Dec 07 2017

The Next Room

Category: Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 12:47 pm

room next door


Three Thanksgivings have gone by since we last celebrated together.  Holidays are emotional triggers. Markers of moments. A timeline progression experienced year after year. Memories stored away to warm our hearts. The people and events of the past come alive when we reflect. And in that reflection, we may experience the pain of loss. We long for the way things were. In other languages, there are certain words that have no direct equivalents. They are untranslatable. One such word is “saudade”. It is a Portuguese and Galician word that can refer to a feeling of melancholy and nostalgia. It is a knowing and a sadness that this thing that you feel a longing for will never happen again.

We have all experienced the pain of losing a loved one. My life experiences have shown me that time truly does heal. It gives perspective. It allows for growth and insight. It dulls the pain; fills the loss. Death is a part of life. It’s a given. Even though each one is unique, we all get the full death experience. We KNOW this. But it doesn’t seem to matter. Doesn’t matter the circumstances of the death. Doesn’t matter the illness. Doesn’t matter where or when. Doesn’t matter how old. The death of a loved one always causes a shock to the system; a heart-stopping jolt. It hurts. At first it hurts more than you think you can bear. It’s with you every moment of your day, rising and subsiding, but always there. And then it doesn’t hurt anymore. It’s replaced by a feeling of love and understanding; an appreciation.

Holidays are upon us. Brace yourself for any “saudade” triggers. Instead of focusing on the loss or any other negative emotion such as guilt or fear….focus on the love. Allow yourself to feel that love in every cell of your body. It’s the best for everyone concerned, even those who have passed on. I think we can assume our loved ones do not want us to continue to suffer the loss of their physical presence. Remember…Love is eternal. Soul is eternal. Life is temporary.

Since I find the words of Henry Scott-Holland to be of comfort, I’d like to share his poem. May it remind you that All is Well.


Death Is Nothing At All   

Death is nothing at all.
It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Nothing has happened.

Everything remains exactly as it was.
I am I, and you are you,
and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was.
There is absolute and unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?

Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval,
somewhere very near,
just round the corner.

All is well.
Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!





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Aug 08 2017

Vibrating Abundance

Category: Choices,Law of AttractionPatricia @ 8:36 am



We all want abundance in our lives. Whether it is wealth, a loving relationship, or a thriving career…we want to experience the joy of having it all. Maybe you’ve tried to use the Law of Attraction, based on the immutable Law of Vibration. Perhaps you’ve written the affirmations, made the vision board and done the work. You are waiting for results, but you haven’t achieved success. It’s frustrating when your efforts at manifestation don’t happen. Maybe you’re missing something.  Take a moment to consider what it might be.

You must be patient. When things aren’t happening according to your time schedule, don’t let doubt stand in your way. When you are projecting a vibration of confidence and belief in your success, you are allowing all you desire to come to you. BUT…when seeds of doubt creep in, everything stops. The creative source of the universe responds to your confidence and your doubt! Imagine you were taking a road trip. You set your course believing that if you continue on the highway, you will arrive at your destination. You don’t doubt, stop or turn back. You follow your plan. Don’t annoy yourself by asking, “Am I there yet? Am I there yet?”

You must take action. You need to actively participate in the process of bringing about your desire. It’s important to make a plan, set realistic goals and follow through. You must hold yourself accountable. Lying around dreaming about how it feels to live your dream life is just not enough. Believe in your success and you will take action.

You must pay attention to your thoughts. You can never get rich by thinking about being poor. You can never get thin by thinking about being fat. It is far more powerful to be “for” something than to be “against” it. If you are thinking thoughts of lack, then that is what you are calling into existence. Instead of thinking about what you don’t want, think about what you do want. And when you are thinking…notice the emotion you are feeling. The emotion is the fuel. Good thoughts create motivation. Good thoughts create good results.

Your thoughts create your energetic vibration. You are like a broadcasting tower for a TV station, sending your thoughts out into the universe. Like attracts like. Your soulmate. Your employer. Your experiences. You attracted all of it. You can learn to control your mental vibration at will. You can choose your thoughts. You can attract what you want.

You must align with your goals. Wayne Dyer says, “Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.”  When we are tuned into the vibration, we are in alignment with what we want. When you are taking the steps to achieve a goal, check in with yourself. Are you in alignment with it? Have you made progress? Does it feel good to continue? Don’t force yourself to continue, if you decide to take a different approach.

You must face the truth of what you have created in your life. And what you have not. Whether you are creating consciously or subconsciously, you are responsible for your creations. In the subtle field of energy, you attract what you are aligned with. Sometimes it’s difficult to accept that you “attracted” a bad relationship or unemployment or disease. Realize that what you put in, you get out. In order to achieve your goals, you must act with true integrity.

It is imperative that you control your thinking. You must focus on the positive and on what you want. This allows you to be in vibrational alignment with your goals. Your energetic signature or your emotional vibrational frequency is your magnetic force, attracting that with which you are aligned. Consider the “why” and the “what” of your goal. Trust that your vibrational force will attract the “how”, “who”, “where” and “when”.

It’s not that all the “bad” things will disappear. Things happen. Your life is affected by outside forces. Your perception of them can change. Your choices can change. Your actions can change. Your vibration can change. It’s a choice you make.





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Aug 01 2017

Behaving As If

Category: ChoicesPatricia @ 10:30 am



Do you have a role model? Perhaps you act as a role model for someone else? In some way, we are all role models to each other. Reflections. Good and bad illustrations of how to be. Since there is no reason to focus on a bad example, let’s focus on the good aspects of a role model. A good role model is always positive and confident in themselves and their abilities. A good role model is happy and grateful for their achievements, yet continues to strive for more. A role model serves as an example. Albert Einstein says, “Setting an example is not the main means of influencing others; it is the only means.”

When you are confronted with a challenge in your own life, consider asking yourself, “What would my role model do?” Observe how they approach problems or situations which are similar to your own personal dilemmas. Find out how they achieved their goals and what they would do differently if they were starting over. Use their example. Heed their advice. Pay attention to the qualities of their presence and demeanor. Are they decisive? Calm? In control? Do they seek the advice of others? Are they confident in their abilities? Do they avoid mediocrity and make great efforts for excellence? Act as if you are the same. And you will become that.

Your thoughts, words and actions influence people every moment of the day. They also influence you! Choose to be positive in your approach to life. Walk your talk – be consistent with your words and your actions. As Theodore Roosevelt said, “I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do! That is character!”  That is also integrity. A good role model is honest and trustworthy even when no one is watching.

By demonstrating good behavior, you deliver a strong message to others every day. This message is delivered when you accept responsibility for your actions. It is also delivered when you hold others accountable for their bad behavior and speak up when you need to do so. You influence others. When you follow the Ethics of Reciprocity, which is also known as the Golden Rule of “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” (Matt. 7:12), you create a connection. Almost all organized religions, philosophical systems, and secular systems of morality include such an ethic. Eric Allenbaugh reminds us of this when he says, “You are in charge of your feelings, beliefs, and actions. And you teach others how to behave toward you. While you cannot change other people, you can influence them through your own behaviors and actions. By being a living role model of what you want to receive from others, you create more of what you want in your life.”  You also attract people of like character and integrity.

Listen to your conscience.  You know what to do. Everyone will benefit.




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Jun 26 2017

Just One Thing

Category: Control,Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 4:29 pm


So maybe life isn’t going as you expected. The year is half over and those New Year’s resolutions have not panned out. Maybe you regret what you’ve done or maybe you regret what you didn’t do. Maybe that job you were hoping for didn’t come through. You didn’t even get the rejection call from the employer. Or maybe that man you’ve been dating did make the rejection call. Maybe you can’t pay your rent and you don’t know what to do next. Any one of those things can send us into a feeling of overwhelm or panic. We look for answers. We ask, “how did this happen?” We consider all the things we did wrong. We determine many ways to blame. We think of all the ways we may be able to fix the situation. And sometimes we can’t think of any way at all. When this happens, we experience “analysis paralysis.” And then nothing happens. We can’t take action. Our analysis of the situation has literally paralyzed our ability to act.

When we experience regrets about what we could have done; should have done; or what would happen if we had done…we dwell on all the negative aspects of the situation. We focus on everything we perceive to have done wrong. We judge ourselves and others. We assign responsibility for the situation. CouldaShouldaWoulda World is not a place you want to visit! Remember you did what you did with what you knew at the time. You made choices. Your life is a reflection of your choices.

We would all be better served if we chose to concentrate our efforts on changing just one aspect of our thoughts and actions. When we spend our time thinking about all the things that we need to change, it’s impossible to focus on taking constructive action on just one thing. When we focus, everything is much easier to accomplish.

You don’t need to address everything at once…you just need to focus on one thing! And do you know what that one thing is? The one thing you can do to influence your outside world…is to go within and to focus on what you want! This one thing is the most powerful and influential thing you can do. Ralph Waldo Emerson says, “Do the thing and you will have the Power.”

We all have the ability to do the thing. You are born with an imagination and desire. You have gifts, skills, talents and abilities. It’s an inside thing. Using your ability to visualize, imagine, pretend and experience, you create your life. You determine what you want. You have the ability to make the choices to create the actions which bring the experience into your reality.

Stop analyzing what you are doing wrong. Let go of the regrets. Kiss the blame goodbye. And begin again in this moment. Remember the only time there will ever be is this now moment. Now go within. Focus. Do the thing.


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Jun 07 2017

So Much More!!!

Category: Spiritual ExplorationPatricia @ 2:07 pm




You are so much more than you. You are more than the small self who feels separate from the world. You are more than your ego, your self-esteem and self-importance. Your ego, or your personality, is merely an experience that your soul is having. Your ego serves an important function as a learning tool for you. It helps you get what you think you need from the world. It helps to prevent you from losing what you have. Ego is fueled by separation which leads to feelings of comparison, competition and judgment. Ego is fueled by fear. It feels threatened by others. It is frightened by things it doesn’t understand because it has not experienced those things. Ego is based on limited and limiting beliefs. It feels judged because it judges. Judgment leads to suffering.

Because you are so much more than your ego experience, you have access to a different perspective. When we identify with the small self, we sometimes forget that we have access to our soul’s wisdom. The Soul, in contrast to the Ego, is rooted in love and a sense of well-being. Soul is timeless and eternal. Because of this, Soul is resilient and capable. It is able to see the bigger picture and react in a way that is beneficial to your ego’s life experience.

How do you know if it is your ego or your soul who is chattering in your head? Remember the chatter of Ego is based on subconscious beliefs and programming of the personality. The message of Soul is Love. The simple test is this…is your thought based on fear or love? Fear may show up as envy, greed, anger, disappointment, pride or judgment. Love comes in the form of compassion, charity, forgiveness, acceptance.

Ego often shows up when we are in relationship with another. Comparison rears its ugly head. Ego judges others based on what it deems to be “right”. Ego says, “Mary is behaving badly. I don’t like the way she behaves. It is different than the way I behave.” Soul knows, “Mary is experiencing what she needs to experience in order to evolve on her journey.”  Friendships are a state of mutual trust and support. Ego can destroy that when judgment happens. Elbert Hubbard tells us, “A friend is one who knows you as you are. Understands where you’ve been. Accepts who you have become. And still, gently, allows you to grow.”  Consider this when you are confronted by your feelings towards a friend or a loved one. Is your relationship one that judges or accepts? Are you looking at another with the eyes of Ego? Or are you embracing another with the loving acceptance of Soul?

Ego compares to make itself feel bigger or more powerful. It is afraid that someone else will have more. Ego competes. Ego says, “Joe lives in a small house. He doesn’t have as much money as I do. I have a big house. I am more successful than Joe. I am better than Joe.” Soul knows, “Outside circumstances are a reflection of inner focus.  My attention is focused on things that are different than the things Joe focuses upon. I manifest what I want and what I need to experience.”

Unfortunately, when Ego compares, it can also make itself feel less worthy. Because it is based on fear, Ego is fragile and easily hurt. Ego says, “Mary is slender and attractive. I weigh more than Mary. No one will love me because I’m too fat. I’m not good enough.” Soul knows, “My body is merely an experience which helps me to understand my emotions in the physical state of being.”

Wayne Dwyer says that EGO is an acronym for “Edging God Out”.  As Ego, we separate ourselves from the source of our power. Our limited point of view personality takes over and we may make life decisions based on fear, rather than love. And then those decisions can create suffering. Michael Bovenes tells us that, “Your soul desires to be understanding. Your ego is only concerned with being understood. When you are being understanding, you are connected to your soul.” Soul knows that we are all one in Spirit. Soul knows that each one of us is a reflection of the other. We choose our relationships because of that reflection…our darkness as well as our light.  We are drawn to those who think the way we think. We are comfortable around those who act the way we act. And when we become uncomfortable, rather than retreat from the relationship, we can recognize that as an opportunity to grow. Each life experience, each personality, adds to the great mosaic of all that is. On our individual Soul’s journey, we travel with the others. We teach. We learn. And we all become better, stronger, wiser.

If life seems a little confusing and uncertain, know that you do have all the answers. When you go within, you have access to all of Soul’s wisdom and the source of your being. You know more than you think you know. When you leave the outside world behind, you let go of the limitations of the Ego self and move into a connection with all that is. In the meditative, hypnotic state, you are so much more than Ego. You are so much more than you.


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Jan 10 2017

Getting To Be Healthy

Category: Health & Wellness,Meridian TappingPatricia @ 11:51 am


Joyful jump

Well-being makes you jump for joy!


Healing is not nearly as complex, difficult and mystical as we’ve been taught to believe. Healing doesn’t necessarily require outside help, prescription drugs or a doctor’s advice. Healing is an inside job. Healing happens when we minister to ourselves; when we attend to our needs. Consider this: healthy = heal-thy (self). In order to improve or repair our health, we must give ourselves time to mend. It is our own responsibility to nourish and nurture ourselves.

Healing doesn’t happen by itself. Change requires effort and commitment. Goals and plans may be difficult to achieve. But so what! Stop whining! This is your life! Your life has value. It is worth living up to the fullest potential. In order for optimal change or healing to happen, four essential elements need to be present.


1 – You need to decide that you deserve to heal. Whether the healing is physical or emotional; whether it is mental or spiritual, you deserve to heal. If you need, forgive yourself. You need to tell yourself that it is possible to change. You need to set an intention to get out of your own way. Often we sabotage ourselves and block the process of healing. First, accept that you are the only one who can grant yourself permission to heal.
2 – You need to become aware of the problem; to understand the cause of the problem. Once you become aware, you can not become unaware. You become more conscious of your behaviors; your actions and reactions. When you become aware, you are able to let go of blocks and limitations. If you don’t recognize that something is standing in your way, you continue to trip over it.
3 – You need to know what you don’t want. When you recognize what you don’t want, you are better able to gain clarity around what you do want. You are then able to focus on new possibilities and options. Your perceptions change. When you change your perceptions, you change your actions and behaviors.
4 – You need to release the old in order to realign yourself with the new intentions. What does that mean? Your thoughts, beliefs and actions carry an energetic vibration. Consider how you feel when you are fearful. That is an energetic vibration. Now consider how you feel when you are joyful. That is also an energetic vibration. Feel the difference? Using energy modalities such as Emotional Freedom Techniques and other meridian based therapies help to release the old energetic resonance and realign your energy system with the new intentions. I can help with this. I can teach you how to do it.


To be healthy is to be whole – spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically. When you are healthy, you are in a state of balance and harmony. Many of us want to get healthy. We want less stress. We want to exercise more. We want to eat more nutritious food. We want to lose weight. We want to rest. We want to let go of toxic relationships. We want to take better care of ourselves. We want more fun; more love. Give yourself permission. Set the intention now. Getting healthy is a good thing. Getting to be healthy is even better.



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Jan 05 2017

Accepting Change

Category: Shamanism,Spiritual ExplorationPatricia @ 11:03 am



Change is the one thing we can rely on. Guaranteed. Everything is temporary. Change is a universal truth which can be difficult to accept. We don’t want things to end. We want to go back to the way things were. We often fear change rather than embrace it. Change is an unknown and that is scary.

As a shaman, it is my practice to observe the natural world of plants and animals. This provides me with information and insight. I learn from the attributes and qualities of the furred ones, the finned ones and the winged ones. I watch the creepy crawlers and accept that there are messages that come as metaphors. One of the messengers of change is the dragonfly.  Amazing and beautiful change. A change that does not allow you to return to the way things were. A change that shows you that the only time you have is now. A change that allows you to fly…

Dragonfly symbolizes change…change which comes from going deeper into the meaning of life. This kind of change often requires blind faith until we understand its purpose in our lives. We must learn to accept that everything is unfolding as it is to be. Dragonfly reminds us not to fear change that comes from going deeper. We need to develop a depth of character and wisdom which rises above whatever circumstances change brings. The dragonfly lives a very short life filled with dramatic change. Mostly spending its time as a nymph beneath the water’s surface in the aquatic larval stage, the adults may be on the wing for just a few days or weeks. The dragonfly must adapt to the changes in its life’s circumstances.

The symbol of dragonfly reminds us that life is short and tells us to live fully now; to be fully present in each moment. What is the key to presence? Acceptance of your self is the key to presence. To love and accept yourself as you are right now. Sometimes that’s not easy. But if we accept and celebrate the brief life we have the opportunity to experience… no matter what is happening… we become empowered with presence.

The dragonfly shows us that we all dance between worlds. Between living everyday life on the surface versus embracing the circumstances that create change in our lives… the vital growth and the lessons we are meant to learn and our connection to spirit. We must embrace both the mundane world of matter and the metaphysical world of spirit. There is far more to life than what is visible.

When we lack understanding of our spiritual nature, we become victims of the illusion of physical life. We come to believe that everything is what it seems to be. Yet we often come to discover that nothing is what it seems. Since life is a journey of self-discovery, we are constantly in the process of finding our true self. Just as the dragonfly grows its iridescent wings so that it can fly, we are able to release the doubts and judgements that keep us trapped in our self-created illusions. When we take a risk, we learn to trust that we can succeed.

Dragonflies have multiple cell vision which enables them to literally see 360 degrees around them. We can become open to what is possible when we use our vision to see beyond our own limitations, beyond the visible mundane world and into the world within …where all things are possible. When we go within we are able to connect with our emotions to find healing and create peace. We find our personal power when we accept what is happening right now in the moment, knowing that everything is temporary.

The dragonfly accepts life’s changes and embraces its destiny. It adapts to its surroundings with ease and grace. Seeing beyond limitations, dragonfly accepts itself as it is right now. Consider the lessons of the dragonfly. Have faith in your ability to adapt to changing circumstances in the physical world! You are more than that. You are timeless and eternal. You can handle change.



Dec 08 2016

Celebrating Friends & New Worlds

Category: Choices,Gratitude,Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 1:41 pm



“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”  Anaïs Nin

Recently, I celebrated a friend. I celebrated her birth day and her death day.  Mostly I celebrated our friendship. Susan touched my heart and soul. She awakened a dream. Together we created a new world for each other. We met at a pivotal moment in time where each of us was destined to serve the other. As fellow travelers on life’s soul journey, we were meant to cross paths.

Sometimes in life, we are given the experience of enjoying a life-long friendship; the golden ones that endure the test of time. But sometimes, we are not given that luxury of time. And then we learn that the value of friendship is not measured by the amount of days we spend with someone… it’s about how we spend our moments. Our physical time together was very short – just over a year -14 months. During that time, we experienced the changes – heat and cold, rain and rainbows, sunrise and sunset, moonlight and starshine. We celebrated birthdays and holidays. We laughed and cried together. We dreamed a future that never came to pass. We spoke every day and shared our hearts. Life’s precious moments. Our journey was not a simple, easy path. It was wild and untamed, filled with surprises. At times otherworldly. It was turbo-charged and traveled at warp speed. It was also spent in timeless silence as we surveyed our beloved mountain and became one with the earth. Oh dear friend, I miss you and wish you were still here with me to experience more of life!

Friendship matters. I know I don’t have to tell you that. Everyone knows that. You have friends. And you have lost friends. I think what I want to tell you is this…

Friendship is a choice we make. It’s a choice to love more. Some friendships are simple. Some are very complex. But all friendships are valuable. Sometimes we don’t make a conscious choice to become friends with someone; to begin a relationship. It happens. We accept it. As beings, we are not meant to be alone. We need others. Relationships help us to grow and become stronger, wiser, better.  The joy of loving far outweighs the pain of loss.

Friendship is a gift of great value. Treat it with respect and great care. Give it your attention. Do it now. If it matters. Each friendship is an agreement. Honor the agreements or negotiate new ones. We make a pact to be together to share in the experience of life. We support each other. We challenge each other. We disappoint one another. We bring joy to each other. We bear witness. Life is not meant to be a solitary experience. Each one of us is an important part of the tribe of humanity.

A friend opens up new worlds. You get to experience life from their unique perspective and understanding. You taste new flavors. Friends spice things up.  You hear the music of a different soundtrack and learn to dance to a different beat. You can adopt or reject the new but you can never become unaware of its existence. You have been changed just by the exposure to it. When you are fortunate enough to experience a life-long friendship, you gain more. You learn from the choices you see your friends make. You gain another source of wisdom and a trusted advisor.

Muhammad Ali said “Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.” May you experience new worlds and celebrate the friends in your life!

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Nov 24 2016

Thanks to Little Joe

Category: GratitudePatricia @ 11:59 am





Thanksgiving. When you use the word as a noun (something you name), you recognize it as a holiday. But when you consider the word as a verb (something you do), it makes a difference in your understanding of its true meaning – the act of giving thanks and feeling gratitude. I know each one of us can run off a list of all the things we are thankful for at this time of year. We think of family and friends. We think of financial abundance. We think of our health and physical well-being. And often we are thankful for experiences that make us happy. Sometimes we are surprised by what brings gratitude to mind.

This year, I’m very grateful to know Little Joe Cartwright. You see, he’s a longtime family friend. When I was very young, the Cartwrights were weekly visitors in our home. We were one of the first families to enjoy the luxury of a color television. Dad was always into gadgets and technology and liked to have the best and newest available. It was very exciting to see the NBC peacock turn from black & white to all the colors of the rainbow! Unfortunately, there were only two shows broadcast in color at that time – The Mitch Miller Show and Bonanza. Of course Bonanza was far superior because there were mountains and horses and gunfights!

Recently, Little Joe and all the Cartwright men helped me to communicate with my 92-year-old mother. Besides suffering from dementia and extreme physical limitations, Mom has some communication issues. She has endured countless strokes, the last of which severely diminished her throat muscles, impeding her ability to speak. Although she is able to communicate her likes, dislikes and needs, she’s no longer able to form words. She is only able to make a guttural sound. However, make no mistake, she is totally aware and “in there”.

When arriving for a visit, I found her sitting with another resident waiting for lunch to be served. A television set was on but she wasn’t paying attention to it. I greeted her and chatted for a moment. And then I was pleased to see the opening credits to Bonanza were coming on the screen. I pointed it out to her and she immediately turned her attention to the TV. As the flames burned across the map of the Ponderosa, her eyes lit up in recognition and a smile crossed her face. Then Little Joe came on and the conversation began. We were in the moment together.

As we watched the show unfolding, I saw her slip into a comfortable place where memory brings the feelings of the past into the present. Once upon a time when she watched Bonanza in the comfort of her home, she was a young and able woman raising a family. She had a husband who adored her and all the material pleasures she desired. I noticed her frail body shift as she sat up taller in her chair.  I spoke and she acknowledged all the members of the Cartwright family; Pa, Adam, Hoss and Little Joe. It felt like visiting with the cousins. In those moments, we connected on a level that – given the circumstances – is not easy to achieve any more. And in that connection, we were no longer a mother and daughter separated by distance and sad circumstances. We were two souls enjoying our eternal connection and accepting all as it is.

A TV show was the common thread that wove our lives back together in that moment. As you celebrate this time of Thanksgiving, look for the little ways – the Little Joes – that bring gratitude to your heart. And then enjoy that feeling as you move from noun to verb…as you actively give thanks…the true purpose of the holiday. Do something about thanks giving.

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Nov 14 2016

Four Great Questions

Category: ChoicesPatricia @ 12:02 pm




How do you begin your day? Many of us have morning rituals that help (or hurt) our productivity and peace of mind. Depending on your circumstances, you may not have a lot of time to focus on any rituals. You may not have the time to focus at all. You may be rushing off to work or getting the kids ready for school. But what if you did have the time for a little morning contemplation? If it’s possible (remember all things are possible if you believe) you may want to create a daily practice which was suggested by someone who lived long ago in what you may think of as less hectic than modern times. After all, our ancestors did not have as many outside influences on their time. Their world was smaller and quieter than ours but they had their own challenges to overcome.

Pope Saint Gregory I (c. 540 – 12 March 604), commonly known as Saint Gregory the Great, was a pope of the Catholic Church. You may be familiar with Gregorian chants from that era. Gregory the Great suggested a daily practice which he believed would help people to be more effective in life. He encouraged people to take a moment each morning to be mindful and to ask  four questions of themselves.


  1. Where are you? In other words, what is the state of your life? How is your health; relationships; financial well-being?
  1. Where are you not? How do you relate to the perfect version of you? What is missing? What parts of your life need attention?
  1. Where have you been? Consider your spiritual progress and understanding based on your past life experiences. What have you learned about what you want and what you don’t want?
  1. Where will you be one day? Envision your heaven; your ideal self living your ideal life. Consider your future, for as Gregory explains, you will receive it if you want it.


When you take a moment to go within, you are better able to see what is affecting your life from the outside. In considering where you are in life, you are able to reinforce the positive aspects of your being. When considering where you are not, you are able to become aware of what is missing or less than what you want. Thinking about where you have been allows you to look back and see from a different perspective. It also allows you to feel gratitude for your experiences. It gives you strength and builds your confidence. Planning for the future is a way to have a little preview of life’s coming attractions. When you visualize what you want, you become emotionally connected to the positive outcome you anticipate. Visualization directs the power of your subconscious mind, your goal-achieving machine. You’re more likely to be successful.

Perhaps you don’t have the time to be mindful of these things every day. But maybe you could do it once a week or once or month. Or at least do it once!!! You’re worth the time and effort and it really could make a difference in your life.



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Jul 18 2016

Adding Fuel to Your Fire

Category: HabitsPatricia @ 11:52 am




You are unique in all the world. But…do you compare yourself to others? Do you watch reality TV shows like The Bachelorette or Keeping Up With the Kardashians? Are you keeping up? Or do you feel as if you have fallen behind? Do you have a fabulous wardrobe? Are you attending trendy events? Are you being pursued by a number of attractive, eligible bachelors? Maybe you’re tuning into home improvement shows or viewing outrageous real estate for sale? Do you look around your home and think, “What a dump!” STOP IT! Stop comparing yourself to others in a negative way! When you feel envious of other’s success, you can quickly decrease your own happiness. You can make yourself feel like a failure. Yes, you. STOP IT! When you feel the negative emotion of envy or jealousy, you lower your personal vibration. You actually put yourself in a vibrational place where you will attract what you don’t want …to fail. You will not attract that success you desire by thinking of yourself as less than others.

However, positive comparison is a different story. It can be helpful if you’re comparing yourself to another by admiring them rather than being jealous of their success. It’s a different vibration. When you admire, you are adjusting your vibration to match that of your successful friend. When you admire, you also imitate. Remember, imitation is the most sincere form of flattery. If your friend is being promoted, study his habits and behaviors at the office. What does he do to create that success? Is he responsible? Innovative? Helpful? Emulating him may help you. Or what about your friend who is the picture of perfect health? When you compare your habits to hers you may realize why. You may notice that she takes a walk every day at lunch while you sit at your desk and munch on snacks. Join her for a walk. If you want to be like her, do what she does.

Note the similarity or dissimilarity between your actions and the actions of others. If you want to have more of what they have, do more of what they do. Learn from them. They have something you want. How did they get it?

When you compare yourself to others in a healthy way it can fuel your determination to become more successful. This is one of the reasons why groups like Alcoholics Anonymous and Weight Watchers help so many people to achieve their goals. It is positive comparison.  We begin to think, “If they can do it, so can I!” We see that it is possible to achieve what others have achieved. We begin to change our beliefs about what is possible. We see better when we stand on the shoulders of those who have been there before us. Believing it is possible makes it so. When we compare ourselves to others in this way, we fuel the fires of our determination to do better; to be better.

And consider this…the images you watch on TV and in social media affect your view of your world and your place in it. They help to create your beliefs about your reality and it is not always a positive influence. If you really want to affect your reality, turn off the TV and all those outside communication devices. Or do a little research on the people you want to emulate. They may have lessons for you. And, most of all, I invite you to go within. The images are far more fascinating and beneficial to you. And your imagination is always the best source of fuel to feed your fire.


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Jun 14 2016

Focus on the Inside

Category: Fears & PhobiasPatricia @ 10:29 am



Sometimes in life outside events influence who we are and who we become. When we experience global or national tragedies, we are affected by the emotions of all those concerned. The truth is…we are one. And when some of us are hurt, all of us are hurt. There is a connection. A coherence.

This week, an act of violence was committed by one individual. Yet many souls were affected by it. A heart does not beat solely for the individual. It beats for all those who love that individual. And when that heart stops beating, everyone feels the pain; the loss; the empty place. It hurts us. We ask, “Why?” We feel helpless. What can we do to stop this violence? How do we stop the hate?

We may look to our elected officials. We ask for more laws. We fear. We look for those that are different. We create suspicion. We look outside of ourselves. We will never find peace by looking outside. We will never know harmony in the outside world of society, unless each individual is living in harmony with their inner world.

When tragedy strikes, people come together. Love reigns supreme. We help each other. We pray for each other. We focus on what we want. We focus on what is best for everyone concerned. Labels are eliminated. We are one people. Human Beings.

The truth is…we know how to stop the violence. We know better. We know how to stop the hate. It’s an inside job. And scientific research has proven it to be so.  More than 600 research studies conducted at more than 200 independent universities in 30 countries have demonstrated the profound benefits of practicing meditation. It has been demonstrated that the square root of one percent of a population practicing meditation in one place is sufficient to neutralize negative tendencies and promote positive trends throughout the whole population. This is known as the Maharishi Effect, first demonstrated by Maharishi Mahesh Yogi who introduced Transcendental Meditation.  This phenomenon is also known as the Field Effect in the science of Physics.

An experiment took place in the summer of 1994 in Washington DC. It was predicted in advance that there would be a decrease in violent crime by 20%. This prediction was sent to all the major news media and over 1400 scientists and politicians in the region. The Washington chief of police responded by saying that the only thing that would decrease crime by 20% would be 20 inches of snow. At the time, crime was rising by 10% per year. As the experiment started, the group of advanced meditators started growing gradually. By the end of the experiment, violent crimes were down by 23%. The chance that this close relationship between meditators and decrease in crime could have been due to a coincidence was less than one in 500 million.

Normally your attention is directed outside of yourself. The focus is away from “I am”. Instead you focus on the things you observe, do, or think. You lose yourself in the world around you. When you allow your mind to come to a state of true silence, where you don’t observe, do or think anything, the mind comes home. True silence is simply being you. If there is one formula for success in life (both material and spiritual) that all ancient cultures agree on, it is “Be yourself.”

Ancient wisdom tells us that simply being yourself is the way to a higher divine reality. When you create a higher divine reality for yourself, you influence the field of reality outside of yourself. When the world outside is going crazy, go inside. It’s the best thing for everybody. It’s the place where you are totally in control of your world.



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Jun 07 2016

Tangled Hearts

Category: Spiritual ExplorationPatricia @ 10:09 am




Friendships are vital to our well-being. We need our people. It has been said, A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words. But like all relationships…because people change, friendships change. Friendships require attention and commitment. And sometimes, one or both of you loses that connection. Growing apart doesn’t change the past. You have grown together and your hearts are tangled. Which is worse? When a good friend moves away? Or when you lose touch with a good friend who lives near you?

In the case of a friend moving away, you have no choice. You can’t stop by to visit or get together for lunch. You can’t plan on going dancing or taking a hike. Your options are limited. You have no choice about seeing that person face to face if they live somewhere else. They may be far across the world. You have no control over the situation. The friend has moved away because it was their choice. It is their life’s journey. You accept. You miss them but you wish them well. Together you plan on how you will visit; the ways you will communicate when you are no longer close in the physical world. The friend who moves away is not moving away from you. They are moving toward their own dreams and reality. Even though you will miss each other, you are able to wish each other well. You can laugh and cry and appreciate your time together. You can recognize your value to each other. Give a kiss or a hug. Say farewell. Until we meet again.

What about when your friend is close by? You may not have seen each other in a long time. Perhaps you haven’t even spoken. Maybe you wonder why or maybe you know why. But in this case, your options are unlimited. You have many choices. Distance is not an issue. Time is. You have many opportunities to plan to be together. Yet, you are losing touch. Are you too busy? Are you uncomfortable? Are you bored? Is it because the relationship doesn’t matter? What if it does matter? Scanning Facebook posts is not the same as being a friend in the real world. If the friendship matters, do not neglect it. Honor that heart connection. Consider your feelings if you were made aware that your friend had passed away before you made that call. It can happen. What if there were things left unsaid? What if you no longer had the opportunity to speak your heart? What if your choices were taken away?

When you reach out to someone you love, you reinforce the heart connection. Maybe the relationship doesn’t serve you anymore. Maybe you’re done with it and you’d like to “move away” from it. I suggest that you give yourself the opportunity to give the friendship a proper burial and the respect it deserves. Tell your friend that you are grateful for the memories you share. Thank them for being a part of your life. Wish them well and then send them on their way. Know that every relationship serves a purpose. Our friends help us to grow and become better. When we witness their life choices, we are able to understand experiences outside of our own self. Most of all, friends help us to learn a little more about love. Loving more is a priceless gift. When you honor the friendship and let it go with love and understanding, your heart connection remains.

When you speak from your heart, you also give your friend the opportunity to do the same. You may find that they may not want to let you go. They may want to reinforce that connection. You may want that too. You’ll find that when you speak your truth, you don’t lose friends… you learn who the real ones are. The Forever Friends. But for those friendships that are not meant to be forever… say good bye to your friendships when they have come to an end. When you say good bye, you are saying a contraction of “God be with you” (godbwye). You are in my heart. And all is well.





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Jun 01 2016

Just an Outside Number

Category: Spiritual ExplorationPatricia @ 12:24 pm




Birthdays can bring on a variety of emotions. We all have memories of good ones and bad ones. Regardless of past experiences, a birthday is your own special holiday…the first day of a 365 day journey around the sun. You do, however, share your birthday with others. In fact, Google reports that “if your birthday is any day except February 29, you share your birthday with approximately 1/365 of any population or an estimated 19 million people around the world”. But of course, you don’t know most of them. The day belongs to you. That is…if you give your self permission to celebrate you…and to celebrate the completion of your journey around the sun. Often that is a difficult thing to do. We deny ourselves permission because we believe other things are more important. Things outside ourselves.

I believe that a birthday should be recognized with fun. That doesn’t mean that you have to have a party and celebrate with others. Although great fun, that celebration is also outside of you. Whether with myself or others, I take time to go within and reflect on this journey. I like to consider where I’ve been and where I’m going. It’s kind of like a personal New Year’s Day. Regardless of the outside number, a common ritual of most birthday celebrations is to blow out the candles on the cake. We go within. We make a secret wish for the coming year.

As beings in society we need a way to organize time. A birthday is a way to measure time. It places us in the position where we are in the world. It signifies where we “should” be. As youngsters, we are measured for size and developmental abilities. Our social skills are judged and measured by others. We’re told to “act our age”. We’re told to “grow up”. We’re told to “stop acting like a child”.  If you’re six years old, you are a child! Age is a societal barometer. It restricts us. We are not allowed to vote, drink, or marry until we have reached a certain age. It is all based on a number. An outside number. It is not a reflection of inner skills or emotional maturity or civic knowledge.  We are considered “under age”, “too young”, “too old” and “over the hill”. We are part of generations which are defined by age. Baby Boomers. Generation X. Millennials. This is also outside of you. When you go within… you are eternal. Timeless.

Have you ever considered this question first asked by Satchel Paige? “How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you was”? Maybe you’d like to be younger? Or would you like to add a few years? Maybe there is an age that you’ve experienced and you feel as if you’ve never aged since then. Or maybe you have always been you…no matter what the outside number. Life is more about how you feel on the inside than it is about the outside number. Look around. Everyone is living individual lives and individual perceptions about the way things are. If you believe you are limited in your choices because you have not lived the required amount of years or because you have lived longer, then your beliefs will create limited choices. It has nothing to do with age. It has to do with you. The inner you.

Society tells us that we should enter college at 18. What if we aren’t interested until we are 33? If you believe that at the age of 65, you are officially old and retired from life, you will be. Do not regret an upcoming birthday. Do not regret growing. Old age is a privilege that is denied to many people. Celebrate yourself! Your age is just an outside number. Mark Twain reminded us that “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it don’t matter.”  Go within and listen to what really matters. May all your wishes come true!

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Mar 29 2016

The Joyful Journey

Category: ChoicesPatricia @ 11:35 am

Path to Boney


Life is a journey. An unknown adventure. An unopened book. Many wise people over the years have told us that it’s all about the journey, not the destination. We all embark upon our life’s journey as helpless, innocent beings. Strangers in a strange land. Did you ever notice how a baby often has an expression of complete bewilderment? WTF moments? Each one of us is given instructions about what to do and what to expect. To make things more interesting, we all get different instructions. We are told about our talents and our chances to succeed. Or not. And then the journey begins. One step at a time. One experience at a time. One moment at a time. And then the journey of life comes to an end. The destination.

Greg Anderson, author of The 22 Non-Negotiable Laws of Wellness, says, “Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.” If we don’t enjoy the steps along the way to our goal, we will not reach it. No matter what, we all only do what we truly want to do. If we don’t want to do it, there are many reasons we have to justify our failure to follow through. Procrastination. We make time for what matters. And we always make time for what feels good.

When you set a goal, you are setting a destination. It’s important to consider each of the steps on the journey which are necessary to achieve the goal. Sometimes the journey can teach you a lot about your destination. When you use your imagination to explore the future, you are able to see the steps which will trip you up…the ones you don’t want to do. Each step is a destination and a journey in itself. Consider a step which makes you feel fearful or incompetent or overwhelmed. Perhaps you’ve set a limit for yourself. Perhaps you believe your goal is too big or too difficult. Remember it’s all about what you tell yourself. If you tell yourself you will succeed, you will. Imagine having fun every step of the way. Imagine the joyful journey to add fuel to your fire.

Earl Nightingale tells us, “We are at our very best, and we are happiest, when we are fully engaged in work we enjoy on the journey toward the goal we’ve established for ourselves. It gives meaning to our time off and comfort to our sleep. It makes everything else in life so wonderful, so worthwhile.”

Each one of us makes choices every day about how we will live our journey. There are many ways we can make that journey more joyful. Think about little things you can do every day to make a difference in how you perceive and experience your life. You deserve it. You owe it to yourself. And no one else is doing it for you! When I leave my home to make my way to my office, I have a choice about the road I travel to reach my destination. When I turn left at the light I commit to joining the rush of traffic on the 101 freeway where I enter a fast paced group of four lanes of cars. Frontage road businesses and sound walls become a blur outside my window. I am focused in flight-fight mode as I drive defensively at speeds of 60-65 mph over the next ten miles before my exit. When I arrive, I take a moment to settle myself and transition into a calm state of being.

But if I make a choice to turn right at the light, I embark on a different journey. Just moments from home, at a leisurely pace of 40 mph, I travel by the wide open spaces of national park land and Boney Mountain ridge. This route is a little longer. Maybe three miles and six or seven minutes. But it is worth my time. I’m able to enjoy the view of this magnificent display of nature and feel a sense of connection to it. I travel through a winding road past pastures where horses graze and hawks fly. Sometimes in the early morning, I encounter thick fog that blankets the valley with a quiet softness. I’m surrounded by tranquil beauty. I drive with my sunroof open to listen to the silence over this journey. When I arrive at my destination, I am in a state of peace.

A simple choice. Turn left. Or turn right. Forget about the destination. Think about the joy of the journey. Take time to enjoy each step of this amazing journey called life. And regarding that final destination, consider this thought from Enoch Powell. “If my ship sails from sight, it doesn’t mean my journey ends, it simply means the river bends.”




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Mar 08 2016

Teachers Can Be Frustrating!

Category: Positive ThinkingPatricia @ 2:12 pm



Are there people in your life who are creating difficult situations for you? Are you unhappy with their behaviors? Are you frustrated by them? Maybe you’re disappointed. You expected more.

When we love another person, we are affected by their behavior, actions and life decisions. If your child is suffering from drug dependence, you suffer their pain. If your roommate is irresponsible, you may need to pay all of the rent and suffer financial instability. If your mate ignores health problems, you may suffer the loss of your loved one. When we suffer because of the thoughtless and inconsiderate actions of others, we get frustrated. And when we get frustrated, it’s difficult to feel loving towards those individuals who are causing our pain. We get a little cranky. We lose patience.

I like to remind myself that everybody is doing the best they can. Sure, some people appear to be doing a really bad job but I don’t think anybody wants to be a failure. Nobody wants to be an alcoholic or morbidly obese or unemployed. No one wants to feel fear or shame or grief. Life happens and we respond to situations based on our subconscious programming. We react the way we believe we are supposed to react. We make decisions based on what we believe to be the truth. Everybody has their own truth…their own reality.

Since I want my reality to be peaceful and loving, I strive for compassion towards everyone. I recognize that we are all on our own soul’s journey. Each being I am blessed to encounter on this journey is a treasure…a teacher. When you are annoyed with someone, you are taught to be more patient and understanding. If you have been abandoned, you have been given the opportunity to gain independence and self-reliance. When you feel angry, you have the option to exercise compassion and forgiveness. Relationships teach. We grow or expand our consciousness through interactions with others. It may be painful to experience a relationship where someone exerts power over you and creates fear. But that relationship allows you to learn how to take your power back. It teaches you courage and reinforces your self-determination. Learning that you can’t control others allows you the strength to let go.

When we can look outside of ourselves, we can see that each one of us is struggling to figure out how to be in the world. We’re all the same. One. Nick Polizzi, Director of The Sacred Science offers the “Just Like Me” Mantra.” He suggests using it when you are frustrated with an individual.

Just like me, you are seeking some happiness in your life.

Just like me, you are trying to avoid suffering in your life.

Just like me, you have known sadness.

Just like me, you want to be loved.

Just like me, you were once an innocent child.

Just like me, you are a spirit on a journey.

Be good to one another. We’re all in this together. You are just like Me. We have a lot to learn.



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Feb 15 2016

Build. Visit. Find Peace.

Category: Spiritual ExplorationPatricia @ 3:50 pm



What is a sanctuary? The dictionary offers three definitions. They are: 1. a sacred or holy place; 2. a place that offers protection; 3. a hiding place. Although it is wonderful to visit sacred places such as shrines, temples and churches, a sanctuary does not need to be a physical place. To find refuge and retreat from the outside world, we can simply go within to our own sacred place of being. When we allow ourselves to be in a state of mindful awareness, we are able to create a safe haven for ourselves. Just like a child finding cover in a secret hiding place, we are able to be alone with our thoughts.

You build your sanctuary with your imagination and past experiences. Everything you’ve ever experienced is available to you. And you can add the entire catalog of images and emotions you have experienced through photographs, movies and books. Your subconscious mind records every event and emotion. When sharing memories with a friend, have you ever had the experience of their recalling a different story of the event? They may embellish things that you found unremarkable or remember someone else’s actions in a different manner. That’s because our most vivid memories are most strongly connected to our own individual emotions.

When you are mindful of the details during the experience, you are more easily able to re-experience them in your imagination. Just think the memory and you will feel the emotion. In fact, our strongest memories are associated with our strongest emotions – good or bad. Your body/mind doesn’t know the difference between what you imagine and what you perceive to be reality. For the purpose of creating a sanctuary, obviously, your focus is on the past good memories.

Once you have taken the time to build your sanctuary, it’s like a full-time vacation property…a second home. And everything you need is there waiting for you. There is no need to pack. There is no need to book a reservation or deal with airport security. It’s almost as good as using the Star Trek transporter and being “beamed” to your destination. Your travel time is brief. Your vehicle is familiar and comfortable. You are simply transported to your sanctuary by focused breathing. It is a dreamship powered by your imagination.

There is no start-up building cost or minimum monthly fees to maintain your sanctuary. The only cost involved is your time. In as little as 15 minutes per day spent visiting your sanctuary, you will notice a difference in your life! You may experience reduced stress and anxiety, better tolerance to pain, improved well-being and a more positive attitude about your life.

Perhaps you feel that you are very busy and already have too much to do. Perhaps you’re thinking, “Why do I need a sanctuary? And what do I do while I’m there?” You need do nothing while in your sanctuary. It is a time to be a human being rather than a human doing. It is a place where you allow yourself to dream and flow and create. It is an opportunity to grow and focus on the good in your life.

Studies show that concentrated, focused breathing is beneficial to your health. It may reduce hypertension, heart disease and other stress-related diseases and actually help you to maintain a healthy weight. Taking time to focus on your well-being makes you more productive and better able to concentrate and solve problems. Allowing time for yourself allows you to be more kind and loving to others. Visiting your sanctuary helps you to create a sacred space in a very hectic world.

Building a sanctuary is a joyful process. Visiting it often is even more joyful. Let go of any limiting thoughts that tell you that you don’t have 15 minutes every day to go within. If you need help getting started, I’ve mastered the process and I’d be happy to show you the way. It’s a delightful experience. And it’s really easy. Because when building your sanctuary, there are no limitations. Except, of course, the ones you create.


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Jan 18 2016

Mindful or Mind Full?

Category: Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 5:48 pm



fire in the sky


“It makes no difference what the clock says or what the calendars says. It is still now and always will be now.” Joe Goldsmith

A new year. That’s what the calendar tells us. That’s what the stroke of midnight signifies on December 31st. We have marked time and declared a new beginning of the calendar year. But is it really a “new” year? It only matters if you are a calendar. But, it really doesn’t matter what the clock says or what the calendar says. We don’t have a choice in this. It is always the now moment. No matter if we’re thinking of the past or thinking of the future, we are doing it right now as we experience the moment.

As 2016 begins, is your mind full of regrets about what was left undone in 2015? Is your mind full of sad thoughts about what was lost last year? Or maybe your mind is full of anxiety about what will happen next? Life happens. Our minds fill up with thoughts about our “must dos” and “need tos” and “shoulds”. We drift down memory lane and our minds fill up with thoughts about our “could’ves” and “would’ves”.

Have you become a human “doing” rather than a human “being”? Is your mind full? Or are you mindful? Often when we focus on the past, we feel a negative emotion such as regret or disappointment or even anger. And when we focus on the future, we may feel a negative emotion such as fear or doubt. In either case, we are hurting ourselves. And we need to stop it!

Mindfulness is incredibly simple and also incredibly difficult. Mindfulness is just the act of being present. It’s paying attention to what is happening in the moment instead of focusing on the past or the future. It’s paying attention on purpose.

So, how do you incorporate more mindfulness into your life? I know you’re already too busy to meditate (sigh). But I suggest you try something I’m certain you will enjoy. I’m also certain that you’ve done this at least once or twice in your lifetime. One of the easiest ways to practice the art of mindfulness is to simply experience a sunset. Really experience it. Experience it with all of your senses. Stop whatever it is you are doing. Give yourself the gift of three big deep breaths. Focus on the inhale and the exhale. This will bring body, mind and spirit together. And then pay attention to the details. Watch the show of light and color unfold. At least give it as much attention as you do when you watch a TV show or a ball game. Be aware.

Or how about taking the time to slowly enjoy every delicious morsel of your favorite food? Nourish all of your senses when you observe color and texture as well as the subtleties of flavor. When you pay attention to the details, you are mastering the art of mindful eating. Being present slows you down. You enjoy your meals more and studies have shown a link to significant weight loss.

Another simple way to learn mindfulness is to connect with your inner child. Become a kid again. Approach life with curiosity and a sense of wonder. Look at things in a new way. Taste new foods. Listen to the sounds of life and make music. Learn a new skill or language or game. Write. Draw. Create. Sing. Dance. Explore. Be mindful of what brings you happiness. And then do it. Live.

The Buddhist monk, Thich Nhat Hanh says, You are caught in the past or in the future. You are not there in the present moment, living your life deeply. That is forgetfulness. Mindfulness is when you are truly there, mind and body together. You breathe in and out mindfully, you bring your mind back to your body, and you are there. When your mind is there with your body, you are established in the present moment. Then you can recognize the many conditions of happiness that are in you and around you, and happiness just comes naturally.”

When you are mindful of the moments, you literally fill your mind with the details that enhance your memories and recreate your feelings of pleasure. May 2016 bring you many moments of joy. And may you have the presence of mind to recognize those moments and be mindful of the experience.




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Apr 30 2015

Success is Not a Number

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 11:20 am



You are never too young or too old to begin. Success is not a number. Mozart was competent on keyboard and violin and began composing at the age of 5. Elvis was a superstar by age 19. Albert Einstein was just 26 when he wrote the Theory of Relativity. At 34, Martin Luther King wrote “I Have a Dream”. Neil Armstrong was 38 when he landed on the moon. When he became President of the United States, John F. Kennedy was 43. Da Vinci was 51 when he painted the Mona Lisa. Grandma Moses began painting at the age of 78. Artist Beatrice Wood continued working in her studio until the age of 104.

So, what are you waiting for? It’s never too soon! It’s never too late! Life is happening right now. And there will never be a time when it is not now. Goethe tells us, “Whatever you do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius and power and magic in it.” Are you experiencing magic in your life? Do you feel bold and powerful? If not, why not? You are an amazing being capable of incredible accomplishments. I know this. Do you?

Each one of us has a responsibility to be our best self. We are dreamers and we are also the dream. It is up to the individual to make the dream a reality. It doesn’t matter how old you are. You can make a difference in your own life; in the life of another; or even in the lives of everyone on the planet. Consider Steve Jobs. It doesn’t matter how old you are unless you tell yourself it matters. If you didn’t know how old you are, how old would you be? And would it matter?

What would you like to accomplish? We all have dreams about what if. Some of us tell ourselves that it’s not possible. Not enough time. Not enough money. Not enough. Some of us tell ourselves that we can make it possible. Even though we don’t have enough time or enough money, we know that we are enough. I think that’s what makes the difference in which dreams become reality. It comes down to a belief in yourself and your ability to do what you truly want to do. Your subconscious mind will make the impossible possible…if you believe.

I invite you to consider what you would like to do with your own personal magic. Give yourself permission to dream and know that whatever it is you want to accomplish…you are enough. You have enough or you wouldn’t have the dream. We each get a dream which is custom-made to take advantage of all of our skills, gifts, talents and abilities. It’s a perfect match. And it happens at just the right time. And just the right age.



















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Apr 21 2015

Earth Day – Honoring the Great Mother

Category: Spiritual ExplorationPatricia @ 9:40 am

Wheel on Mt. Munay - South

As a community, we have officially declared April 22 to be Earth Day. On this day, many of us will participate in an activity designed to connect us with taking care of our planet. Earth Day was established in 1970 and achieved a rare political alignment, enlisting support from Republicans and Democrats, rich and poor, business and labor, city dwellers and farmers. The first Earth Day led to the creation of the U. S. Environmental Protection Agency and the passage of the Clean Air, Clean Water, and Endangered Species Acts. Earth Day is the largest civic event in the world, celebrated simultaneously around the globe by people of all backgrounds, faiths and nationalities. If we don’t take care of the planet, she cannot take care of us. And we are all in this together!

A childhood immersed in the world of Mother Nature, I grew up in Connecticut on four acres of woods. Tall and mighty oaks, graceful maples, stunning white birches formed a canopy where I played with the fairies amidst the lady slippers and moss of the forest floor. Our property overlooked a salt-water river where I swam off the dock and dangled bait to catch the crabs and fish. Seasons in New England offered a taste of the grand buffet of abundance offered by our Earth. The colors alone are beyond magnificent – from the green showcase of spring awakening; the brilliant blue of summer’s glorious skies; the outrageous red landscape of fall; to the quiet surrender of winter’s blanket of white. I watched the birds fly south in the grey skies and then listened to their joyful song when they returned to their ancestral home. The serpents displayed an array of patterns which taught me to distinguish those who could cause me harm. Squirrels, raccoons, deer, rabbits, chipmunks, skunks shared my world along with cats, dogs and horses. The animals taught me about life and death; instinct and survival. I learned about collective consciousness when I watched the ants build and defend their homes. The North Star was a guiding light in the heavens. I chewed on sweet grasses, drank nectar from the honeysuckle vines and feasted on the wild raspberries. I spit watermelon seeds into the fertile earth of the garden and watched the vines appear. I wandered in solitude in the woods and along the shore and I knew that I was a part of it all. One.

It’s not surprising that my spiritual path is the way of the Shaman. A Shaman acts on behalf of humanity to foster harmony and balance with Nature. We dream the world into being for the good of all concerned. There is a reverence for Earth and an attunement with the cycles of the seasons, the sun, the moon and the cosmic energies. Initiated as a Pampa Mesayoq, I practice being in alignment with caring for the environment. Honoring Pachamama, our mother and all her creatures – the two-legged, the four-legged, the creepy crawlers, the plant people, the stone people, the furred, the finned, the winged ones, all of our relations – matters because it is a reverence for life.

My message for Earth Day is this: We are one. We are connected. Do something nice for your Mother! She gives you everything you need, including life itself! When you honor her, you honor your life. And most importantly, you honor your children and your children’s children. You make a statement that your action is a belief in the future. Come into right relationship with your true mother, Mother Earth, Mother Nature, Gaia, Pachamama, Parvati, Terra, the Cosmic Mother. Earth Day is something to celebrate Every Day.



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