Sep 28 2017

Stop Whining

Category: ControlPatricia @ 12:53 pm

 

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What’s your complaint? What annoys you? Who is doing things to you…making you feel angry or sad?  Are there obstacles standing in your way? Limitations? Problems that need solving?  Does your life suck? If it does suck, do you think that complaining about it is going to change it? Do you think anyone wants to listen to your complaints? Do you expect others to fix things for you? If they did fix it, would you be satisfied? Or would you complain that they didn’t do it right? No one is responsible for you except you. Figure out the solution to your problem.

Marcus Aurelius, the Roman emperor best known for his Meditations on Stoic philosophy, advises that we should deal with any obstacles quickly. Do this instead of wasting time complaining about the obstacle. He says, “A cucumber is bitter. Throw it away. There are briars in the road. Turn aside from them. This is enough. Do not add, ‘And why were such things made in the world?’”  In other words, deal with it. And move on.

Are you guilty of complaining? Or maybe you know someone who is skilled at whining or grumbling? Some of us spend a lot of time focusing on what we don’t like; don’t want and don’t need. We find solace in going over all the details of what is wrong and who is at fault.  This happens with individuals. It also happens within a relationship or a community. This negative and futile behavior is heightened when we are experiencing problems and differences in opinions about how to solve those problems. Asking why doesn’t help. Moaning about the way things are and wringing our hands in despair is never a solution to any problem.

With all situations in life, you must look at the solution…not the problem. If you know where you want to be, it’s easier to figure out how to get there. When focusing your attention on the solution, you are energetically aligned with the positive outcome. You can envision the successful accomplishment of your goal and know what steps you need to take to achieve it. You can imagine your future. You can imagine feeling better. You can take action. It is important to focus on what it is you want and why you want it. With that focus of intention, the who, when and where of what you want will fall into place. You don’t have to know all the answers right now. Einstein says, “When the solution is simple, God is answering.”

Experiencing life is a series of ups and downs; joys and sorrows. Bad things happen. There is no value to focusing on the bad things. Move on. Complaining will get you nowhere that you want to be. Whining is a waste of time. Throw away the cucumber. In the final analysis, it’s about how you respond to the bitterness; how you deal with the problem. It’s about what you intend to do right now that determines your future success. It’s always about now. It’s always about you.

 

 

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May 03 2017

Comfort Zone

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 4:24 pm

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When we try new things or do something that is outside of our comfort zone, we often feel fearful. Sometimes it helps to understand the fear, when the feeling that creates it is given a name. In 1978, two American psychologists, Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, gave it a name: the impostor syndrome. This feeling is described as a feeling of “phoniness in people who believe that they are not intelligent, capable or creative despite evidence of high achievement.” These people “live in fear of being ‘found out’ or exposed as frauds.”  After receiving an Academy Award for her work in the movie, “Fences”, Viola Davis admitted that she suffers from this syndrome. Like many of us, she is telling herself a story based on her beliefs; she is creating her own version of reality, despite evidence to the contrary.

Why would we feel this way? When we have a skill or talent that comes easily, we tend to discount its value. We don’t want to be conceited or boastful. There may be a natural sense of humility about what we do. When we are comfortable doing what we do well, it doesn’t feel like we are doing anything special or noteworthy. We don’t recognize our natural gifts. We don’t recognize that we have unique skills and talents that support our life’s journey. We don’t recognize all that we are. We are not comfortable with our magnificence. That can be okay, as long as we don’t allow ourselves to believe that we can’t do anything that is outside of our comfort zone. We don’t want to paralyze ourselves with fear, as we imagine all the ways that we will fail when we try something new. There is no need to limit our life experience based on false beliefs about our abilities. We can expand our comfort zone.

On some level, we all suffer from imposter syndrome. We tell ourselves stories about what we can and can not do. We evaluate how well we do things or how badly we fail. We decide what is possible. We create our own version of reality. When you examine your feelings of comfort and discomfort, it is important to understand that you are imagining…making up a story about who you are. In this examination, you can come to a place of acceptance of all that you are.

How do we learn to live with this imposter syndrome? In her book “Radical Acceptance,” Tara Brach shared a story about Buddha and the demon Mara. “One day, Buddha was teaching a large group, and Mara was moving around the edges, looking for a way into the group. I envision Mara rushing frantically back and forth in the bushes and trees, making plans to wreak havoc. One of Buddha’s attendants saw Mara, ran to Buddha and warned him of Mara’s presence. Hearing his attendant’s frantic warning, the Buddha simply replied, “Oh good, invite her in for tea.”

When your demons of self-doubt are threatening your inner peace and acceptance of yourself, invite them in. The more you know of them, the better you can accept them as a part of you. You get real with yourself.

 

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Apr 27 2017

Lack or Abundance

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 9:57 am

 

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What are you lacking? If you are having thoughts about the lack of financial success…the lack of a relationship… the lack of health and wellbeing…than that is what you are creating. You are creating a vibrational frequency that is equal to lack. You are creating what you don’t want. This kind of thinking is totally counter-productive. You can not get thin while thinking about being fat. You can not get rich by thinking about being poor. The thought is the vibrational key. The thought is the expectation. When you are thinking negative thoughts, you are creating the expectation of negative circumstances. And so it is with positive thoughts creating positive events. You are receiving exactly what you are thinking about…what you expect to receive.

The world is full of abundance and opportunity, but far too many people come to the fountain of life with a sieve instead of a tank car… a teaspoon instead of a steam shovel. They expect little and as a result they get little. ~ Ben Sweetland

If you want to use your thought energy in a far more productive manner, stop planning for what you don’t want. Stop thinking about worst case scenarios. Instead, begin to visualize, imagine, pretend or experience a best case scenario. And then think about the way you feel. You’ve created another vibration. A productive one. The feeling, or emotion, is a creative force. When you focus on this feeling, you add fuel to the fire of co-creation. Napoleon Hill tells us, “Remember, no more effort is required to aim high in life, to demand abundance and prosperity than is required to accept misery and poverty.”

Consider that your subconscious mind is like a fine-tuned high performance vehicle. Your conscious mind is the driver. When you have a thought, it is like a key in the ignition. It starts the vehicle. It begins the journey. The feeling or emotion that is evoked by the thought is the fuel; the gas that gets the vehicle moving.

The fountain of life is abundant and overflowing. Although the individual has a limited field of vision, there is an unlimited supply of abundance available. There is enough for everyone. You are free to take what you need. Are you driving your tank car to the fountain? Or are you arriving by foot with a sieve? What are you expecting? Lack or Abundance? Just like everything else…it’s a choice. It begins with a thought.

 

 

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Apr 10 2017

Feeling Under Pressure

Category: Choices,ControlPatricia @ 6:08 pm

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Growth can be uncomfortable and stressful.  Change is difficult. A lobster doesn’t have a choice. He has to change. He literally outgrows his shell. He must act in order to survive. And that action literally puts his survival at risk. Imagine the stress! I wonder if a lobster finds it difficult to decide when it’s time to leave the past behind and create something new.

In order for a lobster to grow, it must periodically shed its hard shell. The act of escaping from the old shell is known as ecdysis. This word comes from the Greek, ekdysis, meaning “getting out”.  Since lobsters continue to grow throughout their lives, they spend much of their time either preparing for or recovering from getting out.

Ecdysis is a complicated process. Preparation is required. A new exoskeleton is created beneath the old one. If any limbs have been lost, they begin to regenerate. The lobster’s body knows just what to do. It removes blood and causes appendages to dissolve. The shell opens allowing the lobster to withdraw its shriveled limbs from the old skeleton. The escape can take anywhere from several minutes to more than half an hour to complete. If the shedding is prolonged, it usually results in death because the lobster in the midst of ecdysis is entirely helpless and vulnerable, virtually unable to move. Once freed, the lobster remains secluded for several days while its shell hardens. Within the first five to seven years of its life, a lobster may shed its shell up to 25 times. It gets easier, however. Adult lobsters only shed about once every one or two years.

The lobster is uncomfortable with the ways things are. It feels itself under pressure. Its growth has created stress and the stress is building. The lobster knows what to do. It has to get out. It doesn’t fight the change. It doesn’t think about whether it is worthy of changing; or if it deserves to live a bigger life. It doesn’t evaluate whether it has all the facts or whether it knows how to make the change.

What can we learn from the lobster? Lobster is a symbol of solitude and regeneration; the need to shed the outer shell and to go within. Personal growth lies within our inner world. Lobsters continually transform themselves into something bigger, casting off what restricts them. They get out of their own way! And they do it without judgment or ego! Lobsters take a big risk, leaving themselves vulnerable and alone, stripped of all protection. They have faith in their ability to create a new version of themselves.

Lobster tells us to not let the opinions and restrictions of the outside world define you. Heed your own instincts. Trust yourself. Break free and continue to grow throughout your life. Seek solace in solitude and take that time to better understand yourself and your life’s mission. When you go within, you find your true happiness and fulfillment. And you come out bigger and better than you were before. All of life is change and growth is renewal.

 

 

 

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Apr 04 2017

Useful and Beautiful

Category: Choices,ControlPatricia @ 10:28 am

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Spring cleaning. Life cleaning. We all have to do it. I make it a practice to sort through the drawers, closets and cupboards in my home; to let go of what is no longer needed.  Last year, I decided to look at everything with a common requirement. Everything I keep must be useful and/or beautiful. I’ve come to accept that what I deem to be beautiful may not be useful in a conventional way. However, my definition of useful has expanded. It’s my life, so I get to make the choices. (Same as you!) Art is useful for creating a pleasing environment; photographs serve as a memory aid and an emotional boost. The process is time consuming and sometimes emotionally draining but it’s necessary. We’ve all seen what can happen if we fail to do it… hoarding happens.

I know I’m not alone in this pursuit. I think many of us struggle with taking time to clean out the things that are no longer of value. It’s the reason why storage units were invented. It’s a relatively new concept of modern living for when people just have way too much stuff. They literally have outgrown their own homes. They have filled up every nook and cranny with stuff that they think they need. And now there is no more room for the stuff they do need. Rather than get rid of stuff, they move it to another space. And they pay rent on that space. Sometimes they never even return to get their stuff. It sits collecting dust, only to be sold at auction to pay for the cost of keeping it in storage. How do you experience the new, if the old is taking up space? How do you experience life’s present moment, if you are weighed down by the past? Christina Scalise, in her book, “Organize Your Life and More” says, “Clutter is the physical manifestation of unmade decisions fueled by procrastination.”

Sometimes the old stuff is not even your own stuff. I have stuff from my mom and dad. They no longer have any use for worldly possessions. I hold on to the remnants. Yes, I’ve narrowed the remnants down to just a few boxes. But those boxes contain much more than just stuff. It is stuff that belonged to people I love. It’s different than ordinary stuff. Everything is like a limited edition.  Experts call it the “endowment effect”. An insignificant item may be endowed with an exaggerated value making it feel more important to you. Regardless of that effect, I will continue to apply my beautiful and useful rules so that I can let it go. Do you have that stuff in your life? Do you want to be responsible for other people’s stuff? Did your grown child leave behind stuff that is cluttering up your space? Is it taking up space you could use for your own stuff? When you hold on to other people’s stuff, you may have trouble setting boundaries or saying “no”. You are only responsible for your own stuff. Make it useful and beautiful.

Fung Shui experts agree that your living space is a reflection of your inner space…your subconscious mind. Your home is a container for your stuff. When you clear away the clutter in your living space, you can transform your entire existence. Personal transformation can occur when we let go of the things that no longer serve us. This can create balance and a place that nurtures serenity and inner peace. What you keep around you needs to change and grow, as you change and grow. Your home needs to reflect who you are…right now. When you discard the clutter, regard it as a sign of your progression in life. Acknowledge its purpose in your life. You may be surprised to note that many of the things you possess have already fulfilled their role. The dress made you feel fabulous at the party. The shoes have danced or hiked. The battered suitcase has taken you where you wanted to go. The chipped dishes have held many delicious meals. Be grateful for the experiences, process the past and let go. All that will remain are the things that you really treasure. Right now. Ownership of things does not bring happiness. Things help you to experience the journey. They remind you of the journey. They are not the journey. Life is not about having. Life is about being. May it be a useful and a beautiful life journey.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Mar 28 2017

Impossible? What Do You Think?

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 12:03 pm

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Chris Bertish made history this month. One day at a time. One stroke at a time. He did what many would consider impossible. Chris Bertish, a world champion big wave surfer from South Africa, recently completed a trans-Atlantic journey on a 20-foot stand-up paddleboard. Yes, that’s right. On a paddleboard. Across the Atlantic Ocean. Alone. He made the decision. He made the plan. He believed it was possible. And then he did it…through the power of his own mind, through the power of his own thoughts.

Bertish made the journey as a way to raise money for charity and test the limits of possibility. His motto is “Dream it, See it, Believe it, Achieve it.” The Lunchbox Fund, Operation Smile, and Signature of Hope were the three main beneficiaries of the reported $6 million raised by this amazing journey. When we are inspired to do for others, we are fueled by more power and determination. The goal becomes bigger than the individual. Success matters more.

The journey from Morocco’s Agadir Harbor, to Antigua’s English Harbor took ninety three days. It is estimated that to travel the distance of 4,050 miles, 2,088,000 paddle strokes were required. To do this, it was necessary to consume 8,000-10,000 calories per day. The average distance traveled every day was 44 miles. More than a marathon. Every day. For ninety three days.

Bertish said, “This whole project is about breaking boundaries and redefining what is possible. Ninety-five percent of the world thought it was impossible. The words ‘impossible’ and ‘can’t’ are motivators for me to find solutions, get creative and make the impossible possible.” You decide what is possible in your life. You decide what your limits are. And it is your choice to break those limits. Anything is possible if you believe it is possible.

As you can imagine, there were challenges along the way. More than a dozen things broke and needed to be jury-rigged. And remember the repairs needed to be done in treacherous conditions, including a couple of close encounters with sharks and 20-foot seas. One of the biggest challenges came when the solar panels which allowed him to make fresh drinking water stopped working properly. Unable to make the three gallons of water needed to survive on a daily basis, he said “I had to train my body to survive on a gallon to a gallon and a half of water each day. That way, I could manage the other systems that would keep me alive, like powering the automatic identification systems so giant tankers could see me and wouldn’t run me over in the middle of the night.”  The body is a reflection of your subconscious mind. Through mindfulness and meditative thought you can cause changes in your body functions, when you believe you can.

In the 1980’s, Dr. Herbert Benson did studies on the mind-body connection. His research showed that highly trained Tibetan monks were able to control their body temperature by using the power of their mind.  Through deep concentration, the monks were able to generate enough heat that they were able to dry wet blankets with their body heat. The meditating monks could increase the temperature of their fingers and toes by as much as 46.94 °F.  Like the Tibetan monks, Indian yogis are also able to manipulate their physiological processes. Research done in 1936 showed that yogis were able to slow their heart rate down so slow that it was only detectable with an EKG. And of course you are aware of the placebo effect. It is so widely accepted as fact that most medical tests use it as a way of proving if a drug works on its own or because people “think” it works. If we think it works, it does. Our body responds physiologically, producing real biological effects, as a reaction to a belief or an inert substance. An amusing study was done by a group of Princeton students. The experimenters served non-alcoholic O’Douls at a keg party then watched as their guests acted as if they were drinking regular beer. Generally behaving as if they were drunk, they acted silly, slurred their words and staggered around. Their belief affected their body’s reactions and their behavior. Bertish reinforces this when he says, “What I find fascinating about adventure is it teaches you about your limits and shows you that you can push your body to overcome things that most people think aren’t humanly possible. It makes you realize how incredible the human body is if you teach it to do something and shift the normality of what it’s expected to do.”

There were multiple life-threatening low-points, “where it was about having the right mental attitude to stay strong and not fall apart and just endure every hour, every day, every night … night after night, stroke after stroke, for 93 days straight’. Bertish says, “How did I get through it? It was all about going stroke-by-stroke, just getting through the next hour, the next day, the next night, the next storm. If you stay focused on what is happening right in front of you and never give up, you’ll eventually make it to your goal.” Success happens when you stay in the now moment. We can not be present and aware if we are thinking about something that happened in the past or what might happen in the future. The now moment is the moment of power…the moment of creation.

So is there something “impossible” that you would like to accomplish? What’s your excuse? What do you need to motivate yourself? Perhaps there is a charity worth your support. Perhaps there is challenge you want to give to yourself. What are your limits? Who created them? There are no limits. There are only limited thoughts. Chris Bertish has decided to embrace “limitless living. We can achieve, explore and do anything we want in life.” I congratulate and applaud Chris Bertish on this amazing achievement; not only for his own personal goal, but for the recipients of his charitable giving.  He is absolute proof that The Mind Matters!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Jan 19 2017

No Expiration Date. No Time Limit. No Other Life.

Category: Choices,Inspirational Quotes,MotivationPatricia @ 12:49 pm

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Later in life, some of us experience regret about what we didn’t accomplish. We didn’t achieve what we wanted. We didn’t fulfill our true potential. We didn’t travel the world. We didn’t find our soul mate. We didn’t learn to play the piano. These “didn’ts” can cause pain. They can make us feel as if we had failed at life.

The ability to do new things and learn new skills does not expire. We can always improve and become better versions of ourselves. My dad passed away at the age of 93. One of the many things he taught me was that you could do anything you set your mind to do; you could learn anything. And there were no limits as to when you could begin. When he was 75, he decided to learn how to paint with oils. So he got an easel, some canvases and paints. And then he painted.  When he was 88, he invested in a computer so that he could learn about the internet. And then he explored the new world of cyberspace.

Almost without exception, some of the regret experienced later in life is a result of not “achieving” something. When one feels that they haven’t fulfilled their true potential, it can leave a painful mark. Self-discovery and improvement can happen at any time in life. The ability to improve oneself does not expire. It is a never-ending process.

“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another island. There is no other land; there is no other life but this.” – Henry David Thoreau

There are many stories of people who began new careers at an advanced age. One such person is Anna Mary Robertson, known as Grandma Moses. She began her painting career at the age of 78 (I think maybe Dad was inspired by her) and painted until her passing at the age of 101.

There is also a lesser known woman who should be acknowledged: Doreetha Daniels. Doreetha, a multiple stroke victim with vision and hearing problems recently received her college degree from College of the Canyons in Santa Clara, California. Doreetha is 99 years old. She advised prospective students: “Don’t give up. Do it. Don’t let anybody discourage you. Say that, ‘I’m going to do it,’ and do it for yourself.”

One faculty member said: “Doreetha is a living testament to the saying ‘if there is a will, there is a way’…” Doreetha was motivated to go to college by two things. She was tired of her hobbies and wanted to expand her interests. And she was inspired by her grandchildren, who after starting families and careers, went back to school for graduate degrees.

Consider Thoreau’s words …“there is no other life but this.” Take the opportunity to live it to the fullest. Live until the very end. There is no limitation to what you can accomplish. There is no time limit to being actively engaged in life.

 

 

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Jan 10 2017

Getting To Be Healthy

Category: Health & Wellness,Meridian TappingPatricia @ 11:51 am

 

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Well-being makes you jump for joy!

 

Healing is not nearly as complex, difficult and mystical as we’ve been taught to believe. Healing doesn’t necessarily require outside help, prescription drugs or a doctor’s advice. Healing is an inside job. Healing happens when we minister to ourselves; when we attend to our needs. Consider this: healthy = heal-thy (self). In order to improve or repair our health, we must give ourselves time to mend. It is our own responsibility to nourish and nurture ourselves.

Healing doesn’t happen by itself. Change requires effort and commitment. Goals and plans may be difficult to achieve. But so what! Stop whining! This is your life! Your life has value. It is worth living up to the fullest potential. In order for optimal change or healing to happen, four essential elements need to be present.

 

 
1 – You need to decide that you deserve to heal. Whether the healing is physical or emotional; whether it is mental or spiritual, you deserve to heal. If you need, forgive yourself. You need to tell yourself that it is possible to change. You need to set an intention to get out of your own way. Often we sabotage ourselves and block the process of healing. First, accept that you are the only one who can grant yourself permission to heal.
2 – You need to become aware of the problem; to understand the cause of the problem. Once you become aware, you can not become unaware. You become more conscious of your behaviors; your actions and reactions. When you become aware, you are able to let go of blocks and limitations. If you don’t recognize that something is standing in your way, you continue to trip over it.
3 – You need to know what you don’t want. When you recognize what you don’t want, you are better able to gain clarity around what you do want. You are then able to focus on new possibilities and options. Your perceptions change. When you change your perceptions, you change your actions and behaviors.
4 – You need to release the old in order to realign yourself with the new intentions. What does that mean? Your thoughts, beliefs and actions carry an energetic vibration. Consider how you feel when you are fearful. That is an energetic vibration. Now consider how you feel when you are joyful. That is also an energetic vibration. Feel the difference? Using energy modalities such as Emotional Freedom Techniques and other meridian based therapies help to release the old energetic resonance and realign your energy system with the new intentions. I can help with this. I can teach you how to do it.

 

To be healthy is to be whole – spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically. When you are healthy, you are in a state of balance and harmony. Many of us want to get healthy. We want less stress. We want to exercise more. We want to eat more nutritious food. We want to lose weight. We want to rest. We want to let go of toxic relationships. We want to take better care of ourselves. We want more fun; more love. Give yourself permission. Set the intention now. Getting healthy is a good thing. Getting to be healthy is even better.

 

 

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Dec 27 2016

Emptying Out

Category: ChoicesPatricia @ 12:06 pm

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In her book, Footprints on the Path, Eileen Caddy says, “Life is full and overflowing with the new. But it is necessary to empty out the old to make room for the new to enter.”   It’s that time of year again. That New Year time. We all look to the future with hope and enthusiasm. Anything is possible next year. We reflect on what we have and what we don’t have. We want new experiences, new relationships, new material goods to come into our life. We dream.

In order for anything new to happen, we need to empty out the old stuff; the clutter we have collected and the emotions we continue to feel. Clutter is a state of confusion and disorder. Clutter in our outside world is just a reflection of the clutter within.

Everything that is old is not necessarily bad or useless. Consider a piece of antique furniture or a treasured friendship. But some old stuff has to go. Holding on to old, worn-out things that don’t function right doesn’t make sense. You deserve better. Things should be useful…or beautiful. Staying within relationships which create tension or anxiety brings more of the same. Let go. Not everyone is part of your destiny. Realize that some people belong in the past. They are part of your history. We must let go of what no longer serves our best interest now. Not only at this time of year, but on a regular basis. The philosopher Lao Tzu says, “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”

Your subconscious mind is the ultimate repository of the old. It has catalogued every circumstance and emotion you have experienced. It is not possible to empty out. But you can let go of the negative perceptions that you no longer want in your life. You can look upon your life experiences and choices with love, compassion and mercy for yourself. You can let go of false beliefs. When you let go of self-doubt, you become more confident. When you release fear, you become more loving. When you no longer judge yourself as unworthy, you become more successful. When you empty out the heavy burden of negativity, you become better, stronger, wiser.

When you empty out, you are not left with a glass that is half-filled. You are left with room to fill it with something new. And you can even let it overflow. You get to choose how you fill it and what it looks like, tastes like and feels like! And you don’t have to wait until the calendar changes and a New Year is declared. You can declare yourself as a New You whenever you want…as long as you have done the work of getting rid of the clutter that is holding you back…the clutter that says there is no time or no room or no place to go. Clutter can make you feel stuck or overwhelmed. It can weigh you down. It will never go away by itself. No one can take care of it for you. You decide what you want in life. And what you don’t. It’s up to you. As the powerful, creative being that you are, everything in life is really up to you.

May the year 2017 be a time of joy!

 

 

 

 

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Nov 24 2016

Direct the Dream

 

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Even if you don’t play golf, you have probably heard of Jack Nicklaus, the professional golfer who is nicknamed The Golden Bear. He is widely regarded as the greatest golfer of all time, having won a total of 18 major championships during the past 25 years.

And whether you play golf or not, you can benefit from one of the techniques Jack Nicklaus used to become such a great golfer. Obviously, Nicklaus has certain athletic abilities which he has refined and developed. He has done the physical work to become great. He has also done the mental work. Not only has he used his subconscious mind to stay focused and visualize the desired outcome, he has used his subconscious as a sports clinic. There is a story told about a dream he had when he was not performing well. When he analyzed the dream he figured out why his game was off. He had a dream where he was really owning the links; playing better than he had in a long while. After analysis, the champ realized that in the dream, he was gripping his club differently than he was doing in real life. He said, “I tried it the way I did in my dream and it worked. I feel kind of foolish admitting it, but it really happened in a dream.”

Your subconscious mind knows more than your conscious mind. You can trust it to guide and direct you. Besides, it’s going to do it even if you don’t trust it! Your subconscious mind is the 88% of your mind that is directing your motivation and behavior. It is also your goal-achieving machine. Your subconscious mind speaks to you in images. You can also speak to and direct your subconscious mind through images.

Dr. Denis Waitley has done studies where athletes are connected to a biofeedback machine during visualization. When they imagine going through a practice or performance, the studies show that the same muscles are engaged as if they were actually doing the exercise. Remember, the mind doesn’t know the difference between what you imagine and what you perceive as reality. Using hypnosis, guided imagery and visualization trains the mind to achieve automatic reactions and responses. When doing this, all senses are engaged. Effective visualization uses sight, sound, taste, touch and emotion. This can give an athlete (or anyone!!!) a renewed level of self- confidence.

The meditative state which is achieved by self-hypnosis allows one to give instructional self-talk to improve specific techniques or skills, athletic or otherwise. Well-known sports figures Kobe Bryant, LeBron James and Tiger Woods all have meditation practices. Tell yourself, “Keep your knees bent.” “Chin up.” “You can do it.” According to sports psychologist Antonis Hatzigeorgiadis, “The mind guides action. If we succeed in regulating our thoughts, then this will help our behavior.”

When Jack Nicklaus had his dream, he trusted himself and his own inner guidance. He acted on his inner wisdom. When you go within, (whether in the dream state, the meditative state, the hypnotic state, whatever you want to name it state) you transcend conscious thought. You achieve a heightened state of focused concentration, effortless calm and confidence. You let go of the outside reality as you know it. This state of mind keeps pressures and distractions from harming you. When you go within, you know everything. This is the beginning of dreaming and from this point you can direct the dream. Trust yourself. Believe in your dreams.

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Aug 09 2016

Learning to Try

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 11:56 am

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Have you failed at something? Of course you have! Everyone fails! But a failure is really just another opportunity to succeed. Which is worse… failing or never trying? When we experience failure, we may feel stupid or embarrassed. We may even feel worthless and ashamed. We may be afraid to admit that we have failed in achieving our goal. Failure feels bad. It hurts. Failure makes us feel afraid to begin again. It creates self-doubt. Yet, just as we all experience failure, we all have experienced starting over. We try again. We make another attempt or effort. We give it our best shot. And if we don’t try…we regret and we wonder “what if” or “if only”. Not trying may feel worse than failure.

Before you decide to start a new project after you have experienced failure, you need to evaluate what went wrong. You have to decide how you’ll do things differently. In order to do better, consider these three questions. They can change your perception of your failure and motivate you to try to succeed.

“How can my past experiences help me?”

“What can I learn from doing this project?”

“What are some mistakes I might make?” Remember – it’s ok to make mistakes!

Instead of thinking of yourself as a failure…think of yourself as a learner. A learner has to have a willingness to fail. When you stop trying to be a perfectionist or an expert and become a learner, you grow. You become more equipped to face challenging situations. You think more creatively. You give yourself more choices.

Your brain/mind is kind of like a muscle. It can grow and learn to do new things. Do something challenging. Go out of your comfort zone. Begin thinking in new ways. Scrabble, crossword puzzles, new recipes can all stimulate your mind to find new solutions.

Stop procrastinating. It is the enemy of learning and creativity. If you have a habit of putting tasks off, maybe it’s because you expect perfect results from yourself; you expect perfection from others; or you think others expect perfection from you. Where did you get these ideas? When you take on your work before a deadline, you take control of the problem. You give yourself a break from the stress. When you’re not stressed out about time limits, you are more able to think clearly. You give yourself time to experiment with new ideas and concepts. You encourage and stimulate the learner. You are capable of learning whatever you need to know.

Learners have possibilities. Every failure or mistake is just one step closer to success. Failures become insights and invite celebration rather than dismay. Failure does not define you as a person. You failed at an action; performing a particular task. That’s all. No big deal. You learned from it. Get over it and move on. Tell yourself it’s okay to make a mistake. Everybody makes mistakes! Stop judging yourself by impossible expectations.

It’s worth a try. And a try again. Make an effort to learn to succeed. You only fail when you don’t try.

 

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Jul 26 2016

The Dreaded Deadline

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 10:32 am

 

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We all have experienced deadlines over which we have no control. We have to pay our taxes by April 15. We need to renew our driver’s license or car registration. We have to take an exam or submit an application. We need to prepare a report or presentation. We need to pay our bills. Deadlines.  The word itself sounds kind of ominous. And rightly so. Are you aware that the term “deadline” originated in prison camps during the American Civil War? It referred to a physical line or boundary. Any prisoner who crossed the line would risk death. Guards were ordered to shoot to kill.  Later the term deadline came to be used by newspapers as a “time limit” in order to get the latest news printed and distributed on time. Fortunately for all of us, a deadline is no longer a life or death situation. Sometimes it may feel that way, but it’s not! You can take control of the deadlines in your life.

Often we create our own deadlines. Perhaps you’re planning to get married soon and planning the event. Or maybe you’ve bought a new house and need to move. You’ve just created a deadline. And somewhere along your life, you have been programmed to respond to deadlines in a particular way. Even if it’s not a good way, it’s a way that you know. We’re more comfortable with familiar. It’s less painful than doing something differently. Doing things differently requires conscious and mindful thought. We often run on autopilot. Our subconscious mind repeatedly performing tasks in the same way over and over again. Some of us created a habit of staying up all night cramming before an exam. Or we wait until the last minute to get things done. We create a time limit which restricts our abilities to perform at the highest level. We make unnecessary stress for ourselves and often make life stressful for those around us. We create a situation where we are unable to do our best.

Everyone can be more successful in dealing with deadlines by taking control. Do you wait until April 15 to file your taxes? There are many opportunities to do it sooner. Why not do it? Make yourself a deadline of March 15. If you have less time to complete the task, you most likely will increase your focus and your effort to get it done. Are you aware of Parkinson’s Law? Parkinson’s Law states that “work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion”.

Consider this. How tidy can you make your house when a friend calls and says they’ll stop by in 20 minutes? Or how quickly can you leave for the airport when you’ve overslept? How much can you accomplish and how fast can you do it?  You will notice that your effort significantly increases when your time is limited.

When you give yourself deadlines, you help yourself to achieve your goals. You become the boss of your life. As you think about your life and your daily schedule, it can help to use Parkinson’s Law to your advantage. A simple way to do this is to break your task into smaller goals. If you have a project that you estimate will take three hours, use 55 minute time blocks. Work steadily for 55 minutes and then take a 5 minute break. You will feel at ease because you have allowed yourself time to take a break and refocus your attention. The mini mental breaks energize you and make you more productive.  And do it again and again. Within your three hours, you have pushed yourself to success. Knowing your time is limited will help you to be more effective. You may find that with concentration and focus, your project is completed in less time than you had anticipated.

When you create a new way of doing things…when you realize your effort has influenced your success…you are more likely to repeat the process. By repeating the process, you are programming yourself to react to life the way you want. And you feel more in control. There is nothing to fear. You can relax knowing that no one is going to shoot you. You can use the deadline of a time limit as inspiration. When you cross the line, you have been successful in completing your goal.

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Jul 21 2016

Resolutions Not Regrets

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 4:41 pm

 

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“I don’t regret the things I’ve done, I regret the things I didn’t do when I had the chance.” ~Unknown

In the final stages of life, people often feel regrets. There are many similarities between the regrets of the dying and the regrets of the living. We seldom get second chances. Do-overs are rare. Instead of having regrets about the things you haven’t done (yet), make a conscious resolution to do them. Before it’s too late. Give yourself that second chance. Don’t wait to get it. If you have regrets about the past, now is the time to change that. You can do things differently starting now. You don’t have to wait until you think you’re dying. Fulfill your wishes.

Do you wish you had experienced more of what life has to offer? Have you had the experience of traveling to different parts of the country or the world? Have you enjoyed exploring new sensations that travel offers? From now on, do it!  Travel while you can. Step into the unknown. Expand your horizons. Embrace more new and exotic adventures.

Do you wish you had listened more to the good advice of others who know more than you do? Do you wish you had made different choices about what you ate and how much you ate; how often you exercised or were physically active? Do you regret the condition of your health and the physical state of your body? Listen now. Make the changes which will bring you the results you will not regret. Your body is a miraculous machine capable of healing itself and creating a new and improved version of you.

Do you wish you had stepped out of your comfort zone and faced your fears? Do you regret not taking a risk and being too cautious? Have you pushed yourself to the limits of your abilities? Or have your beliefs stood in your way? Not trying is worse than failing! Resolve to let go of your fears and perceived limitations. It’s an inside job. No one else can do it for you. Believe in yourself.

Do you wish you had spoken up more about what is important to you…what really matters? Have you voiced your opinions and stood up for your values and beliefs? Do you regret years spent keeping quiet while you suffer in an unhappy relationship? Do you regret the less than successful path your career has taken? If it is important to you, speak up now. Your truth is more valuable than the false harmony that is created by your silence. Allow yourself to speak your truth.

Do you wish you had done something sooner…rather than procrastinating about doing it? We miss out when we do that. We also pick up a few negative emotions like guilt and shame and embarrassment. And we can add regret for those opportunities that are forever lost. Taking action can be very difficult and scary. We need to be prepared for the results of our actions. Now is the time to start. Just do it! Make a plan and execute it. You’ll add positive emotions like pride, courage, confidence and a feeling of accomplishment.

Take the advice of the dying as a reflection of what could have been. Listen to those who have suffered through extreme trauma or illness and rehabilitation to learn to live again. Stop focusing on regrets and start focusing on resolutions. Pay attention to this simple advice. Experience all that life has to offer. Listen. Believe in yourself. Speak up. Don’t wait. Do it now! And I must add this: Love. Love yourself. Love others. Love deeply. Love freely. Love makes all the other stuff worthwhile.

 

 

 

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Jul 18 2016

Adding Fuel to Your Fire

Category: HabitsPatricia @ 11:52 am

 

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You are unique in all the world. But…do you compare yourself to others? Do you watch reality TV shows like The Bachelorette or Keeping Up With the Kardashians? Are you keeping up? Or do you feel as if you have fallen behind? Do you have a fabulous wardrobe? Are you attending trendy events? Are you being pursued by a number of attractive, eligible bachelors? Maybe you’re tuning into home improvement shows or viewing outrageous real estate for sale? Do you look around your home and think, “What a dump!” STOP IT! Stop comparing yourself to others in a negative way! When you feel envious of other’s success, you can quickly decrease your own happiness. You can make yourself feel like a failure. Yes, you. STOP IT! When you feel the negative emotion of envy or jealousy, you lower your personal vibration. You actually put yourself in a vibrational place where you will attract what you don’t want …to fail. You will not attract that success you desire by thinking of yourself as less than others.

However, positive comparison is a different story. It can be helpful if you’re comparing yourself to another by admiring them rather than being jealous of their success. It’s a different vibration. When you admire, you are adjusting your vibration to match that of your successful friend. When you admire, you also imitate. Remember, imitation is the most sincere form of flattery. If your friend is being promoted, study his habits and behaviors at the office. What does he do to create that success? Is he responsible? Innovative? Helpful? Emulating him may help you. Or what about your friend who is the picture of perfect health? When you compare your habits to hers you may realize why. You may notice that she takes a walk every day at lunch while you sit at your desk and munch on snacks. Join her for a walk. If you want to be like her, do what she does.

Note the similarity or dissimilarity between your actions and the actions of others. If you want to have more of what they have, do more of what they do. Learn from them. They have something you want. How did they get it?

When you compare yourself to others in a healthy way it can fuel your determination to become more successful. This is one of the reasons why groups like Alcoholics Anonymous and Weight Watchers help so many people to achieve their goals. It is positive comparison.  We begin to think, “If they can do it, so can I!” We see that it is possible to achieve what others have achieved. We begin to change our beliefs about what is possible. We see better when we stand on the shoulders of those who have been there before us. Believing it is possible makes it so. When we compare ourselves to others in this way, we fuel the fires of our determination to do better; to be better.

And consider this…the images you watch on TV and in social media affect your view of your world and your place in it. They help to create your beliefs about your reality and it is not always a positive influence. If you really want to affect your reality, turn off the TV and all those outside communication devices. Or do a little research on the people you want to emulate. They may have lessons for you. And, most of all, I invite you to go within. The images are far more fascinating and beneficial to you. And your imagination is always the best source of fuel to feed your fire.

 

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Jun 28 2016

A Summer State of Mind

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 8:56 am

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It doesn’t matter when you were last enrolled in school. School’s out for summer!  Maybe school’s out forever! It doesn’t matter what age you are…summer is not just a season; it is a state of mind.  It is an opportunity. You can always give your self permission to plan on summer fun. What are your plans for adventure? What do you want to do to enjoy the lazy days of summer? Remember it’s over before you know it! Summer only lasts for 90 something days. Look for all the ways you can enjoy it every day.

Sometimes you procrastinate…and then you miss out. You want to take a little trip. You pick a date and start to make the arrangements. Flights are sold out, hotels are booked and options are narrowed. And then you feel sad or disappointed or frustrated. If it was important, you would make the time to plan ahead. You would stop to make your plans a priority. You would stop making excuses. Maybe you are so focused on the busyness of your day to day routine, you’re unable to break away to think about the future. Maybe you’re not even aware of the present. You are not giving yourself time. You deserve your time more than anything or anyone else does. Remember, when you take care of yourself, everyone benefits.

Summer gives us more hours of sunshine. Even though it’s still 24 hours, we feel as if the day is longer. We have an opportunity to do more. Or to have the time to do less. Summer gives us permission to be a little lazy…to lay around the pool or stroll on the beach or play ball. Summer teaches us about temporary things. We get a summer job. We have a summer romance. We enjoy summer picnics and concerts in the park. We plant a summer garden. Maybe it’s part of our programming. We all went to school and then were given a summer break. We could sleep late and stay up late. We could hang out with our friends. Life was different in the summer. On some level, that little kid inside each one of us wants a break. We look forward to summer. We can play.

Summer gives us an opportunity for recreation. We can swim, play tennis or go away to camp. Summer can also give us an opportunity for re-creation…to create a new and improved version of our self. Sometimes people would recreate themselves during summer. When they returned to school in the fall, they had grown taller, lost weight, had their braces removed. Sometimes people returned with a new attitude of self-confidence after mastering a new skill like sailing or surfing. They were different. Summer gives us an opportunity to believe in possibilities. Summer is about freedom and hope.

I invite you to go back to that old school programming that allows you to take a little summer break. Re-invent yourself. Consider this special time when Mother Nature is exploding with abundance…and claim your own. Explore more. Stress less. Rest more. Do less. Be more.

Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass under the trees on a summer’s day, listening to the murmur of water, or watching the clouds float across the blue sky, is by no means waste of time. ~John Lubbock, “Recreation,” The Use of Life, 1894

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Jun 01 2016

Just an Outside Number

Category: Spiritual ExplorationPatricia @ 12:24 pm

 

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Birthdays can bring on a variety of emotions. We all have memories of good ones and bad ones. Regardless of past experiences, a birthday is your own special holiday…the first day of a 365 day journey around the sun. You do, however, share your birthday with others. In fact, Google reports that “if your birthday is any day except February 29, you share your birthday with approximately 1/365 of any population or an estimated 19 million people around the world”. But of course, you don’t know most of them. The day belongs to you. That is…if you give your self permission to celebrate you…and to celebrate the completion of your journey around the sun. Often that is a difficult thing to do. We deny ourselves permission because we believe other things are more important. Things outside ourselves.

I believe that a birthday should be recognized with fun. That doesn’t mean that you have to have a party and celebrate with others. Although great fun, that celebration is also outside of you. Whether with myself or others, I take time to go within and reflect on this journey. I like to consider where I’ve been and where I’m going. It’s kind of like a personal New Year’s Day. Regardless of the outside number, a common ritual of most birthday celebrations is to blow out the candles on the cake. We go within. We make a secret wish for the coming year.

As beings in society we need a way to organize time. A birthday is a way to measure time. It places us in the position where we are in the world. It signifies where we “should” be. As youngsters, we are measured for size and developmental abilities. Our social skills are judged and measured by others. We’re told to “act our age”. We’re told to “grow up”. We’re told to “stop acting like a child”.  If you’re six years old, you are a child! Age is a societal barometer. It restricts us. We are not allowed to vote, drink, or marry until we have reached a certain age. It is all based on a number. An outside number. It is not a reflection of inner skills or emotional maturity or civic knowledge.  We are considered “under age”, “too young”, “too old” and “over the hill”. We are part of generations which are defined by age. Baby Boomers. Generation X. Millennials. This is also outside of you. When you go within… you are eternal. Timeless.

Have you ever considered this question first asked by Satchel Paige? “How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you was”? Maybe you’d like to be younger? Or would you like to add a few years? Maybe there is an age that you’ve experienced and you feel as if you’ve never aged since then. Or maybe you have always been you…no matter what the outside number. Life is more about how you feel on the inside than it is about the outside number. Look around. Everyone is living individual lives and individual perceptions about the way things are. If you believe you are limited in your choices because you have not lived the required amount of years or because you have lived longer, then your beliefs will create limited choices. It has nothing to do with age. It has to do with you. The inner you.

Society tells us that we should enter college at 18. What if we aren’t interested until we are 33? If you believe that at the age of 65, you are officially old and retired from life, you will be. Do not regret an upcoming birthday. Do not regret growing. Old age is a privilege that is denied to many people. Celebrate yourself! Your age is just an outside number. Mark Twain reminded us that “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it don’t matter.”  Go within and listen to what really matters. May all your wishes come true!

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May 10 2016

Check Your Attitude

Category: ControlPatricia @ 7:01 pm

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Do you feel in control of your life? Or does it feel like everything is out of control? It can be scary when situations in life change and you’re not sure what to do next. When you’re doing something new and unfamiliar, you may be frightened until you know what to expect. If you want to feel more in control, check your attitude. Your attitude is the control center of your life. And your attitude is based on your thoughts and beliefs.

As human beings, we are programmed to consider new experiences with a certain amount of fear. We can feel uncomfortable. We want to know what to expect so we can feel comfortable; more in control of the situation. Your attitude about yourself and your abilities affects your expectations. Your attitude is your belief in yourself and is a reflection of your self-confidence. Your behavior is a reflection of your attitude. Your attitude is the way your think or feel about something. It is your view; the way you approach life. It is your personal perspective of the way things are…your story.

Remember that the new and unfamiliar future only exists in your thoughts. And you are in control of your thoughts. We are making it up as we go. We tell ourselves a story about what might happen. We base the story on what has happened in the past and our feelings about what has happened. Sometimes we tell ourselves a good story and we feel good. When we allow ourselves to imagine and experience a positive expectation, we benefit from those thoughts. We are more prepared and at ease in new situations. We feel more confident about our actions. We get to practice through visualization in our mind’s eye before we experience the reality. We get inspired to follow through on our goals when we get in touch with our feelings about the achievement of the goal or the end of the story.

Sometimes we tell ourselves a very bad story which makes us feel out of control. When you tell a bad story, you experience fear and anxiety about things which don’t even exist yet! When you’re worrying about the future, you are literally planning for things you don’t want to happen. All the time and energy you spend in this negative emotional state is working against you. You are literally creating your own worst fears. And your physical body is reacting to and suffering from those thoughts!

I want to remind you that you are always in control of your thoughts. You are making up the story…good or bad. You are consciously making a choice about which thoughts to focus upon. Why not spend your time and energy focusing on your desires instead of your fears? Imagine the best case scenario. Focus on what you want instead of what you don’t want! You want to be slim. You don’t want to be fat. You want to be prosperous. You don’t want to struggle financially. You want to be loveable. You don’t want to be alone. Just that shift in thinking will make a difference about how you feel. It will also make a difference in how you act and how you react. In that moment, you actively take part in the creation of your life. You take control of the situation. You create the story. And your attitude creates the happy ending!

 

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Mar 16 2016

Filling in the Blanks

Category: Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 10:34 am

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Even though I don’t know how this will happen, I thank the Universe because…  It is now ________(date) and I am ________(enjoying, looking at, experiencing, earning, etc.) my________(salary of $xxx, recovery, new home, new car, vacation, relationship, etc.) and I feel ________.

Imagine how you would fill in the blanks. Let yourself go wild! And now, do it! Set your intention. Create your affirmation. Make a commitment to accomplish your goal within a certain time period. Be specific. And then focus on it. Imagination lets you see and feel the big picture. Imagination creates the previews of life’s coming attractions. When we use our imagination, we are able to facilitate healing, enhance performance and relieve symptoms of both physical and emotional ailments. Our imagination is not limited to sight, but also uses sound, taste, touch and emotions as well. When we allow our self to go within, we find inspiration and release subconscious limitations. We also learn new skills more quickly. Visualizing your success boosts your confidence and helps you learn to believe in yourself.

All successful individuals have started with a vision. They took the time to set an intention. They imagined and affirmed what they wanted to be, to do and to have. And then they instructed their subconscious mind with clarity and repetition. Once your subconscious mind gets hold of a new thought, it will take over and automatically assume the result is real. If we supply the end results, our subconscious will supply the “how to.” It will show us how to reach that end result. Your subconscious mind is a goal-achieving machine. It is ready and waiting for your conscious direction.

Each time you visualize or imagine your goal, always put yourself in the picture. See yourself involved in the activities of your goal. If you want a new car, imagine yourself driving it. If you want a new relationship, imagine yourself experiencing the feelings it evokes. If you want a new job, imagine yourself actively doing that job. See yourself acting and reacting the way you want to be in the future. It doesn’t matter how you acted today or yesterday. Imagining future success and positive experiences changes your lifescript, or your past programming about the way things are. You realize that you have the power to direct your life.

When you use your imagination, you create choices. And then you create belief in those choices. Realize that other choices are not possible, until they are downloaded as beliefs and perception into the subconscious mind. Until we change the programming, we are not able to see the other choices. We only know what we know. We automatically act out beliefs until we are exposed to other beliefs. Or until we chose to intentionally download new beliefs.

As human beings, all we do is create experiences. There is nothing else we do. In order to create an experience, we must first imagine it. As we focus on what we want, our thought energy has creative power. The subconscious mind accepts whatever we are imagining in our inner world and uses it to create our outer experience of reality.

The world of images is the source of power in our physical world. Imagining what we want is like creating a model before we build the real thing. We need to dream, but dreams are too big to realize all at once. Dreams come a size too large so we can grow into them. They must be broken down into manageable pieces. Pieces which can be created right now. Always think as you wish things to be. Now.

Hypnosis and Therapeutic Imagery are incredibly powerful tools to access the visionary power of your subconscious mind. When your mind is in the Alpha state, you are more creative and focused and better able to imagine your ideal way of being. As you imagine your ideal, you are emotionally connected to that image right Now. The process allows you to speak more clearly to the Universe, because whether you believe it or not, the Universe is listening to your every thought. When you’re filling in the blanks, imagine only the best for yourself and all concerned.

 

 

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Mar 08 2016

Teachers Can Be Frustrating!

Category: Positive ThinkingPatricia @ 2:12 pm
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Are there people in your life who are creating difficult situations for you? Are you unhappy with their behaviors? Are you frustrated by them? Maybe you’re disappointed. You expected more.

When we love another person, we are affected by their behavior, actions and life decisions. If your child is suffering from drug dependence, you suffer their pain. If your roommate is irresponsible, you may need to pay all of the rent and suffer financial instability. If your mate ignores health problems, you may suffer the loss of your loved one. When we suffer because of the thoughtless and inconsiderate actions of others, we get frustrated. And when we get frustrated, it’s difficult to feel loving towards those individuals who are causing our pain. We get a little cranky. We lose patience.

I like to remind myself that everybody is doing the best they can. Sure, some people appear to be doing a really bad job but I don’t think anybody wants to be a failure. Nobody wants to be an alcoholic or morbidly obese or unemployed. No one wants to feel fear or shame or grief. Life happens and we respond to situations based on our subconscious programming. We react the way we believe we are supposed to react. We make decisions based on what we believe to be the truth. Everybody has their own truth…their own reality.

Since I want my reality to be peaceful and loving, I strive for compassion towards everyone. I recognize that we are all on our own soul’s journey. Each being I am blessed to encounter on this journey is a treasure…a teacher. When you are annoyed with someone, you are taught to be more patient and understanding. If you have been abandoned, you have been given the opportunity to gain independence and self-reliance. When you feel angry, you have the option to exercise compassion and forgiveness. Relationships teach. We grow or expand our consciousness through interactions with others. It may be painful to experience a relationship where someone exerts power over you and creates fear. But that relationship allows you to learn how to take your power back. It teaches you courage and reinforces your self-determination. Learning that you can’t control others allows you the strength to let go.

When we can look outside of ourselves, we can see that each one of us is struggling to figure out how to be in the world. We’re all the same. One. Nick Polizzi, Director of The Sacred Science offers the “Just Like Me” Mantra.” He suggests using it when you are frustrated with an individual.

Just like me, you are seeking some happiness in your life.

Just like me, you are trying to avoid suffering in your life.

Just like me, you have known sadness.

Just like me, you want to be loved.

Just like me, you were once an innocent child.

Just like me, you are a spirit on a journey.

Be good to one another. We’re all in this together. You are just like Me. We have a lot to learn.

 

 

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Feb 29 2016

Taking a Leap!

Category: CreativityPatricia @ 9:58 am

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Happy Leap Year! February 29 is a date that usually occurs only every four years. It’s happening this year! For all the Leaplings, who spend the majority of your lives with no official birthday, I hope you enjoy your celebration. Happy Birthday! You finally get to celebrate on your official day, instead of having to compromise. You do not have to be allocated a March 1 birthday this year!

Leap day is added to the calendar as a corrective measure, because the Earth does not orbit around the sun in precisely 365 days. Mother Nature does not conform to a calendar. If this day were not added, our calendar would be off by about 25 days after 100 years. It’s easy to see that as time passed, without this correction, eventually July would be a winter month in the Northern Hemisphere. By inserting this day, the drift is corrected.

Sometimes when life happens, we also need to make adjustments to correct our drift. Otherwise, life slips out of sync. Our world can be turned upside-down. We can travel down the wrong road and end up in a place we don’t want to be in. A lot of times, we have to take a leap of faith to make a change or correction to our path. We may need to see things in a different way or move in a different direction. In life, a drift may take more than one day to correct.

Julia Cameron, author of The Artist’s Way, says, “Creativity is always a leap of faith. You’re faced with a blank page, blank easel, or an empty stage.” We are all artists creating our experience of life. We are given a blank page and we write the story. We fill in all the details. We are the main character of the story as well as the director. We set goals and imagine their successful completion. And in that moment, we take a leap of faith in order to make our dreams become our reality.

Falling in love is a giant leap of faith. Yet we all do it! When we commit to marriage we are leaping into the unknown, trusting that our partner will turn out to be the one we believe them to be. Staying in love requires keeping the faith. Loving is worth the risk. Ray Bradbury tells us, “Living at risk is jumping off the cliff and building your wings on the way down.”

We all take risks in order to become better versions of ourselves. You may not need to leap off a cliff. Maybe you only need to take a small step to advance. Maybe it’s making a phone call to ask someone for a date. Or updating your resume to find a new job. Or signing up for a class. Maybe it’s starting an exercise program or changing the way you nourish yourself. Take a risk. Make that leap. This year, why not observe your celebration of Leap Day with a new perspective? No step is too small. Remember what Neil Armstrong said when he explored the surface of the moon? “This is one small step for a man, one giant leap for mankind.”  A single step in the right direction can be life-changing. It can be a monumental leap. Just like one day is all that is needed to correct the calendar, just one step can adjust the drift and make the difference in keeping your life in sync. Have faith in your wings.

 

 

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