Oct 20 2017

Energy Efficient

Category: Choices,Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 5:01 pm

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Being physically active requires energy. When you run, swim or jump, your body uses up a lot of fuel moving about. You may not realize how much fuel you are consuming, but you do realize that you are expending energy. You get tired and you need rest. Thinking also requires a lot of energy. Planning for a delightful future takes a lot. Worrying about a dismal future takes a lot more. Using mind consciousness is very expensive. Even though your brain is only 2 percent of your body’s weight, it consumes 20 percent of your body’s energy!

So, how can you save on the energy you are using? Or wasting? You can economize that energy by choosing to practice the habit of mindfulness. You know, paying attention in the moment. Engaging your senses in the experience. Being aware. Focusing on the Now. When you are mindful, you exist in the present moment. This allows your mind consciousness to relax. You can let go of the energy of regretting the past. You can let go of the coulda-shoulda-woulda thoughts. When you relax into the moment, you can release thoughts that create worry about the future. You can stop wasting your time by predicting what you don’t want to happen. You can experience a release from anxiety or depression.

Thoughts are constantly running through our minds, and therefore, the vibrational energy is also constantly in motion. When you focus, you experience the now moment. If you think about the past, you’re thinking about it now. If you think about the future, you’re thinking about it now. Choose your thoughts. Choose carefully.

We often create by default because we are getting whatever we are thinking about now. And whatever it is we are giving our attention to – wanted or unwanted – is what we will receive. Whatever you are thinking about, you are attracting. And you are doing it right now. All the time. With every thought you think.

If you want to be more energy efficient, take charge of your life by taking charge of your thoughts. Allow the natural rhythm of your breath to create a peaceful sense of relaxation. Clear your mind of any mental or emotional clutter. Allow yourself unlimited freedom to create. Use your brain more effectively and efficiently and get the most benefit from all that energy you are consuming. You’ll get more bang for your buck!

 

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Oct 14 2017

Default Mode

Category: Inspirational Quotes,Self-Meditation & MindfulnessPatricia @ 8:00 am

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Daydreaming, meditating or fantasizing about the future is just letting your mind wander. Scientists tell us that when we are engaged in these alpha state activities, our brains are engaged in what is referred to as self-generated cognition, using our default mode network. Self-generated cognition is just another way of saying that you are focused on thinking about a thought that you created. The thought didn’t occur to you from any association with your external environment. There was not a stimulus to your thought. You are in your own head. You may be planning some future action. You may be remembering something from the past. You may just be thinking about your day. Your mind is wandering. You are not doing anything. You are simply being.

This default mode activity helps us to think deeply and creatively. When we become quiet and meditative, we are better able to solve problems and shift our perspective. Engagement with our inner mind allows us an opportunity to make meaning out of our life experiences. We can connect the dots and get a better grasp of the bigger picture. When we are in this state of consciousness, we are more creative and expressive about our ideas and thoughts. When we tap into our emotions, we are more able to empathize and sympathize with others. Reflecting on our own emotional states helps us to identify with our community. We recognize that each human being experiences a wide range of emotional ups and downs, and in that recognition, we feel a connection to humanity. We’re all in this together.

In order to take advantage of this default mode, you must break away from the external distractions and go within. You must allow your mind to be silent. Do this by using deep breathing methods to create a self-hypnotic or meditative state.

When you separate yourself from conscious thoughts, your subconscious mind is consolidating past experiences and preparing to react to similar experiences in the future. You are not wasting your time by daydreaming. You are actively engaged in creating your reality. Your brain is very much at work even though it may feel like you’re on pause. In fact, a group of brain regions actually increase in activity whenever you aren’t focused on a task. This is known as the default mode network or stream of consciousness. Remember that the word “default” means that something happens automatically or without any active consideration.

Since we are constantly being exposed to a large amount of information streaming into our surroundings, it could be that this default mode helps us to make sense of the information. Our resting state is able to process our internal reactions and responses to our outside environment. When we take the time to go within, we can reflect on our actions and review our perceptions, We can come to terms with things. We can make plans and move on. When we go within, we have access to our inner wisdom.

Your inner wisdom is accessed through silent reflection. You know the answers to your problems. You know more than anyone else about how to solve whatever problem you may have. Your soul knows what you need to do and how you need to be. Don’t keep secrets from yourself. Go within. Take advantage of your own default mode.  Viktor Frankl reminds us of our power and where we can access it.  He says, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

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Oct 01 2017

Money. Money. Money.

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 2:25 pm

 

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How do you feel about money? What’s your relationship like? We all have a relationship with money. A very intimate and personal relationship. It’s a relationship that started when you were very young. You were given money and you were told its value. You quickly learned the difference between a penny and a quarter. And even though the coins were fun to play with and to count, you soon learned that the paper money was worth more. You learned how to shop and how to spend. Maybe you compared how much money you had with how much money your sister, brother or friend had. Maybe you spent your money as soon as you got it or maybe you were taught to put it in your piggy bank to save it for a later date.

As a child, you heard your parents talking about money. A conversation may have been a joyful exchange about how much to spend on a new car or the cost of a vacation. Or the conversation could have been a heated argument about how there wasn’t enough money to pay the rent. Just like with everything else, you were programmed about money by your life experience. Mom and Dad, your extended family, your environment all had an influence about how you feel about money. And that influence extends to how you act with money. You were taught about what money means. You believed what you were told.

Maybe you learned, “you have to work hard for your money.” Or maybe you learned, “you need to make your money work for you.” Perhaps you learned that “money can’t buy happiness” or that “the rich are different”. Adam Smith, an economist, says, All money is a matter of belief.”

Our beliefs affect our actions. If you were raised in a family where there was little money, you learned about lack. You may have developed spending guilt. You may be afraid to spend your money, for fear that you will not have more. You may tell yourself that you can’t afford it. When this happens, you project feelings of “lack”. You may become miserly. When you are projecting this vibration of lack, you are also attracting more of it. The truth is, in order to manifest more money, you need to be projecting feelings of abundance, not lack! Even when you are spending the money, you need to feel good about doing it. You need to feel that you are worth it. There is a very widespread limiting belief about money that you have to save it in order to be prosperous. No one ever got rich by putting all their money into a savings account. Do you believe money is a limited resource?

Sometimes we are taught to use money to increase our status. Will Rogers said, Too many people spend money they earned…to buy things they don’t want…to impress people that they don’t like.”  How do you spend your money? Are you guilty of using your charge card to pay for lunch for the whole table even though you don’t have enough cash in your wallet to pay for your own meal? Do you spend more than you can afford to buy designer labels? It’s good to have money and it’s good to spend money. It’s also good to understand what you’re spending it on and why you’re spending it. Don’t resort to retail therapy. Make sure that you haven’t lost sight of the things that money can’t buy.

Money is merely an energy exchange. It’s a tool. You earn money for your time and talent…for the energy you put into your job. You can then use the money to exchange it for goods and services that you want and need. You exchange your energy with someone else so that you both will benefit. Money will take you wherever you want to go, but it is necessary for you to be the driver. I encourage you to say “Yes” to life. Spend the money on the things you want to do. Take the trip. Your prosperity beliefs were formed long ago. You didn’t have a choice. But you do have a choice now.

Know that as a soul on life’s journey, you have a destiny to fulfill. The Universe wants to support you. It wants you to succeed! Expect the best. Ask yourself, “what would my life be like, if money were no object?”  Imagine what you would do. Imagine how you would live. Imagine with intention. The Universe is responding to your thoughts…and the way you feel about your thoughts. Emotion is the fuel of creation. Tell yourself: “I am a money magnet.” “Money flows to me constantly.” “I am attracting cash and income from new and unexpected sources.” “I have all the money I need and more.” “I am worthy of abundance.”  It feels good to think those thoughts, doesn’t it?

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Sep 26 2017

Reduce Your Suffering

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 9:48 am

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Unfortunately, it is part of the human condition to experience an unkind remark; an attack on physical appearance or ability; a hypocritical judgment. People can be cruel to each other with their words and their actions. And they can do these things for no apparent reason. As Don Miguel Ruiz advises us in his book, The Four Agreements, “Don’t take anything personally”! It’s not about you! Any statement, action or reaction of another human being is not about you or anything you may have done. When you can separate yourself from the opinions and actions of other people, you can reduce your personal angst and suffering. Those opinions and actions are all about that other human being’s life experience.

Remember, each one of us is the sum total of what we have experienced in our life. We are successfully fulfilling our life script based on our beliefs. What we perceive and therefore, know to be true, is based on our individual beliefs. Each one of us is living our life based on our own truth. We only know what we have been told by others and what we have experienced by ourselves. We have a limited perspective and consequently, we have a limited understanding.

Most people you meet will say and do whatever they do based on their own beliefs about the way things are. Each one of us has our own set of fears and beliefs. We have reached a conclusion about life based on our own attempts to survive. We develop coping mechanisms to get us through. We seek to numb ourselves to our feelings by turning to food, drugs, alcohol, sex and gambling. We look outside of ourselves to lay blame for our anger and frustration. We suffer.

Most of another’s bad attitudes, defenses and fearful behavior has nothing to do with you. Even when that bad attitude may appear to be aimed directly at you! The behavior has more to do with a past event when the person experienced a similar situation. The reaction is about all the other times. Especially the first time.  We react in the now moment based on our past programming…right or wrong. We perceive only what we believe.

When you can recognize that nothing is personal, you are able to get over it. You don’t feel abused or mistreated. You move on since you know the reaction is not about you; it is not about what is happening now. Their reaction is based on their past suffering. Do not be offended! Take the opportunity to extend kindness and compassion.

Another’s actions may cause you pain. You may feel frustrated or disappointed. You may know anger or betrayal. Know that your worth is not determined by what anyone else says or does or believes. Take those things less seriously. Focus on your own truth; the integrity of who you are. When you live your life as your authentic self, other’s opinions and behaviors do not hinder your happiness or your success. There is no need to suffer when you are living authentically. There is no need to care about other’s opinions of what you do and who you are. It doesn’t matter what they think or do. Instead, care about what you think of what you are doing. Be the best you. Tranquility will replace suffering.

 

 

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Aug 22 2017

Enjoying the Picnic – With or Without Ants

Category: Choices,ControlPatricia @ 8:35 am

 

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The warm, lazy days of summer offer an opportunity to spend more time outside in nature. We play more. Longer days also allow us to relax; to experience more of the sweetness of life. There is an abundance of color and growth in the natural world. We make a point of taking a vacation or a staycation. A common activity is to pack a picnic basket and enjoy a simple meal under the welcoming shade of a tree. We can enjoy the sounds of the birds and the wind rustling through the branches. We can stretch out and take a nap on the soft grass and feel the earth beneath our feet. We can engage in meditative thought in peaceful surroundings. We can also be annoyed. Even in the quiet beauty of nature, we can become distracted by negative thoughts.

Your thoughts can take the form of a mosquito buzzing in your ear, keeping you tuned into an unpleasant distraction or an unwelcome thought. Or your thoughts can seem like a line of ants marching across your picnic blanket, messing up your solitude and wreaking havoc on your plans. In either case, you can choose to observe the mosquito or the ants. You can swat at the mosquito and allow it to disturb you. Or you can ignore it. You can watch as the ants march off the other side of the blanket and disappear from sight. Or you can panic and rearrange everything on your blanket to avoid contact with them. In either case, you could focus on the annoying things. You could fuss over them. You could get angry with them. You could feel sad that they have ruined your picnic. You could even let them bite you!

But you have power over the annoying insects. You have power over the annoying thoughts. You decide. It’s your choice. It’s always your choice.

Are you making yourself suffer? Maybe you think the mosquito or the ant is what is making you unhappy…those things outside of you that are out to get you…to make you suffer. But it’s not the outside things that are making you suffer. It’s your reaction to the things. And you are in control of your reactions. You have the freedom to make a choice to react differently when the annoying things get to you.

When you focus on the negative, you suffer. When you react in a negative manner, you increase your suffering. Pay attention to your thoughts. Focus on the ones that make you happy. Relax and enjoy the picnic. Summer will be over soon. Everything in life is temporary. Don’t waste your time slapping at mosquitos or fretting over ants. Stay within your place of inner peace when outside things threaten to annoy you.

 

 

 

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Aug 08 2017

Vibrating Abundance

Category: Choices,Law of AttractionPatricia @ 8:36 am

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We all want abundance in our lives. Whether it is wealth, a loving relationship, or a thriving career…we want to experience the joy of having it all. Maybe you’ve tried to use the Law of Attraction, based on the immutable Law of Vibration. Perhaps you’ve written the affirmations, made the vision board and done the work. You are waiting for results, but you haven’t achieved success. It’s frustrating when your efforts at manifestation don’t happen. Maybe you’re missing something.  Take a moment to consider what it might be.

You must be patient. When things aren’t happening according to your time schedule, don’t let doubt stand in your way. When you are projecting a vibration of confidence and belief in your success, you are allowing all you desire to come to you. BUT…when seeds of doubt creep in, everything stops. The creative source of the universe responds to your confidence and your doubt! Imagine you were taking a road trip. You set your course believing that if you continue on the highway, you will arrive at your destination. You don’t doubt, stop or turn back. You follow your plan. Don’t annoy yourself by asking, “Am I there yet? Am I there yet?”

You must take action. You need to actively participate in the process of bringing about your desire. It’s important to make a plan, set realistic goals and follow through. You must hold yourself accountable. Lying around dreaming about how it feels to live your dream life is just not enough. Believe in your success and you will take action.

You must pay attention to your thoughts. You can never get rich by thinking about being poor. You can never get thin by thinking about being fat. It is far more powerful to be “for” something than to be “against” it. If you are thinking thoughts of lack, then that is what you are calling into existence. Instead of thinking about what you don’t want, think about what you do want. And when you are thinking…notice the emotion you are feeling. The emotion is the fuel. Good thoughts create motivation. Good thoughts create good results.

Your thoughts create your energetic vibration. You are like a broadcasting tower for a TV station, sending your thoughts out into the universe. Like attracts like. Your soulmate. Your employer. Your experiences. You attracted all of it. You can learn to control your mental vibration at will. You can choose your thoughts. You can attract what you want.

You must align with your goals. Wayne Dyer says, “Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.”  When we are tuned into the vibration, we are in alignment with what we want. When you are taking the steps to achieve a goal, check in with yourself. Are you in alignment with it? Have you made progress? Does it feel good to continue? Don’t force yourself to continue, if you decide to take a different approach.

You must face the truth of what you have created in your life. And what you have not. Whether you are creating consciously or subconsciously, you are responsible for your creations. In the subtle field of energy, you attract what you are aligned with. Sometimes it’s difficult to accept that you “attracted” a bad relationship or unemployment or disease. Realize that what you put in, you get out. In order to achieve your goals, you must act with true integrity.

It is imperative that you control your thinking. You must focus on the positive and on what you want. This allows you to be in vibrational alignment with your goals. Your energetic signature or your emotional vibrational frequency is your magnetic force, attracting that with which you are aligned. Consider the “why” and the “what” of your goal. Trust that your vibrational force will attract the “how”, “who”, “where” and “when”.

It’s not that all the “bad” things will disappear. Things happen. Your life is affected by outside forces. Your perception of them can change. Your choices can change. Your actions can change. Your vibration can change. It’s a choice you make.

 

 

 

 

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Jun 26 2017

Just One Thing

Category: Control,Inspirational QuotesPatricia @ 4:29 pm

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So maybe life isn’t going as you expected. The year is half over and those New Year’s resolutions have not panned out. Maybe you regret what you’ve done or maybe you regret what you didn’t do. Maybe that job you were hoping for didn’t come through. You didn’t even get the rejection call from the employer. Or maybe that man you’ve been dating did make the rejection call. Maybe you can’t pay your rent and you don’t know what to do next. Any one of those things can send us into a feeling of overwhelm or panic. We look for answers. We ask, “how did this happen?” We consider all the things we did wrong. We determine many ways to blame. We think of all the ways we may be able to fix the situation. And sometimes we can’t think of any way at all. When this happens, we experience “analysis paralysis.” And then nothing happens. We can’t take action. Our analysis of the situation has literally paralyzed our ability to act.

When we experience regrets about what we could have done; should have done; or what would happen if we had done…we dwell on all the negative aspects of the situation. We focus on everything we perceive to have done wrong. We judge ourselves and others. We assign responsibility for the situation. CouldaShouldaWoulda World is not a place you want to visit! Remember you did what you did with what you knew at the time. You made choices. Your life is a reflection of your choices.

We would all be better served if we chose to concentrate our efforts on changing just one aspect of our thoughts and actions. When we spend our time thinking about all the things that we need to change, it’s impossible to focus on taking constructive action on just one thing. When we focus, everything is much easier to accomplish.

You don’t need to address everything at once…you just need to focus on one thing! And do you know what that one thing is? The one thing you can do to influence your outside world…is to go within and to focus on what you want! This one thing is the most powerful and influential thing you can do. Ralph Waldo Emerson says, “Do the thing and you will have the Power.”

We all have the ability to do the thing. You are born with an imagination and desire. You have gifts, skills, talents and abilities. It’s an inside thing. Using your ability to visualize, imagine, pretend and experience, you create your life. You determine what you want. You have the ability to make the choices to create the actions which bring the experience into your reality.

Stop analyzing what you are doing wrong. Let go of the regrets. Kiss the blame goodbye. And begin again in this moment. Remember the only time there will ever be is this now moment. Now go within. Focus. Do the thing.

 

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Jun 19 2017

Once Every Year

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 4:18 pm

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You probably didn’t. But about 814,000 other people in the United States celebrated a special day with me.  On another day you will celebrate a special day too, because each one of us has our own special holiday. It’s a day that is set aside once a year to celebrate your own personal trip around the sun. Your birthday. It’s the day of your beginning; the moment you arrived.

It is the custom to bestow birthday wishes on the celebrant. We wish others a “happy” birthday. Maybe despite conflicting evidence, we all want each other to experience happiness. And we make an effort to tell them so. Facebook makes it easy to reach out. At least on this one day. I appreciate all the happy. Every wish feels good. Others treat us differently on our birthday. There may be gifts and outings. People sing a special song to us. We get birthday hugs and kisses, cards and flowers. Maybe we make a wish and blow out the candles on our birthday cake. We receive outward expressions of love. Often we treat ourselves differently too. You may give yourself permission to splurge on something you want. You may challenge yourself to do something dramatic like skydiving or some other death-defying act. You may gather your loved ones around you. Or you may allow yourself to let go of your responsibilities for just one day…because it’s your birthday.

So what is this special holiday and what does it mean to you? You have your own personal perception of how to celebrate your birthday. Certain birthdays are considered milestones. When you reach 21 years of age, you are considered to legally be an adult. At 16, you can drive a car. At 65, you can enroll in Medicare and consider yourself to be a senior citizen. A birthday is nothing more than a measurement of time, but the number can have different perceptions and meaning.  If you’re unemployed and living in your parent’s basement, perhaps you’re not celebrating your success at 35 in the same way as if you had reached that age when you were established in your career. Birthdays can give us an opportunity to compare ourselves with others and then rate ourselves accordingly. This is never a good idea. You are where you are in your life because of the choices you have made. If you’re not happy with the comparison, accept your choices and then decide to make better ones. Remember a birthday is merely a record of how many times you have circled the sun. When you make different choices along your journey, you end up in a different place from where you began.

Birthday experiences and celebrations change as we age. Our parents may make a big deal out of our first birthday but we don’t even remember it. At about 4 or 5, we start to remember the birthday parties and look forward to gifts and special outings. We count our age as 4, going on 5. Or we say we are 4 and a half. Counting makes us feel bigger and smarter. Until it doesn’t. At a certain point as the numbers increase, some of us don’t even want to acknowledge our birthday any more. Counting can make us feel used up or worn out or “over the hill”. We evaluate where we’ve been and where we are going, according to what we believe to be true.

Our birthdays are part of our own unique lifescript. This is a belief system about the way things are and about who you are. Your lifescript began at birth. Your parents began to define you. They gave you a name. They offered a way of life. You were given information about your economic status in the world…about money….how to earn it…how to spend it…how much you could have…what you were worth. You were given information about your gender. They told you how to be a boy or a girl…about sex…love and power. Your lifescript was written before you were born by your culture, ethnicity, place of origin. You were given limits. You were told how to be and you made choices based on the beliefs about what you were told. And it all began on the day you were born.

On the anniversary of your birth…your special holiday…give your self permission to be re-born into a life where you decide how to be. Re-write your lifescript to support your wishes and dreams. And may this birth day be happy.

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Jun 13 2017

Measuring Up

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 9:51 am

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 “The real contest is always between what you’ve done and what you’re capable of doing. You measure yourself against yourself and nobody else.”     ~ Geoffrey Gaberino.

When we measure something or someone, we judge, evaluate and rate. We scrutinize in order to form an assessment by judging. This judgment is made according to a comparison with a certain standard.  Each one of us has our own standards by which we measure ourselves and others. These standards and values are based on subconscious programming and beliefs about what is good and bad, right and wrong. When we measure, it is based on a directly observable value or performance. We determine what is best, based on our own limited perceptions and reality. Just like everything else, this measurement involves choices which determine the importance or value of something.

Have you been measuring yourself against others? Or against yourself? There is really no point at all in measuring yourself against others. When you compare your self to someone else, you put your self in competition with their self. And then you both lose. Each one of us is a unique being with individual and specific gifts, skills and talents which are perfectly aligned to support our life’s mission. You have everything you need to create the life you want. If you were to compare, you would find that no one else has what you need. You may wrongly assess the importance or value of something based on your own personal perceptions. You may think you need something that someone else possesses. You may be lying to yourself and making up stories that are hurtful or limiting.

When you measure yourself against yourself, you can determine how you can do better. And then you can do it! Perhaps you are judging your level of fitness and have determined that you are unsatisfied with how you measure up. Ask yourself how you can improve. You know what you need to do. And you know it is entirely up to you. No one else is feeding you. No one else is moving your body. No one else is making your choices. It’s you. Just you. So stop comparing your body to some one else’s body. Their body is a result of their choices. It has nothing to do with you. Instead, ask yourself what you can do to get the results you want. Make the judgment that you are capable of doing better. Decide that you are capable of making healthy food choices and that you will make time to exercise. Compare your actions with your results and then judge yourself to be doing well. Measure this week’s self against last week’s self. Enjoy your ability to create your success and accomplish your goals.

Are you being the best you that you can imagine? If not, why not? Being the best you is being aligned with your joy. Your joy. No one else’s joy. Your dreams. No one else’s dreams. Stretch your imagination. Dream big. And realize that no one else on the planet is capable of dreaming your dreams or living your joy. Only you can measure up to that.

 

 

 

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Jun 07 2017

So Much More!!!

Category: Spiritual ExplorationPatricia @ 2:07 pm

 

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You are so much more than you. You are more than the small self who feels separate from the world. You are more than your ego, your self-esteem and self-importance. Your ego, or your personality, is merely an experience that your soul is having. Your ego serves an important function as a learning tool for you. It helps you get what you think you need from the world. It helps to prevent you from losing what you have. Ego is fueled by separation which leads to feelings of comparison, competition and judgment. Ego is fueled by fear. It feels threatened by others. It is frightened by things it doesn’t understand because it has not experienced those things. Ego is based on limited and limiting beliefs. It feels judged because it judges. Judgment leads to suffering.

Because you are so much more than your ego experience, you have access to a different perspective. When we identify with the small self, we sometimes forget that we have access to our soul’s wisdom. The Soul, in contrast to the Ego, is rooted in love and a sense of well-being. Soul is timeless and eternal. Because of this, Soul is resilient and capable. It is able to see the bigger picture and react in a way that is beneficial to your ego’s life experience.

How do you know if it is your ego or your soul who is chattering in your head? Remember the chatter of Ego is based on subconscious beliefs and programming of the personality. The message of Soul is Love. The simple test is this…is your thought based on fear or love? Fear may show up as envy, greed, anger, disappointment, pride or judgment. Love comes in the form of compassion, charity, forgiveness, acceptance.

Ego often shows up when we are in relationship with another. Comparison rears its ugly head. Ego judges others based on what it deems to be “right”. Ego says, “Mary is behaving badly. I don’t like the way she behaves. It is different than the way I behave.” Soul knows, “Mary is experiencing what she needs to experience in order to evolve on her journey.”  Friendships are a state of mutual trust and support. Ego can destroy that when judgment happens. Elbert Hubbard tells us, “A friend is one who knows you as you are. Understands where you’ve been. Accepts who you have become. And still, gently, allows you to grow.”  Consider this when you are confronted by your feelings towards a friend or a loved one. Is your relationship one that judges or accepts? Are you looking at another with the eyes of Ego? Or are you embracing another with the loving acceptance of Soul?

Ego compares to make itself feel bigger or more powerful. It is afraid that someone else will have more. Ego competes. Ego says, “Joe lives in a small house. He doesn’t have as much money as I do. I have a big house. I am more successful than Joe. I am better than Joe.” Soul knows, “Outside circumstances are a reflection of inner focus.  My attention is focused on things that are different than the things Joe focuses upon. I manifest what I want and what I need to experience.”

Unfortunately, when Ego compares, it can also make itself feel less worthy. Because it is based on fear, Ego is fragile and easily hurt. Ego says, “Mary is slender and attractive. I weigh more than Mary. No one will love me because I’m too fat. I’m not good enough.” Soul knows, “My body is merely an experience which helps me to understand my emotions in the physical state of being.”

Wayne Dwyer says that EGO is an acronym for “Edging God Out”.  As Ego, we separate ourselves from the source of our power. Our limited point of view personality takes over and we may make life decisions based on fear, rather than love. And then those decisions can create suffering. Michael Bovenes tells us that, “Your soul desires to be understanding. Your ego is only concerned with being understood. When you are being understanding, you are connected to your soul.” Soul knows that we are all one in Spirit. Soul knows that each one of us is a reflection of the other. We choose our relationships because of that reflection…our darkness as well as our light.  We are drawn to those who think the way we think. We are comfortable around those who act the way we act. And when we become uncomfortable, rather than retreat from the relationship, we can recognize that as an opportunity to grow. Each life experience, each personality, adds to the great mosaic of all that is. On our individual Soul’s journey, we travel with the others. We teach. We learn. And we all become better, stronger, wiser.

If life seems a little confusing and uncertain, know that you do have all the answers. When you go within, you have access to all of Soul’s wisdom and the source of your being. You know more than you think you know. When you leave the outside world behind, you let go of the limitations of the Ego self and move into a connection with all that is. In the meditative, hypnotic state, you are so much more than Ego. You are so much more than you.

 

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May 30 2017

Agreeing To Be Married

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 12:52 pm

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A lot of weddings will take place this month. Did you know that there are more weddings in June than any other month? Did you ever wonder why? The tradition has been around since the Roman Empire. June is named after the Roman goddess Juno, who was considered to be the protector of women in all aspects of life, but especially in marriage and in childbirth.

A wedding is the public ceremony where two individuals agree to their commitment to each other… until they don’t. Unfortunately, one-third of marriages end in divorce. Fortunately, that statistic is down from one-half. As a society, we’re getting a little better at being more compassionate and forgiving of our spouses.

A lot of thought and effort goes into creating a wedding ceremony. There are many traditions and many cultures. And there is also a sense of individuality expressed in the ceremony. Couples spend months of their lives and thousands of dollars of their financial energy to create the spectacle that is a wedding. Don’t get me wrong. I love weddings. And I’ve had the great pleasure to be the officiant performing the wedding ceremony. But…marriage is not about the wedding ceremony! Not at all. It would be more beneficial if couples gave as much attention to the details and planning of a marriage.

Marriage is about agreements. All relationships are about agreements. Two people make agreements with each other about how the relationship will be. They decide what roles they will play; and how and when they will play those roles. Behavior is agreed upon. Limits are set. Responsibilities are negotiated. People decide how to have disagreements and solve problems. If not, there may be resentment or anger or jealousy. Individuals decide what is acceptable and what is not. In every relationship, there is a “deal breaker”…if one of the individuals does the unacceptable. And then a new agreement must be negotiated which allows for healing and growth. If not, the relationship will suffer and eventually come to an end.

Each one of us learns about marriage from what we witness from our own parents and extended family. Society and religious traditions tell us more. We learn about expectations, duties, authority. We are taught and subconsciously programmed about relationships; the way things are. If we are fortunate, we learn about love, compassion, understanding and acceptance. But not all of us are fortunate. Some of us learned about relationships from parents who failed at it. So some of us learned how to fail.

A marriage is a partnership contract. Marriage is a choice you make every day…over and over…and that choice is reflected in how you treat each other. It is a commitment to value your marriage above your own interests. A marriage is like its own separate entity, almost like a company where you both work as equal partners. When the employee gives care and attention to their job, the company thrives. When the company thrives, it is able to support the employee’s needs. The marriage, just like the company, has needs to be fulfilled.

Just like everything else in life, how we behave in a marriage is how we are taught to behave; how we are expected to behave; how we agree to behave. And our behavior is based on the past programming and perceptions of our individual subconscious mind. The behavior and character of a marriage is based on the past programming of two subconscious minds and their ability to understand and support each other’s behaviors and beliefs. This is not an easy task!!! However it is a task that is well worth learning and perfecting.

As we enter the month of June, I invite you to think about your own marriage whether you’re in it now, have been in it and left it, or hope to be in it. Consider the agreements you’ve made. Consider if they are serving both individuals as well as the marriage. Or consider how and why the agreements didn’t serve. Consider how you may make a new agreement or a new commitment to make the marriage stronger. Think about how a new relationship may benefit from what you learned in the past. We all become stronger, better and wiser within relationships. It creates contrast and conflicts and helps us to see things from another’s perspective. Our partners encourage us to be more. They inspire us and challenge us to grow. Our partners also support us, make us laugh and share our life experience. Marriage is worth the effort. As a June bride, having spent more than four decades in a relationship, I can happily attest to that.

 

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Apr 04 2017

Useful and Beautiful

Category: Choices,ControlPatricia @ 10:28 am

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Spring cleaning. Life cleaning. We all have to do it. I make it a practice to sort through the drawers, closets and cupboards in my home; to let go of what is no longer needed.  Last year, I decided to look at everything with a common requirement. Everything I keep must be useful and/or beautiful. I’ve come to accept that what I deem to be beautiful may not be useful in a conventional way. However, my definition of useful has expanded. It’s my life, so I get to make the choices. (Same as you!) Art is useful for creating a pleasing environment; photographs serve as a memory aid and an emotional boost. The process is time consuming and sometimes emotionally draining but it’s necessary. We’ve all seen what can happen if we fail to do it… hoarding happens.

I know I’m not alone in this pursuit. I think many of us struggle with taking time to clean out the things that are no longer of value. It’s the reason why storage units were invented. It’s a relatively new concept of modern living for when people just have way too much stuff. They literally have outgrown their own homes. They have filled up every nook and cranny with stuff that they think they need. And now there is no more room for the stuff they do need. Rather than get rid of stuff, they move it to another space. And they pay rent on that space. Sometimes they never even return to get their stuff. It sits collecting dust, only to be sold at auction to pay for the cost of keeping it in storage. How do you experience the new, if the old is taking up space? How do you experience life’s present moment, if you are weighed down by the past? Christina Scalise, in her book, “Organize Your Life and More” says, “Clutter is the physical manifestation of unmade decisions fueled by procrastination.”

Sometimes the old stuff is not even your own stuff. I have stuff from my mom and dad. They no longer have any use for worldly possessions. I hold on to the remnants. Yes, I’ve narrowed the remnants down to just a few boxes. But those boxes contain much more than just stuff. It is stuff that belonged to people I love. It’s different than ordinary stuff. Everything is like a limited edition.  Experts call it the “endowment effect”. An insignificant item may be endowed with an exaggerated value making it feel more important to you. Regardless of that effect, I will continue to apply my beautiful and useful rules so that I can let it go. Do you have that stuff in your life? Do you want to be responsible for other people’s stuff? Did your grown child leave behind stuff that is cluttering up your space? Is it taking up space you could use for your own stuff? When you hold on to other people’s stuff, you may have trouble setting boundaries or saying “no”. You are only responsible for your own stuff. Make it useful and beautiful.

Fung Shui experts agree that your living space is a reflection of your inner space…your subconscious mind. Your home is a container for your stuff. When you clear away the clutter in your living space, you can transform your entire existence. Personal transformation can occur when we let go of the things that no longer serve us. This can create balance and a place that nurtures serenity and inner peace. What you keep around you needs to change and grow, as you change and grow. Your home needs to reflect who you are…right now. When you discard the clutter, regard it as a sign of your progression in life. Acknowledge its purpose in your life. You may be surprised to note that many of the things you possess have already fulfilled their role. The dress made you feel fabulous at the party. The shoes have danced or hiked. The battered suitcase has taken you where you wanted to go. The chipped dishes have held many delicious meals. Be grateful for the experiences, process the past and let go. All that will remain are the things that you really treasure. Right now. Ownership of things does not bring happiness. Things help you to experience the journey. They remind you of the journey. They are not the journey. Life is not about having. Life is about being. May it be a useful and a beautiful life journey.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Mar 28 2017

Impossible? What Do You Think?

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 12:03 pm

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Chris Bertish made history this month. One day at a time. One stroke at a time. He did what many would consider impossible. Chris Bertish, a world champion big wave surfer from South Africa, recently completed a trans-Atlantic journey on a 20-foot stand-up paddleboard. Yes, that’s right. On a paddleboard. Across the Atlantic Ocean. Alone. He made the decision. He made the plan. He believed it was possible. And then he did it…through the power of his own mind, through the power of his own thoughts.

Bertish made the journey as a way to raise money for charity and test the limits of possibility. His motto is “Dream it, See it, Believe it, Achieve it.” The Lunchbox Fund, Operation Smile, and Signature of Hope were the three main beneficiaries of the reported $6 million raised by this amazing journey. When we are inspired to do for others, we are fueled by more power and determination. The goal becomes bigger than the individual. Success matters more.

The journey from Morocco’s Agadir Harbor, to Antigua’s English Harbor took ninety three days. It is estimated that to travel the distance of 4,050 miles, 2,088,000 paddle strokes were required. To do this, it was necessary to consume 8,000-10,000 calories per day. The average distance traveled every day was 44 miles. More than a marathon. Every day. For ninety three days.

Bertish said, “This whole project is about breaking boundaries and redefining what is possible. Ninety-five percent of the world thought it was impossible. The words ‘impossible’ and ‘can’t’ are motivators for me to find solutions, get creative and make the impossible possible.” You decide what is possible in your life. You decide what your limits are. And it is your choice to break those limits. Anything is possible if you believe it is possible.

As you can imagine, there were challenges along the way. More than a dozen things broke and needed to be jury-rigged. And remember the repairs needed to be done in treacherous conditions, including a couple of close encounters with sharks and 20-foot seas. One of the biggest challenges came when the solar panels which allowed him to make fresh drinking water stopped working properly. Unable to make the three gallons of water needed to survive on a daily basis, he said “I had to train my body to survive on a gallon to a gallon and a half of water each day. That way, I could manage the other systems that would keep me alive, like powering the automatic identification systems so giant tankers could see me and wouldn’t run me over in the middle of the night.”  The body is a reflection of your subconscious mind. Through mindfulness and meditative thought you can cause changes in your body functions, when you believe you can.

In the 1980’s, Dr. Herbert Benson did studies on the mind-body connection. His research showed that highly trained Tibetan monks were able to control their body temperature by using the power of their mind.  Through deep concentration, the monks were able to generate enough heat that they were able to dry wet blankets with their body heat. The meditating monks could increase the temperature of their fingers and toes by as much as 46.94 °F.  Like the Tibetan monks, Indian yogis are also able to manipulate their physiological processes. Research done in 1936 showed that yogis were able to slow their heart rate down so slow that it was only detectable with an EKG. And of course you are aware of the placebo effect. It is so widely accepted as fact that most medical tests use it as a way of proving if a drug works on its own or because people “think” it works. If we think it works, it does. Our body responds physiologically, producing real biological effects, as a reaction to a belief or an inert substance. An amusing study was done by a group of Princeton students. The experimenters served non-alcoholic O’Douls at a keg party then watched as their guests acted as if they were drinking regular beer. Generally behaving as if they were drunk, they acted silly, slurred their words and staggered around. Their belief affected their body’s reactions and their behavior. Bertish reinforces this when he says, “What I find fascinating about adventure is it teaches you about your limits and shows you that you can push your body to overcome things that most people think aren’t humanly possible. It makes you realize how incredible the human body is if you teach it to do something and shift the normality of what it’s expected to do.”

There were multiple life-threatening low-points, “where it was about having the right mental attitude to stay strong and not fall apart and just endure every hour, every day, every night … night after night, stroke after stroke, for 93 days straight’. Bertish says, “How did I get through it? It was all about going stroke-by-stroke, just getting through the next hour, the next day, the next night, the next storm. If you stay focused on what is happening right in front of you and never give up, you’ll eventually make it to your goal.” Success happens when you stay in the now moment. We can not be present and aware if we are thinking about something that happened in the past or what might happen in the future. The now moment is the moment of power…the moment of creation.

So is there something “impossible” that you would like to accomplish? What’s your excuse? What do you need to motivate yourself? Perhaps there is a charity worth your support. Perhaps there is challenge you want to give to yourself. What are your limits? Who created them? There are no limits. There are only limited thoughts. Chris Bertish has decided to embrace “limitless living. We can achieve, explore and do anything we want in life.” I congratulate and applaud Chris Bertish on this amazing achievement; not only for his own personal goal, but for the recipients of his charitable giving.  He is absolute proof that The Mind Matters!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Mar 03 2017

Faith & Belief – The Way Things Are

Category: Belief,Inspirational Quotes,Spiritual ExplorationPatricia @ 2:51 pm

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            Your subconscious mind is ruled by faith. This faith is created by years of believing in the way things are. This is not necessarily truth, but rather it is individual belief based on particular life experiences. Your subconscious mind responds to the orders you give it based upon what your conscious mind believes and accepts to be true.  Your personal subconscious memory bank decides what to expect. If you have experienced failure, your subconscious will come to expect failure, unless the memories can be cleared and new expectations programmed.

Clearing the negative accumulation in your memory bank affects conscious reactions to new life experiences. Using self-hypnosis, you can choose to direct your conscious mind to use the faculties of your subconscious mind to create new beliefs. These beliefs create a thought vibration which attracts similar experiences. Over time and repetition, these beliefs and their demonstration create faith. Napoleon Hill states in Think & Grow Rich that “Faith is a state of mind which may be induced or created by affirmation or the repeated instructions to the subconscious mind, through the principle of auto-suggestion…Repetition of affirmations of orders to your subconscious mind is the only known method of voluntary development of the emotion of faith”.

Faith has many levels. When your subconscious mind is convinced, it begins to act. So it is important that you make sure your subconscious mind believes the right things. Faith is based on past experiences and the best knowledge available at the time. Realistic faith determines what can be believed, however, it may be self-limiting based on that knowledge. For example, limitations are realistic based on factors outside of the individual’s control. A man of six feet tall cannot realistically expect to become a jockey, so his faith is limited. Positive faith is the way a situation is approached with optimism, hope and faith in the possibilities.  Active faith can be demonstrated and proven when an individual takes action based on positive, realistic, limited faith. This level of faith is exhibited in self-confidence and a positive belief in yourself and your abilities to accomplish goals.

Your subconscious mind allows you to travel through time and space in order to make decisions which are best for your self-actualization. Remember, the mind doesn’t know the difference between what is imagined and what is perceived to be reality.  When your subconscious is convinced, these things become real to you. When you challenge the boundaries of your reality, you increase your faith in what you believe to be true or possible. Dan Custer, in his book, The Miracle of Mind Power, says, “You are the center of your experience. Your world of experience is formed and given direction by you. You are the point of your own individual thinking; inspired by your desires, planned by your imagination and brought into experience by your belief or your faith. The universal law of mind brings your experiences into shape and form according to the way you think in your heart.”

You are able to program yourself to stop doing something, start doing something, or do something differently. By directing your thoughts, you create an action which elicits a response and reaction from your subconscious mind. Without direction, there is no action. The subconscious is a vehicle. Conscious guidance and faith are necessary to drive the vehicle to the desired destination. It is vital to understand that each individual is limited only by their beliefs. There are no limitations, there is only limited thinking! Although the conscious mind is limited by our faith, the individual subconscious/subjective part of us is linked with the collective Superconscious. Being Universal, this subjective part of us is without limit.

The objective/conscious mind deals with the outside world and the physical state of being within it. The greatest function of the conscious mind is reasoning. This function is based on your beliefs about what you’ve observed, or your objective/individual perception of reality. The most influential source of these beliefs comes from the knowns in your subconscious mind. A known is something that has been learned or experienced before; one understands it and is comfortable with it. Positive and negative knowns create your lifescript, or your individual beliefs about who you are and how life is supposed to be.

Belief creates faith. Proof is unnecessary for those who believe; impossible for those who don’t.  We decide what is reasonable to believe based on our experiences and our critical reasoning. The conscious mind can only know as much as it has experienced, explored or been taught to know. It reflects the limited knowledge and abilities of the individual being expressed at that particular time. When the conscious mind has the physical knowledge and experience, the subconscious mind incorporates it into the memory bank and makes it available to access in the future. The conscious teaches the subconscious with more knowledge and experience about the beliefs in the way things are.

The conscious mind is ruled by belief. When you set a goal, your beliefs about success or failure determine the outcome. Imagination enhances belief in the results. Conscious, subconscious and SuperConscious all work together in divine harmony. As physical beings, the individual conscious mind is in a position to direct evolution of the spiritual experience. The key to the success of that evolution is belief and faith.

The subconscious mind is ruled by faith and will act according to that faith. When you are faithful to the subjective/ subconscious image, you believe that it will appear in the objective/conscious world. You take conscious action based on certainty which sends a clear message to the SuperConscious.  The Universal Mind, the SuperConscious responds to the belief in the positive outcome. Thoughts become things. Faith is answered and manifestation results. You experience your life the way you believe it to be.

 

 

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Dec 27 2016

Emptying Out

Category: ChoicesPatricia @ 12:06 pm

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In her book, Footprints on the Path, Eileen Caddy says, “Life is full and overflowing with the new. But it is necessary to empty out the old to make room for the new to enter.”   It’s that time of year again. That New Year time. We all look to the future with hope and enthusiasm. Anything is possible next year. We reflect on what we have and what we don’t have. We want new experiences, new relationships, new material goods to come into our life. We dream.

In order for anything new to happen, we need to empty out the old stuff; the clutter we have collected and the emotions we continue to feel. Clutter is a state of confusion and disorder. Clutter in our outside world is just a reflection of the clutter within.

Everything that is old is not necessarily bad or useless. Consider a piece of antique furniture or a treasured friendship. But some old stuff has to go. Holding on to old, worn-out things that don’t function right doesn’t make sense. You deserve better. Things should be useful…or beautiful. Staying within relationships which create tension or anxiety brings more of the same. Let go. Not everyone is part of your destiny. Realize that some people belong in the past. They are part of your history. We must let go of what no longer serves our best interest now. Not only at this time of year, but on a regular basis. The philosopher Lao Tzu says, “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”

Your subconscious mind is the ultimate repository of the old. It has catalogued every circumstance and emotion you have experienced. It is not possible to empty out. But you can let go of the negative perceptions that you no longer want in your life. You can look upon your life experiences and choices with love, compassion and mercy for yourself. You can let go of false beliefs. When you let go of self-doubt, you become more confident. When you release fear, you become more loving. When you no longer judge yourself as unworthy, you become more successful. When you empty out the heavy burden of negativity, you become better, stronger, wiser.

When you empty out, you are not left with a glass that is half-filled. You are left with room to fill it with something new. And you can even let it overflow. You get to choose how you fill it and what it looks like, tastes like and feels like! And you don’t have to wait until the calendar changes and a New Year is declared. You can declare yourself as a New You whenever you want…as long as you have done the work of getting rid of the clutter that is holding you back…the clutter that says there is no time or no room or no place to go. Clutter can make you feel stuck or overwhelmed. It can weigh you down. It will never go away by itself. No one can take care of it for you. You decide what you want in life. And what you don’t. It’s up to you. As the powerful, creative being that you are, everything in life is really up to you.

May the year 2017 be a time of joy!

 

 

 

 

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Dec 21 2016

Season ForGiving

Category: Choices,Positive ThinkingPatricia @ 11:18 am

 

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We often speak of this time of year as a season of giving. We get caught up in purchasing the perfect present for our loved ones. We give more to charities. We feel as if we have an endless list of people we want to gift with something. We feel the need to recognize their presence in our life. Giving is a good thing. We enjoy it. It feels good. But there is something even better you can do at this time of year. Adopt a new tradition for the season: ForGiving.

Forgiveness is not simple. “It is much more agreeable to offend and later ask forgiveness than to be offended and grant forgiveness,” said the philosopher Freidrich Nietzsche.  It may be difficult to stop feeling angry or to stop blaming someone. It’s hard to let go. When you forgive someone, you give up the right to hurt that someone in retaliation for hurting you. Remember, forgiveness is not granted because a person deserves it. Forgiveness is not an act of weakness or submission; it is an act of love, mercy and grace. When we forgive others we gain control of our lives and let go of painful emotions.

There is an abundance of research being done on the science of forgiveness. It shows that forgiveness makes us happier. And research suggests that happy people are more likely to forgive others. It’s not surprising to note that forgiveness helps to sustain relationships. We are more likely to forgive those closest to us. Forgiveness can stop us from undermining feelings of trust and commitment and help us to repair a relationship. In marriages, it has been shown that spouses who are more forgiving are better at resolving conflicts in their marriage and build stronger, more satisfying relationships. Forgiveness boosts a feeling of being more connected to others and therefore, promotes kindness.

Forgiveness improves our health and strengthens our immune system. In the article, “The New Science of Forgiveness” by Everett Worthington Jr., at Virginia Commonwealth University, references a study at Hope College where people were asked  “to think about someone who had hurt, mistreated, or offended them. While they thought about this person and his or her past offense, the researcher monitored their blood pressure, heart rate, facial muscle tension, and sweat gland activity.”  It was found that when “people recalled a grudge, their physical arousal soared. Their blood pressure and heart rate increased, and they sweated more. Ruminating about their grudges was stressful, and subjects found the rumination unpleasant. It made them feel angry, sad, anxious, and less in control.” When asked to try to empathize or imagine forgiving their offenders, the participants showed no more stress reaction.

To ruminate on an old transgression is to practice unforgiveness. Thinking about it brings the negative emotions of the past into the present moment. Worthington goes on to state, “unforgiveness might compromise the immune system at many levels. For instance, our review suggests that unforgiveness might throw off the production of important hormones and even disrupt the way our cells fight off infections, bacteria, and other physical insults.”

Apparently, the physical benefits of forgiveness increase with age. According to a recent study led by Loren Toussaint, a psychologist at Luther College, a national survey of nearly 1,500 Americans was conducted. Participants were asked the degree to which each person practiced and experienced forgiveness and also reported on their physical and mental health. It was found that people over 45 years of age who had forgiven others “reported greater satisfaction with their lives and were less likely to report symptoms of psychological distress, such as feelings of nervousness, restlessness, and sadness.”

Forgiveness usually takes time as well as effort. But it is well worth that effort! Forgiving others is important. Forgiving yourself is essential. There are four key elements in the therapeutic process of self-forgiveness. These elements are responsibility, remorse, restoration and renewal. You must take responsibility for your actions as the first step towards genuine self-forgiveness. You must recognize what you have done and how you have hurt another individual or hurt yourself. When you accept responsibility, it is natural to feel remorse. These feelings can be processed and expressed. In order to make the necessary amends to the offended individual, the act of restoration is necessary. An apology or restitution is offered. And the final component of self-forgiveness is renewal. When you forgive yourself of your past actions, you are able to feel compassion for yourself and engage in behaviors that promote self-kindness now. You get to begin again.

During this season of giving, I encourage you to give yourself the ultimate gift of love. Forgive others. Forgive yourself. Make that choice. Negative emotions of anger, disappointment, resentment, guilt, shame and remorse are toxic to your health and well-being. Offer an apology or accept one. Take a look at your emotions and let go of the ones that cause you pain. Forgiveness may not come naturally, but it is something that can be learned. Take a moment to see things from the other person’s perspective. Be kind to yourself. And above all, keep in mind that we are all doing the best we can.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Nov 24 2016

Direct the Dream

 

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Even if you don’t play golf, you have probably heard of Jack Nicklaus, the professional golfer who is nicknamed The Golden Bear. He is widely regarded as the greatest golfer of all time, having won a total of 18 major championships during the past 25 years.

And whether you play golf or not, you can benefit from one of the techniques Jack Nicklaus used to become such a great golfer. Obviously, Nicklaus has certain athletic abilities which he has refined and developed. He has done the physical work to become great. He has also done the mental work. Not only has he used his subconscious mind to stay focused and visualize the desired outcome, he has used his subconscious as a sports clinic. There is a story told about a dream he had when he was not performing well. When he analyzed the dream he figured out why his game was off. He had a dream where he was really owning the links; playing better than he had in a long while. After analysis, the champ realized that in the dream, he was gripping his club differently than he was doing in real life. He said, “I tried it the way I did in my dream and it worked. I feel kind of foolish admitting it, but it really happened in a dream.”

Your subconscious mind knows more than your conscious mind. You can trust it to guide and direct you. Besides, it’s going to do it even if you don’t trust it! Your subconscious mind is the 88% of your mind that is directing your motivation and behavior. It is also your goal-achieving machine. Your subconscious mind speaks to you in images. You can also speak to and direct your subconscious mind through images.

Dr. Denis Waitley has done studies where athletes are connected to a biofeedback machine during visualization. When they imagine going through a practice or performance, the studies show that the same muscles are engaged as if they were actually doing the exercise. Remember, the mind doesn’t know the difference between what you imagine and what you perceive as reality. Using hypnosis, guided imagery and visualization trains the mind to achieve automatic reactions and responses. When doing this, all senses are engaged. Effective visualization uses sight, sound, taste, touch and emotion. This can give an athlete (or anyone!!!) a renewed level of self- confidence.

The meditative state which is achieved by self-hypnosis allows one to give instructional self-talk to improve specific techniques or skills, athletic or otherwise. Well-known sports figures Kobe Bryant, LeBron James and Tiger Woods all have meditation practices. Tell yourself, “Keep your knees bent.” “Chin up.” “You can do it.” According to sports psychologist Antonis Hatzigeorgiadis, “The mind guides action. If we succeed in regulating our thoughts, then this will help our behavior.”

When Jack Nicklaus had his dream, he trusted himself and his own inner guidance. He acted on his inner wisdom. When you go within, (whether in the dream state, the meditative state, the hypnotic state, whatever you want to name it state) you transcend conscious thought. You achieve a heightened state of focused concentration, effortless calm and confidence. You let go of the outside reality as you know it. This state of mind keeps pressures and distractions from harming you. When you go within, you know everything. This is the beginning of dreaming and from this point you can direct the dream. Trust yourself. Believe in your dreams.

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Oct 04 2016

Understanding Your Mind

Category: Control,HypnotherapyPatricia @ 9:38 am

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Have you ever felt like you were losing your mind? Or that you couldn’t control your thoughts…repeating hurtful comments or reviewing painful experiences? Or maybe you’re feeling fearful and worrying about the future? Perhaps you’d like to learn a little more about your mind so you’re better able to find yourself. Did you know that your conscious mind accounts for only 12% of your mind? The other 88% is subconscious. The mind is very much like an iceberg where most everything is happening below the surface of your awareness.

Your conscious mind is responsible for retaining and remembering the events and feelings of the last hour and a half. Just 90 minutes! Awareness is a function of your conscious mind. The other functions are logic, reasoning and willpower. Information is received by your conscious mind from your environment and your physical body. We are continually bombarded by these bits of information from the outside world. However, the most influential source of information comes from the “knowns” within your subconscious mind. And what is a “known”? Exactly as you might think…it’s something you know and are familiar with; you have learned it, you understand it and are comfortable with it. A known can be a negative or a positive.

Part of your conscious mind is your critical area of mind. Before this critical area of mind is developed, everything we experience just is.  We accept it all as Truth. About the age of 7 or 8 (the time when we begin to question Santa Claus and the ToothFairy), the permanent filter has been installed. The critical area of mind acts as a waiting room. Containing memories of approximately the last 24 hours, this area of your mind is where you analyze information based on your conditioning and belief system. After analyses, the accumulated bits of information are processed when sleep takes place or when consciousness is in abeyance, as in the hypnotic state. Some are allowed to go into modern memory, becoming a known; others are discarded or vented out through your dreams. Your motivation comes from the knowns in your modern memory. These positive and negative knowns create your lifescript.

Also within your subconscious mind is the primitive area of mind. It includes all primitive memory, including genetic heritage and evolved learning and conditioning. It operates the survival mechanisms of life triggering the fight/flight reaction when needed. It also controls the autonomic nervous system which operates the automatic functions of the body such as heart beat, respiration, digestion, cell reproduction, growth and healing.

Now that your conscious mind, that little 12%, is overloaded with bits of information, consider that your subconscious mind has everything under control. It has been busy with the extraordinary job of keeping you alive, and is now in the process of analyzing this information as it creates a new network of knowns in your modern memory. This process will be completed when the conscious mind becomes unconscious during sleep.

When the conscious mind is asleep, it is not capable of receiving. It is only dropping the accumulated bits of information into the modern memory, passing them through the filter and then venting them through dreams. During hypnosis, the conscious mind is not unconscious. Positive bits of information can be downloaded and accepted as knowns. The release and acceptance of information takes place instantly.  And through hypnotic suggestion, the venting process can begin. A suggestion given in the hypnotic state is much stronger than one given in the conscious state because it moves quickly from the critical area to the modern memory.

Hypnosis creates a path that allows access to the subconscious mind, the 88% of your mind that is controlling your behavior, your motivation, your pleasure and your pain. Using the power of hypnosis, you can create changes in your behavior by changing your knowns. You can replace pain with pleasure. You can re-write your lifescript. 100%.

 

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Aug 09 2016

Learning to Try

Category: MotivationPatricia @ 11:56 am

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Have you failed at something? Of course you have! Everyone fails! But a failure is really just another opportunity to succeed. Which is worse… failing or never trying? When we experience failure, we may feel stupid or embarrassed. We may even feel worthless and ashamed. We may be afraid to admit that we have failed in achieving our goal. Failure feels bad. It hurts. Failure makes us feel afraid to begin again. It creates self-doubt. Yet, just as we all experience failure, we all have experienced starting over. We try again. We make another attempt or effort. We give it our best shot. And if we don’t try…we regret and we wonder “what if” or “if only”. Not trying may feel worse than failure.

Before you decide to start a new project after you have experienced failure, you need to evaluate what went wrong. You have to decide how you’ll do things differently. In order to do better, consider these three questions. They can change your perception of your failure and motivate you to try to succeed.

“How can my past experiences help me?”

“What can I learn from doing this project?”

“What are some mistakes I might make?” Remember – it’s ok to make mistakes!

Instead of thinking of yourself as a failure…think of yourself as a learner. A learner has to have a willingness to fail. When you stop trying to be a perfectionist or an expert and become a learner, you grow. You become more equipped to face challenging situations. You think more creatively. You give yourself more choices.

Your brain/mind is kind of like a muscle. It can grow and learn to do new things. Do something challenging. Go out of your comfort zone. Begin thinking in new ways. Scrabble, crossword puzzles, new recipes can all stimulate your mind to find new solutions.

Stop procrastinating. It is the enemy of learning and creativity. If you have a habit of putting tasks off, maybe it’s because you expect perfect results from yourself; you expect perfection from others; or you think others expect perfection from you. Where did you get these ideas? When you take on your work before a deadline, you take control of the problem. You give yourself a break from the stress. When you’re not stressed out about time limits, you are more able to think clearly. You give yourself time to experiment with new ideas and concepts. You encourage and stimulate the learner. You are capable of learning whatever you need to know.

Learners have possibilities. Every failure or mistake is just one step closer to success. Failures become insights and invite celebration rather than dismay. Failure does not define you as a person. You failed at an action; performing a particular task. That’s all. No big deal. You learned from it. Get over it and move on. Tell yourself it’s okay to make a mistake. Everybody makes mistakes! Stop judging yourself by impossible expectations.

It’s worth a try. And a try again. Make an effort to learn to succeed. You only fail when you don’t try.

 

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Jul 26 2016

The Dreaded Deadline

Category: BeliefPatricia @ 10:32 am

 

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We all have experienced deadlines over which we have no control. We have to pay our taxes by April 15. We need to renew our driver’s license or car registration. We have to take an exam or submit an application. We need to prepare a report or presentation. We need to pay our bills. Deadlines.  The word itself sounds kind of ominous. And rightly so. Are you aware that the term “deadline” originated in prison camps during the American Civil War? It referred to a physical line or boundary. Any prisoner who crossed the line would risk death. Guards were ordered to shoot to kill.  Later the term deadline came to be used by newspapers as a “time limit” in order to get the latest news printed and distributed on time. Fortunately for all of us, a deadline is no longer a life or death situation. Sometimes it may feel that way, but it’s not! You can take control of the deadlines in your life.

Often we create our own deadlines. Perhaps you’re planning to get married soon and planning the event. Or maybe you’ve bought a new house and need to move. You’ve just created a deadline. And somewhere along your life, you have been programmed to respond to deadlines in a particular way. Even if it’s not a good way, it’s a way that you know. We’re more comfortable with familiar. It’s less painful than doing something differently. Doing things differently requires conscious and mindful thought. We often run on autopilot. Our subconscious mind repeatedly performing tasks in the same way over and over again. Some of us created a habit of staying up all night cramming before an exam. Or we wait until the last minute to get things done. We create a time limit which restricts our abilities to perform at the highest level. We make unnecessary stress for ourselves and often make life stressful for those around us. We create a situation where we are unable to do our best.

Everyone can be more successful in dealing with deadlines by taking control. Do you wait until April 15 to file your taxes? There are many opportunities to do it sooner. Why not do it? Make yourself a deadline of March 15. If you have less time to complete the task, you most likely will increase your focus and your effort to get it done. Are you aware of Parkinson’s Law? Parkinson’s Law states that “work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion”.

Consider this. How tidy can you make your house when a friend calls and says they’ll stop by in 20 minutes? Or how quickly can you leave for the airport when you’ve overslept? How much can you accomplish and how fast can you do it?  You will notice that your effort significantly increases when your time is limited.

When you give yourself deadlines, you help yourself to achieve your goals. You become the boss of your life. As you think about your life and your daily schedule, it can help to use Parkinson’s Law to your advantage. A simple way to do this is to break your task into smaller goals. If you have a project that you estimate will take three hours, use 55 minute time blocks. Work steadily for 55 minutes and then take a 5 minute break. You will feel at ease because you have allowed yourself time to take a break and refocus your attention. The mini mental breaks energize you and make you more productive.  And do it again and again. Within your three hours, you have pushed yourself to success. Knowing your time is limited will help you to be more effective. You may find that with concentration and focus, your project is completed in less time than you had anticipated.

When you create a new way of doing things…when you realize your effort has influenced your success…you are more likely to repeat the process. By repeating the process, you are programming yourself to react to life the way you want. And you feel more in control. There is nothing to fear. You can relax knowing that no one is going to shoot you. You can use the deadline of a time limit as inspiration. When you cross the line, you have been successful in completing your goal.

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