. When you visualize what you want, you become emotionally connected to the positive outcome you anticipate. Visualization directs the power of your subconscious mind, your goal-achieving machine. You’re more likely to be successful.

Perhaps you don’t have the time to be mindful of these things every day. But maybe you could do it once a week or once or month. Or at least do it once!!! You’re worth the time and effort and it really could make a difference in your life.

 

 

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Oct 31 2016

Stop Scaring Yourself!

Category: ControlPatricia @ 12:49 pm

 

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Do you ever feel anxious? If so, apparently you are not alone. Do you realize that over the past eight years, Google searches for terms related to anxiety have doubled? The searches have included all sorts of anxiety: driving, flying and travel in general; separation anxiety; performance anxiety; anxiety at work, at school and at home. It’s not just the different kinds of anxiety, it’s also time specific searches. “Anxiety in the morning” is popular. “Anxiety at night” is even more popular. The number one search is “anxiety attack symptoms.” Attack!!! Who is attacking you? Just thinking about all the anxiety in the world can make you feel anxious and afraid!!!

So, what is anxiety? The dictionary defines it as “painful or apprehensive uneasiness of mind usually over an impending or anticipated ill.” It’s also defined as “an abnormal and overwhelming sense of apprehension and fear often marked by physiological signs (as sweating, tension, and increased pulse), by doubt concerning the reality and nature of the threat, and by self-doubt about one’s capacity to cope with it.”

What if there were a solution? There is a solution! And it’s all in your head! Anxiety is created when you are thinking about what you don’t want. So, stop it! And start thinking about what you do want! If you are creating an “uneasiness of mind” over something that is not happening, realize that you are making it up. The anxiety is a result of your anticipation. You are in control of what you think about. When you experience the symptoms of a panic attack, your body is reacting to your thoughts. The symptoms are very real. You can feel as if you’re going to faint, break out in a cold sweat and bring on heart palpitations. You can literally think yourself into full-fledged fight/flight survival mode. You’re making yourself sick over an imaginary threat. Again, I tell you, stop it!!!

Anxiety is fed by doubt. It could be doubt about what may happen or doubt about your ability to deal with what may happen. Since you’re making up what may happen, perhaps you could consider making up something good about your ability to deal with what may happen. The opposite of doubt is confidence. Simple. It’s a choice you can make. What you tell yourself is very important. What you tell yourself determines what you are and are not able to do. So tell yourself that even if it’s difficult, you will be able to do it. Because when you tell yourself that you can and you will, you will find that you can and you will accomplish whatever it is you truly want to accomplish.  Your anxiety can not attack you when you take control of your doubt. There is no reason to scare yourself!

 

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Sep 26 2016

More Confident in 3 Easy Steps

Category: Belief,ChoicesPatricia @ 10:09 am

 

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Do you know what it means to feel confident with yourself? To be comfortable with your actions? To feel as if you are in control? Everybody can learn to be more confident. It begins with telling yourself that you can be.

When you are confident you can remain “calm, cool and collected”. Being confident in yourself allows you to relax in stressful and challenging situations. When you are uncertain about the outcome and can still remain in control of your emotions and reactions, you can do anything. Confidence is the opposite of doubt.

Being confident is an attitude you choose. It is a response to outside influences and other opinions. What other people think of you is really not your business. It doesn’t matter. And you’re probably making it up anyway. When you are confident you are not concerned about what others think of you.

You can be confident about many things – tying your shoes, using a hammer. But maybe you’re not confident about public speaking. Confidence in specific situations is what really matters. When you use the power of your imagination to think about how you will be successful in what you want in life, you build your self-confidence in that area. The mind doesn’t know the difference in what you perceive to be reality and what you imagine. And when you focus on what you want, your subconscious mind (your goal-achieving machine) will get busy on the task of making it happen. Your subconscious mind is patiently waiting for your conscious mind to set a direction.

Here are three simple strategies to help you to be more confident.

  1. Imagine the specific situation where you want to feel confident in the future. Imagine yourself as the best you. See yourself with loving eyes. Accept yourself for who you are.
  2. Focus on the emotions you want to feel in that situation. Perhaps think about feeling calm, relaxed and at peace with yourself. Give your subconscious mind specific instructions about how to respond.
  3. Allow yourself to get into a relaxed state and begin to visualize, imagine, pretend and experience the future you want to create. Use all your senses to make it more real to you. Set the blueprint for your subconscious mind. Create the belief in your success.

What you tell yourself matters. What you tell yourself ultimately determines what you are and are not able to do. So, even if it’s difficult, tell yourself you’ll be able to do it. And you will find that you can and you will… by the power of your own thoughts…the power of your mind.

 

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Aug 09 2016

Learning to Try

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 11:56 am

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Have you failed at something? Of course you have! Everyone fails! But a failure is really just another opportunity to succeed. Which is worse… failing or never trying? When we experience failure, we may feel stupid or embarrassed. We may even feel worthless and ashamed. We may be afraid to admit that we have failed in achieving our goal. Failure feels bad. It hurts. Failure makes us feel afraid to begin again. It creates self-doubt. Yet, just as we all experience failure, we all have experienced starting over. We try again. We make another attempt or effort. We give it our best shot. And if we don’t try…we regret and we wonder “what if” or “if only”. Not trying may feel worse than failure.

Before you decide to start a new project after you have experienced failure, you need to evaluate what went wrong. You have to decide how you’ll do things differently. In order to do better, consider these three questions. They can change your perception of your failure and motivate you to try to succeed.

“How can my past experiences help me?”

“What can I learn from doing this project?”

“What are some mistakes I might make?” Remember – it’s ok to make mistakes!

Instead of thinking of yourself as a failure…think of yourself as a learner. A learner has to have a willingness to fail. When you stop trying to be a perfectionist or an expert and become a learner, you grow. You become more equipped to face challenging situations. You think more creatively. You give yourself more choices.

Your brain/mind is kind of like a muscle. It can grow and learn to do new things. Do something challenging. Go out of your comfort zone. Begin thinking in new ways. Scrabble, crossword puzzles, new recipes can all stimulate your mind to find new solutions.

Stop procrastinating. It is the enemy of learning and creativity. If you have a habit of putting tasks off, maybe it’s because you expect perfect results from yourself; you expect perfection from others; or you think others expect perfection from you. Where did you get these ideas? When you take on your work before a deadline, you take control of the problem. You give yourself a break from the stress. When you’re not stressed out about time limits, you are more able to think clearly. You give yourself time to experiment with new ideas and concepts. You encourage and stimulate the learner. You are capable of learning whatever you need to know.

Learners have possibilities. Every failure or mistake is just one step closer to success. Failures become insights and invite celebration rather than dismay. Failure does not define you as a person. You failed at an action; performing a particular task. That’s all. No big deal. You learned from it. Get over it and move on. Tell yourself it’s okay to make a mistake. Everybody makes mistakes! Stop judging yourself by impossible expectations.

It’s worth a try. And a try again. Make an effort to learn to succeed. You only fail when you don’t try.

 

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Aug 04 2016

That Time 5 Years Ago

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 5:54 pm

 

 

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Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? You know that time when your heart was breaking? Or that time when you felt frustrated and angry? And what about the time when you thought you were going to lose everything? You didn’t know how you were going to survive. Ask yourself this…does it really matter now?

Life happens. There are obstacles and challenges. People disappoint us. Sometimes there is illness. Or unemployment. And one thing we can all depend upon is that all things are temporary. All things. Life is happening moment by moment. We really don’t know what the next moment may bring. It could be amazing. It could be devastating.

We often feel gratitude for the good things happening in our lives. We are always thankful when we are happy and we think things are going the way we want. That’s easy. But I’d like you to consider that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset. What happened? Does it matter now? Often life’s challenges and problems are just opportunities in disguise.  We are in a position where we don’t have a choice. We have to become better in order to handle our problem.

When we are thankful for the setbacks we’ve experienced, our life becomes more fulfilling. When we look for the positive results or outcomes of our negative experiences, we realize that it all happened for the best. Each of us faces challenges in life. New challenges build your strength and character. It’s been said that “what doesn’t kill you, only makes you stronger.”

When you don’t know something, be thankful that you have the opportunity to learn. Read a book or take a class or watch a YouTube video. Make the effort to educate yourself. Maybe you were unemployed 5 years ago and decided to go back to school. Maybe you are now successfully enjoying a new career which not only feeds your bank account but nourishes your soul. If so, be thankful for the gift of your unemployment.

Be thankful for your mistakes because they teach you valuable lessons. You know what not to do. This helps you to know better what to do. You’re given the opportunity to try again and you are more prepared to succeed. You gain confidence and perseverance.

Difficult times are difficult at the time. But the difficulties fade. Our perception of them changes. We know that it is physiologically demanding and quite painful to deliver a baby. But our mind adjusts to that difficulty enabling second, third or even more babies to be delivered. We forget the pain of labor. It diminishes over time. Our perception changes as time passes.

When you’re tired and weary and don’t know if you’ll be able to go on, be thankful because your work and efforts made a difference in the world. Be grateful for your physical abilities and strength. Be grateful for your skills and talents. Positive thoughts can energize your physical body and motivate you to continue.

I agree with self-help author, Melody Beattie when she says, “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.”

What happened 5 years ago? How are you better for it? When you are thankful for your troubles, you realize they can become your blessings. And even if you don’t already have everything you want in your life, be thankful for that. If you had all your heart’s desires, what would there be to look forward to?

Gratitude can turn negatives into positives. It can help you to look back on that time 5 years ago with a different perspective. It may even bring a smile to your face.

 

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Jul 26 2016

The Dreaded Deadline

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 10:32 am

 

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We all have experienced deadlines over which we have no control. We have to pay our taxes by April 15. We need to renew our driver’s license or car registration. We have to take an exam or submit an application. We need to prepare a report or presentation. We need to pay our bills. Deadlines.  The word itself sounds kind of ominous. And rightly so. Are you aware that the term “deadline” originated in prison camps during the American Civil War? It referred to a physical line or boundary. Any prisoner who crossed the line would risk death. Guards were ordered to shoot to kill.  Later the term deadline came to be used by newspapers as a “time limit” in order to get the latest news printed and distributed on time. Fortunately for all of us, a deadline is no longer a life or death situation. Sometimes it may feel that way, but it’s not! You can take control of the deadlines in your life.

Often we create our own deadlines. Perhaps you’re planning to get married soon and planning the event. Or maybe you’ve bought a new house and need to move. You’ve just created a deadline. And somewhere along your life, you have been programmed to respond to deadlines in a particular way. Even if it’s not a good way, it’s a way that you know. We’re more comfortable with familiar. It’s less painful than doing something differently. Doing things differently requires conscious and mindful thought. We often run on autopilot. Our subconscious mind repeatedly performing tasks in the same way over and over again. Some of us created a habit of staying up all night cramming before an exam. Or we wait until the last minute to get things done. We create a time limit which restricts our abilities to perform at the highest level. We make unnecessary stress for ourselves and often make life stressful for those around us. We create a situation where we are unable to do our best.

Everyone can be more successful in dealing with deadlines by taking control. Do you wait until April 15 to file your taxes? There are many opportunities to do it sooner. Why not do it? Make yourself a deadline of March 15. If you have less time to complete the task, you most likely will increase your focus and your effort to get it done. Are you aware of Parkinson’s Law? Parkinson’s Law states that “work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion”.

Consider this. How tidy can you make your house when a friend calls and says they’ll stop by in 20 minutes? Or how quickly can you leave for the airport when you’ve overslept? How much can you accomplish and how fast can you do it?  You will notice that your effort significantly increases when your time is limited.

When you give yourself deadlines, you help yourself to achieve your goals. You become the boss of your life. As you think about your life and your daily schedule, it can help to use Parkinson’s Law to your advantage. A simple way to do this is to break your task into smaller goals. If you have a project that you estimate will take three hours, use 55 minute time blocks. Work steadily for 55 minutes and then take a 5 minute break. You will feel at ease because you have allowed yourself time to take a break and refocus your attention. The mini mental breaks energize you and make you more productive.  And do it again and again. Within your three hours, you have pushed yourself to success. Knowing your time is limited will help you to be more effective. You may find that with concentration and focus, your project is completed in less time than you had anticipated.

When you create a new way of doing things…when you realize your effort has influenced your success…you are more likely to repeat the process. By repeating the process, you are programming yourself to react to life the way you want. And you feel more in control. There is nothing to fear. You can relax knowing that no one is going to shoot you. You can use the deadline of a time limit as inspiration. When you cross the line, you have been successful in completing your goal.

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Jul 18 2016

Adding Fuel to Your Fire

Category: HabitsPatricia @ 11:52 am

 

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You are unique in all the world. But…do you compare yourself to others? Do you watch reality TV shows like The Bachelorette or Keeping Up With the Kardashians? Are you keeping up? Or do you feel as if you have fallen behind? Do you have a fabulous wardrobe? Are you attending trendy events? Are you being pursued by a number of attractive, eligible bachelors? Maybe you’re tuning into home improvement shows or viewing outrageous real estate for sale? Do you look around your home and think, “What a dump!” STOP IT! Stop comparing yourself to others in a negative way! When you feel envious of other’s success, you can quickly decrease your own happiness. You can make yourself feel like a failure. Yes, you. STOP IT! When you feel the negative emotion of envy or jealousy, you lower your personal vibration. You actually put yourself in a vibrational place where you will attract what you don’t want …to fail. You will not attract that success you desire by thinking of yourself as less than others.

However, positive comparison is a different story. It can be helpful if you’re comparing yourself to another by admiring them rather than being jealous of their success. It’s a different vibration. When you admire, you are adjusting your vibration to match that of your successful friend. When you admire, you also imitate. Remember, imitation is the most sincere form of flattery. If your friend is being promoted, study his habits and behaviors at the office. What does he do to create that success? Is he responsible? Innovative? Helpful? Emulating him may help you. Or what about your friend who is the picture of perfect health? When you compare your habits to hers you may realize why. You may notice that she takes a walk every day at lunch while you sit at your desk and munch on snacks. Join her for a walk. If you want to be like her, do what she does.

Note the similarity or dissimilarity between your actions and the actions of others. If you want to have more of what they have, do more of what they do. Learn from them. They have something you want. How did they get it?

When you compare yourself to others in a healthy way it can fuel your determination to become more successful. This is one of the reasons why groups like Alcoholics Anonymous and Weight Watchers help so many people to achieve their goals. It is positive comparison.  We begin to think, “If they can do it, so can I!” We see that it is possible to achieve what others have achieved. We begin to change our beliefs about what is possible. We see better when we stand on the shoulders of those who have been there before us. Believing it is possible makes it so. When we compare ourselves to others in this way, we fuel the fires of our determination to do better; to be better.

And consider this…the images you watch on TV and in social media affect your view of your world and your place in it. They help to create your beliefs about your reality and it is not always a positive influence. If you really want to affect your reality, turn off the TV and all those outside communication devices. Or do a little research on the people you want to emulate. They may have lessons for you. And, most of all, I invite you to go within. The images are far more fascinating and beneficial to you. And your imagination is always the best source of fuel to feed your fire.

 

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Jun 28 2016

A Summer State of Mind

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 8:56 am

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It doesn’t matter when you were last enrolled in school. School’s out for summer!  Maybe school’s out forever! It doesn’t matter what age you are…summer is not just a season; it is a state of mind.  It is an opportunity. You can always give your self permission to plan on summer fun. What are your plans for adventure? What do you want to do to enjoy the lazy days of summer? Remember it’s over before you know it! Summer only lasts for 90 something days. Look for all the ways you can enjoy it every day.

Sometimes you procrastinate…and then you miss out. You want to take a little trip. You pick a date and start to make the arrangements. Flights are sold out, hotels are booked and options are narrowed. And then you feel sad or disappointed or frustrated. If it was important, you would make the time to plan ahead. You would stop to make your plans a priority. You would stop making excuses. Maybe you are so focused on the busyness of your day to day routine, you’re unable to break away to think about the future. Maybe you’re not even aware of the present. You are not giving yourself time. You deserve your time more than anything or anyone else does. Remember, when you take care of yourself, everyone benefits.

Summer gives us more hours of sunshine. Even though it’s still 24 hours, we feel as if the day is longer. We have an opportunity to do more. Or to have the time to do less. Summer gives us permission to be a little lazy…to lay around the pool or stroll on the beach or play ball. Summer teaches us about temporary things. We get a summer job. We have a summer romance. We enjoy summer picnics and concerts in the park. We plant a summer garden. Maybe it’s part of our programming. We all went to school and then were given a summer break. We could sleep late and stay up late. We could hang out with our friends. Life was different in the summer. On some level, that little kid inside each one of us wants a break. We look forward to summer. We can play.

Summer gives us an opportunity for recreation. We can swim, play tennis or go away to camp. Summer can also give us an opportunity for re-creation…to create a new and improved version of our self. Sometimes people would recreate themselves during summer. When they returned to school in the fall, they had grown taller, lost weight, had their braces removed. Sometimes people returned with a new attitude of self-confidence after mastering a new skill like sailing or surfing. They were different. Summer gives us an opportunity to believe in possibilities. Summer is about freedom and hope.

I invite you to go back to that old school programming that allows you to take a little summer break. Re-invent yourself. Consider this special time when Mother Nature is exploding with abundance…and claim your own. Explore more. Stress less. Rest more. Do less. Be more.

Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass under the trees on a summer’s day, listening to the murmur of water, or watching the clouds float across the blue sky, is by no means waste of time. ~John Lubbock, “Recreation,” The Use of Life, 1894

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Jun 21 2016

Is Your Mind Hurting Your Body?

Category: Recommended Reading & ListeningPatricia @ 3:11 pm

 

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The mind-body connection is a well-established fact. When we think thoughts that are harmful to us on an emotional level, we create discomfort and disease in our physical body. We are hurting ourselves all the time. And sometimes we aren’t even aware that we are doing it. Perhaps you’ve overheard someone say, “This job is killing me.” Or maybe they said, “I am sick and tired of the way my spouse treats me.” Maybe you’ve said it yourself.

Are you aware that The Center for Disease Control states, there is an emotional component in 85% of all illnesses?  In other words, there is no organic cause for the illness. Eighty-five percent! Science tells us that we are capable of creating illness. We can harm ourselves. I think this is a very encouraging fact. It means that we are also capable of creating wellness! The power of the mind is quite remarkable. Often miraculous!

In Dr. Lissa Rankin’s book Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself she cites much data that supports this. There are two examples I find fascinating. One is referenced by Anthony Robbin who describes a case of a split personality. One personality was diabetic; the other was not. How can that be? They shared a body which was exposed to the same conditions and diet. One personality exhibited normal blood sugars but when she shifted to the diabetic alter ego, her blood sugars rose. When the personality flipped, so did the blood sugar levels.

Another case was described by Psychiatrist Bennett Braun, author of The Treatment of Multiple Personality Disorder. In this instance, a young man named Timmy exhibited allergic reactions with one personality while the other personality was not affected.  When one personality drank orange juice, Timmy would break into blistering hives. If the allergic personality was in the midst of an allergy attack and he shifted back to the non-allergic personality, the hives would instantly disappear. Again, both personalities live in the same body. What makes the flip?

Most of us only have one mind and one personality living in our body. But that mind/personality has many aspects. One aspect may want to eat chocolate cake. Another aspect may want to have a slender figure. Both aspects are controlled by one mind. The mind is able to make the choice. Your mind is in control of your conscious actions. But sometimes your emotions get tangled. You may feel sad. You may believe that chocolate cake will make you feel happy. And when your emotions enter the picture, your subconscious mind is directing your actions and reactions. Your conscious desire for a slender figure is overtaken by your subconscious belief that food will satisfy your emotional need. Perhaps when emotional needs are ignored, distorted and out of control, the mind feels the need to split apart.

I invite you to consider your level of wellness. Is there a part of you that is suffering from illness? If so, trust that there is also a part of you that is not. There is a part of you that knows what you need to do to heal. If you’ve lost touch with that part, I can help you get back together. You can make a flip and remain there…by the power of your own mind…by the power of your own thoughts.

 

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Jun 14 2016

Focus on the Inside

Category: Fears & PhobiasPatricia @ 10:29 am

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Sometimes in life outside events influence who we are and who we become. When we experience global or national tragedies, we are affected by the emotions of all those concerned. The truth is…we are one. And when some of us are hurt, all of us are hurt. There is a connection. A coherence.

This week, an act of violence was committed by one individual. Yet many souls were affected by it. A heart does not beat solely for the individual. It beats for all those who love that individual. And when that heart stops beating, everyone feels the pain; the loss; the empty place. It hurts us. We ask, “Why?” We feel helpless. What can we do to stop this violence? How do we stop the hate?

We may look to our elected officials. We ask for more laws. We fear. We look for those that are different. We create suspicion. We look outside of ourselves. We will never find peace by looking outside. We will never know harmony in the outside world of society, unless each individual is living in harmony with their inner world.

When tragedy strikes, people come together. Love reigns supreme. We help each other. We pray for each other. We focus on what we want. We focus on what is best for everyone concerned. Labels are eliminated. We are one people. Human Beings.

The truth is…we know how to stop the violence. We know better. We know how to stop the hate. It’s an inside job. And scientific research has proven it to be so.  More than 600 research studies conducted at more than 200 independent universities in 30 countries have demonstrated the profound benefits of practicing meditation. It has been demonstrated that the square root of one percent of a population practicing meditation in one place is sufficient to neutralize negative tendencies and promote positive trends throughout the whole population. This is known as the Maharishi Effect, first demonstrated by Maharishi Mahesh Yogi who introduced Transcendental Meditation.  This phenomenon is also known as the Field Effect in the science of Physics.

An experiment took place in the summer of 1994 in Washington DC. It was predicted in advance that there would be a decrease in violent crime by 20%. This prediction was sent to all the major news media and over 1400 scientists and politicians in the region. The Washington chief of police responded by saying that the only thing that would decrease crime by 20% would be 20 inches of snow. At the time, crime was rising by 10% per year. As the experiment started, the group of advanced meditators started growing gradually. By the end of the experiment, violent crimes were down by 23%. The chance that this close relationship between meditators and decrease in crime could have been due to a coincidence was less than one in 500 million.

Normally your attention is directed outside of yourself. The focus is away from “I am”. Instead you focus on the things you observe, do, or think. You lose yourself in the world around you. When you allow your mind to come to a state of true silence, where you don’t observe, do or think anything, the mind comes home. True silence is simply being you. If there is one formula for success in life (both material and spiritual) that all ancient cultures agree on, it is “Be yourself.”

Ancient wisdom tells us that simply being yourself is the way to a higher divine reality. When you create a higher divine reality for yourself, you influence the field of reality outside of yourself. When the world outside is going crazy, go inside. It’s the best thing for everybody. It’s the place where you are totally in control of your world.

 

 

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Jun 01 2016

Just an Outside Number

Category: Spiritual ExplorationPatricia @ 12:24 pm

 

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Birthdays can bring on a variety of emotions. We all have memories of good ones and bad ones. Regardless of past experiences, a birthday is your own special holiday…the first day of a 365 day journey around the sun. You do, however, share your birthday with others. In fact, Google reports that “if your birthday is any day except February 29, you share your birthday with approximately 1/365 of any population or an estimated 19 million people around the world”. But of course, you don’t know most of them. The day belongs to you. That is…if you give your self permission to celebrate you…and to celebrate the completion of your journey around the sun. Often that is a difficult thing to do. We deny ourselves permission because we believe other things are more important. Things outside ourselves.

I believe that a birthday should be recognized with fun. That doesn’t mean that you have to have a party and celebrate with others. Although great fun, that celebration is also outside of you. Whether with myself or others, I take time to go within and reflect on this journey. I like to consider where I’ve been and where I’m going. It’s kind of like a personal New Year’s Day. Regardless of the outside number, a common ritual of most birthday celebrations is to blow out the candles on the cake. We go within. We make a secret wish for the coming year.

As beings in society we need a way to organize time. A birthday is a way to measure time. It places us in the position where we are in the world. It signifies where we “should” be. As youngsters, we are measured for size and developmental abilities. Our social skills are judged and measured by others. We’re told to “act our age”. We’re told to “grow up”. We’re told to “stop acting like a child”.  If you’re six years old, you are a child! Age is a societal barometer. It restricts us. We are not allowed to vote, drink, or marry until we have reached a certain age. It is all based on a number. An outside number. It is not a reflection of inner skills or emotional maturity or civic knowledge.  We are considered “under age”, “too young”, “too old” and “over the hill”. We are part of generations which are defined by age. Baby Boomers. Generation X. Millennials. This is also outside of you. When you go within… you are eternal. Timeless.

Have you ever considered this question first asked by Satchel Paige? “How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you was”? Maybe you’d like to be younger? Or would you like to add a few years? Maybe there is an age that you’ve experienced and you feel as if you’ve never aged since then. Or maybe you have always been you…no matter what the outside number. Life is more about how you feel on the inside than it is about the outside number. Look around. Everyone is living individual lives and individual perceptions about the way things are. If you believe you are limited in your choices because you have not lived the required amount of years or because you have lived longer, then your beliefs will create limited choices. It has nothing to do with age. It has to do with you. The inner you.

Society tells us that we should enter college at 18. What if we aren’t interested until we are 33? If you believe that at the age of 65, you are officially old and retired from life, you will be. Do not regret an upcoming birthday. Do not regret growing. Old age is a privilege that is denied to many people. Celebrate yourself! Your age is just an outside number. Mark Twain reminded us that “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it don’t matter.”  Go within and listen to what really matters. May all your wishes come true!

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